Sex during period?

LegacyUser

Hi all, I'm just trying to get the opinions of a few people on having sex during period. I've never done it, but have just started sleeping with my new bf and am due my period in the next few days. I dont want to unnecessarily freak him out by suggesting we have sex during it in case he's automatically disgusted by the thought, so just wanna do a bit of a straw poll on the matter first.

Men: would it bother you to have sex during a girls period? I'm not talking about oral, I think I'd draw the line there.

Women: does it feel much different, were you paranoid about the mess and potential embarrassment?

Thanks!

krudler

Now I've never done it (am a guy) with a girl as most women take it as a no no,and to most men period=no sex. I wouldnt be hugely against it and have suggested it to my current gf, she says its fairly light anyway but its up to her. I have heard it feels amazing to do it during it for the woman tho, as long as you do a bit of preparation, maybe have a tampon in, put a towel on the bed, that sort of thing, you should be ok. Its one of those things that a lot of men dont understand what actually happens, sure my ex told me her ex before me wouldnt even sleep in the same bed as her when she was on hers, he was a moron though.

steddyeddy

unsure176 wrote: »

Hi all, I'm just trying to get the opinions of a few people on having sex during period. I've never done it, but have just started sleeping with my new bf and am due my period in the next few days. I dont want to unnecessarily freak him out by suggesting we have sex during it in case he's automatically disgusted by the thought, so just wanna do a bit of a straw poll on the matter first.

Men: would it bother you to have sex during a girls period? I'm not talking about oral, I think I'd draw the line there.

Women: does it feel much different, were you paranoid about the mess and potential embarrassment?

Thanks!

Well yea im man and often had sex with partners on their period as long as they were comfortable with it, i wouldnt suggest it first the way my previous partnes mentioned it to me is to generally tell me their on thier period and gauge my reaction, id let her know im up for it so to speak and she would do the same!

steddyeddy

Yes i would also say its just as good if not better than sex not on a period and from what my exs said it was a little better for them.

Melia

krudler wrote: »

Now I've never done it (am a guy) with a girl as most women take it as a no no,and to most men period=no sex. I wouldnt be hugely against it and have suggested it to my current gf, she says its fairly light anyway but its up to her. I have heard it feels amazing to do it during it for the woman tho, as long as you do a bit of preparation, maybe have a tampon in, put a towel on the bed, that sort of thing, you should be ok. Its one of those things that a lot of men dont understand what actually happens, sure my ex told me her ex before me wouldnt even sleep in the same bed as her when she was on hers, he was a moron though.

Bad, bad idea! Put a towel down and you'll be fine. It actually eases cramps.

sexdwarf

krudler wrote: »

Now I've never done it (am a guy) with a girl as most women take it as a no no,and to most men period=no sex. I wouldnt be hugely against it and have suggested it to my current gf, she says its fairly light anyway but its up to her. I have heard it feels amazing to do it during it for the woman tho, as long as you do a bit of preparation, maybe have a tampon in, put a towel on the bed, that sort of thing, you should be ok. Its one of those things that a lot of men dont understand what actually happens, sure my ex told me her ex before me wouldnt even sleep in the same bed as her when she was on hers, he was a moron though.

Um..defo a big no-no to the tampon in, I can only imagine that this would be extremely painful/damaging and practically not possible.

OP I defo won't do it, would feel very uncomfortable about the mess, and my BF is the same. Lots of people do it, maybe make a gentle suggestion, he'll let you know if he really doesn't want to!

Micky Dolenz

Depends on the people involved. Never a big fan of it, it actually grosses me out a bit, much to some of my lovers amusement. Esp when I ask "are you sure it's completely finished"

Monkey61

Ah period sex is great. I would probably judge someone a bit harshly if they found it disgusting as that just seems a bit childish. It is great for cramps as well.

sexdwarf

Monkey61 wrote: »

Ah period sex is great. I would probably judge someone a bit harshly if they found it disgusting as that just seems a bit childish. It is great for cramps as well.

That's silly! For a lot of people blood is a cause of squeamishness. For people who have very heavy periods the last thing you want to be doing is haemorraging on your poor boyfriend!

Lillylilly

OP, you could just tell him you have your period and gauge his reaction from there. Some men don't care, and some men do- you won't know til you speak to him. I think it's much more intimate to have sex with a partner while you have your period, both physically and emotionally. Make sure you're prepared for that. And don't forget to use a condom!!!!!

