Dont know what to do, advice needed fast

LegacyUser

ok guys im going unreg for this as the girl that this is about posts on boards aswell and would find out straight away,

from the start, this girl started to work at my office about 9 months ago, we became friends and went out as friends till i found out she liked me so i said we would give it a go (and i know office relationships are a terrible idea but its a bit late now) went out together for a while but in the bedroom there was no spark for either of us and im a very difficult person so we decided to go back to being friends

we become very good friends, told each other things we would never tell anyone else and all that, but then i realise after a few weeks that im crazy about her and i mean f*cking crazy, totaly infactuated, madly in love with her

but i never said this to her and carried on just as friends, ive tried many times to get her out of my mind and move on but couldnt, i found new girls to go out with that were very nice but the problem is they are not her, i took holidays twice in the last three months one for 10 days the other for 3 weeks but i could not forget her

a few things happened to both of us and for different reasons we are moving away, she is moving to another job somewhere else in the country and im leaving the country, what i want advice on is should i telll her about my feelings about her, im meeting her tommorrow to talk and i think this will be my last chance to say it if i want to

ive already a good idea of what she would say if i told her, that she just sees us as friends and that it wouldnt work out, but im thinking now if i dont tell her ill regret it for the rest of my life
on the flip side i know you cannot make a person like you if the dont

any advice anyone, i just dont know what to do and im dring myself crazy thinking about it

Hotais

=DO NOT TELL HER HOW MUCH YOU'LL MISS HER!!! That will make you look a little psycho...

But IMHO she'd be delighted to hear you like her so tehre'd be no harm in that... Tell her you'll miss her...

However, if you're sure she's not into u, keep it to a minimum as you don't want her thinking you're weird tho! :eek::cool:

fungun

sounds unlikely anything will change at this stage but whats the harm in telling her how you feel?

babs78

If you're leaving the country is there any point in telling her? What are you hoping to achieve from it?

But equally, what have you got to loose by telling her? You say you'd regret it if you didn't tell her. It's better to regret something you did do then regret something you didn't do so you may as wll bite the bullet and say what you want to say to her.

Good luck

missmelo

Tell her, you will always wonder what if, if you dont
dont regret the things you did, only the things you did not do, or something along those lines.
Maybe she does feel the same and she too is afraid to say anything :rolleyes: only one way to find out.

Good Luck

28064212

babs78 wrote: »

If you're leaving the country is there any point in telling her? What are you hoping to achieve from it

^ This. If you're thinking that you at least might get a long-distance relationship going, travel to see each other semi-regularly, then fine, even if it's unlikely to happen. But if you're telling her for no other reason than getting it off your chest, what's the point? It won't change anything, other than your's and her's last memory of each other will be one of awkwardness.

Also, if there was no spark for either of you when you were going out, what makes you think things will be different when you're in different countries?