Is she trying to hook up? (The girl who rented my apartment)

elpipe

I rented my apartment to this girl. We met a few times to do business, signing contract etc. Then when I took back the apartment I got some of her mail, called her about it and sent it to her new address. That's about 9 moths ago.

Now yesterday (Saturday) at 8pm I get this sms from her "Hi [my name]! I checked my phonebook and found your number! What are you doing these days? Hugs, [her name]"

We sms talking about what we do and my apartment which I told her I have sold it and she said she loved living there. I ask her if she still lives at her dorm room and she says "yes, but I am mostly at my so called boyfriends place".

And a little later she sms, "we should meet up, you seem fun "


She mentioned she had a "so called boyfriend" (whatever that is) but why would she want to meet up with a guy she met just briefly and hasn't had any contact with for 9 months? All I can think of is that she wants to hook up.

George Orwell 1982

Maybe, maybe not. I wouldn't jump to ant conclusions. At the end of the day she has a boyfriend.

I am a friend

Hmmmmm or else she has lost her phone and someone is having fun at her expense... Cant figure why she would contact you after this length otherwise...

elpipe

I am a friend wrote: »

Hmmmmm or else she has lost her phone and someone is having fun at her expense... Cant figure why she would contact you after this length otherwise...

No, I sent an sms asking her where she was going that night and she later (1:30 am) called me and said once again that we should meet up someday.

Overheal

I don't think she could be more obvious without the aid of a flaregun.

Ask her out tonight

I am a friend

Not being smart but it sounds like a set up. Why does she suddenly call after 9 months when she STILL has a boyfriends. Sounds suss. Anyway why would you want to even consider it??

Cheap Thrills!

She definitely wants something but the 'so called boyfriend' is the bit that niggles me.

She is angry with him for some reason, maybe he cheated or let her down in some way and now she wants revenge.....by hooking up with you?

If so beware of becoming a pawn in the situation as you don't want it turned back on you when she gets it out of her system and makes you out to be a stalker.

If it wasn't for the mention of the BF I would be saying go for it, but....it feels like something isn't right.....obviously only guesswork but....somethings up.

magneticimpulse

Alarm bells all over this. I would have said it was the boyfriend texting people in her phonebook to see who the blokes were but then you said she rang you.

Waste of time...move on and dont entertain her...

Princess Peach

This reminds me of a scene from a tv show I saw once. A girl takes the guy up to her room to do the usual, texts her boyfriend and tells him and he comes up and beats the crap out of the guy, and the girl says the boyfriend made her do it because he wasn't paying enough attention to her.

Now this was a fictional and comedic show, but still I hear alarm bells. I don't know why she would have told you she is seeing someone and then want to meet up with you?

It just seems like a complicated situation with a possible crazy girl and my advice is for you to stay out of it.

JonathanAnon

Sounds like she found out her boyfriend cheated on her, and she wants to try and get back at him.... I dont think it's coincidental that she is texting you randomly at the same time she is evaluating her boyfriend as being her "so-called" boyfriend... Seems like she is trying to prove to herself (and to him) that she can get another date at a whim, if she should choose to do so...

She has a boyfriend, who could be a nut job.... and you may innocently end up walking in to the eye of a storm that has nothing to do with you... I would avoid until she at least makes certain that her "so-called boyfriend" is her "definite ex-boyfriend"...

Overheal

I think it's less plausible it's the boyfriend making the texts, if she's holding a conversation about where she was living like that; but good points here and I agree the mention of the boyfriend at all is the flag here: that she's ready to break up with this guy, or cheat on him, w/e, and that theres a chance getting involved will put you in the middle of something you do not want to be in the middle of.

HavingCrack

Something seriously weird going on here. Don't have anything to do with her.

Darthhoob

from my perspective, as a woman who suffers with low self esteem (or certainly did have) and had arsehole boyfriends in the past...i'd say yes...she does want to hook up.

BUT

i would say she is doing it because the boyfriend has done something to hurt her or they fell out or something and she's looking for some male attention elsewhere to stroke her ego...amongst other things. or maybe she is looking for outright revenge. she probably thought you were cute enough to ask, or the only bloke on her phone left to text lol...who knows.

my advice is to not go there, you dont want to get involved with all that.

Overheal

Unless you get thrilled by danger; then you should go for it

Distorted

Ditto the above, also theres a chance she could be the type of girl who likes to have a boyfriend for security while she casts about for the next one, so it sounds quite innocent when she sends texts asking men out. And then if they turn round and say she asked them out, she can go all innocent and say she told them she had a boyfriend. Sounds unlikely? I've got one like this chasing my boyfriend (and just about every other man she meets).

I'd ignore her, or maybe send a reply saying "Sure, we can meet up. Will your boyfriend be coming along too?" and I bet she doesn't reply!

LegacyUser

I've hooked up with 3 (ex) roommates

She wants to hook up. The boyfriend thing is a big clue that she doesn't want a stupid relationship with you, just wants to hook up for a night or nights because its exciting.. if you don't have some big issue or moral thing about that then go for it.

elpipe

upsidedown22 wrote: »

I've hooked up with 3 (ex) roommates

She wants to hook up. The boyfriend thing is a big clue that she doesn't want a stupid relationship with you, just wants to hook up for a night or nights because its exciting.. if you don't have some big issue or moral thing about that then go for it.

That's what I was thinking myself. No, I don't have any moral problems and she seemed cute enough so I will probably meet up with her some day and see what she is up to

consultech

Cheap Thrills! wrote: »

If so beware of becoming a pawn in the situation.

I would also be wary of this.

You don't want a situation where she meets up with you for no-strings attached sex.

28064212

consultech wrote: »

I would also be wary of this.

You don't want a situation where she meets up with you for no-strings attached sex.

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Why?

Elle Collins

What's with all the conspiracy theories? The girl is looking for her hole, end of story.

Chicago Chick

Elle Collins wrote: »

What's with all the conspiracy theories? The girl is looking for her hole, end of story.

Sounds like that to me too.

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Do it for dustin!

Elle Collins

Elle Collins wrote: »

What's with all the conspiracy theories? The girl is looking for her hole, end of story.

shes a lesbian????



is the op a girl???... or is she looking for c0ck?

calex71

Elle Collins wrote: »

What's with all the conspiracy theories? The girl is looking for her hole, end of story.

If she looks down and into the bush she'll find it, no need to draw maps etc:D

I'd meet her during the day OP for lunch or something in a public place

calex71

calex71 wrote: »

If she looks down and into the bush she'll find it, no need to draw maps etc:D

I'd meet her during the day OP for lunch or something in a public place

Could up like that scene in that film, America's Sweethearts, where Catherine Zeta Jones character is eating in a restaurant with Hank Azaria's character and John Cusack's character drove a motorbike through the window.

Cheeky_gal

elpipe wrote: »

Now yesterday (Saturday) at 8pm I get this sms from her "Hi [my name]! I checked my phonebook and found your number! What are you doing these days? Hugs, [her name]"

That is the gayest thing I've ever read

boarduser1980

nah, sounds like she is bored/lonely, taking the piss. doesnt sound very genuine
dont let her make a fool out of you

elpipe

Dambant wrote: »

nah, sounds like she is bored/lonely, taking the piss. doesnt sound very genuine
dont let her make a fool out of you

That's possible. She seem like she is pretty hyper and over-active.

I asked her out but she had the flu. I will just wait and see if she makes contact again.