How society needs to approach paedophilia (Mod warning post #12)

WindSock

lol. Americans seem to be quite prudish about boobs. Nipplegate for instance...
Also, my sister & her friend were told to cover up on a beach in Hawa'ii :eek:

miec

Jeez having read those comments from those American women I have developed the creeps, they are sexuallising their children, the very thing they are trying to avoid. I often think that we live in a schizophrenic society. There is this mass hysteria that every stranger is a potential paedophile and children are over protected yet they sexualise babies and toddlers by telling them have breasts at the age of 3-5, when clearly they look the same as boys. But many of these Americans will enter their little girls into beauty pagents with full make up, make them move, speak and act like mini women with fully coiffered hair. I don't get it. I don't know if anyone has seen Little Miss Sunshine but it highlights this issue exactly.

On the topic of the mass hysteria from parents in relation to paedophillia whilst I have argued strongly against talking with and trying to understand those who have abused in the strange hope it will aid child welfare, I do belief just as strongly that parents need to use some common sense and proper reasoning. A male friend of mine told me that one day he saw a child alone crying in a park, he was with his girlfriend at the time and said to her about going to the child and she said why don't you but he couldn't because if he did someone may have concluded (very wrongly) that he was up to no good and asa result they didn't know how to help the child. People need to be careful but also open minded. Adults cannot touch or comfort children now or even dare be alone with a child in case they are suspected of abuse and I don't think this paranoia has made any difference to the rates of abuse that actually occurs, however, I could be wrong on that and if so please correct me.

metrovelvet

America is bifurcated, both prudish and licentious. So it doesnt surprise me, and yes as children in the US we are sexualised younger. The peer pressure always starts earlier to perform to play sex games, to shave your legs and stuff your bra.

I take my son to a naturist beach when we are france. I do this partially because the med in the nude is really quite special but also because its a context where the nude body is not sexualised, in fact a nude beach is the least erotic place you can go.

At the same time I approve of my neighbor who shouts out the window at the kids to get away from the car when a stranger pulls up and starts talking to them.

I do think that it is a shame that kids are losing pats on the head because we are so afraid.