Should a girl ever say i love you first

basecamp1

Should a girl ever say 'I love you' first. After 8 months in relationship?

omahaid

No reason not to, if you love him, it was about the same length of time when I told my OH the same

Adam

seriously? grow up OP...

Kiera

It honestly doesnt matter who says it first.

The Recliner

Adam wrote: »

seriously? grow up OP...

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spinandscribble

the only thing that matters is if you say it, you mean it.

dudara

There are no rules - just say it when it feels right.

Don't try to play love by rules (especially fake rules) - just do what feels right.

chainsaws

Just say it next time you are together.

28064212

Say it if you want. The actual saying of it is rarely the cause of problems. What does cause problems is the inability of people to realise that love is not some universal concept. You might say "I love you" and it means you have a deep emotional bond that means you can share everything with him. He might not consider himself in love until he is absolutely convinced that he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. "I love you" is a completely arbitrary phrase that covers a vast, vast range of possible emotions, all of which are as valid as each other

Princess Peach

I've said it first before! I'd felt it for a while, but I think I was waiting for him to say it first. And one moment in just came bursting out of me. He didn't say it back straight away, but I was glad I let him know.

If you feel it, I think you should say it. Maybe he is waiting for you, cause he is scared he won't get it said back if he does it. Some men are funny with expressing feelings

AnonoBoy

It doesn't matter what the gender of the person who says it first is.

If it were a universally accepted truth that a girl should never say 'I love you' first then lesbian couples would be screwed.

Novella

What really gets me is how much emphasis people place on saying 'I love you', as if it's such a big deal. Love is a big deal, don't get me wrong, but saying it, well it doesn't really mean much at all. What matters is showing it. It's so easy to utter three words, but to live up to the meaning of them is what counts.

Say it if you want to, OP. There are no rules.

Kiera

Novella wrote: »

What really gets me is how much emphasis people place on saying 'I love you', as if it's such a big deal. Love is a big deal, don't get me wrong, but saying it, well it doesn't really mean much at all. What matters is showing it. It's so easy to utter three words, but to live up to the meaning of them is what counts.

Say it if you want to, OP. There are no rules.

It may be easy for you to say those 3 little words but its not for everyone.

Novella

Kiera wrote: »

It may be easy for you to say those 3 little words but its not for everyone.

That's actually not what I meant at all. I very rarely tell people I love them, because I dunno, I find it kinda unnecessary. I think it's much more important that people know you love them through your actions as opposed to your words. What I meant was it's easy to say something, but not act accordingly and often people make way too much of a big deal out of saying 'I love you' and completely neglect showing it.

Kiera

Novella wrote: »

That's actually not what I meant at all. I very rarely tell people I love them, because I dunno, I find it kinda unnecessary. I think it's much more important that people know you love them through your actions as opposed to your words. What I meant was it's easy to say something, but not act accordingly and often people make way too much of a big deal out of saying 'I love you' and completely neglect showing it.

Again, maybe its just me. But if i love someone i will tell them and show them. They kinda go hand-in-hand. But that's just me tho.

Its nice to have it confirmed from someone aswell as seeing their actions towards you. Those 3 little words can mean the world.

LighterGuy

It doesnt matter who says it first.
What matters is that both people feel the same.

Many a person has said "I love you" first and for feelings not to be reciprocated. So whats worse :pac:

Novella

Kiera wrote: »

Again, maybe its just me. But if i love someone i will tell them and show them. They kinda go hand-in-hand. But that's just me tho.

Its nice to have it confirmed from someone aswell as seeing their actions towards you. Those 3 little words can mean the world.

I get ya, totally. I just think it's better not to get too caught up in the saying of it, if that makes sense at all.

Liam Byrne

basecamp1 wrote: »

Should a girl ever say 'I love you' first. After 8 months in relationship?

If you're asking questions like that I would question if you're mature enough to know what love is.

It's sticking your neck out, admittedly, but why should it be the guy who takes the chance on something ?

Princess Peach

I'm never one to constantly tell who I love that I love them, my last boyfriend of about 8 months I can count I told him I loved him 4 times! He knew I did from my actions, but I do always like that first time that you say it. I just think its a kind of special moment. But it is a little scary alright. I think since you've been with him for 8 months, and you feel it, the time is right to say it. I bet you'll just find a moment in the next while and it will just come out of your mouth, thats what always happens to me once I know I feel it.