SOME pregnant women and the 'mammy' club

beegirl

Wasn't quite sure where to post this but I need a little rant to get it off my chest! I am prepared for the world of abuse I am probably about to get

Why is it that SOME pregnant women play up being pregnant to the max, when there's not even anything wrong with them? For example, one friend who moaned constantly for nine months (but never had morning sickness or anything else) - she wouldn't even carry a few books and used to park in the handicapped parking spot in work :eek: Whereas other friends of mine just seem to take it all on the chin, even when they have difficult pregnancies.

It really bugs me that some people seem to think that having a child puts you on some sort of pedestal or something... Which brings me to my other point "the mammy club". Why is it that when SOME women are around other mothers, they keep talking about their kids non-stop. For example, this girl in work (same girl as above) will always bring up kids if we are sitting with the other 'mammies' - they seem perfectly happy to talk about other things, but this one girl is always bringing the conversation back around to babies... I know another girl who corners other 'mammies' when we are all on a night out, whereas she doesn't bother talking to people who don't have babies. Some people (and again, only some) seem to think giving birth is like a pass to a secret society or something.

There is an ad on the radio at the moment for Simon Amstell tickets where he says "Oh you're having a baby? Guess who else had a baby?? EVERYONE!!!" I love it

Anyway maybe i'm just saying this because I don't have kids yet, maybe I will end up being the moaniest pregnant woman ever or unable to have a normal conversation after childbirth, but for now, it bugs the crap out of me!!! Anybody else feel the same???

bonerm

beegirl wrote: »

other friends of mine just seem to take it all on the chin

See, if the first woman had done this then she wouldn't have got pregnant to begin with.

phasers

People with kids are always boring, entitled tossers for about 18 months tbh, from the beginning of the pregnancy til the kid is ~9 months old.

stovelid

Adding the SOME disclaimer fatally weakens the rant and waves a craven white flag at the hormonally-crazed bun-bakers before you even start.

Chicken.

InkSlinger67

Most pregnant women around my way tend to keep a low profile. Of course, they're usually faking it in order to smuggle a weekly shop out of Tesco's without paying

Nevyn

It bugs the crap out of me, which is why I don't post on parenting sites, esp those who are mammy only sites.

beegirl

stovelid wrote: »

Adding the SOME disclaimer fatally weakens the splenetic nature of the rant,

Chicken.

Haha :P Well in fairness though, it is only SOME women... it doesn't even seem to be MOST women. But the ones who do it are really, REALLY annoying...

Ruu_Old

beegirl wrote: »

Wasn't quite sure where to post this but I need a little rant to get it off my chest! I am prepared for the world of abuse I am probably about to get

Why is it that SOME pregnant women play up being pregnant to the max, when there's not even anything wrong with them? For example, one friend who moaned constantly for nine months (but never had morning sickness or anything else) - she wouldn't even carry a few books and used to park in the handicapped parking spot in work :eek: Whereas other friends of mine just seem to take it all on the chin, even when they have difficult pregnancies.

It really bugs me that some people seem to think that having a child puts you on some sort of pedestal or something... Which brings me to my other point "the mammy club". Why is it that when SOME women are around other mothers, they keep talking about their kids non-stop. For example, this girl in work (same girl as above) will always bring up kids if we are sitting with the other 'mammies' - they seem perfectly happy to talk about other things, but this one girl is always bringing the conversation back around to babies... I know another girl who corners other 'mammies' when we are all on a night out, whereas she doesn't bother talking to people who don't have babies. Some people (and again, only some) seem to think giving birth is like a pass to a secret society or something.

There is an ad on the radio at the moment for Simon Amstell tickets where he says "Oh you're having a baby? Guess who else had a baby?? EVERYONE!!!" I love it

Anyway maybe i'm just saying this because I don't have kids yet, maybe I will end up being the moaniest pregnant woman ever or unable to have a normal conversation after childbirth, but for now, it bugs the crap out of me!!! Anybody else feel the same???

I wonder if they have a handshake or maybe flash their boobs at each other, has to be something! I bet they have an altar where Liga is god! :eek:

AnonoBoy

Some people are whiny moany annoying idiots. If they didn't have kids they'd annoy the sh*te out of us some other way I'm sure.

beegirl

phasers wrote: »

People with kids are always boring, entitled tossers for about 18 months tbh, from the beginning of the pregnancy til the kid is ~9 months old.

