Opinions pls: Is it stalkerish to friend someone on Facebook after meeting them once?

johnr1

Ok, so I met a fantastic girl at a wedding over the weekend, good eye contact, chatted, good connection. Didnt get her number but could contact her through her bro and my buddy if I had to. I looked her up on Facebook today and hesitated about friending her as her page is fairly private and I dont want to invade. Do NOT want to fook this up.

If this the wrong forum for this then ok, but I felt that womens opinions might be more appropriate considering the privacy issue. The general point remains; how much is it ok to check someone out/contact them online when you've just met in person

Aside, this is my first post, but Im a big fan of the site.

*he gives two thumbs up*

Xiney

Welcome to boards

Generally we don't allow men to ask what women think about such and such on tLL, but seeing as your situation isn't gender specific it's ok. In future you should read the charter of every forum before posting in it - lots of forums have some special rules like that.

princess-lala

You got chatting to her so its not gonna be stalkerish if you do add her on facebook but make sure to leave her a mail.

Or you could just send her a message through Facebook and if she does reply then you can add her

Best of luck

Panthro

if she leaves a reply or a message on your friends page, then u leave a reply agreeing with what she wrote, that way she will see your on facebook and might add you as a friend.
its a mind war out there,
besta luck!

Abi

johnr1 wrote: »

Ok, so I met a fantastic girl at a wedding over the weekend, good eye contact, chatted, good connection. Didnt get her number but could contact her through her bro and my buddy if I had to. I looked her up on Facebook today and hesitated about friending her as her page is fairly private and I dont want to invade. Do NOT want to fook this up.

If this the wrong forum for this then ok, but I felt that womens opinions might be more appropriate considering the privacy issue. The general point remains; how much is it ok to check someone out/contact them online when you've just met in person

Aside, this is my first post, but Im a big fan of the site.

*he gives two thumbs up*

Well I'll put it to you this way. I don't have facebook or bebo or anything like that. But it was because of facebook that someone got in touch with me again, via a friend of mine after a long time. If you're in anyway nervous about getting in touch with her yourself (I think take a chance).. if not, go with the friend route. I dunno if I'd ask her bro tbh :pac:

worded

Facebook - let your fingers do the stalking.

miss5

Send her a message, Keep it casual and see if she replies!

smileysurfer

worded wrote: »

Facebook - let your fingers do the stalking.

:P

What have you got to lose, go for it, the least she can do is say no!

rannerap

its not stalkerish at all,just make sure to talk to ehr when she accepts!always find it weird when someone adds you then never talks to you

johnr1

Hi all, thanks for the replies, some I like particularly. I was checking my own instincts against the group cos as I said I think this gal is a bit special and wanted to avoid a simple mistake.
Update is I friended her along with a generic non-agendaded message and got added today but not a reply. Obviously she was too busy to write a long essay of undying love back or so I keep telling myself
Think Il jump in with both feet and ask her out, - knock her off the fence one way or the other !

citytillidie

I met a girl in Vegas from Canada 2 years ago when I was there, we swapped emails and then added each other on Facebook.

I am now off to Canada in 7 weeks.

i.need.a.job

add her..... simple as.....

Scarinae

I think in your situation it's fine because you were chatting with the girl, made a connection etc, that's not weird. Now you've added her and she's accepted you, so it's perfectly fine to use that as a basis to get to know each other better.

However I think some people go WAY overboard on adding everyone they've ever met... One girl I know, I realised that I had 106 friends in common with her - I checked her page, and she has over 900 friends! I went through all our 'mutual friends' and discovered that she has my sister on her friends list, much to my puzzlement as my has lived in the UK for nearly nine years. I asked her about it and apparently two years ago at Christmas we bumped into her on the street while Christmas shopping (??)

johnr1

Agreed Fishie, I think thats a bit stupid myself. Update is Iv got a date anyway :-)

Scarinae

johnr1 wrote: »

Update is Iv got a date anyway :-)

Woohoo, go you!

PK2008

The OP joined and graduated from Boards all in the one thread


Well done OP

smallerthanyou

Ah that's cute. Hope date goes really well. Show's definitely better to be brave about these things. Suppose it's one useful part of using Facebook to be able to get in touch like that. And talking to friends abroad but the rest of it is a bit of a waste of time!