Dating a woman with children ..

xxchloexx

Ok after hours , heres a question..
Friend of mine is 23 and has one child from a previous relationship.
She says she finds it really hard to meet a man who would consider having a relationship with her because of the child. She's a gorgeous girl with a fantastic personality , would you think twice about going out with a girl that already had a baby ? or is she just not looking in the right places

starbelgrade

A ready made family.

What man could say no?

AlmightyCushion

Oh I'd date her all right, date her with my cock.

*crotch thrust*

orourkeda

Perhaps you should be worrying about the "you're not my daddy" speech you'll get when said kids balls start to drop

stevecrow74

been in relationships with women who have had 1 to 3 kids, great craic, and you get to bypass the first few years of sleepless nights and crying kids all the time!!

montane

xxchloexx wrote: »

Ok after hours , heres a question..
Friend of mine is 23 and has one child from a previous relationship.
She says she finds it really hard to meet a man who would consider having a relationship with her because of the child. She's a gorgeous girl with a fantastic personality , would you think twice about going out with a girl that already had a baby ? or is she just not looking in the right places

Be a bit crap having to spike her drink with Levonelle all the time.

ArtSmart

xxchloexx wrote: »

Ok after hours , heres a question..
Friend of mine is 23 and has one child from a previous relationship.
She says she finds it really hard to meet a man who would consider having a relationship with her because of the child. She's a gorgeous girl with a fantastic personality , would you think twice about going out with a girl that already had a baby ? or is she just not looking in the right places

AlmightyCushion wrote: »

Oh I'd date her all right, date her with my cock.

*crotch thrust*

Welcome to After hours.

pablomakaveli

I would'nt date a girl with kids, i am but a manchild myself.

Where To

signing up !

Dravokivich

If I was to go out with a woman who has a kid, I wouldn't base my desicion on her having the kid, it'd be more likely in regards to how responsible she is and the relationship she holds with the kid.

Pherekydes

Absolutely not.

Hang on, I married a woman last year who already had 2 kids. So, maybe I would. I'd have to get divorced first. So no. Or then again, maybe I'd...

Hang on, did you say 23?

Dravokivich

ArtSmart wrote: »

Welcome to After hours.

You do realise this is the girl who answered to PICs or GTFO right?

and just in case you're not sure how she answered...

...she's still here.

xxchloexx

It's just because when we go out together men do approach us , as soon as she tells them sh has a child , they seem to make a bee line for the door.

Sisko

I just simply am not mature enough. Not a problem really as a girl with a kid wouldn't go near an immature bloke by default .

montane

xxchloexx wrote: »

It's just because when we go out together men do approach us , as soon as she tells them sh has a child , they seem to make a bee line for the door.

Why does she volunteer that information so quickly. Sounds like she is the one who has the problem with it.

Balfie

Send her my way... haha

xxchloexx

she doesn't just blurt it out , it would come out in conversation , "have you been here before" "not in a long time but finally got a baby sitter tonight" that sort of thing. She has a key king with a picture of the child on it to , one them once said "who's the baby?" "mine..." ...............................

ballsymchugh

xxchloexx wrote: »

It's just because when we go out together men do approach us , as soon as she tells them sh has a child , they seem to make a bee line for the door.

they may not want to put up with an ex.

ArtSmart

xxchloexx wrote: »

she doesn't just blurt it out , it would come out in conversation , "have you been here before" "not in a long time but finally got a baby sitter tonight" that sort of thing. She has a key king with a picture of the child on it to , one them once said "who's the baby?" "mine..." ...............................

look. men are children, more so nowadays, until they're in their late 40/ 50.s so no, until they reach the age of 'dont care no mo'. (i mean maturity)

starbelgrade

I like babies, but I couldn't eat a whole one.

strobe

xxchloexx wrote: »

It's just because when we go out together men do approach us , as soon as she tells them sh has a child , they seem to make a bee line for the door.

Well it would depend. If a guy is looking for a serious relationship then the fact that she has a kid would mean, if things go well in the relationship and they move in together he is instantly going to become a de-facto father to the kid. Not everyone looking for a relationship is ready for kids at that point in their life.

If he is just looking for a bit of fun then it wouldn't really come into it but from my experience most (not all obviously) women with kid(s) tend to be looking for more than a bit of sex and partying from a relationship.

There is also the issue of the kids father. Lots of mothers get back with the fathers of their children so that could put the kibosh on the option of either a serious or a casual relationship.

Personally I wouldn't enter a relationship with a women with a kid, not at this stage in my life. But if she was just looking for something casual I would have no problem, I just don't think that is the case with many mothers.

W.Shakes-Beer

Dravokivich wrote: »

You do realise this is the girl who answered to PICs or GTFO right?

and just in case you're not sure how she answered...

...she's still here.

That was a good thread.


/reminisces.

Panthro

xxchloexx wrote: »

It's just because when we go out together men do approach us , as soon as she tells them sh has a child , they seem to make a bee line for the door.

That sounds to me like a big "I'm taken" hintedy hint hint to be honest

Balfie

Honestly.. I've never had a problem with women that have babys. Ive dated a few that have had kids, not all guys are like that tho, It wouldnt bother me to date a girl with a baby, just cause a girl has a baby doesnt mean that she still cant live her life. and women that are left sitting there feeling rejected cause guys dont want them cause they have a baby is horrible. maybe if more men took the responsibility of their children and didnt leave it to the mother all the time, things like that wouldnt happen, but alot of men are pricks and just abandon the woman when they hear the word pregnant..

strobe

Balfie wrote: »

Honestly.. I've never had a problem with women that have babys. Ive dated a few that have had kids, not all guys are like that tho, It wouldnt bother me to date a girl with a baby, just cause a girl has a baby doesnt mean that she still cant live her life. and women that are left sitting there feeling rejected cause guys dont want them cause they have a baby is horrible. maybe if more men took the responsibility of their children and didnt leave it to the mother all the time, things like that wouldnt happen, but alot of men are pricks and just abandon the woman when they hear the word pregnant..

