Live at Home or Move Out?

I Was VB

Right i know i've another 7 years before i get fuked out of my house (yea living with the Mammy!)

But i've the need and want to move out now, i know this was done before but at what age did ya move out of the family home and go out into the big bad world on your own??

I'm 23 BTW.

Indubitable

17

19, got transfered by my job to the UK

alwaysadub

Moved out for a few months when i was about 23/24.
Moved on properly at 26-best thing i ever did:D

Kiera

20. Went to OZ when i was 20, came home and only lasted about 2 weeks before i had to get out on my own. Do it now, VB. You wont know yourself when you move out. If you can afford it go out on your own so you can have naked Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, Fridays.........

AnonoBoy

Move out, be a grown up, stop expecting your mammy to look after you.

You'll be a better more mature person for it.






Also - you can stay up as late as you want, watch rude films on the telly and eat cereal for dinner every night if you want!

FlutterinBantam

Kiera wrote: »

20. Went to OZ when i was 20, came home and only lasted about 2 weeks before i had to get out on my own. Do it now, VB. You wont know yourself when you move out. If you can afford it go out on your own so you can have naked Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, Fridays.........

:rolleyes:

You are kidding nobody around here.

Kiera

FlutterinBantam wrote: »

:rolleyes:

You are kidding nobody around here.

It will be a cold day in hell when your opinion matters to me

Zombienosh

Move home

My name is URL

alwaysadub wrote: »

Moved out for a few months when i was about 23/24.
Moved on properly at 26-best thing i ever did:D

Pretty much the same for me. Went to the US for a couple of years when I was 22 and moved into my own place in Ireland when I was 26

lil'bug

i was 18 when i left home and i've never been back

Mike 1972

Moved out at 18. but was back a few times over the next few years for varying periods.

Theres no such thing as a right age to move out. Its all down to individual circumstances.

Its ridiculous to assume that the only reason someone lives at home would be because theyre "expecting their mammy to look after them"

MagicMarker

Moved out a few years back, lived abroad. Came home, now it's just me and the mother.

Looked into moving out again a few months back, good thing I didn't as I was given a significant pay cut since then and now couldn't afford to move out even if I wanted to.

It's tough though, my brother's moved out and if I move out my ma will be on her own, I'm not sure if she'd be happy with that.

Kiera

MagicMarker wrote: »

Moved out a few years back, lived abroad. Came home, now it's just me and the mother.

Looked into moving out again a few months back, good thing I didn't as I was given a significant pay cut since then and now couldn't afford to move out even if I wanted to.

It's tough though, my brother's moved out and if I move out my ma will be on her own, I'm not sure if she'd be happy with that.

Why wouldnt she be happy if you moved out? I'm sure any mother in their right mind would love to look after herself and not her kids once they grow up?

cazzycaz

Maybe your 'ma' would be delighted so that she can enjoy naked tuesdays,wednesdays,thursdays.......I left home at 17 and never looked back. How ever I now have a 19 year old daughter who I can't imagine leaving home.

Big Nasty

20 when I went to work in Germany. After returning I was in and out a few times until I finally moved out for good at 25.

shuvly

Get the feck out and let your parents enjoy the rest of their life without you hanging around..I left at 19 and went to england, came back aged 29, not sure if my parents ever forgave me for doing it, but am back now...

squeakyduck

I moved out at 18 when I got accepted to college and managed to get on campus res too!

My parents thought I was coming back for the summer, but I got a job and moved out by myself that was 4 years ago now! There is something amazing about having your own space and independence to do, eat, etc without your parents nagging at you!

Now when I go home I can't even stand it down there for a week!

geeky

I'm intrigued by this naked tuesday/wednesday/thursday phenomenon. Must mention it in work. Can only help my campaign to work from home more..

Serious answer, I moved out for nine months on a college thing when I was 22 - loved it, though a lot of my bills were paid by the college. Then I moved back home, didn't move out again until I was 25, just over a year ago - I was moving in with my fiance (now my wife) and wanted to save up ahead of it. Glad I stuck around for a while, as my dad passed away and my mum needed the support.

So in other words, there's no set right time, no matter what people say. Unless you're inconveniencing your parents, wait until you can cover yourself financially, but don't put it off forever. Cause it rocks.

Bleedin Delish

Quite a few of my mates have actually moved back home recentl;y to save money. I am paying a small fortune in rent at the mo so I can understand it financially ... that said if you have the money then having your own place is great... especially if you can still go home during the week for a big dinner from "the mammy"

MitchKoobski

In the same boat meself atm, although I'm 20. Moving out around August because I have the money and can't take living at home anymore.





