Feminine straight men. Are OK with them? Are they O.K. with themselves.

Xluna

What do you think of these type of guys,female and male perspectives.
By feminine I don't mean flamboyant,rather men who seem to naturally be comprised of defining aspects of both genders,but veering towards the female end of the spectrum a bit. Firstly, I'm not talking about the stereotypical gay femininity,flamboyance or dramatics nor am I talking about the narcissitic David Beckham metrosexual.

The type of guy I'm on about prefers romance to sex,is genuinely respectful to women,rather than feigning it for a shag. Prefers reading and culture to sports and action movies. Is sensitive,emotional and extremely polite.
I suppose you could say his "Brain sex" is androgynous.

Do men disrespect them? Do women find it unattactive? Any input from feminine men would be great too.

Papa_Lazarou

Why shouldn't i respect them? Some men are just more feminine from being from single parent family etc and that doesnt make them any less normal.. To be honest id rather be a slightly feminine man than those ponses who walk around thinking they are gods gift to women and wear t-shirts about 6 times too small for them.

brummytom

I'm somewhat flamboyant, but not really in a camp way (I know that doesn't make sense, just trust me).


I find really feminine men very odd, and quite frankly, somewhat disturbing

MagicMarker

I don't care.

AnonoBoy

Xluna wrote: »

Any input from feminine men would be great too.

I'm sure it would be but boards.ie is not a dating service unfortunately.

strobe

Xluna wrote: »

What do you think of these type of guys,female and male perspectives.
By feminine I don't mean flamboyant,rather men who seem to naturally be comprised of defining aspects of both genders,but veering towards the female end of the spectrum a bit.

Do men disrespect them? Do women find it unattactive? Any input from feminine men would be great too.

Theres no such thing as a feminine straight man.

lizardfudge

Sometimes I think I love Judy Garland a little too much...

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

strobe wrote: »

Theres no such thing as a feminine straight man.

Not true: the amount of time I've been convinced a guy was gay because of his feminism only to find out he's married with saven kids and has harems in Tallaght, Balbriggan and Bray, or something.

Seriously, I think they're on to something...

corkcomp

strobe wrote: »

Theres no such thing as a feminine straight man.

thats a load of bollix anyway..

MagicMarker

strobe wrote: »

Theres no such thing as a feminine straight man.

And so it begins...

MIN2511

Are you talking about METROSEXUALS????

Femine straight men = GAY!!!

mikom

Xluna wrote: »

Feminine straight men.

I don't know whether to punch them or kiss them...

Minstrel27

Xluna wrote: »

What do you think of these type of guys,female and male perspectives.
By feminine I don't mean flamboyant,rather men who seem to naturally be comprised of defining aspects of both genders,but veering towards the female end of the spectrum a bit.

Do men disrespect them? Do women find it unattactive? Any input from feminine men would be great too.

Metrosexuals I think you are talking about. I don't disrespect them. I am friends with one.

Xluna

Minstrel27 wrote: »

Metrosexuals I think you are talking about. I don't disrespect them. I am friends with one.

What's a metrosexual?

Caveat

Feminine? Really depends.

I'm not camp but am argubaly feminine by blokeish standards - hate pub banter, sport, action movies, stuff about war, hate what I would see as macho posturing (be it on the street, in business or whatever) In fact hate 'packs' of men in most circumstances. Prefer the company of women. Take reasonable care of my appearance (moisturising etc)

A lot of men would regard that as feminine I suppose and would be suspicious of it. Women don't seem to mind as far as I can see.

Liam Byrne

Metrosexuals and campness are irritating in the extreme.

That said, the other stereotypical extremes (overly-aggressive and loud) are too.

AckwelFoley

Xluna wrote: »

What's a metrosexual?

straight men that spend more time getting ready than their girlfriends

ie.. the oppsite to me

Xluna

invalidusername wrote: »

straight men that spend more time getting ready than their girlfriends

ie.. the oppsite to me

Nah that's not really what I mean by feminine men at all.

Ridley

lizardfudge wrote: »

Sometimes I think I love Judy Garland a little too much...

http://www.hollow-hill.com/sabina/images/new-gay-stereotype.jpg

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I don't think western society as a whole wants to be around the traditional male and female stereotypes anymore. Male at least, anyway. Otherwise adverts wouldn't be encouraging guys to spend so much time shaping their hair.

Guys whose philosophy is football and sex irritate me as much as camp does.

Red_Marauder

I don't really care to be honest.

As someone who comes from a family of six sisters and quite a camp mother, I'm just quite glad personally that I kept my penis, and don't like musicals. But I find camp people can be quite entertaining and rarely boring, which is such a relief.

If I'm ever at a party or having a meal in a group, I inevitably seem to find myself laughing away with the camp/ gay people.

