would you change for the one you love

gonnaplayrugby

So lets say you liked a girl, but she didn't like you back - would you change in order to try get her to like you?

Kiera

Hell no!

msg11

Change into a mad man , keep her locked in the cage in the dungeon.

That will teach her. She'll love you after that I am sure of it.

Bloody Nipples

I'd just accept it's not meant to be and move on.
Not that I've ever had this problem.

biko

What change? Was I a dirty slob before without friends? Am I a nicer/better guy after the change?

baltimore sun

well i wouldn't join a church/go to church for her or nothing.

but it was simple things like keepin the house clean, i'd try but i wouldn't swear less or nothing important like that.

depends though, is she marriage material or do you just wanna bone her? If it's just for a boning then yea, i'd change everything coz it'll only be until you rock her kasbah, but for marriage material no way, if you're gonna spend your remaining years you may as well be with a chick that actually like you the way you are

Sprouts

Change what? You can't change what you are. You could pretend for long enough to get to get the leg over, but when she realises this, youre finished.

Biggins

"No"

She should like you from the start, the way you are.
After becoming a couple, ye both will change but thats natural progression as ye are reacting to one anothers needs as ye get to know them better.

Its a change of actions thats needed sometimes, not a change of personality.

Tigger

are we talking different trousers and going to the odd museum or getting me junk lobbed off and being called samantha

biko

I can honestly say I have changed a little for every girlfriend I've had.
It's called compromise and it's the only way for two people to have a relationship.

RichieO

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

So lets say you liked a girl, but she didn't like you back - would you change in order to try get her to like you?

When you fully understand the difference between "LIKE" "LOVE" and "LUST" you will know the answer...

bronte

No, I'm way too old and contrary and set in my weird ways.

bnt

I've been in situations before where there was apparently some kind of problem, and I was supposed to do something about it ... but the other person could not tell me what the problem was or what I could do about it. We're talking toddler-level discourse here:
"waaaah! something's wrong!"
"What? What's wrong? What can I do?"
"waaaaaah! fix it! waaaah!"

RoadRunner

I probably would change.. but I have been wearing these underpants for a long time now.

yermandan

Biggins wrote: »

"No"

She should like you from the start, the way you are.
After becoming a couple, ye both will change but thats natural progression as ye are reacting to one anothers needs as ye get to know them better.

Its a change of actions thats needed sometimes, not a change of personality.

This man talks sense, took the words out of my mouth!

dr.bollocko

Hell no son.
I put the STD in stud.

Abi

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

So lets say you liked a girl, but she didn't like you back - would you change in order to try get her to like you?

+1 Biggins



You shouldn't need to change for anyone, if you do then they're wrong for you.

PeterIanStaker

Marge "When I met your father, he was loud, rude and obnoxious, but he's changed"

Lisa "But Mom . . . ?"

Marge "I said he's changed!"

Naos

Ah the Simpsons has everything, brilliant.

As for change, really it depends. As someone mentioned, if it's something like being a little neater then yeah I could give that a shot as it benefits me.

Try to change something fundamental like the mates I hang out with and she'd be shown the door.

gonnaplayrugby

no guys u dont get me. this is like trying to get someone to like u...not if ur already in a relationship. and i guess the one thing we can never truly change is how we look. a girl/guy is either attracted to u or they not doesnt matter about the hairstyle, the clothes you wear or the talents u got

UrbanSea

As abitar and biggins said,why would you change if they love you as you are?
However,I see that myself and nulty are a possible love match.
If he/she (I think he) wished for me to change,then I would metamorphise into whatever could get me closer to them.



Lol.

Biggins

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

no guys u dont get me. this is like trying to get someone to like u...not if ur already in a relationship. and i guess the one thing we can never truly change is how we look. a girl/guy is either attracted to u or they not doesnt matter about the hairstyle, the clothes you wear or the talents u got

I know what your trying to get at.

If you feel you need changing - ask yourself a question - Do you need changing for them or really for yourself in the long term interest?

* If your changing for a single person (to be attracted to you), your changing for a variable that is further open to change later in itself anyway...
* If your changing for yourself (to seek further happiness for example) then the change within you will stay (if you so chose to remain that way) and those seeing you will have to still accept you for what you are as they see you in a moment of real time.

I hope that makes sense.

tman

I change my underpants every day now just to keep her sweet, so I guess I can change in more ways than one...

Abi

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

no guys u dont get me. this is like trying to get someone to like u...not if ur already in a relationship. and i guess the one thing we can never truly change is how we look. a girl/guy is either attracted to u or they not doesnt matter about the hairstyle, the clothes you wear or the talents u got

Right, well have you ever given her any indication that you do like her?

stovelid

The only change that should happen is the kind that comes from mutual compromise when you're actually in a relationship.

Overhauling yourself to seek approval from somebody else , on the other hand, is wrong and sets a bad precedent.

You may as well be yourself and somebody will like that for what it is.

cafecolour

No point in changing who you are to get someone who isn't interested. First off, they already know you and aren't going to buy it. Second, you'll have to maintain the fiction permanently, which is exhausting.

alwaysadub

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

no guys u dont get me. this is like trying to get someone to like u...not if ur already in a relationship. and i guess the one thing we can never truly change is how we look. a girl/guy is either attracted to u or they not doesnt matter about the hairstyle, the clothes you wear or the talents u got

You can't make someone like you,no matter how hard you try.

And no,i wouldn't change for someone,if they don't like me for who i am, they can go fcuk themselves

entropi

No, never change...be who you are, not what you want others to see you as.

You can never be less than you are, but can always become something more:)

Reeni

Sure you can change certain habits or behaviours, or there is a natural change when in a relationship, there's a certain amount of compromise. But you shouldn't change who you are just to have someone like you!

