Poor to rich?

midlandsmissus

MY family were poor through the boom, due to no fault of our own really, (My Dad wouldn't pay maintenence),

Now I have a good job and have money...

It feels weird actually having money, like I used to wonder all my childhood what it would be like to be rich, and now I am, but I kinda feel Like 'a rich person imposter!'

I also work with disadvantaged people and sometimes can't believe that it's ME on the other side of the desk in my good clothes being asked for help, one man said to me one day "the system is against the poor", looking at me like how could I possibly understand, and I felt like shouting "I'm one of you really!"

Anyway I'm rambling on here, just wondering has anyone else made the transition? It's quite strange!

Really don't want to irk anyone that's lost money during the recession, but I want to share that I've realised that money isn't the be all and end all.

Biggins

midlandsmissus wrote: »

...Really don't want to irk anyone that's lost money during the recession, but I want to share that I've realised that money isn't the be all and end all.

With genuine respect, a lot won't be saying that after the next few budgets.
It will be life or death in some cases I suspect!

TheZohanS

New money; pfft.

midlandsmissus

Biggins wrote: »

With genuine respect, a lot won't be saying that after the next few budgets.
It will be life or death in some cases I suspect!

I know, that's also why I don't enjoy it, I see so many people around me who need help. How can anyone enjoy money when others need it? Hopefully this thread won't jinx my job

Money is a funny old thing.

johngalway

Good for you MM Put lots away for rainy days and enjoy the rest!

midlandsmissus

TheZohan wrote: »

New money; pfft.

Haha I would have been left to drown on the titanic

bleg

Save save save save.

ebixa82

midlandsmissus wrote: »

MY family were poor through the boom, due to no fault of our own really, (My Dad wouldn't pay maintenence),

Now I have a good job and have money...

It feels weird actually having money, like I used to wonder all my childhood what it would be like to be rich, and now I am, but I kinda feel Like 'a rich person imposter!'

I also work with disadvantaged people and sometimes can't believe that it's ME on the other side of the desk in my good clothes being asked for help, one man said to me one day "the system is against the poor", looking at me like how could I possibly understand, and I felt like shouting "I'm one of you really!"

Anyway I'm rambling on here, just wondering has anyone else made the transition? It's quite strange!

Really don't want to irk anyone that's lost money during the recession, but I want to share that I've realised that money isn't the be all and end all.

You are still poor. It's like the Indian Caste system, you were born poor and you will die poor. Your destiny has been predetermined...

Scarinae

Well done, you've obviously worked really hard to get where you are now. Don't feel like an impostor, I think that people who work for their money often have more appreciation of it than people who were just born into it, you deserve what you have earned.

I don't have much to respond to your actual question though, because I've only just finished being a student and am doing temporary work to build up experience

MrStuffins

I was always poor growing up. Finished school and got a job. had money...... didn't have a problem spending it.

But, after a few years i decided to go to college. So for 5 years i've been a student and have had NO money to spend. Nothing! Rarely got to go out for pints etc.

Now i have graduated and have a job with a little money..... and i feel really REALLY weird spending it!

Like, if i had €20 to do me for a week, i was rich as a student. Now i have many €20s.... and it feels perverse to spend an entire €20 in one go haha

<insert begrudging comment here>

JONJO THE MISER

pfft new money, there goes the neighbourhood.

Gone Drinking

I don't get people who say money isn't everything. Granted, you don't need to be a millionaire to enjoy life but you will certainly have a better quality of living the more money you have.

Tell someone whos got kids, about to lose their house and has no job that money isn't everything.

Because when it comes down to it, it is.

alwaysadub

No,haven't made the transition yet, but still hoping!

orourkeda

A few bob for the babbie

starbelgrade

I grew up in a house with no central heating system & the only toilet was outside in the back yard. There was no bathroom inside the house, so we had to use a plastic bath in the kitchen & fill it with hot water to wash.

Sounds like a Monthy Python sketch, but it's actually true & wasn't the 1950's, but the late 1970's.

In my first job after I finished college, I was earning more than my dad.

I now have a nice house, a nice car, money in the bank & lots of stuff that I probably don't need.

It's true that money isn't everything, but I'd rather have it than not.

midlandsmissus

MrStuffins wrote: »

I was always poor growing up. Finished school and got a job. had money...... didn't have a problem spending it.

But, after a few years i decided to go to college. So for 5 years i've been a student and have had NO money to spend. Nothing! Rarely got to go out for pints etc.

Now i have graduated and have a job with a little money..... and i feel really REALLY weird spending it!

Like, if i had €20 to do me for a week, i was rich as a student. Now i have many €20s.... and it feels perverse to spend an entire €20 in one go haha

Yeah it's a total mindshift, it's very strange! I'm very grateful of course, but I think people born into riches can't really understand what it is like to be rich as they're so used to it.
I do think you appreciate money more having been born poor, but also you feel an underlining sense of guilt, knowing what people who don't have much money live like! I just want to do more...

midlandsmissus

starbelgrade wrote: »

I grew up in a house with no central heating system & the only toilet was outside in the back yard. There was no bathroom inside the house, so we had to use a plastic bath in the kitchen & fill it with hot water to wash.

Sounds like a Monthy Python sketch, but it's actually true & wasn't the 1950's, but the late 1970's.

In my first job after I finished college, I was earning more than my dad.

