Would you go to a pub alone?

Freiheit

Just curious and why? seems not many girls will. Sadly my nearest pub is very masculine in composition, very few ladies, still fewer alone whereas plenty of men venture alone.

My grandmother worked in grandads pub at a time when some pubs didn't even serve women or at very least didn't encourage them. Ironic!:rolleyes:

corkcomp

I wouldnt even consider it tbh.. In theory I could go to my local on certain nights of the week and be sure to meet several people I know but then id rather go with friends than have to make small talk with people I dont really like.. edit: if it was a pub outside of my own area id do it no problem for a coffee or whatever..

Wouldn't really see the point... I go for a nice chat with friends

krudler

A girl alone in a pub is a recipe for disaster at times, case in point: I was with my ex once and we were away for the day, went into a pub for food, I went to the bathroom towards the end while she was finishing the last bit of a drink she had, came back not all of 2 minutes later and a guy was walking away from the table we were at. He'd come over to her to chat her up! there was only 1 glass on the table as the barmaid took mine so he assumed she was alone, after she pointed out she was there with me he scarpered, and that was the reason she gave when I asked how come women dont sit in pubs alone like men do in the idiotic mens mind: woman alone=desperate and must want me.

jellie

I wouldnt around here, but I have done on holidays & when away for work. It's nice to sit with a glass of wine or a cocktail & read a book or just watch the world go by

But I think it might be different cultures or something. I've never felt like it was a strange thing when I was away but I'd feel weird doing it somewhere like Dublin.

Dinkie

I'm like Jellie, I do if I'm working away from home, but would always bring a book or my laptop with me and keep my eyes down.

I would never go to the pub alone in my home town.

Snoopy1

I wouldnt around here, waited 4 months to go into my local, as didnt want to go in on my own.
However i am going on holiday to the states on my own in October, am im going to have to go into pubs on my own.
Would you go to the cinema on your own? Im contemplating it?

Snoopy1

Snoopy1 wrote: »

Would you go to the cinema on your own? Im contemplating it?

Yeah sure - don't need company to watch a movie in silence

corkcomp

Snoopy1 wrote: »

Would you go to the cinema on your own? Im contemplating it?

normally no, the only time I ever did was in Germany! Nothing wrong with going alone though

Snoopy1

Good, thats what im going to do this week.
I am nervous about going to resturants and pubs when im on holiday, but will have to get over it.

krudler

Would you go to the cinema on your own? Im contemplating it?

always,daytime showing, no crowds, phone off, bliss.

MJOR

never, prefer drinking with friends...

Stheno

Yup no bother, when i worked as a consultant I lived in hotels and got used to having the odd drink alone while reading/watching sports.

My local know me, so if I arrive in to watch the golf/rugby/darts/whatever, there is no hassle and plenty of company and chat

In my local I'm known as the "laydee who likes sports"

nosietoes

Hmm, maybe I'm odd but I think it completely normal to go to the pub alone... especially in the day or early evening. If I'm off work mid-week I love bring my book and getting a glass of wine, or pint or whatever. Its nice to chill out somewhere that's not your home and that's what pubs are for surely. Never think of how people are viewing me really.

Oh, and on the cinema question - perfect solo date. Its dark and you stare straight ahead. Why would you need anyone else there!!! And you don't have to worry about choice etc etc. You get to pick whatever the hell you want!

ERR!

Snoopy1 wrote: »

Good, thats what im going to do this week.
I am nervous about going to resturants and pubs when im on holiday, but will have to get over it.

I can go with ya :P

Snoopy1

ERR! wrote: »

I can go with ya :P

To Cinema or Holiday?

ERR!

both when you off?

Snoopy1

Holiday in October

chocgirl

No I wouldn't ever go to a pub alone, I wish I could but it's not something I'd feel comfortable doing at all.

I once went into a pub in Wexford on my own in the middle of the day.

It was out of desperation I was unwell, knew I'd faint if I didn't sit down quickly and there was nowhere else around.

I just ordered a coffee and sat there but the barmen and two other men watching snooker (the only other people there) did nothing but stare at me:mad:

After that I've never plucked up the courage to try it anywhere else:(

copacetic

chocgirl wrote: »

No I wouldn't ever go to a pub alone, I wish I could but it's not something I'd feel comfortable doing at all.

I once went into a pub in Wexford on my own in the middle of the day.

It was out of desperation I was unwell, knew I'd faint if I didn't sit down quickly and there was nowhere else around.

I just ordered a coffee and sat there but the barmen and two other men watching snooker (the only other people there) did nothing but stare at me:mad:

After that I've never plucked up the courage to try it anywhere else:(

You'd get that if you were a guy too, especially if not a local. Generally pubs aren't overly welcoming to anyone on their own. It's no picnic for guys either if you want a quiet pint and a read of the paper there will always be some auld lad telling you whats wrong with the world!

It's handier being a guy of course if away travelling with work or whatever as at least you can go to the hotel bar/local bar to watch sport/have dinner etc without any worries.

Miss Lockhart

If it is the type of pub that serves food I am ok with going in alone in the middle of the day and eating. I would not feel happy going in alone to drink though.

I have had two bad experiences the only two times I went to a pub in the evening on my own. Both times I just wanted to sit alone and read my book but both times I was repeatedly approached by leery men. This was in really quiet pubs now - I would obviously not expect peace and quiet in a busy pub buzzing with people out on a Friday night! Also, these were not just guys coming over and being friendly (which I wouldn't mind) - they were full of sleazy chat up lines and inappropriate comments, which I did not appreciate.

I am generally confident and happy in my own company and I regularly holiday alone so it is not just the being alone that is the problem. If other women enjoy going to the pub alone though then that's great and I am happy that they have better experiences than I have.

ciagr297

depends on my mood really...my local is a very small pub and i've often gone there to watch matches on my own
but, its always with a purpose, never just cause i want to have a pint.
the very few times i've gone on my own to other pubs, i have a book with me or my ipod. and its not usually for the night

when i was away on a work trip to the US recently, I headed down to the hotel bar for a pint. i got chatting with a few people, which was nice. maybe it was the mutual feeling of being "in transit" that made all of us open to chatting like that.

its always been easier for me to head out on my own when i'm abroad. dunno, maybe i feel more secure that if i do meet someone i know, i don't have to give a reason for being on my own.
if that makes sense

Eve_Dublin

Absolutely no problem going to pub alone, although I live in Madrid and the pubs can be intimidating here for a girl on her own but honestly, feck them. Time to get these men out of the dark ages. Their problem, not mine and really, who cares what people think?

Went to watch the Dublin V Louth game on my own in an Irish bar on Saturday only because I´ve no GAA supporting friends here. The pub was almost completely empty but I got chatting to a lovely man from England...nothing sleazy about it but we had an interesting chat all the same. I´ve gone to watch all the games on my own and have always got chatting to someone. I like those random chats with random people and you never get a chance to do that if you constantly have a bevy of friends in tow.

Definitely found it easier to do in Dublin though.

ztoical

wouldn't go to a pub on my own in Ireland as you just get too many odd looks. No issue going to the pub on my own in London, I work mainly freelance from my studio and sometimes need to get out to clear my head and the weather isn't always great to sit outside, cafes I tend to feel rushed in so down to pub with comfy seats, pot of tea and a book. I've noticed you tend to see more people sitting on their own [male and female] in pubs around London so you tend to not get odd looks for being on your own.

Don't understand people who won't go to the cinema on their own. It's more unusually for me to go to the cinema with people then go on my own.

mood

I have gone onto pubs on my own to get coffee or food if there was no cafes near by. I wouldn't go to drink or watch sports on my own. Would bet too much hassle. I have a friend who won't WALK into a pub alone to meet people which I think is very strange.

panda100

This thread makes me feel like Im a bit odd cos I always go to pubs and cinema by myself.

Now,I would never go to a packed pub late on a Saturday night by myself cos that wouldnt be enjoyable without myfirends.

However, during the week I always go into pubs for a coffee or glass of wine by myself. Usually Il have a good book with me but sometimes not. I watched the Eurovision qualifiers by myself in Nealons last year.There was only three people in the pub and we had great craic watching it together.

I always used to feel silly going to cinema by myself,but Im so used to it know that I find it odd going with someone. Im a big film buff so watch at least a film a week. The IFI is great for people on their lonesome.

Elle Collins

Of course I'd go to a pub alone. I do it every couple of weeks in fact. There's nothing like sitting down alone in a nice bar with a good book or the paper and having a couple of pints. It's so relaxing. Only problem is the men who think you're there looking for your hole and who'd gladly question your right to be there at all when you're not prepared to fall on your back to accommodate them. :rolleyes:

panda100

Elle Collins wrote: »

Only problem is the men who think you're there looking for your hole and who'd gladly question your right to be there at all when you're not prepared to fall on your back to accommodate them. :rolleyes:

I've never found this a problem myself. I think most people realise when you want to be left alone.

Elle Collins

panda100 wrote: »

I've never found this a problem myself. I think most people realise when you want to be left alone.

You're lucky so. I experience it more often than not when I go into a pub alone. Have had to become very adept at telling ramdomers to fcukoff as a result.

princess-lala

Nope I wont go anywhere on my own!

Im so so self conscious its not right! Wish I could change that about myself!

Malari

I haven't really, but I've often sat for half an hour waiting for a friend who's late in a pub on my own. It's not that big a deal. The bar man did comment that he assumed I'd been stood up!

sean corcoran

i only ever go to the odd pub on my own, usually fibbers because i always know at least 2 people there

Howard the Duck

I always see middle aged men reading in pubs while having a pint. Never seen any women doing it. Don't really understand it myself. I like to read in a quiet atmosphere.
Been to the cinema a few times by myself. I think that's pretty different ..cinemas are made to watch movies but pubs are meant to be social places to interact with other people not read a book. But whatever you're in to
I've met people out by themselves in clubs before. On Saturday just gone i met an Italian girl in a club. i got talking to her because she looked kinda bored and she wasn't being hassled by guys at all.

BumbleB

The best nights I've ever had is on my own! .I noticed women come up to me more frequently when I'm on my own.

Khyra24

I'd have no problem going to a pub alone the odd time. If I want a drink alone, what's it to anyone else? I think if I was so self-conscious and expected harassment from guys though, I wouldn't go. It's nice to meet new people too but if a guy is only talking to me in hopes of picking me up because I'm alone, he should probably reconsider. Ladies shouldn't be afraid to go somewhere alone...it's not a man's world. We should go to pubs and do some kind of role-reversal instead, that'd be nice...though I guess we'd look desperate...nevermind...