Age difference - Does it matter?

K4t

Met a girl in a bar, clicked, danced, kissed, danced, cuddled etc.

She asked me my age and I said 19, I asked her her age and she said 23.
We proceeded to dance and kiss the night away with her constantly interrupting to ask what age I was and me realising it was too late to go back had to repeatedly say 19 "but nearly 20". End of the night we walk outside and she says she just can't do it. We kiss and part ways.

So, age obviously does matter, but where do you draw the line? This girl said her friends would judge her and when she introduced me to her blonde bimbo sister, the sister just laughed at me.

Would you go with a guy/girl four years your junior or senior???:)

Abi

18 / 23.




LOL. gtfo tbh.

Novella

Yes.

Doop

K4t wrote: »

Would you go with a guy/girl four years your junior or senior???:)

Most definatly... beggers cant be chosers an all that... :pac:

The older you get the less the difference counts... hmm that could be taken the wrong way, but i had this discussion with a 31yo friend the other day .. she said she'd go 10 years either way!! :eek:

personally im 26 .. reckon 6 yrs either way is acceptable

Abi

Novella wrote: »

Yes.

You cant just say that. Why

Novella

Abitar wrote: »

You cant just say that. Why

Bit tired!

I meant age means nothing and I want them all. If they're pretty.

K4t

Abitar wrote: »

18 / 23.



LOL. gtfo tbh.

19. And why so dismissive? We obviously liked each other and connected in some way or otherwise she wouldn't have spent the night with me. The only thing stopping us from going home together was age.

Doop wrote: »

personally im 26 .. reckon 6 yrs either way is acceptable

Yes, I am 21 from now on. Lesson learnt.;)

red herring

I think at 19 people still have alot of growing up to do, age doesnt matter as you get older, but when you're younger.... a 15 year old and a 19 year old is too much IMO. Yet a 24 year old and a 28 year old is ok.
I'm a girl and would never go out with a guy more than a year younger than me, I'd usually go with guys older but thats me, Everyones different! I think its up to the individuals concerned, its a personal choice.

uprising2

Age is only a number, I'm 35, my wife is 25, my eldest daughter is 13, figure that out!

Abi

K4t wrote: »

19. And why so dismissive? We obviously liked each other and connected in some way or otherwise she wouldn't have spent the night with me. The only thing stopping us from going home together was age.

Me dismissive of aged difference? LOL. I wouldn't mind if was just that. Nothing like a bit of age difference to throw the Kat amongst the pidgeons, eh?

Novella

K4t wrote: »

19. And why so dismissive? We obviously liked each other and connected in some way or otherwise she wouldn't have spent the night with me. The only thing stopping us from going home together was age.

Maybe she actually just didn't want to sleep with you?

CiaranC

uprising2 wrote: »

Age is only a number, I'm 35, my wife is 25, my eldest daughter is 13, figure that out!

I figure if its yours and her kid you should probably be in jail

IvySlayer

I'd go out with Abitar and she's like 50.

uprising2

CiaranC wrote: »

I figure if its yours and her kid you should probably be in jail

Don't worry its not.

Kanoe

met a girl in a bar, clicked, danced, kissed, danced, cuddled etc.

She asked how old I thought she was and I said 27/28, she looked at me with a big grin on her face and said "I'm 20". I said gtfo/ She asked me how old I was and I said 34 and she said "thats ok I like older women."


I kissed her goodbye.

then spent the night texting her

Kanoe

K4t

Abitar wrote: »

Me dismissive of aged difference? LOL. I wouldn't mind if was just that. Nothing like a bit of age difference to throw the Kat amongst the pidgeons, eh?

*I'll blame the drink*

Novella wrote: »

Maybe she actually just didn't want to sleep with you?

Trust me I know when a girl doesn't want to sleep with me! This wasn't the case here. She wanted it just as much as me, she initiated things and made sure I'll be wearing a collared shirt tomorrow! The only thing preventing us from going home together was her view of society's expectations and peer pressure from what can only be described as her stupid bitch of a sister.

Abi

IvySlayer wrote: »

I'd go out with Abitar and she's like 50.

/flutters eyelashes


Ohh you flatterer you.


