can't get into the sextexts

LegacyUser

My new BF is big into dirty texts and it's just not me. I can't do it, would feel silly doing it so I just don't reciprocate when he sends fairly saucy ones. He must think I'm a terrible prude but I have never had a BF who was into them before so it's totally new to me. When I get them, I'm actually a bit embarrassed by them and delete them immediately for fear anyone would ever see them! Thinking now that as much as myself, my ex's have been pretty reserved. Help!

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theshyness wrote: »

My new BF is big into dirty texts and it's just not me. I can't do it, would feel silly doing it so I just don't reciprocate when he sends fairly saucy ones. He must think I'm a terrible prude but I have never had a BF who was into them before so it's totally new to me. When I get them, I'm actually a bit embarrassed by them and delete them immediately for fear anyone would ever see them! Thinking now that as much as myself, my ex's have been pretty reserved. Help!

Ah! Its a pity you delete them! Listen most people would have their own sexy texts/pics etc too, to be worrying about and your phone is private so they are no-one's business but your own!

You say you would feel silly but sure thats half the point! They are only a bit of fun, you don't have to pass an audition!

You don't have to reply to him if you really don't want to but if you do want to just start small in your replies. You don't have to incriminate yourself too much if you don't fully feel comfortable yet. However it can be a bit of fun so enjoy!

R.D. aka MR.D

If you don't feel comfortable with it then don't do it.

He might just think it is the done thing/done it with ex's in the past. But this is a new relationship with you who doesn't feel comfortable with doing it. Maybe over time when you get more comfortable with the whole relationship things might change but maybe they won't.

I suggest you keep ignoring them or doing whatever you want. If you want them to stop then I'd suggest sending back a text saying: Ha what are you like :-p

Then try steer the conversation away in further texts. He'll probably get the hint. Although I do find it strange he still sends them if he is getting no response. If all else fails just say it to him.

Don't ever feel pressured into doing something you don't want to do.

Extrasupervery

If you're not into it don't do it...talk to him about it?

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Extrasupervery wrote: »

If you're not into it don't do it...talk to him about it?

^-- This. Just say to him that you don't like them. No need to shoot him down in flames or anything, but you should be capable of saying that it's just not for you.

Overheal

I asked a girl to talk dirty to me once over text.

She replied with "party hats" "bicycle" "lasagne" "cookies" "Q-tips"

I mean she could have just said no, but I got the idea and it never came up again.

dreamstar

I have to say I'm a fairly shy person and find it extremely difficult to talk 'sexy' - it just makes me feel awkward and I start laughing which ruins the mood.
But sexy texts are great. I am always sending my boyfriend really raunchy texts and he loves it. It's actually such a turn on to know the affect it has on him. Especially if he sends a picture.
I usually send them when he's in work to cheer him up - although one time he said he couldn't get up from his desk for ages until he 'cooled down'. Hehe.

Novella

If something, anything, in a relationship is making you uncomfortable, you don't have to do it. Not wanting to send 'sexy texts' does not make you a prude. It's perfectly reasonable to find it awkward, especially in a new relationship. Talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him you're just not sure what to say, tell him it makes you feel self conscious, that you don't like it, don't want to do it. Never feel like you have to do something you don't wanna.

If you're just conscious about what you're saying, try asking your bf what he'd like to hear. You don't need to say anything totally wild, just mention something he does that turns you on and say how it makes you feel. Baby steps etc.

LegacyUser

Actually, I used to just laugh them off and say s'ting like "what are u like","you've quite the way with words " etc, etc.Hhe has stopped since so prob just took the hint. Have to admit, I'm glad actually, just not my thing! And I'm not a prude.
Thanks tho'.