I now have a nice house, a nice car, money in the bank & lots of stuff that I probably don't need.

It's true that money isn't everything, but I'd rather have it than not.

Did you ever feel like an imposter? Cause that's what I kind of feel like. obviously since things are so unstable i should be thanking my lucky stars!

Latchy

orourkeda wrote: »

A few bob for the babbie

And dont forget to wet his head ...the babbies that is

midlandsmissus

ebixa82 wrote: »

You are still poor. It's like the Indian Caste system, you were born poor and you will die poor. Your destiny has been predetermined...

Cool, I'm happy being of the poor caste, have learned alot

starbelgrade

midlandsmissus wrote: »

Did you ever feel like an imposter? Cause that's what I kind of feel like. obviously since things are so unstable i should be thanking my lucky stars!

No. What I have, I earned through educating myself & working hard.

And I saw your post before you edited it... I would consider myself "still young" too, thank you very much!!

midlandsmissus

starbelgrade wrote: »

No. What I have, I earned through educating myself & working hard.

And I saw your post before you edited it... I would consider myself "still young" too, thank you very much!!

You're on to me . I actually wrote "still young", in that maybe I am still getting used to it all, and then realised it looked like I was calling you old!

Gone Drinking

Gone Drinking wrote: »

I don't get people who say money isn't everything. .........................

Tell someone whos got kids, about to lose their house and has no job that money isn't everything.

Because when it comes down to it, it is.

Tell those with loads of cash who have lost a loved one due to cancer or whatnot that money is everything, when it comes down to it

The folks you speak of will never starve in Ireland, they will have a roof over their heads and in a few years may well be back on their feet, no one comes back from the grave, money or no money.

starbelgrade

RoverJames wrote: »

Tell those with loads of cash who have lost a loved one due to cancer or whatnot that money is everything, when it comes down to it

The folks you speak of will never starve in Ireland, they will have a roof over their heads and in a few years may well be back on their feet, no one comes back from the grave, money or no money.

What about Jesus?

And zombies?

Dudess

starbelgrade wrote: »

I grew up in a house with no central heating system & the only toilet was outside in the back yard. There was no bathroom inside the house, so we had to use a plastic bath in the kitchen & fill it with hot water to wash.

Sounds like a Monthy Python sketch, but it's actually true & wasn't the 1950's, but the late 1970's.

LOL - sorry, but that's what it reminded me of immediately.

I grew up in a middle-class household - my dad was an engineer with the council. We had enough money but had it drilled into us that we should never tell anyone - and almost be ashamed of it. I suppose it's because of both of them coming from households where they didn't have much.
I was a kid in the 80s. We used to go away nearly every summer - only to England, but it was still considered fairly la-dee-da. And we had a car (a banger) and a phone - quite a few of my classmates had neither. Without meaning to sound about 90 years old, it were a very different world to today...

starbelgrade

Dudess wrote: »

LOL - sorry, but that's what it reminded me of immediately.

I grew up in a middle-class household - my dad was an engineer with the council. We had enough money but had it drilled into us that we should never tell anyone - and almost be ashamed of it. I suppose it's because of both of them coming from households where they didn't have much.

When we was young, we couldn't even afford shame.

Dudess

"We was so poor, we couldn't afford to pay attention" - Mr T.

Jesus Wept

Not to detract from your happiness but you are not rich by the sounds of things.

This is rich.

Dudess

Oh yeah to answer the OP's question: I grew up in a middle-income household, now I've a fairly poorly paid job but I'm getting by fine - therefore I have neither experienced richness, nor poorness.

Damn fucking boring middle-class.

derra_121

bleg wrote: »

Save save save save.

Whats the point you cant spend it when your dead!!!

stovelid

The only rich people that work with the disadvantaged are drug dealers?

starbelgrade

Dudess wrote: »

Oh yeah to answer the OP's question: I grew up in a middle-income household, now I've a fairly poorly paid job but I'm getting by fine - therefore I have neither experienced richness, nor poorness.

Damn fucking boring middle-class.

Awh. You poor thing.

Here's a video to cheer you up;

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DqgXzPfAxjo

midlandsmissus

stovelid wrote: »

The only rich people that work with the disadvantaged are drug dealers?

Hahaha, not a drug dealer. And Dudess I'm definitely still middle class, just seems like really rich to me!

Dudess

starbelgrade wrote: »

Awh. You poor thing.

Here's a video to cheer you up;

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DqgXzPfAxjo

Bet when you told chicks that plastic bath story... jackpot!

I-Shot-Jr

I'm pretty much broke at the minute. I'm a student with a job so I am better off than others, I pay for my apartment by myself as well as college through my wages. I have a plan and am fully confident that by the time I am finished studying I will be ready to work even harder and get the job that suits me and no have any money worries. It may seem a little naive but I'm confident that my hard work and difficult choices (emigration?) I'm going to be faced with will pay off.

Essentially what I'm trying to say is to the OP, when I get to that position I'm going to look back at everything I've done and say I deserve this and not feel any guilt or find the sensation bizarre. I will look back and observe it as a natural progression and not let what anyone thinks change that.

I'm sure you fully deserve whatever position you are in as well as the financial security that comes with it. I wouldn't let anyone else change how I felt about my situation.

starbelgrade

Dudess wrote: »

Bet when you told chicks that plastic bath story... jackpot!

Between that & the viagra excuse, I was a busy man with the ladies!