"I used to fancy the pants off you"

Pacing Mule

I happened to bump into a girl I worked with a few years ago earlier this evening. During the usual conversation that takes place in these circumstances she blurts out "I used to fancy the pants off you back then"

Part of me was flattered and part of me was offended she no longer did :P Do you take similar comments as flattering or offensive?

paky

op i get that all the time, i just take it in my stride..;)

AnnyHallsal

I'd say she was flirting and probably does [EDIT: still] fancy you! Otherwise it's a rather risky disclosure.

PeterIanStaker

Get her drunk. See what happens. :cool:

dr.bollocko

Is she hot? Female? alive?
Post pics that we might mock you or build your self confidence.

AnnyHallsal

Have you gotten significantly uglier in the interim?

Riddle101

Part of me would be flattered, but part of me would be p!ssed off that I missed my chance to get when I could.

MrStuffins

to me, that's her saying "I have always fancied you, but back then i was afraid to say so! SO now i am Uber-Flirting"


I mean........... pics or GTFO!

jellybean08

Sounds like flirting to me. Depends on the girl too though. Could have just been some word vomit. Either way, I'd take it as a compliment

Pacing Mule

dr.bollocko wrote: »

Is she hot? Female? alive?
Post pics that we might mock you or build your self confidence.

Yes, Yes and Yes

Didn't grab the opportunity to get a pic

AnnyHallsal

Wow, Jumpguy really likes this thread. :pac:

spider guardian

you just need to stoke up the fires of passion again man, so grab the poker and get stokin!

Pookah

Posts for thanks from jumpguy.

Pacing Mule

AnnyHallsal wrote: »

Have you gotten significantly uglier in the interim?

I'd like to think not but that's exactly where you get offended. What do you mean used to ????? :pac:

AnnyHallsal

Pageant Messiah wrote: »

I'd like to think not but that's exactly where you get offended. What do you mean used to ????? :pac:

It takes a very brave woman to say I fancy the pants off you .. much easier to put in the past .. like .. I used to a sloot .. junkie .. Kooks fan etc.

RockinRolla

Why didnt you welly her out of it there and then?!?!?????????

Pacing Mule

RockinRolla wrote: »

Why didnt you welly her out of it there and then?!?!?????????

I'm married.

RockinRolla

Pageant Messiah wrote: »

I'm married.

Even better for the fantasy.

AnnyHallsal

Pageant Messiah wrote: »

I'm married.

:eek: Shouldn't give a carp then should you. Smack on the wrist.

jellybean08

tut tut:p

Fistycuffs

Maybe she was inferring she now has a boyfriend/husband and that she's not looking anymore so thought it was safe to put it out there.

I think you should take it as a compliment .

spider guardian

a ring on the finger never stopped anyone from messin around. hit that

Wolfe Tone

spider guardian wrote: »

a ring on the finger never stopped anyone from messin around. hit that

With your fist! In the face! Then kick her in the face!

AnnyHallsal

spider guardian wrote: »

a ring on the finger never stopped anyone from messin around. hit that

MUSSOLINI wrote: »

With your fist! In the face! Then kick her in the face!

Hmm, I don't know which is worse.

Sardonicat

Fistycuffs wrote: »

Maybe she was inferring she now has a boyfriend/husband and that she's not looking anymore so thought it was safe to put it out there.

I think you should take it as a compliment .

I second that op. Perhaps she thought you knew she fancied you back then and was feeling embarrased. Easier to put in the past tense seeing as you are married now and didn't want to feel a fool.

I should try that one myself. Seems far less excruiating than my current method of dealing with former crushes, which is to stare through them blankly as though I have no idea who they are. Think my blushes give me away though....;)

Son Of A Vidic

OP - sounds like your appearance has deteriorated significantly then:p

LC2010HIS

hope u got a number

thats what us women like to call hinting to males

spider guardian

AnnyHallsal wrote: »

Hmm, I don't know which is worse.

obviously being cheated on is much worse. bruises heal within weeks, bruises of heart can take years!

Liam Byrne

That thread title game me a massive flashback!!!! Thanks for the smile, OP!!!!

johndaman66

I reckon theres a fair chance she said it in the sense that she used to fancy you, she has now moved on/ realises your now a married man...who cares really you are a married man now like. Dont see why you would be overly upset over it or even spare too much thought for it if she no longer fancied you and as you say take it as a compliment if she still does fancy you...but I would not make too much of it either way and after you making your vows why should you want to?

I've found women to be generally ahkward in this sense. You get going with a girl only to find out that one you work with and would have thought would never have given you a second thought fancies you also. A bit like busses or something...Your waiting around for forever and a fookin day for one and then 2 or 3 come along at once.