This girl's kid is over one year old now, so her time to be a tosser has officially expired, as has my patience :rolleyes:

Stephentlig

Cant see the problem to be honest, they are just excited about having kids, there is always a danger of going over the top in anything.

for example this one woman I know loves her dog so much she even takes him for a happy meal and dresses him up in baby clothes and even keeps his teeth that fall out. :eek:

So in all fairness your friend could be worse, but she is just excited about it, and if she is pregnant and chooses the disable parking for fear of losing her child then I really cant blame her, she might not be as strong minded as other women but I do applaud her for doing her best to take care of her child and I cant see that as being over the top.

Pax Christi
Stephen

Dudess

beegirl wrote: »

Why is it that when SOME women are around other mothers, they keep talking about their kids non-stop.

Because they've something in common with them.

F.A.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJRzBpFjJS8

G-Money

Some people just tend to rattle on incessantly about stuff. How annoying is it to hear someone constantly bang on about their partner. Dropping them into every conversation.

It's like they're trying to convince you that someone actually likes them. Or to rub your face in it that you don't have a chance with them.

stovelid

Dudess wrote: »

Because they've something in common with them.

More to the point: what about those selfish groups of bastards with no children who insist on discussing topics of mutual interest amongst themselves that don't involve children?!

minidazzler

beegirl wrote: »

Wasn't quite sure where to post this but I need a little rant to get it off my chest! I am prepared for the world of abuse I am probably about to get

Why is it that SOME pregnant women play up being pregnant to the max, when there's not even anything wrong with them? For example, one friend who moaned constantly for nine months (but never had morning sickness or anything else) - she wouldn't even carry a few books and used to park in the handicapped parking spot in work :eek: Whereas other friends of mine just seem to take it all on the chin, even when they have difficult pregnancies.

Seriously? But pregnancy is a sexually transmitted disease, not a disability.

beegirl

Dudess wrote: »

Because they've something in common with them.

Yes of course - but after an hour it's like "hmm don't we have OTHER things in common too?" And what about the childless people at the table? I have no problem with it to a certain extent but I do think it's actually rude to exclude one or two people from a conversation after a certain amount of time.

Dudess

stovelid wrote: »

More to the point: what about those selfish groups of bastards with no children who insist on discussing topics of mutual interest amongst themselves that don't involve children?!

Oh you mean those fuckers who share e.g. a love/extensive knowledge of photography and they discuss photography with each other? Tossers!
Even this place has forums for people to do that! :mad:

bronte

I have a mate who I just know is going to be a complete nightmare if and when she ever reproduces.
Even now all she talks about is babies babies babies.
Goddammit you're 25 FFS!

I've stopped telling her when I start dating someone new because the first thing she asks is "When are you gonna get married and have kids?" Wtf?

Maybe I should put her in a creche or something.

stovelid

beegirl wrote: »

Yes of course - but after an hour it's like "hmm don't we have OTHER things in common too?" And what about the childless people at the table? I have no problem with it to a certain extent but I do think it's actually rude to exclude one or two people from a conversation after a certain amount of time.

Next time you have to go forearmed

Dudess

beegirl wrote: »

Yes of course - but after an hour it's like "hmm don't we have OTHER things in common too?"

To be fair, having a baby is such a major thing, it's probably going to be the only topic of interest for them, even if they have other things in common - and I don't think that's unreasonable.

And what about the childless people at the table? I have no problem with it to a certain extent but I do think it's actually rude to exclude one or two people from a conversation after a certain amount of time.

Well I agree with that - if there are non mommies in the group, move on to something else after a while.

minidazzler

bronte wrote: »

I have a mate who I just know is going to be a complete nightmare if and when she ever reproduces.
Even now all she talks about is babies babies babies.
Goddammit you're 25 FFS!

I've stopped telling her when I start dating someone new because the first thing she asks is "When are you gonna get married and have kids?" Wtf?

Maybe I should put her in a creche or something.

Bad idea, she will probably run off with a baby!

Nevyn

I hate people who when they find out I have kids turn the conversation to kids.
I am out of the house in a pub I don't want to talk about my brats can we not go back to talking about life the universe and everything they way we were before?

sam34

whatever about peopel you know banging on about their pregnancy/kids ad nauseum, it's a milion times worse when a stranger does it, eg on a train/plane

while i'm sure that they perceive their kids to be adorable and endearing, they mean absolutely nothing to me and i do not want to hear about them

DublinWriter

beegirl wrote: »

And what about the childless people at the table?

