Lack of respect for personal space.

suicide_circus

So i took the aircoach to dublin airport today. I got on, paid my fare, shuffled down the aisle and sat down. There was only two passengers on the coach, myself and some other guy. At the next stop two middle aged women got on. One of these women sat down next to me DESPITE THE FACT THAT THERE WAS ABOUT 50 OTHER AVAILABLE SEATS. Now, i'm a reasonable guy, not a completely antisocial animal but i just cannot stand this kind of mindless encroaching on my spacebubble. I need my lebensraum. So not wishing to create a scene, i politely asked the women if i could get by and moved down the coach a bit and chose another seat. I saw the woman looking back at me like i was some kind of maniac. This did not bother me, i reclined my seat, stretched my legs and basked in the beautiful uncrowdedness of my surroundings. Anyway my point is, does this kind of activity get on anyone elses wick? What the hell makes people do this? If i get on any form of public transport or a doctors waiting room, cafe or synagog, i always afford those around me with as much comfort and peace as possible by sitting somewhere other than right beside them. Any similar experiences? Do share.x

Micky Dolenz

Suck it up, it's public transport.

chin_grin

Don't bleedin kiss me! Yeh don't know me from Adam!

Coriolanus

Should have started asking her had she heard the Good News.

KeithM89_old

If theres plenty of other free seats id be annoyed. I was on the train yesterday and got stuck beside some girl listening to the same Saturdays song over and over and over again really loudly... It was stuck in my head all day.:(

red menace

Next time try smiling and patting the seat beside you as they walk down the bus, see if they sit there then...
If they do looks like you got a BFF

Kimono-Girl

yeuch public transport! glad i don't have to use that anymore,


my worst was when someone with really strong unpleasant odour sat next to you! it was so hard not to gag! occasionally i had to walk off and wait for the next one!

DublinWriter

suicide_circus wrote: »

What the hell makes people do this?

Maybe she fancied joining the five-foot high club?

DeepSleeper

Had a similar experience on public transport in Dubai - manual workers from the Indian sub-continent clearly have different feelings about personal space and one asked a complete stranger to let him into the window seat beside the aisle seat on which the stranger was sitting... despite 50 empty seats on the bus! They then fell asleep on each others shoulders:D... I thought it quite funny and compared it to Ireland where we are programmed to take the furthest possible seat from all others on the bus...

Never saw what you describe happen in Ireland OP - Am I right to assume the woman was Irish? If so, then it is really odd... If not, then perhaps different social norms apply in her country of origin...

4zn76tysfajdxp

Need a hug, OP?

mickdw

It might be rude in some countries not to share a seat with someone.

uwala

Irish people in general have no respect for personal space. They seem to lack sensitivity that other countries don't. Go to any supermarket or walk down any street and morons will walk straight into you, stand there oblivious while you try to pass, and act as if no-one else exists. Not surprised because they also have no style, aesthetics or taste. Just look at everything they do. For the most part they are retarded monkeys.

Cue beligerent Irish retort...

Coriolanus

uwala wrote: »

Irish people in general have no respect for personal space. They seem to lack sensitivity that other countries don't. Go to any supermarket or walk down any street and morons will walk straight into you, stand there oblivious while you try to pass, and act as if no-one else exists. Not surprised because they also have no style, aesthetics or taste. Just look at everything they do. For the most part they are retarded monkeys.

Cue beligerent Irish retort...

oh, the troll-fu is strong in this one.

itac

Ohh dear god, this is actually one of the few things in life that really wrecks my head! I can tolerate & understand it in busy pubs/shops/suchlike, because in places like those, you don't really have much of a choice other than to leave-but when I'm in a queue and someone stands in my personal space, or sits beside me on the bus when they've walked past 5 empty double seats, it takes all my energy not to punch them*!

Worst one I had was a guy behind me in the queue in the Post Office-I could actually feel his breath on my neck. I then stuck my elbow out and "accidentally" elbowed him in the stomach, apologising with a "god, I didn't expect you to be so close to me". I now nearly always stand with my elbow sticking out as far as I can behind me-if people keep banging into it of their own accord, tough crap. Bags on seat on the bus, failing that, move to another seat, explaining that I have a bad knee which doesn't agree with the cramped space on Dublin Bus which is why I want to sit on my own...hurray for a convincing limp.

/end rant/

Thanks OP...:D



*anyone who knows me knows I'm not really a violent person, but this is one dealbreaker with me...

