Settling for Mr/Mrs Just Alright?

gagiteebo

I just read an article in a magazine about how a lot of people these days are settling for someone because they are afraid of ending up alone.

One guy said that his dad advised him when he was growing up to play the field with good-looking women, but to settle with a Plain Jane for less trouble. He's now in his 30's and after pursuing mini-Cheryl Coles for years he's now in a long-term realtionship with a more homely brunette whilst confessing he still dreams of a more glamourous ex. He added that his mates have done the same..

Just wondering what your opinions are

dr.bollocko

That depends on a number of factors. Is Plain Jane Jungle Jane in the bedroom?

KevinVonSpiel

gagiteebo wrote: »

One guy said that his dad advised him when he was growing up to play the field with good-looking women, but to settle with a Plain Jane for less trouble.

I'm wondering what the Plain Jane's Mammy told her.

brummytom

gagiteebo wrote: »

I just read an article in a magazine about how a lot of people these days are settling for someone because they are afraid of ending up alone.

One guy said that his dad advised him when he was growing up to play the field with good-looking women, but to settle with a Plain Jane for less trouble. He's now in his 30's and after pursuing mini-Cheryl Coles for years he's now in a long-term realtionship with a more homely brunette whilst confessing he still dreams of a more glamourous ex. He added that his mates have done the same..

Just wondering what your opinions are

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?threadid=2055874242

Kiera

I'd rather die all alone than settle tbh.

OutlawPete

"People be liking regular sex, panic sets in, you'll do." .. is what they* say.

*Some random no marks say this, not me mind

G-Money

I've actually been a bit confused by all this recently and most likely am thinking about it too much. I mean do you only date people who when you meet them you get this surge of excitement and interest? Or people who you're a bit "meh" over but you give them a chance to see what happens?

For me the problem is that the number of people you meet who give you that spark and surge of excitement is so low it's almost non-existent. Also, I don't know if that expectation is just a result of this thing in society where relationships seem to have to be all electricity and red hot passion and if it's not like that straight away it isn't worth pursuing.

epgc3fyqirnbsx

TBH I think people have always settled to an extent. There's too many unrealistic expectations these days.
That said I will settle for nothing less than a Nigella Lawson in the kitchen and a Heather Brook in the bedroom

4zn76tysfajdxp

Settling is stupid. Why should anyone settle? Yet almost everyone does. People are just so unambitious, damn it. I don't just wanna survive, I WANNA LIVE!!!


/unhinged rant


In conclusion, I wouldn't settle.

RMD

Settling for less than your perfect is the reason divorce rates are rising.

I'd only look for perfect in personality, you can settle for looks but you can't strive for perfect looks and settle on personality, it just doesn't work.

AnonoBoy

I don't see what's so bad about a plane jane, I went out with a plane jane once.

She was this Air Hostess from Croatia. Crazy fun! A complete animal in the bedroom and so much fun to go out boozing with. Ah those memories will live with me forever!







Oh wait.... plain jane.

I'm sure I'm somebody's Plain Jane. In fact I'm convinced all the girls I've been with could have done a lot better.

Joey the lips

dr.bollocko wrote: »

That depends on a number of factors. Is Plain Jane Jungle Jane in the bedroom?

This has always been my thoughts..... Imagine having a lovely women/fella that does not give a shoite about sex or a nice bit of love...

feelpablo

Ill settle for anyone who will have me!!!



but obviously not a munter

Joey the lips

There is actually a deeper question within this thread. What happens if you dont settle.... Wake up one day. Having had about 20 partners. But at the end of the day

your now 50. Home alone and no-one, women or kids to share it with....

Would the sex with all those women have become plain as such and now your life worthless.....?

Rabies

Not gonna settle.
Whats the point shagging someone you're not in anyway attracted to, let alone getting married.

Madness!

mikom

Contents may settle during transit...... tbh.

biko

Also when you grow up 30+ there are more considerations than just wild sex.
This probably will look as settling for the younger ones.

Btw, this is the second "settling" thread in 3 days, hmm.

RHunce

Joey the lips wrote: »

There is actually a deeper question within this thread. What happens if you dont settle.... Wake up one day. Having had about 20 partners. But at the end of the day

your now 50. Home alone and no-one, women or kids to share it with....

Would the sex with all those women have become plain as such and now your life worthless.....?

deeeeeeeeeeeeep

petes

Joey the lips wrote: »

There is actually a deeper question within this thread. What happens if you dont settle.... Wake up one day. Having had about 20 partners. But at the end of the day

your now 50. Home alone and no-one, women or kids to share it with....