If you start doing that then why have a personality at all, you could just change to suit the people around you. Just be yourself, and if she doesn't like you then its not meant to be. There are plenty of girls out there I'm sure who will!

gonnaplayrugby

but i really like this girl. i cant get her off my mind

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

yermandan wrote: »

This man talks sense, took the words out of my mouth!

Biggins is the voice of reason and wisdom. Honest...



I have in the past and I will in the future. The main thing I change is my weight. That's perfectly understandable to me though and I have no problem doing it. I went from 96KG 16 months ago, to 83KG now. But I also do this for myeslf, so it's killing two birds wtih one stone. If I was asked directly to do this I probably wouldn't. Some people need change and others do not. I wouldn't change dramatically for anybody, such as beliefs and the likes. My ex has a very religious and political family, they didn't like me because I didn't go to mass and I didn't vote for their party, but I couldn't give a damn about that.

Simple things like shaving, not shaving, exercising, etc etc wouldn't bother me. I mean, if it benifits me too then it's not such a problem, right? I wouldn't change something if I didn't benifit from it or I didn't like the change. You know?

entropi

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

but i really like this girl. i cant get her off my mind

Are you sure this is that old case of "love at first sight"? or just pure lust, because you want her so bad?

Abi

gonnaplayrugby wrote: »

but i really like this girl. i cant get her off my mind

Yes, but does she know that?

Gummy Panda

I'd only change if it was positive change for myself and not to keep someone else happy.

entropi

Abitar wrote: »

Yes, but does she know that?

Aye, the only way she's gonna know is to tell her...otherwise it'll just consume you:(

I was gonna say "eat you up", but didnt want Abi to crack a joke off it

Abi

Master of Nothing wrote: »

Aye, the only way she's gonna know is to tell her...otherwise it'll just consume you:(

I've a feeling he hasn't told her

I was gonna say "eat you up", but didnt want Abi to crack a joke off it

Too late, the damage is done now.



Eat me babes

galwayrush

Kiera wrote: »

Hell no!

I wouldnt expect you to change for any girl either.:D

scallywags

i had an option of giving up smokes drugs drink to become a muslim to marry two girls i met who said they would marry me if became muslim. what u think of that change?

Kasabian

I have had the dubious pleasure of being in a relationship where the other persons sole agenda was to change me into something that they wanted. I in my own stupidity attempted to change out a false sense of owing them something and confusing it for compromise. Once I had opened that door it just led to a complete breakdown of reason to my life and eventually people just got hurt, mostly me.

I have changed many things about myself as I get older but they are for myself and subsequentially others have benefitted. This has brought me happiness and a realisation that you can only be trully happy by being yourself.

Tigger

two girls

i'm sure you could always change back thats what i think

entropi

Abitar wrote: »

I've a feeling he hasn't told her

Aye, sadly

Eat me babes

Good thing you're clean, veggies don't eat fish;)

Tigger

lonad wrote: »

I have had the dubious pleasure of being in a relationship where the other persons sole agenda was to change me into something that they wanted. I in my own stupidity attempted to change out a false sense of owing them something and confusing it for compromise. Once I had opened that door it just led to a complete breakdown of reason to my life and eventually people just got hurt, mostly me.

I have changed many things about myself as I get older but they are for myself and subsequentially others have benefitted. This has brought me happiness and a realisation that you can only be trully happy by being yourself.

or winning this weekends lotto

Gummy Panda

scallywags wrote: »

i had an option of giving up smokes drugs drink to become a muslim to marry two girls i met who said they would marry me if became muslim. what u think of that change?

were they hot and would they les out on each other?

scallywags

ah it was only a joke really but im sure they wud les out on me if thats what u mean

Duggy747

I think this is what usually happens when you let someone change you:
http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc3/hs034.snc3/12136_100425416650625_100000495001580_9976_3703380_n.jpg

Don't change for shìt! Unless you can see it as some sort of advantage or benefit to your well-being then don't change what's you to please somebody else.

Abi

Master of Nothing wrote: »

Good thing you're clean, veggies don't eat fish;)

You is veggie too? cool.


I'm always super clean babes.. ya never know when the moment could strike :pac:

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

Abitar wrote: »

You is veggie too? cool.


I'm always super clean babes.. ya never know when the moment could strike :pac:

"I was walking down the road and I tripped, next thing you know I am sitting on this guys face, thank good I washed me growler before I headed out..."

:P

minidazzler

Technically everyone who knows you knows a slightly altered version of you. You don't act the exact same around everyone.

So, I do change everytime I meet someone.

That said, I would not fake a personality to get a girl, maybe to ride her, but not if I was in love with her.

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

minidazzler wrote: »

Technically everyone who knows you knows a slightly altered version of you. You don't act the exact same around everyone.

So, I do change everytime I meet someone.

That said, I would not fake a personality to get a girl, maybe to ride her, but not if I was in love with her.

But you'd dress up as a woman to get a feel of a mans arse? :P

minidazzler

Cody Polite Switch wrote: »

But you'd dress up as a woman to get a feel of a mans arse? :P

Been there done that, have the corset to prove it....was also felt up ALOT that night....I'm looking at you Zohan and Frada!!!

entropi

Abitar wrote: »

You is veggie too? cool.


I'm always super clean babes.. ya never know when the moment could strike :pac:

*BAM*

And you is veggie?

.../stalk:pac:

minidazzler wrote: »

Been there done that, have the corset to prove it....was also felt up ALOT that night....I'm looking at you Zohan and Frada!!!

I seen things that can never be unseen because of that night...oh wait, I can claim everyone just had a nice beers:p