would u not move out unless u were going with someone?

christmasinjuly

myself and my friends discussed this today we are young in last year of school and talked about the future I aid when would be better after college to start buying a house and they aid they would not move out and buy a house unless they were to be married to someone or engaged to someone I found this quiet shocking as Im quiet feminist I know economic climate its better to buy a house/ mortgage with someone but still quiet shocked.

so what are your views on this?

shellyboo

Don't think it's anything to do with feminism... I'm in no rush to settle in any one place, happy enough renting. I can't see myself buying a house until I'm ready to settle down with someone... Or rather, I don't see why I'd want to unless I was making a home for myself. Hopefully that'll happen with a partner and not on my own. Does that make me unfeminist?

Xiney

Your friends have a point - what if you do meet someone that you want to share your life with but you need to relocate to be with them? Surely it's better if you don't own a house.

Also, once you're finished college it might be a good long while before a) you find a good job that you can stay in (and therefore can stay where you're living) and b) you're earning enough to be able to afford a mortgage.

Piste

I am buying the French Embassy on Ailesbury road with or without a husband!

PCPhoto

Piste wrote: »

I am buying the French Embassy on Ailesbury road with or without a husband!

have you seen the interior ...... erm... no thanks !!! ..... think I'll keep my lotto money and buy someplace else

when you say "move out" do you mean renting and separate to buying? I think I'd leave it til I bought with the OH, but why wouldn't you move out and rent on your own

syklops

bluewolf wrote: »

when you say "move out" do you mean renting and separate to buying? I think I'd leave it til I bought with the OH, but why wouldn't you move out and rent on your own

Thats what I was about to ask. Is this about moving out of home? Or about buying a house with an other half, because I get the feeling its about moving out of home, but im not sure.

christmasinjuly

wel yes I would move out and rent by myself but what I am saying is what if your 30 and still havent found the right person so does this mean I would still have to rent until I do find one. What I am saying is there no other person here who would

syklops

If I was 30 and was not with someone then i would buy a place myself. Assuming I wanted to buy a house. There is nothing saying you have to buy, and in the current market it makes more sense to rent and save the money.

Novella

I dunno. I moved out when I turned seventeen and have been living by myself since. I like being on my own. I actually find it really difficult to imagine myself sharing a house with someone again. I have a weird little obsession with houses too. I want to buy a really old cottage and renovate it! Would happily do that alone.

It's like most things in life really. Some people won't move out and settle down and buy a home until they have someone to share it with, whereas others are perfectly happy to invest by themselves. Nothing wrong with either imo.

shellyboo

Well, when I find a career I love in the place I want to be and if I'm
not with someone... sure, I'll buy a house. As of now, I'm 26 and neither of those things have happened yet.

I think it's a bit naive to say "I'm gonna do xyz" or "I'm not gonna do xyz"... Life doesn't work that way. I could have said the same as you're saying when I was 17, OP, and I'd still be in the same situation I am now.

Ickle Magoo

I think it depends more on the person and what freedoms they wish/require than having a partner and buying a house together. I moved out of home when I was 16 & I'm delighted I did it that way but I didn't own a house until I got married - so I don't think moving out automatically equates to buying a house...:)

Piste

If I were single then I wouldn't need an entire house to myself, so I'd buy an apartment. I kinda see your point though, two incomes can get a much nicer house than one.

Dudess

Very few people can afford to buy alone - and it makes more sense to buy with a partner rather than a friend, as the latter would get more complicated as friends go their separate ways in terms of life paths eventually, whereas you'd actually plan to live with a partner on a long-term basis.

Shivers26

I moved out of home when I was 22. I was in a relationship and we decided to rent together. We rented for just less that 3 years. Then the opportunity came up for me to buy and I ended up buying a house alone. We live in it together but in a way I am glad I bought it alone as we are still not married and if things were to go tits up at least I would still have my home. I wasnt going to pass up the opportunity to buy just because my OH wasnt in a position to buy with me at the time.

I do hope we get married and live happily ever after though

sunnyside

shellyboo wrote: »

I can't see myself buying a house until I'm ready to settle down with someone... Or rather, I don't see why I'd want to unless I was making a home for myself.

But everybody needs a home for themselves whether they have a partner or not. I say that as a single 31 year old homeowner. I know many people the same age as me who rent but I personally don't like renting.

rainbow kirby

I'll buy a house when I'm in the right sort of financial position to buy one (and until then I'd rent, once I move out of the family home again). Whether I have a partner or not at that stage is completely irrelevant.