/Lends Ivy a mirror


oh hai

Abi

K4t wrote: »

*I'll blame the drink*

Ah don't do that, lets blame the chef

Mackman

As red-herring said, Age difference is less important the older you are. At 19, you're still maturing, and you dont reach your full maturity until your around 22/23 IMO.

Im 26 and i would go no younger than 23, id go as old as 30

seanybiker

Mackman wrote: »

As red-herring said, Age difference is less important the older you are. At 19, you're still maturing, and you dont reach your full maturity until your around 22/23 IMO.

Im 26 and i would go no younger than 23, id go as old as 30

when I was 23 i went off with an 18 year old. Good god it was horrible. Got with my missus now a few weeks later. Im 27 and she is 31, sadly I look older and she looks younger. She loves playing that card lol.

miss5

I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 23, I don't think it matters at all.
It would be an issue if there was a big age gap and they were at
different life stages.

Kanoe

thats like your 6,666th post Seany

m@cc@

K4t wrote: »

We proceeded to dance and kiss the night away with her constantly interrupting to ask what age I was

Was she senile?

Doop

"Your only as old as the person you feel"

whaha

tman

Once you reach a certain age, it matters a lot less, but 19 is still damn young with a lot of growing up yet to do tbh.

Xavi6

Half your age plus <whatever number allows you to tap 18 year olds>

Snowie

i dont mind older women i dated a 31 year old im 28 was a great laugh and had a fantastic bodis ....

tho tbh I really should of texted her back a bit more think she thaught i wasnt interested i was tho .... Just a bit preocuppied at the time tbh...

stovelid

K4t wrote: »

She asked me my age and I said 19, I asked her her age and she said 23.

This isn't a age difference, it's a minor overshoot.

TheZohanS

It's the bouncers responsibility.

Diddy Kong

My wife is 11 years older than me...was an issue for about 5 minutes and now we just joke about it. Its just a number.

Abi

stovelid wrote: »

This isn't a age difference, it's a minor overshoot.

Said what I was thinking. A couple of years around your age is not an age fucking gap. I think my mother is around 8 years old older than my father. Her father is was 16 years older than her mother.. don't even get me started on the other side :pac:


Age is but a number. I'm more interested in the person rather than the maths behid it tbh.

GavRedKing

Rookie mistake OP. You should have asked her what age she was first and adjust your age accordingly to suit the situation.

Rule of two, she says 23, your reply should have been 21, works everytime. :pac:

stovelid

Abitar wrote: »

Said what I was thinking. A couple of years around your age is not an age fucking gap. I think my mother is around 8 years old older than my father. Her father is was 16 years older than her mother.. don't even get me started on the other side :pac:

Aye, I see Age Difference as a decade thing (not that any age difference matters a jot of course): someone in their 20s with someone in their 30s or someone in their 30s with someone in their 40s, etc.

Kormeera X

Age doesnt matter, its just a number, if you love the person then that all that should matter, nothing else.

ibarelycare

I seem to be constantly having this conversation with people at the moment. Maybe it's cos I'm getting old (I'm only 24 really!)

I don't think age matters that much. I'd generally go for older guys, just because guys younger than me can be quite immature. I told my friends a couple of weeks ago that I wanted to find an 18-year-old and they said I was sick So maybe 19 onwards is ok...:pac:

Giselle

Kormeera X wrote: »

Age doesnt matter, its just a number, if you love the person then that all that should matter, nothing else.

Unless its like a 20 year difference which is okay at 20/40, but at 60/80 you'll be less of a partner and more of a nurse.

Five years either way as a rule of thumb, not interested in much younger men or men who convince themselves they've improved with age or have more 'wisdom'.

evercloserunion

I thought this would be about someone getting with a 14 year old or something. Freaking out over a 23-19 age difference is stupid.

Sykk

K4t wrote: »

Met a girl in a bar, clicked, danced, kissed, danced, cuddled etc.

She asked me my age and I said 19, I asked her her age and she said 23.
We proceeded to dance and kiss the night away with her constantly interrupting to ask what age I was and me realising it was too late to go back had to repeatedly say 19 "but nearly 20". End of the night we walk outside and she says she just can't do it. We kiss and part ways.

So, age obviously does matter, but where do you draw the line? This girl said her friends would judge her and when she introduced me to her blonde bimbo sister, the sister just laughed at me.