Maybe she left him and took the kid?

padma

Would your friend have problem going with a man who has a child? if not she can pm me

sesna

Nothing worse than having your Sunday morning hangover interrupted by some screaming kid. And its not even yours :eek:

Where To

maybe she's just interested in the wrong type of guy

Balfie

strobe wrote: »

Maybe she left him and took the kid?

yeh I'm not saying that she didnt.. what I'm saying is thats what happens alot of the time.

zuroph

i prefer to stay monogamous myself, so I'd have to choose.

montane

She'll find someone eventually, if she's enough of a milf.

maxxie

least ya know shes up for it

aDeener

i'd give her a rattle but i wouldn't go out with her

xxchloexx

Bit of background info , she was in a reationship for 3 years , had the baby when she was 21 , he stuck around for a year and then decided he wanted to move to america.. he hasn't contacted her since about the child. His family ignore her and wont tell her where he is gone or give her a phone number for him. Its the little boy i feel sorry for , just being left there .. but she is a great parent and very mature. He wasn't ready to settle down. Shes in college studying law at the moment and working part time trying to not fall into the usual single mother role of living off the government. So its not as if she is one of these Vicky Pollard types...

Sisko

I don't think anyone assumed she was?

zuroph

xxchloexx wrote: »

Bit of background info , she was in a reationship for 3 years , had the baby when she was 21 , he stuck around for a year and then decided he wanted to move to america.. he hasn't contacted her since about the child. His family ignore her and wont tell her where he is gone or give her a phone number for him. Its the little boy i feel sorry for , just being left there .. but she is a great parent and very mature. He wasn't ready to settle down. Shes in college studying law at the moment and working part time trying to not fall into the usual single mother role of living off the government. So its not as if she is one of these Vicky Pollard types...

sounds alright. have you a pic of this fine citizen?

starbelgrade

zuroph wrote: »

sounds alright. have you a pic of this fine citizen?

Here ; http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2006/08/pollard_228x337.jpg

Quiet you

I don't see the problem with it really. At least you know she's gamey.

ArtSmart

zuroph wrote: »

sounds alright. have you a pic of this fine citizen?

or a detailed outline of her spiritual/ emotional / psychological self?

actually scrap that - a pic will do

Where To

she'll find the right guy when she's least expecting it:)

nice girls always do

usually almost immediately before they meet me

ArtSmart

xxchloexx wrote: »

Bit of background info , she was in a reationship for 3 years , had the baby when she was 21 , he stuck around for a year and then decided he wanted to move to america.. he hasn't contacted her since about the child. His family ignore her and wont tell her where he is gone or give her a phone number for him. Its the little boy i feel sorry for , just being left there .. but she is a great parent and very mature. He wasn't ready to settle down. Shes in college studying law at the moment and working part time trying to not fall into the usual single mother role of living off the government. So its not as if she is one of these Vicky Pollard types...

so em, does this 'friend' talk to you much...

ArtSmart

aDeener wrote: »

i'd give her a rattle but i wouldn't go out with her

Quiet you wrote: »

I don't see the problem with it really. At least you know she's gamey.

:pac::pac::pac:
charmers.

Quiet you

I ooze charm amongst other things.

ArtSmart

quiet you.

scientific1982

Yes, but I'd have to eat her young and then mate with her immediately.

bonerm

xxchloexx wrote: »

would you think twice about going out with a girl that already had a baby ?

No. I wouldn't even think once about it.

Quiet you

ArtSmart wrote: »

quiet you.

Nobody ever bothered their arse to say that to me. You got boobs? If so.... Story!

xxchloexx

ArtSmart wrote: »

so em, does this 'friend' talk to you much...

Considering im 20 and have no kids , nor do i plan on having kids , your little smart comment is really stupid. Cop on.. If i was talking about me i would be mature enough to say "why cant i find a decent bloke" i wouldn't have to hide behind a fake story about a friend. Im not that stupid.

Corkblowin

The only problem with her that I see is her age - a good looking 23 year old will be mainly interested in guys of 20-30, but I know for myself that at 27 I would not have been too keen on having a 2 year old to look after - barely could look after myself.

But then went out with a girl last year who had a 3 year old boy, and I have to say i fell for her more when I saw how she was with him, and I became really attached to the little man....gutted when we broke up! Miss him more at this stage!

Don't think I've got the hang of the after-hours forum....... :pac:

darsar

xxchloexx wrote: »

It's just because when we go out together men do approach us , as soon as she tells them sh has a child , they seem to make a bee line for the door.

That was most likely just the smell of her breath.

Jaxxy

xxchloexx wrote: »

Considering im 20 and have no kids , nor do i plan on having kids , your little smart comment is really stupid. Cop on.. If i was talking about me i would be mature enough to say "why cant i find a decent bloke" i wouldn't have to hide behind a fake story about a friend. Im not that stupid.

The comment wasn't really stupid.

Tell your friend to get out and do other things. Looking for a serious relationship in a pub or a club wouldn't be the best way to go about things in my opinion.