Girlfriend telling me to not go on my holiday with lads

Silverfish

Guys, please stop with the 'FYP' thing, either post advice or responses or don't post.


Thanks.

greenprincess

bossy girlfriend wrote: »

great result!!!!

the gf says i can go on the holiday and she will use her time to reflevt on our relationship, so i've got the trip and my girl thinking about me every day until i get back.

I still think she is hoping that you will choose her on your own accord. Because she doesnt to be the controlling girlfriend you make her out to be. I really think if you dont choose her that it will be a really bad thing for your relationship!! Your 34 I think you need to decided if you are serious about this girl or not, but if your not serious about her then leave her.

slowmoe

Op things are clearly different in your head to outside your head.

You really come across as having an inflated sense of entitlement that you genuinely believe you can treat your gf in such a terrible manner, go on your holiday and have her waiting at the airport on your return. you don't seem to have given a single thought to what she will go through when you're gone. or how her feelings towards you will have changed from your actions. i really really think you need to swap the situation around and ask yourself if you couldn't get the time and she went anyway and was taking men from her work out to dinner, honestly, how would you feel? Tbh i think the blow to your ego would be enough for you to dump her, without even bothering to look at the actual pain you are continually putting her through on this.

Tbh i think your gf will use next week to get a head start on getting over you while you're not around. But i don't think you have even really considered the possibility that she might leave a great catch like you. The best advice anyone can give you is stop thinking what is inside your head is the truth and look outside, nobody on this thread thinks its right for you to take the holiday, not even one person. So its the holiday or your girlfriend. Good luck with your choice.

slowmoe

sorry just one more thing that i have to ask, for one why did your friend only ask about your gf when this work girl was in the bathroom??????


did you ever mention her during the dinner???

why did you not say to your friends and work girl that you would ONLY attend the dinner if your gf was coming too???


you go out with a girl without your gf and another couple, that is a double date-no matter how you want to paint it, no matter how neurotic your gf is or isn't, that is a double date.

and you still wonder why your gf is upset??????????????

stupidusername

I can't quite work out if this is a serious real issue? It seems a little unbelievable that people like this exist.

'Great result'? I used to go out with a guy that treated me like this in all sorts of ways for a long time. My self-esteem was so low from being with him I never did break up with him, he broke up with me, so I fear this girl is in the same position, and won't have the nerve, or confidence to go through with it.

He obviously hasn't a clue. And I don't know why he's surprised people agree with her. He's a twat. Go off on your holiday, I would just hope she sees this thread so she can see how right everyone knows she is, and can get the courage to go through with it from this.

S23

Lads I hate to see people on here getting banned for personal posts to the OP.

I'm incredulous as to the content of some of the posts myself but lets not have regular and good posters on here getting themselves banned rising to the bait.

Personally, I think some of the latter posts are bordering on trolling from the OP. I find it hard to believe this person is being 100% truthful or serious.

However, until the Mods decide that is the case to we have to abide by the rules and keep it on topic. I hate seeing regulars here getting banned so be careful people!

All I will say is that OP I think you are in dreamland with your appraisal of your what your GF said about the holiday. I seriously doubt she will be fawning over you while you are off 'with the lads'.

Toots

Sounds to me like your girlfriend has set one last test to see if it is worth staying with you. If you go on the holiday she'll realise that you don't really care about her as much as she thought. If you change your plans and stay, she'll see that you do care about her feelings etc and will probably see that there's hope for the two of you. If you think what she said means anything other than that then you're either deluding yourself, or you're totally clueless about women. Yes, it might be a slightly manipulative tactic, but frankly it isn't a patch on what you're doing to her. If you do go on the holiday, I'd put good money on you being single when you get back.

Darthhoob

bossy girlfriend wrote: »

great result!!!!

the gf says i can go on the holiday and she will use her time to reflevt on our relationship, so i've got the trip and my girl thinking about me every day until i get back. Thanks folks for all the imput, its great to get an outsiders perspective as another poster said i felt strongly that i was the victim here when she started throwing around ultimatums but i can see i influenced it a bit, thanks again!

i really cannot believe you are 34 :eek: i mean how on earth can you completely and totally misread that? EVERYONE!!! and i mean everyone knows 'reflect on our relationship' is a BAD thing...it means she is SERIOUSLY thinking about dumping your ass...she's just gunna spent your holiday time getting more wound up and angry enough to do it without regretting it.

i say it's a bad thing but it isn't for her.

narcissism at it's best :eek: