Flirting on a night out when your BF/GF is at home

mssurvivor

We all do it .... is it a good or bad thing ?

quicklickpaddy

My GF is a lot better looking than I am so all things considered... Bad thing

Somnus

mssurvivor wrote: »

We all do it ....

No we don't....

smileysurfer

Huh!! your dumped!

WIZE

If I do it its a Good thing .

If my OH does it its a bad thing

Simples

candy-gal1

we all do it?! really?!
not so much! if you want to do that, be single, thats the way it should be!
it sickens me to hear people say that flirting is okay in a relationship, really does!
why?! FFS get a life, grow up, make a choice- single or not and stick to it!

candy-gal1

Most Haunted wrote: »

If I do it its a Good thing .

If my OH does it its a bad thing

Simples

Double standards much! :mad:

Dravokivich

here's a tip... if the flirting works out... you need to convince them they have to take you back to their's...

biko

Sounds like an "article" from Cosmo.

Dudess

Define flirting though? Nothing wrong with a good-natured chat and a laugh with someone whom you get on with and find funny - wouldn't be a problem if they were the same sex as you.

How Soon Is Now

Whats the point?? If u wanna flirt with someone everytime u go out do it but stay single maybe......

If your in a relationship its with that ONE person makes sense eh??

mssurvivor

smileysurfer wrote: »

Huh!! your dumped!

I certainly dont ... this was a conversation that was had in the pub the other night and i was very surprised to find out at least half of my friends thought this was the norm and acceptable !!!!

MaybeLogic

candy-gal1 wrote: »

we all do it?! really?!
not so much! if you want to do that, be single, thats the way it should be!
it sickens me to hear people say that flirting is okay in a relationship, really does!
why?! FFS get a life, grow up, make a choice- single or not and stick to it!

Flirting with someone else is bad?
I thought it was shagging them?

landsleaving

biko wrote: »

Sounds like an "article" from Cosmo.

I wonder if the OP knows 7 sexy ways I can please my man?

G-Money

It's pretty simple for me, if you're single, you can flirt, if you're not single, you don't/shouldn't flirt.

Some people will say it's "harmless" but I don't buy that for a second. The way I see it, if you have a bf/gf and still feel the need to go flirt with other people, then you don't like or respect your bf/gf all that much to begin with.

landsleaving

Dudess wrote: »

Define flirting though? Nothing wrong with a good-natured chat and a laugh with someone whom you get on with and find funny - wouldn't be a problem if they were the same sex as you.

I'd agree with this completely. Unfortunately some poeple seem to get jealous the second their girlfriend or boyfriend talks to someone of the opposite sex.

Also where's your sig gone? I was still trying to think of what to change mine to for comic effect.

candy-gal1

MaybeLogic wrote: »

Flirting with someone else is bad?
I thought it was shagging them?

well yeah, i mean if your flirting with someone youd obviously like to shag them but cant because your in a relationship so whats the point in flirting?! its just the first step to cheating, and practically is cheating anyway! self esteem problems much!! must be, "oh i need to flirt with someone else even though im in a relationship because im not feeling so hot! " seriously?!

Dudess

angerfist2009 wrote: »

Whats the point?? If u wanna flirt with someone everytime u go out do it but stay single maybe......

If your in a relationship its with that ONE person makes sense eh??

Flirt with your own partner? That would be downright weird...

Quality

I am not allowed out, unless accompanied by my OH.

MaybeLogic

candy-gal1 wrote: »

well yeah, i mean if your flirting with someone youd obviously like to shag them but cant because your in a relationship so whats the point in flirting?! its just the first step to cheating, and practically is cheating anyway! self esteem problems much!! must be, "oh i need to flirt with someone else even though im in a relationship because im not feeling so hot! " seriously?!

I have self-esteem issues for innocently chatting/flirting with another lady or my girlfriend does, for getting jealous about it?

quicklickpaddy

Quality wrote: »

I am not allowed out, unless accompanied by my OH.

Ouch... Tough break

GavRedKing

When im out and my OH was at home I wouldnt go looking to flirt with or try chat women up.

If a girl came up to me and started talking/flirting I would talk and flirt back to a degree but nothing to a degree were I would try act on it.

You can be nice and innocent and friendly to someone without want to sleep with them.

landsleaving

candy-gal1 wrote: »

well yeah, i mean if your flirting with someone youd obviously like to shag them but cant because your in a relationship so whats the point in flirting?! its just the first step to cheating, and practically is cheating anyway! self esteem problems much!! must be, "oh i need to flirt with someone else even though im in a relationship because im not feeling so hot! " seriously?!

You could always trust the person you're going out with... I mean if flirting is practically cheating, what's looking at someone else?