Would the sex with all those women have become plain as such and now your life worthless.....?

Just go to Thailand in that case.

Kiera

biko wrote: »

Also when you grow up 30+ there are more considerations than just wild sex.
This probably will look as settling for the younger ones.

Btw, this is the second "settling" thread in 3 days, hmm.

You're kidding, right? I'm 30 and thats on the top of my "list"

The_Minister

Meh.

Everyone wants a mate in that top 5%, but realistically there aren't that many of them to go around, so people go for what they can get.

Someone might want a Lexus, but that shouldn't mean that they refuse to drive a Fiat.

Most of us aren't in the super-hot, super-fun category, and realistically people in that category want someone else in that category, so we have to 'settle' for less than our ideal mate.

I have been informed though that if you like them enough it doesn't feel like settling, but like happiness.

super_furry

I dunno, a great sex life is still pretty much one of the top things I'd look for in a relationship. However, things that were important to me in my younger days - girl having a perfect figure for example - don't seem to matter as much now. Conversely, things that wouldn't have mattered as much to me when I was in my teens/early 20s, like sharing similar interests, great conversation and a mental connection are much more essential now.

I don't think it's a case of settling, rather a change in priorities and what you want to get out of a relationship.

Lux23

I think I would consider myself lucky to find someone who is just alright with my track record. I don't think I could ever be with someone just for the sake of it though, there would have to be money or something.

Latchy

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Joey the lips wrote: »

There is actually a deeper question within this thread. What happens if you dont settle.... Wake up one day. Having had about 20 partners. But at the end of the day

your now 50. Home alone and no-one, women or kids to share it with....

deep ......:D

Which is probably reason why many do settle for Mr /Mrs just alright and doesn't mean that they aren't er..... happy .:eek:

It's just maybe the time span for finding the ideal man /womon ran out and people learn to adapt and comprmise to find some some stability ....ran out of options

Would the sex with all those women have become plain as such and now your life worthless.....?

Not really , unless you can sustain the same sexual energy with women into your 50s, 60s, 70s as you could when younger they get filed away under great memories

Abi

OutlawPete wrote: »

People be liking regular sex, panic sets in, you'll do.

Cutting off the supply isn't an attractive option :pac:

Theodore Glamorous Sink wrote: »

Settling is stupid. Why should anyone settle? Yet almost everyone does. People are just so unambitious, damn it. I don't just wanna survive, I WANNA LIVE!!!


/unhinged rant


In conclusion, I wouldn't settle.

I don't think a lot of people realise they are just settling when they do. I pretty much went through all the 'steps' that are expected of couples. Woke up one day thinking... how the blue fuck did I get here??!

/eject button

Joey the lips wrote: »

There is actually a deeper question within this thread. What happens if you dont settle.... Wake up one day. Having had about 20 partners. But at the end of the day

your now 50. Home alone and no-one, women or kids to share it with....

.......

......................... :eek:


/rings ex

























































NOT.

OutlawPete

Abitar wrote: »

Cutting off the supply isn't an attractive option :pac:

I was just role playing* with that comment.

I gave my true feelings on the last thread.

I'm not feeling very deep today, one line replies are all I can muster

I shall edit my post now so as to clarify, I will NEVER settle :mad:

Now I've typed five lines, thanks Abi :mad:



*you have a filthy mind

Abi

OutlawPete wrote: »

I was just role playing* with that comment.

I gave my true feelings on the last thread.

I'm not feeling very deep today, one line replies are all I can muster

I shall edit my post now so as to clarify, I will NEVER settle :mad:

Now I've typed five lines, thanks Abi :mad:



*you have a filthy mind

Doesn't matter if you were messing or not, I was fucking serious

4zn76tysfajdxp

Abitar wrote: »

I don't think a lot of people realise they are just settling when they do. I pretty much went through all the 'steps' that are expected of couples. Woke up one day thinking... how the blue fuck did I get here??!

/eject button

Afraid of commitment, eh? Pass. :cool:

Abi

Theodore Glamorous Sink wrote: »

Afraid of commitment, eh? Pass. :cool:

But they all have lovely bottoms

AnonoBoy

mikom wrote: »

Contents may settle during transit...... tbh.

Are we talking mail-order brides again?

Latchy

AnonoBoy wrote: »

Are we talking mail-order brides again?

Or blow up dolls brides with attachements ?

