Promise Ring

Velocitee

Hi,

Hate using the LL as a female opinion sounding board but....

Myself and the gf's one year anniversary is coming up.

She already knows I want to marry her but I want to save for a nice engagement ring that she'll be proud of and still care for when we're many years on and earning millions/more

I think this will take 6 to 12 months (she knows this).

She was saying I could get a loan (ha ha she knows what she wants) but I've a large loan already and will have this cleared by the time we need to save for the wedding (want to go in to marriage with as little debt/financial worry as possible! - too much debt a bad recipe for those newly starting out IMO).

So my question is what do the ladies think of promise rings? I'd like to give her something to show I'm committed and not stringing her along.

Also it would be nice for her to show her friends etc (if she chose to) If she doesn't she'll know the significance anyway herself, can put it on whatever finger she likes.

Also wondering how do I give it to her, on one knee? I'm taking her away for the weekend for our anniversary but the actual anniversary is thursday and this would be her main gift if I was to get it.

Opinions etc greatly appreciated.

watna

Why don't you propose with a ring you can afford and then get the one that you want a year down the track? I know of couples who have only got an expensive ring after a few years because they simply couldn't afford it at the time and wanted to get something really special.

You said she would have something to show her friends. Do you mean you would propose and tell everyone that you were engaged or would she be able to tell people you have given her a promise ring? I'm not sure what you mean you are going to do. When you give it to her are you going to ask her to marry you or tell her you will ask her one day?

I love jewellery as much as the next girl but I think, if it were me, I'd rather he proposed properly and said he'd buy me an expensive ring in a years time then got me a ring that meant we were sort of kind of but not really engaged. After all, the ring is really the least important part, at the end of the day. You have a lifetime to buy her diamonds!

Wibbs

Its against the charter to use the LL as a sounding board as otherwise we would be swamped. Closed.