I still want to... ahem... shag, plenty of other people despite being in a relationship, does that mean if I talk to them and have a bit of a laugh I'm practically cheating? I'm not going to, it'll never go beyond talking. Surely you flirt with a cute shop assistant or some other random person the odd time? I know my girlfriend does it, and I could care less. It's handy if you want to return something to a shop and there's a bloke working there.

I'm getting a serious sense of deja vu here, has there been another thread like this in the last few months?

candy-gal1

MaybeLogic wrote: »

I have self-esteem issues for innocently chatting/flirting with another lady or my girlfriend does, for getting jealous about it?

well theres innocently chatting on a night out, and flirting. theres a difference! but yes i would say someone who is with someone who goes out, strikes up a conversation with some hot guy/girl just because they like them signifies some kind of self esteem issues imho.

How Soon Is Now

Dudess wrote: »

Flirt with your own partner? That would be downright weird...

I dunno what u mean by that?

Blobby George

gavredking wrote: »

You can be nice and innocent and friendly to someone without want to sleep with them.

Yes. Just draw the line at friendly chat and don't make it look like you are trying to come on to the person.

K-9

candy-gal1 wrote: »

its just the first step to cheating, and practically is cheating anyway!

In the cannabis will lead to heroin use type way?

landsleaving

candy-gal1 wrote: »

well theres innocently chatting on a night out, and flirting. theres a difference! but yes i would say someone who is with someone who goes out, strikes up a conversation with some hot guy/girl just because they like them signifies some kind of self esteem issues imho.

That's not flirting, that's chatting someone up.

mssurvivor

Quality wrote: »

I am not allowed out, unless accompanied by my OH.

oooooo , we all need time wit our own friends in a relationship .....

i think if your in a relationship then flirting is out of the question , why bother being in a relationship if your gna do that ... but you defo need some time out on your own too !!!

candy-gal1

landsleaving wrote: »

You could always trust the person you're going out with... I mean if flirting is practically cheating, what's looking at someone else?

I still want to... ahem... shag, plenty of other people despite being in a relationship, does that mean if I talk to them and have a bit of a laugh I'm practically cheating? I'm not going to, it'll never go beyond talking. Surely you flirt with a cute shop assistant or some other random person the odd time? I know my girlfriend does it, and I could care less. It's handy if you want to return something to a shop and there's a bloke working there.

I'm getting a serious sense of deja vu here, has there been another thread like this in the last few months?

oh yes i would agree 100% with the fact that you must trust your partner 100% but theres a huge difference between looking at people and thinking their hot from afar and flirting imho.
i have never flirted with someone else while being with someone, i dont see the point really tbh.

quicklickpaddy

I'd be pretty pissed off if I saw my GF flirting with someone and I'm pretty sure that's universal for everyone in a relationship.

On the other hand, a mate of mine was out the other night (and he's definitely not the type to flirt/cheat) and he was sayin he was just talking to this girl for a while and she just pipes up with "So... D'ya wanna come back to my place?"

Flirting might "innocent" but you can't predict what the person they're flirting with is gonna do. If I saw someone move in for the kill on my GF I'd flip the lid. Both at the other guy and my GF

candy-gal1

K-9 wrote: »

In the cannabis will lead to heroin use type way?

nah, in the cocaine, e, could lead to heroin way

Mint Sauce

smileysurfer wrote: »

Huh!! your dumped!

i'm free to comfort all the female boardies who have dumped or been dumped as a result of this thread, and maybe flirt as well

Jaxxy

candy-gal1 wrote: »

well theres innocently chatting on a night out, and flirting. theres a difference! but yes i would say someone who is with someone who goes out, strikes up a conversation with some hot guy/girl just because they like them signifies some kind of self esteem issues imho.

So what's the difference between innocently chatting with someone on a night out and flirting with them? Being friendly and having a laugh with some randomer who strikes up a conversation with you at the bar can be construed by some people as flirting too.

Striking up a conversation with someone you think is attractive doesn't signify self esteem issues. It signifies someone who is comfortable, out-going and possibly up for a bit of a laugh.

I'm not going to put myself in a corner of a pub/club and not speak to anyone for fear it will be construed as flirting. That's just ridiculous.

candy-gal1

landsleaving wrote: »

That's not flirting, that's chatting someone up.

well, whats flirting then?!

Lux23

candy-gal1 wrote: »

well theres innocently chatting on a night out, and flirting. theres a difference! but yes i would say someone who is with someone who goes out, strikes up a conversation with some hot guy/girl just because they like them signifies some kind of self esteem issues imho.

How exactly? About 90% of the time I get chatting with a bloke out he is attached, most tell you pretty early on and in most of my experience it goes nowhere.

xzanti

Dr.Poca wrote: »

No we don't....

