when and why do i have to 'grow up'

BCC4LYFE

am 21 and some people say i need to grow up...i dont get it tho....with so many years ahead to fall in line why would they wish that on me i never wanna act my age, whats my age again?:D

how shud a 21 year old 'act'...secretly i think they love it tho;)

cafecolour

It means stop acting like a 15 year old. Ie start being independent and stop whining at other people to do things for you. Stop trying to be the center of attention. And most of all, stop thinking the entire world revolves around you.

And no they don't "secretly love it" - they find it grating and irritating.

Well to be honest I've noticed your posts before, and to hear you're 21 is pretty shocking. I thought you were like 16. In reply to your question of how should a 21 year old act, it's cool to have childish fun sometimes (so like acting 8, playing in the snow), but not being an immature brat (so like acting 12-15, throwing snowballs at passers by).

In case you're wondering why I though you were 16, it's because you use text speak in you posts and don't use stuff like capitals or full stops. I think most of us got the hang of it in Junior Infants, but usually kids around 13-16 type like that on bebo, so I figured you were one of them.

Penn

It's hard to know without you telling us what it is you do which makes them say you need to grow up.

But yes, while there are many years ahead of you, you're at a stage where you need to be looking at the bigger picture. The more you start taking charge of things yourself and being more mature, the easier your life will be. Because if you leave it off because you have so many years ahead of you, you'll never do it. And when you do, it'll be so much harder.

Motley Crue

true-or-false wrote: »

In case you're wondering why I though you were 16, it's because you use text speak in you posts and don't use stuff like capitals or full stops. I think most of us got the hang of it in Junior Infants, but usually kids around 13-16 type like that on bebo, so I figured you were one of them.

Umm...interesting

OP I would advise that "growing up" also means becomming "Street Wise" and trying to come to terms with yourself, your body, the world and it's surroundings. The way of the world will come to you, some develop later than others, but perhaps you need to simply show some seriousness every once and a while.

Life can still be a laugh in your 60's and beyond so don't despair that you have to take it all black and white, the most interesting people I know aged 60, attended Iron Maiden the last time they played in England and were at Live Aid in 1985

28064212

BCC4LYFE wrote: »

am 21 and some people say i need to grow up...i dont get it tho....with so many years ahead to fall in line why would they wish that on me i never wanna act my age, whats my age again?:D

how shud a 21 year old 'act'...secretly i think they love it tho;)

You don't have to 'act' like a 21-year-old. If people are telling you to "grow up", what they're actually saying is "it's time to lose your annoying childish habits", not "you have to act like a stereotypical 'adult'".

There are lots of childish traits that are good to hang on to. There are lots that aren't. If people are telling you to grow up, it's because you're likely falling into the former category instead of the latter

muboop1

BCC4LYFE wrote: »

am 21 and some people say i need to grow up...i dont get it tho....with so many years ahead to fall in line why would they wish that on me i never wanna act my age, whats my age again?:D

how shud a 21 year old 'act'...secretly i think they love it tho;)

Really???
Go through your posts on this forum to date(won't take long, only 20 or so) and tell me that you don't sound like you are 12..

On another point, you state in one of those posts relating to gymnastics that you are 18?

Again... this lying and easily getting caught out is a sign of immaturity. Like why bother?

KiLLeR CoUCh

It depends what you mean by "grow up". There's also a difference between being childlike and childish. I happen to be very childlike sometimes, I love cartoons, there's a large box of lego stored away in my room and that suits me just fine. It doesn't however stop me from taking my work seriously, treating people around me with respect and maturity, dealing with my finances and generally getting on with life the best way I can. I'm 22 btw. So if you're more of the latter and less of the former you might want to re-evaluate the way you behave. On the other hand if you're talking about enthusiasm for snowmen and generally playing around then by all means be my guest.