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Dying To Talk To Guy I Fancy In Work

  • 12-10-2010 8:09pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So i fancy this guy in work for a couple of months now but we've never spoken. he was made redundant this week but not leaving til next year. I genuinely feel awful for him cos from what i hear this is very upsetting news for him. i'd love to email him in work and tell him that i'm so sorry this has happened etc but would this not be appropriate? i know he fancies me too cos he stares at me and makes this very obvious to me whereas i look at him a little more subtlely (but hes very aware that I fancy him).

    will i just leave him to deal with this or can i offer my sympathy? Or should i even leave it a little longer? he may not appreciate the email from some chick when hes feeling like crap. or it may cheer him up?


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  • #2
    shellyboo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,883 ✭✭✭shellyboo


    Wow, just talk to the dude. I have no idea how you're *sure* he fancies you if you've never spoken to him... or even how you know you fancy HIM. Strange behaviour.


  • #3
    Distorted
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,064 ✭✭✭Distorted


    I think a random email out of the blue from someone he's never spoken to but sees at work might be rather wierd. I agree with the above - why not exchange a few words next time you see him at work?


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Why not REALLY bite the bullet by combining the two? I think an email would be fine, but what about an email that says 'Really sorry to hear about your redundancy, that's so crap to hear. I'll buy you a commiseration coffee tomorrow at lunch, if you're on for it?' or something along those lines.

    At least then if he says no, it won't be as embarrassing as if you said to him 'Really sorry to hear about your redundancy' in person and he says 'Yeah'. *silence*

    Come on. Life's too short, don't live with regrets...


  • #5
    darad
    Closed Accounts Posts: 109 ✭✭darad


    Oooh I wouldnt go for the email option if you have never even exchanged words, make a plan to be somewhere near him in the office and just say hey I heard about your situation etc etc


  • #6
    28064212
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,899 ✭✭✭✭28064212


    darad wrote: »
    Oooh I wouldnt go for the email option if you have never even exchanged words, make a plan to be somewhere near him in the office and just say hey I heard about your situation etc etc
    ^ This. It would be fairly weird to email someone you've never spoken to. He mightn't even know who it's from if he doesn't know your full name.

    But use his redundancy as an opportunity to open a conversation, preferably coming up to lunch - "Oh, so sorry to hear etc.... do you want to grab lunch?"

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  • #7
    Zebra3
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    Is there any work drinks do coming up?

    Any of night you and some of your colleagues going out and him and some of his could be invited out by you or one of your mates?


  • #8
    DamoKen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,269 ✭✭✭DamoKen


    OP similar situation last year except we'd chatted a few times, not mates or anything though. We were both made redundant on the same day. On our last day she just came up to me and told me she was sorry to hear I'd been laid off as well and asked if I'd like to meet up for a drink sometime.

    I answered yes. Simple as that

    What have you got to lose? Not like you're asking someone you'll still see every day in work. At the very least you'll cheer him up on what is otherwise a bit of a crappy day ;)


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