And I'm taking my 32" TV with me!

4zn76tysfajdxp

Kiera wrote: »

If you can afford it go out on your own so you can have naked Tuesdays, Wednesdays, Thursdays, Fridays.........

cazzycaz wrote: »

Maybe your 'ma' would be delighted so that she can enjoy naked tuesdays,wednesdays,thursdays........

geeky wrote: »

I'm intrigued by this naked tuesday/wednesday/thursday phenomenon.

Why not naked Mondays?

Micky Dolenz

It's probably best if we keep the naked days to PM, it only serves to distract from the point.

Thanks

Gummy Panda

Mohammed White Tomboy wrote: »

Why not naked Mondays?

because I don't like Mondays

Fremen

Gummy Panda wrote: »

because I don't like Mondays

Tell me why?

bazmaiden

Just turned 17 when doing my leaving, moved to Dublin in that Sept for a course, Then moved to London to go to Uni after that


Moved back in '08, got a job and have been living at home since.
I'l be moving out thugh in two weeks though

MagicMarker

Kiera wrote: »

Why wouldnt she be happy if you moved out? I'm sure any mother in their right mind would love to look after herself and not her kids once they grow up?

Maybe, who knows!

Then again I don't think she's ever lived on her own.

pow wow

16.

Just moved back at the old age of 28 and making up for lost time. More tea please mummy....k thx :cool:

Latchy

Left home at 17 returning for a few weeks /months to stay but didn't officially leave home till I was 27 in which case by then , any ties to the apron strings were well and truly cut .

fikay

Moved out at 17 for college etc. Ended up back there for about a year when I was 24 because I was out of work. It nearly broke my soul. Go for it OP, you'll wonder why you didn't do it earlier.

MCMLXXV wrote: »

I was in and out a few times

Thehehehe, No it will not lead to greater maturity.

Kiera

Kiera wrote: »

Why wouldnt she be happy if you moved out? I'm sure any mother in their right mind would love to look after herself and not her kids once they grow up?

Many mammies would disagree. My sister left home to go to Dublin when she finished college, I did the same 2 years later, Mum was disgusted when I applied for the job in Dublin (she never said as much but she found it very hard). I'm 29 now and back at home living with my Dad (Mum passed away since, and the sister has her own house now, she's back in Cork though). I reckon I'll only move out now either for work (was the last year in Galway) or for love. Have a place up the country so as a single man don't reckon on buying a place again. I'd sooner give the ole lad a lash of cash every month than rent my own place or houseshare.

Some of my buddies live at home too (both parents alive and kicking) and their mums and dads are delighted to have them there.

I was good friends with both my parent from my teens onwards, to be honest I couldn't actually say would I be living here if mum was still alive as I may well have stayed in Dublin if things were hunky dorey here with both the folks alive.

I was 22, moved back to Dublin to start a new job.

Pherekydes

I Was VB wrote: »

Right i know i've another 7 years before i get fuked out of my house (yea living with the Mammy!)

But i've the need and want to move out now, i know this was done before but at what age did ya move out of the family home and go out into the big bad world on your own??

I'm 23 BTW.

You're living with your mammy at 23? LOL.

-Corkie-

I Was VB wrote: »

Right i know i've another 7 years before i get fuked out of my house (yea living with the Mammy!)

But i've the need and want to move out now, i know this was done before but at what age did ya move out of the family home and go out into the big bad world on your own??

I'm 23 BTW.

I moved out at 17. Bought me own place at 21. My brother still lives with the parents and he is 37. He is such a pussy.

Asphyxia

I very much LOVE living in my own place! I can do whatever I want. I love being so independant it feels great knowing that I have accomplished it all by myself. I never had a problem with living at my parents at all but my boyfriend used to stay over most nights, we decided it was best to move out as it was like we lived together anyway and at the time it was great because we were both making decent money. Since moving out I feel so much more calm aswell I don't have to fight with anyone to have a shower haha!

Although I miss mammy's dinners. :rolleyes:

Piste

I'll have to move out for 4th year college when I'm 21, I wont like it

sam34

i moved out 2 weeks before i turned 18

Nulty

I think what the OP is trying ("thinly veiled" - god i hate that expression) to ask is if there is anyone else who will take him/her in...


And thats what I'm asking too...I can provide """""special""""" services..;)

Fart

Moved out in September gone to study in Wales. It's brilliant when you get your own freedom, cooking, washing etc.