Personally I have no interest in buying/building a house, until/if I have children to tie me to a place.

shellyboo

sunnyside wrote: »

But everybody needs a home for themselves whether they have a partner or not. I say that as a single 31 year old homeowner. I know many people the same age as me who rent but I personally don't like renting.

Yeah, I know... That's why I said "if I was making a home for myself". I'm not ready to do that yet, because I'm not in a place in my life where I feel settled. When I get there - either via my career or a partner - I'll consider buying.

chocgirl

I intend to buy a house on my own soon enough, I'm 25. I'm looking into it at the minute. Fingers crossed:) I don't see the point in waiting 'til I'm ready to move in with someone and I like the idea of owning my own place and having my own space. I've had enough of renting.

I also want to be able to enjoy my own house while I have nothing to tie me down.

Everyone is different though and you'll probably have changed your mind a million times before you've finished college.

Morgase

chocgirl wrote: »

I intend to buy a house on my own soon enough, I'm 25. I'm looking into it at the minute. Fingers crossed:) I don't see the point in waiting 'til I'm ready to move in with someone and I like the idea of owning my own place and having my own space. I've had enough of renting.

I also want to be able to enjoy my own house while I have nothing to tie me down.

Heh I did that when I was 25, four years ago! :pac: I got tired of renting; although I liked my housemates, I really wanted a proper home. So I bought my own house and love being able to do what I want with it.

I knew my boyfriend wasn't in the same headspace as me in terms of buying a house so I just went ahead and did it myself. It would only have caused hassle if I was putting pressure on him to buy a house with me.

Malari

I moved out when I was 20 and rented with strangers several times. Sometimes it worked, sometimes not. I never thought about buying because I wasn't financially able to and I wasn't settled in one place.

I see nothing wrong with renting long-term. The "dead money" nonsense only seems to come from friends who are up to their eyeballs in mortgage repayments, living a car's journey from anywhere or have kids.

For me, I like the renting lifestyle. I'm in a long-term relationship and if we find a place we'd like to buy we will, but for now we love where we are renting. It's probably just serendipity that my ability to purchase now is at the same time as having a boyfriend who would buy with me.

chocgirl

Morgase wrote: »

Heh I did that when I was 25, four years ago! :pac: I got tired of renting; although I liked my housemates, I really wanted a proper home. So I bought my own house and love being able to do what I want with it.

I knew my boyfriend wasn't in the same headspace as me in terms of buying a house so I just went ahead and did it myself. It would only have caused hassle if I was putting pressure on him to buy a house with me.

Glad to hear it worked out for somebody else, apparently I'm mad I should be holding on for another year or two but I don't really want to wait.

Morgase

chocgirl wrote: »

Glad to hear it worked out for somebody else, apparently I'm mad I should be holding on for another year or two but I don't really want to wait.

Feck the begrudgers and do what YOU want to do. Yeah, renting is cheaper, and houses will probably drop in price even more but you'll have your own place where you can do whatever you like. Best of luck if you do go for it!

sam34

whatever about buying a place, i'd have grave reservations about going out seriously with someone who had never moved out of their parents home, had never stood on their own too feet, never fully looked after themselves without the safety net of mum/dad

princess-lala

sam34 wrote: »

whatever about buying a place, i'd have grave reservations about going out seriously with someone who had never moved out of their parents home, had never stood on their own too feet, never fully looked after themselves without the safety net of mum/dad

Ive never moved out of home! I have been standing on my own two feel along time now though and look after myself!

I run my own business and wouldnt get a mortgage thats my reason for not moving out! I dont wanna move out and rent because I pay rent at home and thats enough for me!

In this day and age, alot of people wont have the opportunity to move out because of the lack of jobs!

I for one wouldnt wait until Im in a relationship to buy though! If I am then thats fine but I wont wait around for a man so I can buy a house!

Stheno

Dudess wrote: »

Very few people can afford to buy alone - and it makes more sense to buy with a partner rather than a friend, as the latter would get more complicated as friends go their separate ways in terms of life paths eventually, whereas you'd actually plan to live with a partner on a long-term basis.

That's not so clear now potentially with the new civil partnership bill that's going through the dail at the moment.

It affords couples together for three years or more of living together an awful lot of rights.

ash23

I moved out at 17 and rented for a few years. Moved in with my then partner and after 3 years together we bought a house. 2 years later we split. Nearly two years on the house is still a millstone around both our necks.

If it weren't for that house I'd ave bought another one by now, myself.

I won't be buying a house with someone again until I am married.