A question about visual stimulation, I don't understand...

nomowolf

I realise this question may appear somewhat juvenile, yet it is born out of genuine curiosity.

My relationship has recently become a long distance one. So skype is now the primary method by which we communicate, and we've discussed using it for... other purposes too.

I have played around with chatroulette together with my gf (while she lived here). It happens sometimes that you just come across a man playing with himself in front of his webcam. Whenever this happened she would reel in disgust. If similar scenes occur while watching blue videos together she'd get bored by them or express disinterest.
Honestly though if the genders were reversed my reaction would be quite different. Obviously in the case of the former it would be moderated somewhat given the presence of my gf.

Now back to skype... obviously I would enjoy watching her but she's quite adamant that she should watch me too. Of course on the outset it seems ideal and fair etc. but I can't bring myself to believe she actually wants to! And if she does, why do others doing the exact same thing turn her off so? What I have is pretty much the same, and it's not like some of those men were bad looking. If true, it just seems inherently contradictory to me.

So my question is do most women enjoy seeing their OH go solo? And if so why? (given that under normal circumstances most seem to consider it revolting...)

Princess Peach

I've been on chat roulette with friends before, it can be quite shocking! The fact that it is a guy you don't know, and especially it just comes right on the screen and you can't see his face, no wonder she was disgusted! And as for the movies, some people just aren't into porn. I can find some of it very fake, some people just don't find it a turn on.

So I wouldn't feel worried about your girlfriend now wanting to see you. She loves you and misses you. You're her boyfriend, not some stranger in chat roulette or a cheesy porn guy! Speaking to a few of my girl friends recently, we found out that a lot of us think of our current boyfriend when we masturbate, so I'm sure your girlfriend would not be disgusted seeing you on the webcam, you probably turn her a lot more than you think.

I wouldn't mind seeing a boyfriend of mine going solo. I have done it for a boyfriend before, but it never occurred to me for it to be reversed for some reason! But of course things would be different if it were long distance!

I genuinely don't think your girlfriend would have asked if she thought it would be something she wouldn't like.

Novella

nomowolf wrote: »

So my question is do most women enjoy seeing their OH go solo? And if so why? (given that under normal circumstances most seem to consider it revolting...)

It's impossible to say what "most" women enjoy. All that can be said is that some women would like to see their partner pleasure himself, whereas for others, this would do nothing, have no effect.

Why? Well, for some, it would simply be a turn-on. It's not every day you get to watch someone masturbate, so I guess that makes it kinda exciting. Plus, watching your partner can help you see how they like it etc.

I don't know why it would be 'revolting' under normal circumstances? Masturbation is completely natural.

If your girlfriend has said she would like to see you, and you're comfortable with it, then why not? Perhaps she wasn't interested in seeing strangers getting themselves off, but because she is sexually attracted to you, feels differently about watching you.

Xiney

let's keep it general and not graphic please

baby and crumble

In the minds of a lot of girls, random bodies and sex stuff isn't a turn on. The turn on visually comes from seeing someone you already have a thing for getting themselves off. Now, this isn't always true, but for the most part it is.

So while your gf doesn't find a random dude whacking off that appealing, nor watching random porn, obviously she likes and fancies you, which is the key part. It's you guys enjoying yourselves together. The connection is there already. The 'normal' circumstances that you see don't exist for her. Her normal is watching the person she loves enjoying himself. Because (and I hate to be blunt) most womens opinions are that by itself, mens bits aren't exactly the most aesthetically pleasing, now are they?

If she asks you for anything sexually, then trust me she's thought about it. People don't suggest anything sexual they know they wouldn't like. So if you're up for it, then go for it! It's awesome- I love skype!!!

violetanderson

Its might be because of what others have said (that it doesn't 'do it' for her)

or

she's fibbing because its the expected response or thinks it might annoy/upset you by liking it . . .