WesternNight

krudler wrote: »

Now I've never done it (am a guy) with a girl as most women take it as a no no,and to most men period=no sex. I wouldnt be hugely against it and have suggested it to my current gf, she says its fairly light anyway but its up to her. I have heard it feels amazing to do it during it for the woman tho, as long as you do a bit of preparation, maybe have a tampon in, put a towel on the bed, that sort of thing, you should be ok. Its one of those things that a lot of men dont understand what actually happens, sure my ex told me her ex before me wouldnt even sleep in the same bed as her when she was on hers, he was a moron though.

Learn some geography, man!

kiwi123

My OH and i have done it when it's almost over, never at the start. I'm quite open about it and if i had my period i'd have no problem talking about it (getting sympathy and many cups of tea) Sure he can detect a change in mood anyway so he knows when i have it. We were talking about how women are more sensitive during their period and he said he wouldn't mind trying it. As long as you're comfortable with it and he doesn't mind it then there should be no problem. I'd strongly encourage a condom, first time he tried it and looked down he nearly had a little freak out, bless him! Don't think he realised there would be actual blood. Now he's a dab hand at it and it doesn't bother him at all. Personally though when i get my period first and it's heavy i'd rather just be hugged and watch the notebook and cry or something, i always feel gross at that stage so don't want to have sex.

John Mason

never been an issue for me or my partner or ex-partner, we just have sex whenever the mood takes us regardless of periods

krudler

sexdwarf wrote: »

Um..defo a big no-no to the tampon in, I can only imagine that this would be extremely painful/damaging and practically not possible.

OP I defo won't do it, would feel very uncomfortable about the mess, and my BF is the same. Lots of people do it, maybe make a gentle suggestion, he'll let you know if he really doesn't want to!

Sorry I meant to have one in before sex, I'm not that oblivious to how the female body works :pac:

older smiley

Back in the day my g/f and I would make sure to have sex during her period.She said it helped with the cramps and it was the only time we could have sex without a condom(not advising anyone to do the same).I dont understand why men have a problem with period sex as sex is meant to be messy anyway.Try sharing a shower and then you wont have a problem cleaning up and its more fun.Also leaving a Tampon in is a clean way of having oral as the parts you need to concentrate on are outside the Tampon anyway.

tinkerbell

Eeew eeew eeww. Periods are traumatic, no way would I be comfortable letting my bf go near me down there while Aunt Flo is visiting. To me, it's just one of those things that should remain private. Ugh I mean think of the mess afterwards! Towel or no towel I just think the idea of it is horrible :eek: ugh! Just no!

LegacyUser

OP here, thanks for your opinions. I think the main thing I'm worried about is the fact that we have just started having sex together, and I don't want what might be a negative/messy experience to make him think of me in a non-desirable way! I think I'll just broach the subject and see how up for it he seems.

krudler

Monkey61 wrote: »

Ah period sex is great. I would probably judge someone a bit harshly if they found it disgusting as that just seems a bit childish. It is great for cramps as well.

Most people would tbf, to most people blood is really offputting, the idea of trying to relax and have sex while imagining theres blood in places where it normally isnt is a bit unsettling.

seamus

unsure176 wrote: »

Men: would it bother you to have sex during a girls period? I'm not talking about oral, I think I'd draw the line there.

If it was a new relationship or a one-night stand, I'd probably be a little bit tenuous. In a long-term relationship, not a problem.

Oddly enough, for what should be one of the most precious of our "limbs", us men seem to have no qualms about sticking our penis into anything and everything.

sam34

i've had one partner who was happy to do it, (and said it made things more exciting) it grossed the others out!

shower beforehand and dark towel on teh bed, and you're sorted

i've gotten oral when i've had my period - again, shower beforehand and pop a tampon in and off you go

Darthhoob

my OH doesn't mind it...though afterwards it's a bit gross :pac:

however...as horny as i am during a period i dont like sex during it really...it just ...feels weird

LegacyUser

Em just wondering why people are saying that its impossible to have with tampon in? It's not and it stops blood flow. I have sex with my girlfriend during her period all the time, she loves it

midlandsmissus

I am always so so horny during my period. However havin had sex once with an ex during it, the look of disgust on his face, the running to the bathroom to clean up, and saying 'theres quite a lot of blood', has def put me off doing it again. You don't want to feel disgusting, nobody does.

Chinafoot

blofd wrote: »

Em just wondering why people are saying that its impossible to have with tampon in? It's not and it stops blood flow. I have sex with my girlfriend during her period all the time, she loves it

Its certainly not recommended to have a tampon in while having sex. We were told during our (rather quite good) female hygiene/sex ed talks in school that there is the very obvious danger of being unable to get it out afterwards (considering they should be changed every 4 - 8 hours, getting one stuck isn't a good idea) and it can cause bruising and small tears that could leave you more susceptible to infections.

