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No Feeling?

  • 22-10-2010 3:02pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi regular-ish poster here but going unreg for obv reasons. I'm a 21 yr old female but I find it hard to derive pleasure from sex. I'm not exactly experienced but the first few times I did anything with a guy I really enjoyed it and I can pleasure myself (not to the point of an orgasm but, ya know, enough) so I know everything "works". I don't really enjoy anything, not hands or oral or even playing with my nipple and I remeber the first time somebody did that to me it was amazing. I just feel kind of numb to it all.

    This has been going on for nearly two years now and it's driving me insane, at first I thought it was just that I was with the wrong guys but I can't be that unlucky! It's gotten worse now too because before, even though I knew I wouldn't enjoy it that much I never had any problem "getting in the mood" but now my sex drive seems to be completely gone.

    I have had one or two uncomfortable experiences but nothing bad and I do suffer from very mild depresion but it's completely manageable and I really don't think thats the problem. It's just so frustrating, does anybody have any insight?


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  • #2
    Cheap Thrills!
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,723 ✭✭✭Cheap Thrills!


    Hi Op,

    Was just wondering if you are on the pill/implant or antidepressants as all these things can suppress the sex drive and response.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Op here.

    No I'm not on any sort of medication unless multi-vitamins count


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hey OP, sorry I dont have any advice for you, but I am in the same boat. I have never had an orgasm(by myself or with my partner) I use to really enjoy sex, but now I couldn't care about it.

    Maybe for the last two years there has been more important things going on with you and you don't have the abilty to relax, switch off, whatever

    Hope things get better for you soon.


  • #5
    28064212
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,906 ✭✭✭✭28064212


    OP, have you ever had an orgasm? If you haven't, I made a post on a similar topic before here (it was in reply to someone who was 'faking' it, but most of the post is relevant to you as well).

    It's no surprise your sex drive is lowered if you're not getting any pleasure from it. If you can't pleasure your own body, it's unlikely anyone else will be able to.

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  • #6
    LighterGuy
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    In my opinion, its one of two things:

    1,
    Some people take more time to find sex pleasurable.
    Even myself. I remember taking 2-3 years after first having sex to "arrive" solely from sex and not by giving myself a helping hand. I'd even be honest and say I didnt feel a thing for a while. It was like no sensation (I got no sensation from condoms, but even then I was used to "jerking it" as a teenager and as you know sex is different) - You do say you are "not exactly experienced" - you might have not found the "nitch" yet.

    2,
    you do say you are mildly depressed. Sex is mental. You dont think its that but any form of depression weather it be big or small has effects. It is a possibility that its causing sexual issues. Ask yourself this, you say two years ago you found it pleasurable. Where you at a more happy state of life then?


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