I'd far rather camp company than dull company. Gay weddings must be hilarious I reckon.

Iwasfrozen

Red_Marauder wrote: »

I don't really care to be honest.

Then why did you bother responding ?

tech77

Why isn't the thread title in the proper format:

"Can you really say you're OK with... feminine straight men?"

electrogrimey

What's feminine? Men who get periods? Men who get no hair on their arse?

Or are you just being ignorant, and calling men who shower everyday and pay more than a fiver for a haircut ignorant?

Xluna

electrogrimey wrote: »

What's feminine? Men who get periods? Men who get no hair on their arse?

Or are you just being ignorant, and calling men who shower everyday and pay more than a fiver for a haircut ignorant?

Nope. I'm on about men whose cogniative process seem to be veering towards the female gender. I never mentioned anything about showering or dressing flamboyantly.

Caveat

Caveat wrote: »

Feminine? Really depends.

I'm not camp but am argubaly feminine by blokeish standards - hate pub banter, sport, action movies, stuff about war, hate what I would see as macho posturing (be it on the street, in business or whatever) In fact hate 'packs' of men in most circumstances. Prefer the company of women. Take reasonable care of my appearance (moisturising etc)

A lot of men would regard that as feminine I suppose and would be suspicious of it. Women don't seem to mind as far as I can see.

Where would this stand then Xluna? Not exactly sure what you mean TBH

jd007

Mikoms ghost... wrote: »

I don't know whether to punch them or kiss them...

Do both?

changes

Xluna wrote: »

Nah that's not really what I mean by feminine men at all.

do you mean like a straight julian cleary or brian dowling type (i.e. camp as a row of tents but not gay)

Red_Marauder

Iwasfrozen wrote: »

Then why did you bother responding ?

so I could interact with you

Rhyme

Xluna wrote: »

What's a metrosexual?

Sex with trains.

Iwasfrozen

Red_Marauder wrote: »

so I could interact with you

That's nice. Tough I hadn't posted in this forum prior to responding to your post...

Xluna

changes wrote: »

do you mean like a straight julian cleary or brian dowling type (i.e. camp as a row of tents but not gay)

It's hard to explain,but I'll do my best. Firstly, I'm not talking about the stereotypical gay femininity,flamboyance or dramatics nor am I talking about the narcissitic David Beckham metrosexual.

The type of guy I'm on about prefers romance to sex,is genuinely respectful to women,rather than feigning it for a shag. Prefers reading and culture to sports and action movies. Is sensitive,emotional and extremely polite.
I suppose you could say his "Brain sex" is androgynous.

Red_Marauder

Iwasfrozen wrote: »

That's nice. Tough I hadn't posted in this forum prior to responding to your post...

Yeah, wow. That is tough. Boy I feel silly now.

Iwasfrozen

Red_Marauder wrote: »

Yeah, wow. That is tough. Boy I feel silly now.

As you should.

Red_Marauder

Iwasfrozen wrote: »

As you should.

Yeah, that was pretty silly. Though you did just have to edit a three word post.

PK2008

Like Russell Brand?

The kind of fake camp thing?

changes

Just sounds like you are describing a gentleman who doesn't like sports or action movies and has a bit of respect for people and doesn't go in for the bravado thing.

Caveat

Xluna wrote: »

...The type of guy I'm on about prefers romance to sex,is genuinely respectful to women,rather than feigning it for a shag. Prefers reading and culture to sports and action movies. Is sensitive,emotional and extremely polite.

Probably not a million miles away from how I would be described by people who know me I'd say. Not so sure about the 'extremely' polite though - not even sure that sounds good.

lisaface

Xluna wrote: »

What do you think of these type of guys,female and male perspectives.
By feminine I don't mean flamboyant,rather men who seem to naturally be comprised of defining aspects of both genders,but veering towards the female end of the spectrum a bit. Firstly, I'm not talking about the stereotypical gay femininity,flamboyance or dramatics nor am I talking about the narcissitic David Beckham metrosexual.

The type of guy I'm on about prefers romance to sex,is genuinely respectful to women,rather than feigning it for a shag. Prefers reading and culture to sports and action movies. Is sensitive,emotional and extremely polite.
I suppose you could say his "Brain sex" is androgynous.

Do men disrespect them? Do women find it unattactive? Any input from feminine men would be great too.

After dating a guy of this description, I really don't think my taste falls under this category, I prefer the typical man who thinks he can fix anything, and he doesn't need a map to find out where he's going Lol

These guys are the best out there (obviously my tastes are not just that!!)