History will breed them out of existence.

Cheap Thrills!

Seems to be two types of parents, normal ones who admit it's not all roses and are capable of talking about other stuff as well as God forbids.

Then, there are the 'others'....all they sh!te on about is their kids turds, potty lessons and soon everybody even other parents avoid them.

The sort of fcuker who stalks the playgroup teacher and bores everyone within a 10 mile radius boasting about little Humptys first fit/sh1t/armpit.

The sort of cnut that streams an endless parade of smug minutiae on faceache that you have to hide, hide, hide.....the sort of cnut who has 7 billion posts on mumsn*t and has some supposedly ironic cute username like ChunkyArsedMum etc etc

Dudess

F.A. wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tJRzBpFjJS8

I often wonder whether childless women who have that much resentment towards pregnant women are envious?

sam34

Cheap Thrills! wrote: »

Seems to be two types of parents, normal ones who admit it's not all roses and are capable of talking about other stuff as well as God forbids.

Then, there are the 'others'....all they sh!te on about is their kids turds, potty lessons and soon everybody even other parents avoid them.

The sort of fcuker who stalks the playgroup teacher and bores everyone within a 10 mile radius boasting about little Humptys first fit/sh1t/armpit.

The sort of cnut that streams an endless parade of smug minutiae on faceache that you have to hide, hide, hide.....the sort of cnut who has 7 billion posts on mumsn*t and has some supposedly ironic cute username like ChunkyArsedMum etc etc

i got stuck sitting beside a woman recently at a conference, never met her before in my life... within 3 mins she told me that her "cherub" had come into her room that morning and asked to be brought to the loo, which apparently was a great achievement in their household :rolleyes:

quite why she thought this might interest me was beyond me

Toto Wolfcastle

I know a girl who has had a difficult pregnancy who travels a for over an hour to get to work and has barely missed one day of work. Even after scans she has driven to work despite there being very little time left in the working day. She never moans. She gets on with it.

I have known others who have milked it for all it's worth despite there being absolutely nothing wrong with them. Staying off work for weeks on end doing nothing useful. No problem heading out at night of course, but going to work is an issue. I hate this. But of course if you said anything to them you'd be the worst person in the world.

In my experience the vast majority of pregnant women get on with things. The rest are those with legitimate complaints and worries and those who milk it.

G-Money

I don't know what's worse - a child that won't shut up, or a parent who won't shut up about their child.

stovelid

grandmaster wrote: »

I don't know what's worse - a child that won't shut up, or a parent who won't shut up about their child.

A parent that won't shut about a child that itself won't shut up?

kdave

It seems that there is some jealousy involved here because if there wasn't then you would either laugh at them or pity them for going on about their kids

sse

kdave wrote: »

It seems that there is some jealousy involved here because if there wasn't then you would either laugh at them or pity them for going on about their kids

What the :eek:.......or maybe people are just sick of listening to the sh1t coming out of their mouths...and you have to pretend you're interested and nod the head or else you're the biggest d1ck in the world

When the bridezillas BIG day is over, they have nothing else to obsess about, so next step.......babies, babies, babies!

sam34

kdave wrote: »

It seems that there is some jealousy involved here because if there wasn't then you would either laugh at them or pity them for going on about their kids

nope, not jealous at all i can assure you.

in teh same way as people who drone on endlessly about any interest of theirs that i dont share, and fail to pick up on the normal social cues that i am not interested, these people appear to me to be rude and self-obsessed.

kowloon

People who talk too much about their jobs (or careers :rolleyes:) rank highly here.

beegirl

kdave wrote: »

It seems that there is some jealousy involved here because if there wasn't then you would either laugh at them or pity them for going on about their kids

Definitely not jealous, delighted to be footloose and child-free, for now anyway

It just really makes me wonder why some people treat pregnancy and motherhood as the be-all-and-end-all of their lives while others just get on with it, talk about it a reasonable amount but also manage to maintain their other interests. I hope if I do ever have kids that I don't lose interest in everything else!

stovelid

beegirl wrote: »

It just really makes me wonder why some people treat pregnancy and motherhood as the be-all-and-end-all of their lives while others just get on with it, talk about it a reasonable amount but also manage to maintain their other interests. I hope if I do ever have kids that I don't lose interest in everything else!