Would you go with a guy/girl four years your junior or senior???:)

I really really know how you feel.

This has lost me women so many times.. I'm 20 currently with a GF but before, when I was 18/19.. And stupid enough to tell women my real age.. It was always the same thing. I'd get as far as the front door when "Sorry, you're just too young".

So I learned to just say 25 no matter where I was, that seem'd to fix it!

cowhands

My otherhalf is 31 and Im 25...And it works just fine. I think we are on the same level maturity wise (whether that means Im older than my years or hes a big child is still to be debated lol). I dont think (as a female) I couldnt date a fella much younger than me, maybe 2 years max would be the limit. I always seemed to go for the older guys

Dragons Revenge

It does. I don't see how people can date someone 8-10 years either way. I mean, when you're older (50s 60s) it doesn't matter, but 18/28; you're in completely different mindsets/points in your life.

When I was 23 I started dating someone who was on the tail end of 17, and well... remember the chick Seth Rogen went out with in Pineapple Express? It was the almost the same scenario. Before that, I was 22 and was dating someone who was almost 30 and that just felt weird. The fact that she had the same personality as my mom didn't help matters either.

rednik

No it does'nt matter. What matters is that both of you are into each other and thats all.

Kiera

If you click, age shouldn’t factor into it tbh. I know it wouldn’t stop me if i met someone older/younger as long as we had the chemistry.

Dubs

It shouldnt matter, but it does, especially at 18/23, particullarly when the woman is the 23 year old. Maybe its just how I grew up but I'd find an 18/19 year old guy going out with a 23 year old girl a lot weirder than the other way around.

Your not alone I'm afraid, same thing does constantly happen to me :rolleyes:

NothingMan

zxy wrote: »

she said "thats ok I like older women."

I kissed her goodbye.

\0/ Yay, girl on girl.

I don't think it necessarily matters about the age but definitely what you're looking for with someone. I have a friend who's 4 years older than me at 28 and 10 years less mature. I could see him with an 18/19 year old and have no issues. (Not that he would do it). I have another friend who at 23 was going out with a 25 year old girl who wanted a ring on her finger and a bun in the oven. They broke up and 3 months later she was pregnant.

So 23/26 can be a huge gap, where as 28/18 may not be depending on what you're looking for. I'm 25 in 2 weeks and if I was single i'd happily go for an 18/19 year. As it is i'm stuck with my ancient 25 year old gf. (who I love to bits).

minidazzler

If it's just bumping uglies, why would age even come into it? Not like you will be introduced to anyone.

And if you click then howdy doody, people can't give out.

Do as you please, as long as it's legal TBH.

OutlawPete

Abitar wrote: »

18 / 23.




LOL. gtfo tbh.

Damn young'uns.

I'm 36, chasing winking at girls half my age, that's a fecking age gap

Kiera

Dubs wrote: »

It shouldnt matter, but it does, especially at 18/23, particullarly when the woman is the 23 year old. Maybe its just how I grew up but I'd find an 18/19 year old guy going out with a 23 year old girl a lot weirder than the other way around.

Your not alone I'm afraid, same thing does constantly happen to me :rolleyes:

My 18yr old brother is going out with a 24 yr old girl. I'll admit at the start we all thought it was a bit weird but they're perfect for each other.

baalthor

uprising2 wrote: »

Age is only a number, I'm 35, my wife is 25, my eldest daughter is 13, figure that out!

I once knew a guy who was 21, his wife was 35 and his step-daughter was 15.
Knowing the guy, I fear things did not end well ...

Millie

I think at 19 that age difference does matter but as was said as you get older it it becomes less of an issue.

Sure I turned 37 today and my b/f is a mere 32........:)

andreab

I met my now BF when I was 16, he was 21. I was in a nightclub so he assumed I was older We kissed and exchanged numbers. I told him the next day my age and he freaked. So we left it there but we still used to chat and txt. Then when I turned 17 he asked me out. And 7 years later we're still together.

At first age did matter for him but the more we got to know if eachother the less it mattered. Now at 24 and 29 I don't even notice it.

My dad is 13 years older than my mam and their happily married for 26 years and my gran was 6 years older than my grandad didn't stop them.

Who cares as the saying goes......age is just a number