Why your best friend is just that... Your best friend

Potency

A best friend.. most of us have one. What makes he/she your best friend?

Bobalicious93

He lives next door to me.

So it was more out of pure laziness than anything.

kev_s88

the fact that we are like the exact same person! just in seperate bodies! he is the coolest person i know and we just get on so well! theres no other way to explain it

technoman

My best friend stands up for no matter what, they include me in their plans and are ALWAYS there for me when i'm feeling down. We have so much in common it's actally weird, we get on so well ppl thought we were a couple. There's nothing like it when you friend actually says it to you "you're my best friend" it's so nice....

Toyota_Avensis

technoman wrote: »

My best friend stands up for no matter what, they include me in their plans and are ALWAYS there for me when i'm feeling down. We have so much in common it's actally weird, we get on so well ppl thought we were a couple. There's nothing like it when you friend actually says it to you "you're my best friend" it's so nice....

Eh, Are you serious?

technoman

Yup btw i'm a girl not a man as username would suggest...

soccymonster

Although shes been living 3 hours away for the last 5 years, we are still best friends. When i see her, it's actually like brilliant. We are both like freakishly crazy, totally random and have had the most weirdest memories ever! We don't really have the same interests yet we get on soooo well.

She has 2 sisters as well, all around the same age as my 2 younger sisters and they are best friends too.
Saw them last week

D4RK ONION

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HaZpZQG2z10

syncosised

D4RK ONION is my best friend for posting that video!

Jay P

I don't think I could pick a best friend. I'm lucky enough to have a relatively big circle of friends.

D4RK ONION

I have a circle of 4 friends. They are all my best friends. I love them all, but in a very manly way. Grrr and such.

Potency

D4RK ONION wrote: »

Grrr and such.

I'm sure man, I'm sure

phlegms

I don't have a best friend per-say. But thanks to my razor sharp wit, dashing good looks, skills with the ladies and great hair I have an extended circle of "close friends".

Daysha

D4RK ONION wrote: »

I have a circle of 4 friends. They are all my best friends. I love them all, but in a very manly way. Grrr and such.

phlegms wrote: »

I don't have a best friend per-say. But thanks to my razor sharp wit, dashing good looks, skills with the ladies and great hair I have an extended circle of "close friends".

These. Having a big group of close friends is well handier than having one best friend to hang around with all the time. Regardless of how well we get on I know I'd eventually have the need to kick him in the balls at some point.

bythewoods

I have an amazing group of exttremely close friends and consider them all my best friends. I've known some of them since I was 2, 3 or 4 years old.
Mostly guys actually. Boys are much easier and better to be friends with tbh.

S'pose one of the girls is my bestest best friend. She's just... really... great. I guess.

phlegms

bythewoods wrote: »

S'pose one of the girls is my bestest best friend. She's just... really... great. I guess.

That was really sweet of you to describe me like that.

*giggles*

Arcade Panda

bythewoods wrote: »

Boys are much easier and better to be friends with tbh.

I never get it when other girls say that, I see it as half and half really. Guys can be just as ****ty as girls(and just as bitchy aswell).

I have about three friends who I would consider best friends(two girls and a boy).
Hard to say how much I love them without sounding like an absolute twat but really they're great!:)

mardybumbum

Since I started college I lost a few friends from secondary school. Just kind of drifted apart.
But I always manage to make time for my best friend, whether it be playing poker and taking his money :pac:, or getting high on the beach and talking absolute ****e to eachother.
Good solid hardy buck he is.

The Walsho

Bobalicious93 wrote: »

He lives next door to me.

So it was more out of pure laziness than anything.

I love that. I'm imagining that you actually hate him and all, but can't be bothered getting a friend that lives further away.

Insect Overlord

My best friend is moving to Australia for 6 months, and the feeling of knowing how much I'll miss him is all the reason I need to know how much he means to me.

(edit: AWESOME 5000th post :cool: )

D4RK ONION

Insect Overlord wrote: »

My best friend is moving to Australia for 6 months, and the feeling of knowing how much I'll miss him is all the reason I need to know how much he means to me.