Micky Dolenz

uwala wrote: »

Irish people in general have no respect for personal space. They seem to lack sensitivity that other countries don't. Go to any supermarket or walk down any street and morons will walk straight into you, stand there oblivious while you try to pass, and act as if no-one else exists. Not surprised because they also have no style, aesthetics or taste. Just look at everything they do. For the most part they are retarded monkeys.

Cue beligerent Irish retort...

Banned

Antomus Prime

That would annoy me too, if the bus is empty dont sit beside me, unless you're really hot..

cml387

Paul Theroux made a whole career out of recording conversations on public transport.

scientific1982

Yep, people invading my personal space annoys the **** out of me. The worst is people who get uncomfortably close when talking to you.

Copper23

Yep, aweful, I used to have to just get off the bus all the time too... I hate when someone is in your space constantly when they have no place being there.

Captain_Generic

Just get your cock out.

I'm not entirely sure why though.

Oh_Noes

suicide_circus wrote: »

? What the hell makes people do this?

Did you have a bag on the seat beside you?

cml387

If someone sits down beside simply turn to them smiling broadly and say:
"Hi there,have you found room for Jesus in your heart?"

Works every time

OutlawPete

I hear ya OP.

For me, it's the Cinema where it bothers me most.

I have had people sit beside me when the place is empty.

What the fuck is wrong with people.

Also, people who tailgate in queues - need a taser up their arse.

The queue is not gonna move any quicker cause you're humping me you spoon.

Abi

OutlawPete wrote: »

I hear ya OP.

For me, it's the Cinema where it bothers me most.

I have had people sit beside me when the place is empty.

What the fuck is wrong with people.

Also, people who tailgate in queues, need a taser up the ass.

The queue is not gonna move any quicker cause your humping me you spoon.

Big hate of mine. This one gets my slow-motion-turnaround then stare at the turd behind me. I normally find myself with a bit more breathing space after that.

red menace

scientific1982 wrote: »

Yep, people invading my personal space annoys the **** out of me. The worst is people who get uncomfortably close when talking to you.

I hope you don't mind but I hover my mouse over your name when I read your posts

Gran Hermano

Captain_Generic wrote: »

Just get your cock out.

I'm not entirely sure why though.

It's a bus not Aer Lingus.

Sofiztikated

cml387 wrote: »

If someone sits down beside simply turn to them smiling broadly and say:
"Hi there,have you found room for Jesus in your heart?"

Works every time

Not quite every time. Depending on my mood, I may try to out weird you on that one.

But bleh, complete lack of spacial awareness on some people is unreal. Had to queue in a post office one day to drop off some letters for work. And there was one guy behind me, he literally had his toes to my heels. Really, REALLY uncomfortable. D'ya know what I did about it? Nothing, I harumped, and moved to first available window.

Should've stabbed him. With love.

BickNarry

Micky Dolenz wrote: »

Banned

wobzilla1 wrote: »

Allow me to make generalisations too




I'm looking at you black people

I'm confused.No generalisations about us,only foreigners?

Orando Broom

Nevore wrote: »

Should have started asking her had she heard the Good News.

Oooooh! I love good news!!!

Pedro K

EDIT: I'm rubbish at this, is there a way I can just post the picture rather than the link?

fonecrusher1

Maybe she just wanted a cuddle?

Inverse to the power of one!

Ha-Ha!

Now try living in Asia

Tho that said......despite the fact that you will be pushed, touched, and harried on the streets......on public transport, personal space is really well respected :eek:

CrazyRabbit

To the above poster, could you please not post so close to me? Thanks.

Edit: And the same goes to Carlos Ray below.

Carlos_Ray

Ireland, like most northern European countries is generally quite good with personal space.

Southern European region leading into North Africa is a complete disaster. Try explaining personal space to a north African and you're in for a challenge.

ishvalian

It wasn't one of these women by any chance, was it?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y_JkRdOo26c

fonecrusher1

I remember when i lived in sydney, some days when you were standing in a packed, stifling hot train you would be on the verge of flipping out. Especially when some loudmouth prick standing beside you starts roaring on the phone about how smashed he & the lads were on saturday night. Thoughts of psychotic violence had to be repressed.