G-Money

Never tried this, never want to either. The idea doesn't appeal to me at all.

jam_mac_jam

Not with a new boyfriend, not a good idea. One that you have for a while depends on where you are or how much if you know what I mean, but not near the start of a relationship.

LegacyUser

blofd wrote: »

Em just wondering why people are saying that its impossible to have with tampon in? It's not and it stops blood flow. I have sex with my girlfriend during her period all the time, she loves it

Err..a tampon is a few inches long so unless you have a very short penis you are going to be pushing the tampon up into the cervix. This a) is very uncomfortable and b) without a dangling string can make it difficult to get the tampon back out. Neither of which are great outcomes.

Deep fishing for a cervix rubbing tampon does not good sex make.

lynsalot

Hey Op,

Personally I've never had a problem with it. It depends on how comfortable you are with someone so might be best left a while if the bf is new. Just drop it into the conversation when things are heating up.... oh we can't coz i'm... ya know and see how he reacts. it actually does feel better for a woman because there's more lubrication naturally down there. It doesn't have to be a messy experience. If you've been wearing a tampon for a short time before, then things should stay "clean" until it's over. Def put an old towel down under u to avoid any nasty patches. Jump in the shower afterwards - grand. Oh and if you're using a condom it shouldn't gross him out too much. It's very much a personal choice though.

one poster above mentioned it's traumatic... it certainly isn't. It's completely natural! It's as gross as your boyfriend ejaculating?!? I would just brace the subject and see his reaction.

Let us know how it goes lol or not... whatever the case may be

kjl

Yeah I have no problem with it (male here), its kinda kinky in a way. There is also a very diffrent sensation when you do this for guys too.

Some of the best sex I have ever had was on period.

Neyite

i think that girls are used to seeing their periods, and are matter-of-fact about clearing up afterward, but guys dont see that as often.

it really depends on the guy - if he is ok with a possible mess, and doesnt mind the sight of blood, then fine, but its also fine if it grosses him out - took me about a year to get used to them myself!

ted1

genreally have no problem with it, in fact its quite good sex, she is so much more hornier and her orgasms are quite intense.

put down a towel,lower the lights have tissue at hand and you'll be grand.

in saying that (beause your just getting started) if its heavy bleedin at the start you may be better of having a head ache at the start.


if you think he may be little bit freaked out and if he is wearing a condom, you may feel more comfortabel taking if off so he doesn't look down and get a shocked

Katgurl

Ah the blood sports, I'm defo a fan and none of my exes had a problem with it

However!!! A lot of my male and female friends I total disagreement so I'm afraid you're gonna have to feel it out with your current beau yourself. I'd tale the approach a previous poster suggested about saying "oh I can't I'm..." as things are hotting up and guage his reaction.

Gyalist

midlandsmissus wrote: »

I am always so so horny during my period. However havin had sex once with an ex during it, the look of disgust on his face, the running to the bathroom to clean up, and saying 'theres quite a lot of blood', has def put me off doing it again. You don't want to feel disgusting, nobody does.

Your ex was an immature idiot. Even if the experience grossed him out all he had to say was that he wouldn't be doing it again. No need for all the histrionics.

OP, it has never bothered me. In fact I have a couple of burgundy beach towels that I bought for expressly that purpose.

If you really want to try it but are still squeamish, try Instead cups. You can have penetrative sex while wearing them.

LegacyUser

Chinafoot wrote: »

Its certainly not recommended to have a tampon in while having sex. We were told during our (rather quite good) female hygiene/sex ed talks in school that there is the very obvious danger of being unable to get it out afterwards (considering they should be changed every 4 - 8 hours, getting one stuck isn't a good idea) and it can cause bruising and small tears that could leave you more susceptible to infections.

Your girlfriend holds onto the string of the tampon.....

shellyboo

The overtones of "eww, gross" and "ick, unclean" in this thread are a little depressing. A period is not a freak accidental occurrence or a surprise or a dirty secret, it's the most normal and most natural thing in the world. Yes, it's messy. So's a blow job. Sex is messy.

Personally, I've never had a problem with it and neither have any of my boyfriends... my current one is totally fine with it, but I still always let him know before sex if I am on my period, just to give him a heads up. Towel down, shower afterwards... it's grand! Amazing for getting rid of cramps as well, and orgasms are (reportedly) much stronger. I find it actually shortens my period by a day or so, too.

krudler wrote: »

Most people would tbf, to most people blood is really offputting, the idea of trying to relax and have sex while imagining theres blood in places where it normally isnt is a bit unsettling.