I'm back now for the Summer as I couldn't find a job over there but when I go back in 3 months I'll love it even more.

It's great having your own independence, it's only when you experience it that you realise how great it is.

I'm 22 now btw.

breakinglights

I had just gone 18 and moved out for college. I haven't gone back since bar the odd weekend visit!! Miss the Mammy's cooking sometimes though

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

Hey - I don't live with Mother. Mother lives with me!

Raedwald

I am dying to move out at the moment, but basically cant afford the rent on top of paying for college and other such things.

Am hoping to move out either by october next year or as soon is college is finished so 2 years from now.

And look forward to all the unclothed days ahead of me.

skyhighflyer

I moved out when I was 18 for college; I had to move back for a year when I graduated because my job was actually located closer to my parents' house than where I was living before graduation.

That year I move back nearly broke my brain . Having been used to independence since I was 18 I just couldn't re-adjust to living with the parents.

Some of the things I missed were little things like:

• cooking and eating only the food I wanted all the time;
• getting the roide;
• cracking open a few tins and having a marathon movie session without being bothered about hogging the TV;
• not worrying about falling in the door twisted drunk on a Thursday evening if I so chose; and
• not having to live with stroppy teenage siblings.

But over and above all of that was missing the intangible sense of being my own man and not having to answer to anyone: I was financially independent, my home was my castle and nobody would decide how I lived, what I did or who I did it with, but me. What this basically boils down to is that if I want to walk around naked while eating dry coco pops out of the box then that's what I'll do dammit! :pac:

I'm 23 now, living in London and working a full-time job that keeps a roof over my head, the bills paid, food on my table and enough left over for a few pints at the weekend and, despite a few niggles I couldn't be happier. Sometimes I do think of the money I'd be able to save if I lived at home but I wouldn't go back unless it was literally my last option (and that's with my parents being all round nice and fairly permissive people - my mam in particular is always dropping hints about me coming back and how she has the room kept for me).

ElaElaElano

I moved out at 17 and went to England. It wasn't a lot of fun for the first few months, and you realise that parties every night and doing whatever you want ain't all it's cracked up to be, and ain't realistic...or gawking when bills come through the door.

Best thing I ever did though, it grounds you so much and makes you appreciate what life is like in the real world. My best mate is 26 and his mum still irons his clothes and cooks his tea. Makes me cringe tbh.

Indubitable

ElaElaElano wrote: »

My best mate is 26 and his mum still irons his clothes and cooks his tea. Makes me cringe tbh.

As much as I like freedom, that sounds like heaven sometimes.

skyhighflyer

skyhighflyer wrote: »

I moved out when I was 18 for college; ........................I was financially independent, .................

You were some man to be a student, living away from home and financially independent in fairness.

Odats

Lived away when in college but have lived at home since graduating as worked near home. Can say I prefer living at home but I'm just a home bird to be honest. Might be changing soon though. What I did love about living away was washing up as it is kinda therapeutic and the weekly trip to the launderette love those bounce sheets and half a bottle of Comfort softener.

Elessar

Meh. Still at home with the mother at 24 (25 soon). Been to college twice, yet have qualifications that are useless atm to find jobs. There are no jobs anywhere and I have no real idea what I'm going to be doing in the future.

I can see myself staying here well past 30.

It's great though no bills and mam still washes my clothes!

Dravokivich

Moved out of my folks place just after I went 24.

Renting out an apartment with another bloke. Wasn't easy getting funds together for it at first. Had to move out due to work changing location and it would of been a pain in the arsé to get there from the folks.

Xiney

moved out a few months shy of my 18th birthday to go to University.

The following summer I moved back for a two period before I went travelling for the rest of the summer and it nearly killed me to be back so I decided not to repeat that experience.

skyhighflyer

RoverJames wrote: »

You were some man to be a student, living away from home and financially independent in fairness.

I can't tall if you're being skeptical or complimentary . The short answer is that I worked 30 hours a week during college and pulled in around €300 a week. That was the beauty of a law degree: you only had around 10 hours of lectures a week but a fair bit of reading which you could do in your own time and fit around the job. I also worked every summer and was lucky enough to save decent money most summers working abroad.

That said, this was during the boom years where:

(a) speaking English; and

(b) not being a raving gob****e

ensured that you could take your pick from any number of menial retail and pub jobs. I remember most places in Dublin where I worked during term-time being particularly hard up for half-competent staff. I doubt it would be as easy now though, at least where Ireland is concerned. I jumped ship when the recession hit and haven't looked back since.