Soby

Should have said scared her off.Couldnt be arsed going to look for that list of stuff to do in a lift


What ya know...I was

1) Announce in a demonic voice: “I must find a more suitable host body.”
2) Apply dripping red paint around the edge of the roof hatch. When someone enters, look upwards and whisper "I think they want in..."
3) Ask each passenger getting on if you can push the button for them. Press the wrong ones.
4) Ask, “did you hear that cable snapping sound?”
5) Bring a camera, take pictures of everybody in the elevator.
6) Call out, “Group hug!” and enforce it.
7) Draw a volleyball on the wall of the elevator and insist you have been trapped in there for 3 months. Formally introduce everyone to the volleyball.
8) Drop a pen and wait until someone reaches to help pick it up, then scream, “That’s mine!”
9) Grimace painfully while smacking your forehead and muttering: "Shut up, dammit, all of you just shut UP!"
10) Hold the elevator door open and say you’re waiting for your friend. After a while, let the doors close and say, “Hi John, how’s your day been?”
11) Hum the theme to Jeopardy.
12) Leave a box in a corner, and when someone gets on, ask if they hear something ticking.
13) Make explosion noises when anyone presses a button.
14) Say, while holding a paper with OUT OF ORDER written on it, “I wonder why this was glued on the door when I came in.”
15) Scribble furiously on a notepad while looking at each passenger. When they try to look, hide the pad.
16) Stare at another passenger for a while, then scream “You’re one of THEM!” and cower to the far corner of the elevator.
17) When the elevator doors close, bang on them, screaming let me out!
18) When there’s only one other person on the elevator, tap them on the shoulder and pretend it wasn’t you.
19)When arriving at your floor, grunt and strain to yank the doors open, then act embarrassed when they open by themselves.
20)When the elevator doors close, announce

Abigayle

Abigayle wrote: »

Big hate of mine. This one gets my slow-motion-turnaround then stare at the turd behind me. I normally find myself with a bit more breathing space after that.

What's starting to get to me is people standing practically beside you. BESIDE you. like some kind of subtle overtaking manoeuvre.
Where the hell do you think you're going? Do you think I can't see you? Stand the fcuk back behind me, it's a QUEUE :mad::mad:

stovelid

Fucking emos.

Get a job.

JonB

She wanted your babies!

Dean820

uwala wrote: »

Irish people in general have no respect for personal space. They seem to lack sensitivity that other countries don't. Go to any supermarket or walk down any street and morons will walk straight into you, stand there oblivious while you try to pass, and act as if no-one else exists. Not surprised because they also have no style, aesthetics or taste. Just look at everything they do. For the most part they are retarded monkeys.

Cue beligerent Irish retort...

From my experience, this is just Dublin people.

baltimore sun

wouldn't really bother me, I'd just be listenin to my mp3 looking out the window...free country, she's paid the fare and she can sit wherever she wants.

Thing I hate is the selfish c*cks that put bags in the seat to try and stop people sitting beside them or people that sit on the outside seat.

I've paid my fare too, selfish dopes

Johro

suicide_circus wrote: »

At the next stop two middle aged women got on. One of these women sat down next to me DESPITE THE FACT THAT THERE WAS ABOUT 50 OTHER AVAILABLE SEATS.

Okay, but if she was young and gorgeous, would you feel the same way? Or would you offer her your lap?

--Kaiser--

scientific1982 wrote: »

Yep, people invading my personal space annoys the **** out of me. The worst is people who get uncomfortably close when talking to you.

Nothing worse than a close talker, personal space invaders!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGVSIkEi3mM

TheBlock

--Kaiser-- wrote: »

Nothing worse than a close talker, personal space invaders!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NGVSIkEi3mM

Close talkers are easily dealt with. Just stick the lips on them.

prinz

Funnily enough I was thinking about this last night. I was at a Christmas Carol concert on a long church bench when two old women came in. The place was fairly empty at this stage. Up they walked, split up and one went to one end of the pew, the other to the other end. They both walked all the way up to me and sat on either side, and then proceeded to have a chat across. In the end I moved. Pathetic as they could easily have sat side by side on the same bench.

itac wrote: »

Bags on seat on the bus, failing that, move to another seat, explaining that I have a bad knee which doesn't agree with the cramped space on Dublin Bus which is why I want to sit on my own...hurray for a convincing limp....

That's well and good while the bus is empty. If there are no more seats and somebody gets on move your bag, because there's nothing worse than some ignorant fools who will leave a bag on a seat and ignore someone standing/looking to sit. I have chucked bags off seats so if this happens to you it could be me.

seamus

http://www.funnygames.co.nz/play/the-urinal-game

Can't stand people walking into an empty bathroom and use the urinal beside you. Even worse when it's one of those long troughs...

NoDice

Especially hate the cheese and onion tayto-eating personal space invaders. *projectile vomit*

NoDice

- another C & H personal fave.

CrazyRabbit

This thread just reminded me of this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FM90lwrz4Og

Kimono-Girl

I like to respect peoples personal space just like i hope they would respect mine!