Solvo Slep

invalidusername wrote: »

straight men that spend more time getting ready than their girlfriends

ie.. the oppsite to me

You don't have a girlfriend?

bluto63

I would probably consider myself like your description, but not necessarily feminine. I'm polite, yes, but why wouldn't I be? How does that make someone feminine? That's just having good manners and not being a knob. Preferring art and culture to sports and action films, yes I do. Sports I do like, I just prefer film or literature because I feel they offer me more. Action films I find ****e tbh because it's just big explosions and no plot. You see one and you've seen them all. Preference of romance over sex? Depends on who it is. If its someone I really like and really get on well with, then I'd want to spend more time with. If it's just some ditzy drunken girl from a club, there's no romance there and I'll just be trying to get inside her pants and getting out the door the next morning before she wakes up. I don't think it makes me feminine. That's just my opinion on it anyway.

Iwasfrozen wrote: »

Then why did you bother responding ?

Nice way to introduce yourself to the forum then, putting someone down for no reason :rolleyes:

kumate_champ07

Xluna wrote: »

The type of guy I'm on about prefers romance to sex,is genuinely respectful to women,rather than feigning it for a shag. Prefers reading and culture to sports and action movies. Is sensitive,emotional and extremely polite.
I suppose you could say his "Brain sex" is androgynous.

a gentleman?

Iwasfrozen

Red_Marauder wrote: »

Yeah, that was pretty silly. Though you did just have to edit a three word post.

Because I forgot the full stop, what's your point ?

AnonoBoy

Bickering about punctuation is pretty unmanly too.

Iwasfrozen

bluto63 wrote: »

Nice way to introduce yourself to the forum then, putting someone down for no reason :rolleyes:

He put the OP down when he said he didn't care about his thread. Not very nice behaviour.

bluto63

Iwasfrozen wrote: »

He put the OP down when he said he didn't care about his thread. Not very nice behaviour.

Said he didn't care about feminine straight men. He gave an opinion on the subject, which is more than you've done

m5ex9oqjawdg2i

strobe wrote: »

Theres no such thing as a feminine straight man.

Give it up Slipps... :rolleyes:


Nothing wrong with being extremely polite, not liking sports (I don't like most sports), being sensitive or emotional. That doesn't make you gay. Why would you chose to disrespect someone because of that?


Op, what is your experience with men? You give the impression that a "real" man is supposed to love lots of sports, not care about women, be all macho, have little or no emotions and be rude... Are they ok with themselves? I bet they are. I bet they are more at ease with themselves than the tosser who acts like an alpha male 24/7.... Those idiots are the ones with the problems.

Liam Byrne

Xluna wrote: »

The type of guy I'm on about prefers romance to sex,is genuinely respectful to women,rather than feigning it for a shag. Prefers reading and culture to sports and action movies. Is sensitive,emotional and extremely polite.

What a load of horse****! Since when do women have the franchise for being respectful and sound ?

I'd be regarded by many as pretty much the above (well, apart from my viewing sports as an integral and interesting part of culture, and therefore equal to reading and what you call "culture", as long as someone doesn't try to extend those to reality TV and gossip magazines)

And the word "feminine" does NOT apply in the slightest.......

Sorry, I actually think that your description is one of the most irritating and pretentious displays of sexism that I've seen here in a while. :mad:

I'll calm down and be quiet now, before my obligatory aggressive manliness comes out and you start to doubt the above facts.

Sheesh! What a load of crap!

Edit every post and put in "non-neanderthal" and I'll agree with ya, but being so arrogant as to imply that any of the above imply "feminine".....what a joke!

Xluna wrote: »

I suppose you could say his "Brain sex" is androgynous.

You could, but you'd be wrong.

kumate_champ07

a woman asked me if I was gay last week, she said I acted feminine, I should have asked her in what way. I told her I wasnt offended. I do get hit on by guys sometimes I think its because Im polite to people, I treat strangers with respect.

Im a sensitive guy and I would say I prefer love making to 'riding'. but Im also a manly man, I have a hairy chest and a strong body. I like to fix things and dont read instructions for electronic/mechanical items. I like to play sport but hate watching it. I like action movies but only from the 80's


what the fúck am I then?

Celly Smunt

kumate_champ07 wrote: »

a woman asked me if I was gay last week, she said I acted feminine, I should have asked her in what way. I told her I wasnt offended. I do get hit on by guys sometimes I think its because Im polite to people, I treat strangers with respect.

Im a sensitive guy and I would say I prefer love making to 'riding'. but Im also a manly man, I have a hairy chest and a strong body. I like to fix things and dont read instructions for electronic/mechanical items. I like to play sport but hate watching it. I like action movies but only from the 80's


what the fúck am I then?

Closeted.

kumate_champ07

pmcmahon wrote: »

Closeted.

definitely not, no attraction to men, wouldnt even stick it up a ladies bum, yuck!

Celly Smunt

kumate_champ07 wrote: »

definitely not, no attraction to men, wouldnt even stick it up a ladies bum, yuck!

Defo closeted