G-Money

Blow-up brides aren't too bad, or so I hear...

I would settle alright... for some tasty girl from Hottieoaks. :cool:

Magenta

There's already a thread on this.

nehpets10

I don't think many people "settle" to be honest. And the ones that do end up getting divorced. Wait.. did I just contradict myself?

opinion guy

grandmaster wrote: »

I've actually been a bit confused by all this recently and most likely am thinking about it too much. I mean do you only date people who when you meet them you get this surge of excitement and interest? Or people who you're a bit "meh" over but you give them a chance to see what happens?

People have been telling me for years to give random someones a chance. eh NO. I'm an adult I know what I like and what I don't like. I'll not be giving people a chance just to placate other people.

For me the problem is that the number of people you meet who give you that spark and surge of excitement is so low it's almost non-existent. Also, I don't know if that expectation is just a result of this thing in society where relationships seem to have to be all electricity and red hot passion and if it's not like that straight away it isn't worth pursuing.

I also feel that the number of people you meet with the right spark are very low. I guess its one every 3 to 5 years. And then you gotta hope circumstances allow for something to happen.

Personally, I used to be a fervent anti-settler. But then I had my heart ripped from my chest so many times I don't know what I feel anymore. Honestly since the last time I just don't feel the same at all (nor do I ever expect to). So the circuitry in my brain that deals with all this settling/non-settling type of stuff is just completely fried currently. I don't know will it ever be unfried. In fact lately I find myself thinking more about being a career person, not getting married and not having a family (sparked in part by looking after someones else's kid recently and having no clue where anyone gets the time and energy to deal with kids cause i sure don't have it).

opinion guy

Abitar wrote: »

Cutting off the supply isn't an attractive option :pac:

<snip>

OutlawPete wrote: »

I was just role playing* with that comment.

I gave my true feelings on the last thread.

I'm not feeling very deep today, one line replies are all I can muster

I shall edit my post now so as to clarify, I will NEVER settle :mad:

Now I've typed five lines, thanks Abi :mad:



*you have a filthy mind

Won't you two just get a room ??? :P

Abi

opinion guy wrote: »

Won't you two just get a room ??? :P

Shhhh you. I was warming him up to that! :mad:



*drags knuckles*

Fackin' vag blocked again

G-Money

opinion guy wrote: »

Won't you two just get a room ??? :P

I'm pretty sure Abitar is actually male so that's probably why!

itsallaboutheL

Is there something in the water around here at the moment??

Something seems to have induced a collective period...


*weeps in corner*

I WANT CHOCOLATE

epgc3fyqirnbsx

itsallaboutheL wrote: »

Is there something in the water around here at the moment??

Something seems to have induced a collective period...


*weeps in corner*

I WANT CHOCOLATE

Settle Petal

Abi

grandmaster wrote: »

I'm pretty sure Abitar is actually male so that's probably why!

Mini Dazzler I blame you!!


And he is a bloody tranny :pac:



/gives up

itsallaboutheL

Abitar wrote: »

/gives up

NICE...


/settles on Abi

Latchy

itsallaboutheL wrote: »

NICE...


/settles on Abi

Joins the queue. . . . . .

Kasabian

grandmaster wrote: »

I'm pretty sure Abitar is actually male so that's probably why!

'ha ha, how wrong are you'

Abi

lonad wrote: »

Ha ha ,

I think you'll find thats 'ha ha, how wrong are you'

opinion guy

itsallaboutheL wrote: »

Is there something in the water around here at the moment??

Something seems to have induced a collective period...


*weeps in corner*

I WANT CHOCOLATE

I'm having a mocha as we speak type

G-Money

In the event that Abitar is actually female, she can join the queue for me :cool:

itsallaboutheL

opinion guy wrote: »

I'm having a mocha as we speak type

I settled for some sugary tea and a giant man sized tampon. :pac:

Kasabian

Abitar wrote: »

I think you'll find thats 'ha ha, how wrong are you'

There you go:P

questioner

my girlfriend settled for me, man am i glad

OutlawPete

Abitar wrote: »

Mini Dazzler I blame you!!

Nope, it'd be the Feminists that are to blame.

All these years they've been saying men are bastards forcing women to do naked dirty things.

Making women touch their bad sticks and forcing them to watch blue movies and talk like pornstars.

Then along come sexy women like you AH ladies and dammit to hell, we just can't believe you are pervs and have vaginas too :mad:

It doesn't add up I tells ya.