Seems to me that they're not the only only ones who can't stop talking about babies and motherhood?

And as for the theory that friends shouldn't ever discuss things that are of no interest to their friends. If only that were the case when you are expected to hear version #23432 of My Job/My Dreams/My Lovelife/My Night Out/The Size of My Arse In This

beegirl

stovelid wrote: »

Seems to me that they're not the only only ones who can't stop talking about babies and motherhood?

Only only only only only...

By the way your burger picture is really unappetising at this hour, yuk

Wibbs

bronte wrote: »

I have a mate who I just know is going to be a complete nightmare if and when she ever reproduces.
Even now all she talks about is babies babies babies.
Goddammit you're 25 FFS!

I've stopped telling her when I start dating someone new because the first thing she asks is "When are you gonna get married and have kids?" Wtf?

Maybe I should put her in a creche or something.

Any guy would want to get his tubes tied before getting busy with her

sam34

stovelid wrote: »

Seems to me that they're not the only only ones who can't stop talking about babies and motherhood?

And as for the theory that friends shouldn't ever discuss things that are of no interest to their friends. If only that were the case when you are expected to hear version #23432 of My Job/My Dreams/My Lovelife/My Night Out/The Size of My Arse In This

i dont think anyone is saying people shouldn't ever discuss these things.

it's the people who talk incessantly about them, to the exclusion of all other topics of conversation, that people are complaining about

bronte

Wibbs wrote: »

Any guy would want to get his tubes tied before getting busy with her

Herself should come with a warning sign! :pac:

Bless her!

speedboatchase

What about Facebook? I had to delete my toolbag of an ex-boss cos she kept changing her profile pic to her ugly children, talking about them in her status messages ("...." loves her babies xxxxx) and describing herself constantly as "a great mammy".

It's definetely only women that act this way (sorry but it is true) - sure how many times have you seen female complete strangers striking up a conversation with one another on the bus cos one has brought on a buggy?

ps. The Office Christmas Special took the piss out of this type of person, I think Tim had a new person that sits next to him and she was insufferable

ocokev

janeybabe wrote: »

I have known others who have milked it
In my experience the vast majority of pregnant women get on with things. The rest are those with legitimate complaints and worries and those who milk it.

Those who milk it are about to be milked.

These are the same women whose new borns go to sleep at 7pm and sleep right through to 9am.
There babies never cry.

sam34

what really freaks me out is when these women record their kids laughing and then set is as their mobile ringtone

GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hagar

SOME pregnant women and the 'mammy' club

Women.

FYP

beegirl

Hagar wrote: »

Women.

FYP

Hah?? You're going to have to spell that out, I'm not down with the acronyms


Edit: never mind I googled it...

OutlawPete

Don't think it has anything to do with pregnancy.

Any women that I know that became all smug about being pregnant, were smug pretentious twits before becoming impregnated.

On a side note, pregnant women look hot.

Hrududu

I don't think the baby talk annoys me. Its just the way they turn every conversation to it. I think in general its just people who have no awareness of other people. They'll always do that, if they don't have kids they'd be steering every conversation to some other topic they love, regardless of whether anyone else is interested or not.

ShagNastii

If you hate this , never listen to the Ray D'Arcy radio show. It's is a rule he was to mention pregnancy or his young kid fifty five thousand times thoughout the show seemedly whenever he gets the chance to say it.

RD:.......And that was King of Leon with sex on fire! I'll get to some of your texts.

Text: Oh my God Ray that song was amazing. It reminds me of when I was pregnant. God I miss those times. I was pregnant for 9 months don't you know. My partner on I conceived again last night. "We" are pregant again yippppppeee!!!!!

bronte

OutlawPete wrote: »

On a side note, pregnant women look hot.

You're about the 50th bloke I've heard say this.

speedboatchase

ShagNastii wrote: »

Text: Oh my God Ray that song was amazing. It reminds me of when I was pregnant. God I miss those times. I was pregnant for 9 months don't you know. My partner on I conceived again last night. "We" are pregant again yippppppeee!!!!!

Arrrgh THIS. "We are expecting" is acceptable, as is "We are having a baby together" but YOU are pregnant!