Help!!

Madame Razz

The OH has gone to shyte with his diet. S.H.Y.T.E.

He was slim and trim in January and then when he went back to work in February his diet has just become worse and worse. He works away most weeks and the size of his belly has increased exponentially with the amount of time he has been working away from home:rolleyes:. He smokes too much anyway; but when he is at home now he drinks far too much(Guinness and Red wine) and the food he eats is pretty shocking aswell.

We eat differently because our tastes are very different when it comes to food. I realise he is his own master but there is a history of serious bowel cancer in his family and I just think him living like this is just exacerbating his risk. He had tests before Christmas and got the all clear which I know he was relieved about but since then he has really gone to the dogs. He does very little exercise also. Previously he was an athlete but now he does very little apart from the odd walk here and there.

He's in his mid-thirties. Is there anything that I can do to help this situation?? I'm even tempted to do a food table ala some of the diet programmes to hammer home how crap he is eating at the moment.

He's also extremely stubborn which doesn't help things either. I'm just worried if he continues eating like this the next check up he will have will carry much less favourable news.

Any suggestions are welcome and appreciated. I'm actually at my wits end here; I just feel like he is throwing his health away:(

Sapsorrow

Oh I feel your pain, I was/am in the same situation for years. I can't offer you any profound words of wisdom, but I can tell you to persevere. It took years for it to start sinking into my boyfriends head and finally him getting seriously ill last year really drove it home for him. The cigarettes are a constant struggle with us although he's down to having the odd rollie when really stressed and when drinking now but that tooks 6 years of my arguing with him to get to this stage and several times he fell off the wagon. For him the motivation to get buff (well not quite but to not be underweight anymore) has been a big factor in his copping on with his food, like he's become really aware of the effect of carbs on his energy and stamina and off cigarrettes on his ability to run. This was all triggered off by my encouraging him to spend a load of money on a home gym kit and to dedicate a whole room of the house to it, and his self-consciousness about his low weight is doing the rest. I've also been fibbing a little bit about how carbs are really bad for weight gain and fat or protein are great etc.. to encourage him to cut out the bread, white pasta and other crap he was eating in work so now he goes for chicken etc rather than chips. Although I have the advantage of being a nutritionist so he really can't argue with me when I tell him these things It's not easy and it will cause a lot of rows but if you love someone you have to stick with it but they have to be willing to change themselves so you have to inspire them somehow so they're not just doing it to shut you up