+1, I have no time for this sh1te.. if someone approaches me on a night out I'll politely let them know that I'm spoken for and I'd hate to think my OH would behave any differently.. What is the point in it?

candy-gal1

JaxxYChicK wrote: »

So what's the difference between innocently chatting with someone on a night out and flirting with them? Being friendly and having a laugh with some randomer who strikes up a conversation with you at the bar can be construed by some people as flirting too.

Striking up a conversation with someone you think is attractive doesn't signify self esteem issues. It signifies someone who is comfortable, out-going and possibly up for a bit of a laugh.

I'm not going to put myself in a corner of a pub/club and not speak to anyone for fear it will be construed as flirting. That's just ridiculous.

okay but if you go out with mates you hang out with those mates, if you go out on your own for some reason then you stay on your own. thats just me i suppose.

Gone Drinking

candy-gal1 wrote: »

well, whats flirting then?!

Why don't you let me take out out for a drink, and i'll show you *

*When my girlfriends at work

Quality

mssurvivor wrote: »

oooooo , we all need time wit our own friends in a relationship .....

i think if your in a relationship then flirting is out of the question , why bother being in a relationship if your gna do that ... but you defo need some time out on your own too !!!

I know but he doesnt trust me...

Not after the time I ended up with the rugby team back in their hotel....

Or the time with his best mate....


Or even that christmas eve under the mistletoe with his dad....

landsleaving

quicklickpaddy wrote: »

On the other hand, a mate of mine was out the other night (and he's definitely not the type to flirt/cheat) and he was sayin he was just talking to this girl for a while and she just pipes up with "So... D'ya wanna come back to my place?"

Flirting might "innocent" but you can't predict what the person they're flirting with is gonna do. If I saw someone move in for the kill on my GF I'd flip the lid. Both at the other guy and my GF

Why would you flip the lid? If she was just chatting and he was tactless enough to go in for the kill that quickly, no ones one anything wrong (he's a bit thick though). So what if you can't predict what the other person will do, you should know your girlfriend will say no so what difference does it make.

Degsy

quicklickpaddy wrote: »

I'd be pretty pissed off if I saw my GF flirting with someone and I'm pretty sure that's universal for everyone in a relationship.

On the other hand, a mate of mine was out the other night (and he's definitely not the type to flirt/cheat) and he was sayin he was just talking to this girl for a while and she just pipes up with "So... D'ya wanna come back to my place?"

Flirting might "innocent" but you can't predict what the person they're flirting with is gonna do. If I saw someone move in for the kill on my GF I'd flip the lid. Both at the other guy and my GF

Agree..i dont like people openly flirting with my OH and i wouldnt be best pleased to find her doing it back.
Insecurity i suppose but its just the way stuff is.

candy-gal1

Lux23 wrote: »

How exactly?

how is it due to self esteem issues?!
well why would you flirt with someone else when your with someone??!!

Kasabian

biko wrote: »

Sounds like an "article" from Cosmo.

AH is gone that way.:mad::P

candy-gal1

Gone Drinking wrote: »

Why don't you let me take out out for a drink, and i'll show you *

*When my girlfriends at work

lol
thanks but im with someone

see, its that simple!

quicklickpaddy

landsleaving wrote: »

Why would you flip the lid? If she was just chatting and he was tactless enough to go in for the kill that quickly, no ones one anything wrong (he's a bit thick though). So what if you can't predict what the other person will do, you should know your girlfriend will say no so what difference does it make.

Put it this way... Would you let your OH go out for drinks with someone notoriously sleazy?

MaybeLogic

candy-gal1 wrote: »

how is it due to self esteem issues?!
well why would you flirt with someone else when your with someone??!!

Any sort of chat between males and females is inevitably some form of flirty.
Just cause i'm hooked up with somebody means I'm never allowed to talk to anybody of the opposite sex.
Fuck that. New girlfriend.

Jaxxy

candy-gal1 wrote: »

okay but if you go out with mates you hang out with those mates, if you go out on your own for some reason then you stay on your own. thats just me i suppose.

I meant in a group situation. Sure, I'll be hanging out with my mates for the majority of the time, but that doesn't mean to say I won't talk to anybody else for the remainder of the night.

Telling someone they have self esteem issues just because they chat to other attractive people on a night out just isn't accurate.

Kasabian

quicklickpaddy wrote: »

Put it this way... Would you let your OH go out for drinks with someone notoriously sleazy?

Their mates always are.:)

landsleaving

quicklickpaddy wrote: »

Put it this way... Would you let your OH go out for drinks with someone notoriously sleazy?

I don't 'let' her do anything. She's perfectly capable of making up her own mind.

And what you say there is different to what you said in the first place anyway. That sounds like a date, not a random conversation.

Jaxxy

quicklickpaddy wrote: »

Put it this way... Would you let your OH go out for drinks with someone notoriously sleazy?

What do you mean "would you let your OH"? Your OH can do what she wants. Unless she actually gives you a reason to mistrust her, then the insecurity issues are your own.