Gummy Panda

I'd tell her to rub my belly. Never too late

spider guardian

johndaman66 wrote: »

I reckon theres a fair chance she said it in the sense that she used to fancy you, she has now moved on/ realises your now a married man...who cares really you are a married man now like. Dont see why you would be overly upset over it or even spare too much thought for it if she no longer fancied you and as you say take it as a compliment if she still does fancy you...but I would not make too much of it either way and after you making your vows why should you want to?

I've found women to be generally ahkward in this sense. You get going with a girl only to find out that one you work with and would have thought would never have given you a second thought fancies you also. A bit like busses or something...Your waiting around for forever and a fookin day for one and then 2 or 3 come along at once.

i think this post has pretty much summed it all up for you man. close this thread now

Swirls

johndaman66 wrote: »

A bit like busses or something...

Nice.

As for the whole "I really used to fancy you" comment, it's a blatant and well-known flirting technique. Or at least I thought it was.

It's the kind of flirting advice you get in Cosmopolitan - the man is supposed to think "If she fancied me then, she could fancy me again (now)". Apparently. Yeah, she was definitely flirting with you.

ascanbe

Really depends on the girl. Perhaps, she just meant that she used to fancy you.
Perhaps, what she said indicates that she still does.
Or perhaps, she's one of those people who just runs their mouth incessantly, making it impossible for anyone to even somewhat accurately decipher the meaning of what they say on any given subject.
You, OP, being somewhat familiar with this girl, are in a much better position to judge than anyone here.
Go with your gut-instinct; should doing so result in your life collapsing around you, use the subsequent despair as fodder for the writing of a heart-rending, Booker Prize winning, novel.

Pacing Mule

Suppose it's a reflection of AH that most people took the angle of whether or not I should act on the comment / break marriage vows etc. I wasn't posting this in PIs

I was merely asking is the comment a compliment or an insult in general. :P

AckwelFoley

no, never got it.


I was an ugly cnut in my teens

orourkeda

Sounds like this bird needs a savage roasting.

orourkeda

orourkeda wrote: »

Sounds like this bird needs a savage roasting.

Roast chicken for sunday dinner does sound nice

Rabble Rabble

OP, should have said you were married. That made her comment safe.

orourkeda

bluewolf wrote: »

Roast chicken for sunday dinner does sound nice

Then a roasted box

wyndham

Is she hotter than your wife?

If so, get divorced and then ask her what she meant by it.

Shanotheslayer

snyper wrote: »

I was an ugly cnut in my teens

Just the teens?:pac:

stovelid

Subliminal message to female boards members:

OP is attractive to ladies.

mrsdewinter

Pageant Messiah wrote: »

Suppose it's a reflection of AH that most people took the angle of whether or not I should act on the comment / break marriage vows etc. I wasn't posting this in PIs

I was merely asking is the comment a compliment or an insult in general. :P

Ah OP, of course it's a compliment. If she didn't hold you in some affection, she wouldn't have made that comment. And she'd definitely go for you if you weren't married. Sigh. Now I'm beginning to fancy you...

Pacing Mule

Rabble Rabble wrote: »

OP, should have said you were married. That made her comment safe.

I was also married when I used to work with her.

stovelid wrote: »

Subliminal message to female boards members:

OP is attractive to ladies.

Or used to be and is now an ugly bastard

ToniTuddle

Pageant Messiah wrote: »

I was also married when I used to work with her.

And she would have known about you being married I take it?

Then she was definitely flirting!! You never say a thing like that to a married bloke doesn't matter if you did or do fancy them. She was chancing her arm to see your reaction to it.

Personally I think it's more so a compliment with just a kick of an insult :P

AnnyHallsal

wyndham wrote: »

Is she hotter than your wife?

If so, get divorced and then ask her what she meant by it.

Of course she's hotter than his wife. He hasn't had sex with her. :rolleyes:

naughto

did you not pick up on here liking u when you where younger or was she an ugly mare

Pacing Mule

Not at all to be honest - Was a surprising thing to hear. She wasn't ugly at all.

AckwelFoley

Shanotheslayer wrote: »

Just the teens?:pac:

Yea, when i got older i filled out.

About 3 weeks ago i was out, a woman who was standing between and my fiance asked me i "any chance i can take you home so you can fcuk me to death"

My fiance knew her, and knew she was pretty drunk, and joked "ill kill you"

She replied "i know, but it would be worth it" :cool:

AnnyHallsal

snyper wrote: »

About 3 weeks ago i was out, a woman who was standing between and my fiance asked me i "any chance i can take you home so you can fcuk me to death"

My fiance knew her, and knew she was pretty drunk, and joked "ill kill you"

She replied "i know, but it would be worth it" :cool:

Anyone who said that to my boyfriend would face certain death. The cheeky bi*ch.