Funny, I'd say one week out of four would make it somewhere that blood normally IS, on quite a regular basis.

blofd wrote: »

Your girlfriend holds onto the string of the tampon.....

Still unbelievably dangerous. She could be doing serious damage to her cervix. Really, really, really a bad idea. Seriously, stop doing this. I'm sure you wouldn't enjoy someone shoving a tampon inside your body and ramming it repeatedly, even if you COULD get it back out again.

Eve_Dublin

It´s just blood. Why is blood seen as unclean but sperm is not???? That makes no sense.

To be honest, the first time I discover the guy I´m with is okay with having hanky-panky during my period, I think, "jackpot!" as it usually follows that he´s pretty adventurous about everything else.

LegacyUser

I started sleeping with my new (at the time) boyfriend just before my period started too. It was our third time in bed together, and I assumed that we wouldn't go 'all the way', as happened with my ex at these times. Yet, with the enthusiasm of new lovers, we couldn't wait a week. And oh my lord, but it was a revelation. I had never had an orgasm through just penetration before. The sensation was incredible.

Towels (not your best fluffy white ones) and showers afterwards are highly recommended too

Zema Grim

test the water, if he says yes then go for it, nothing wrong with it!

Nevyn

Do not attempt to have set with a tampon in, it's dangerous and frankly stupid.

Yes there are added risks if you are having sex with a woman when she is bleeding,
and most people have a normal and natural aversion to blood which is not theirs
due to the may possible infections and pathogens.

Wear a condom or just don't have sex if it's an issue for you.
Most women if they are turn on enough will temporarily stop bleeding and and a bath beforehand and a towel just in case is all that is needed.

amber23

older smiley wrote: »

Back in the day my g/f and I would make sure to have sex during her period.She said it helped with the cramps and it was the only time we could have sex without a condom(not advising anyone to do the same).I dont understand why men have a problem with period sex as sex is meant to be messy anyway.Try sharing a shower and then you wont have a problem cleaning up and its more fun.Also leaving a Tampon in is a clean way of having oral as the parts you need to concentrate on are outside the Tampon anyway.

generally why girls get so "frisky" during their periods is because its one of the most fertile times of the month and very easy to get pregnant(despite wives tails of not being able to get pregnant during your period), not using a condom isnt recommended!infact, its probably more necessary to wear one during this time
sex during your period is a lot more intense! it just feels better, but i suppose its not for everyone! we're used to it every month, but the poor boys might get freaked out like others have said, i think its best to test the water as everyone is different

good luck!

Nevyn

amber23 I suggest you go and learn how the female reproduction cycle works cos during a period is far from the most fertil time in a womans's cycle.

http://msnbcmedia.msn.com/i/msnbc/Components/Interactives/Health/WomensHealth/zFlashAssets/menstrual_cycle_dw2%5B1%5D.swf

raoulduke1

I have never had a problem with it personally and I was suprised at how my previous two girlfriends re-acted when i told them this, initially they were embarassed with my relaxedness about sex during their periods but once I asured them that I had no problems with it and it just became a non-issue. I could never understand why they felt that just because they were having their period I wouldn't find them attractive or desirable is beyond me, they were still the same beautiful women i had fallen in love with, and since I assume they felt the same way about me (between a period once a month and my face all the time i would gladly choose the former) it seemed ridiculous to me not to express that in our usual physical way.

Eve_Dublin

I would be interested in knowing WHY women are a their horniest at this time of the month when so many men don´t like having sex with us at this time. A cruel twist of nature or is there an actual reason?

Wibbs

Could be as simple as the subconscious notion that they cant get pregnant* so they relax more, or the increase of blood supply to the area increases desire and sensitivity?


*Unlikely but still possible

lilminx

blofd wrote: »

Your girlfriend holds onto the string of the tampon.....

Besides the obvious danger a girl's poor cervix would be in if she were to wear a tampon while having sex, I can't imagine anything less sexy thank having to hold on to a wee bit of cotton string while going at it?!

I'm exceptionally horny during my period - which for a variet of reasons I get about 1 or twice a year - and with the right partner it can prove to be an exceptionally good idea - definately helps with cramping at any rate.

It's a personal choice, but take the advice of other posters, towel down, candles and a shower together afterwards, and if you really want brownie points fill her a hot water bottle and put her pjs on a rad to warm up, then into the bed for a cuddle - I know that my week of insane hormonal bitchiness a whole lot better..

LegacyUser

OP here, thanks a lot for your opinions guys, it was really helpful.

Well, thankfully he didn't have a problem with it, which was cool of him... and yeah, it was slightly messier than usual, but still a lot of fun.

So all's well that ends well!