(edit: AWESOME 5000th post :cool: )

Ehm, I'm not moving to Australia at all. Fail. :rolleyes:

Tar.Aldarion

Mine has varied over the years..probably a neighbour that I've known for 20 years was best...but we never see each other any more. It's great when we do. Then a gal... and I fell in loevs with her and lived with her...bad mojo...then my ex for a few years until recently. Now a girl I've never met I'd say is my bestest pal...but we've talked for 5 years by text/phonecall/skype/boards/msn/gmail. I'd say
50, 000+ texts exchanged lol! Really must call down to her. what a lazy sod.

Crumble Froo

was quite pleasantly surprised when talking to a mate online today, on the subject of close friends, acquaintances etc, when they listed about a hundred acquaintances, a fair few freinds, and one close friend, and that i was the close friend

i think for me, my best mate is the person who 'gets' me best.

throughout childhood and school, my best mate was a chick from my class, who lived around the corner, we used to walk to school together, grew up together, all that jazz. even though we have massively different interests, tastes, opinions on most things, we still just sorta understand each other in a way few others do, and even though i live 13,000 miles away now, and it can be a couple of months in between phonecalls (she doesnt really *do* the online thing), it's always the same between us. her mam was laughing at us recently, when, catching up for the first time in months, she could overhear conversation about family guy... 'as if there's nothing else ye could be talking about'. it's quite funny, last time i talked to her, twas for a couple of hours, and finishing the conversation, i could tell you her family news, all the goss and scandal from the last few weekends out, what'd been happening on her favourite tv shows... but when my partner asked, i couldnt remember if she was still studying or if she was working in the same place just never really came up in conversation...

now, my best mates are the people who get me, still, but have a lot more in common with, between surfing, skating, music, and worldview. they're the people who are happy to be there for me as my moods shift and who text or call just to see what's up, and who drag me out for a surf when im feeling down.

Tar.Aldarion

I didn't reas your post yet but I assume you talking about me froo. :pac:

Aisling(",)

I hang around in a group with 6 other girls and id be closer to two of them then i am to the others but i couldnt call them my best friends because the already have closer best friends.

ones best friend is her boyfriend whom she sees daily or another girl out of the group.
the other girls best friend is her next door neighbour.

since repeating i hardly see them anymore maybe once a week and thatd usually be if we were heading to a club.sounds kinda weird but i guess i dont have a best friend anymore.

Crumble Froo

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

I didn't reas your post yet but I assume you talking about me froo. :pac:

hehe, something like that, a stór

i highly value all my online mates who i do talk to regularly though. and i will meet you one day

Tar.Aldarion

Can't wait

FouxDaFaFa

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XVoCJJFuS60

Pretty much sums it up.

My best friend is the one who's been around for 16 years :eek: and still hasn't run away screaming.

cHaTbOx

Crumble Froo wrote: »

hehe, something like that, a stór

i highly value all my online mates who i do talk to regularly though. and i will meet you one day

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

Can't wait

The wait is worth it

ToniTuddle

Had few best friends

• National school, girl, still would speak today if we seen each other but not close anymore
• Secondary school, 2 girls, who were the closest I've ever been to any girls. Hung out all day in school, ran up huge phone bills while talking all evening on phone! Went out drinking etc. They eventually showed their true colours and stabbed me in the back (by bitchyness/going with lads I would happen to be seeing/keeping serious secrets from me that I would have needed to flippin' know/being down right horrible in the end)

Since them two evil things I don't do the whole best friend thing.
Not worth the pain when they turn on you. :(:(
You eventually learn which ones can be trusted and which ones can't.


I'll stick with my wide circle of good mates and college mates!!

jumpguy

Bobalicious93 wrote: »

He lives next door to me.

So it was more out of pure laziness than anything.

Same, my friend is just about 20 meters down the road. We were friends since we were children but that was very dysfunctional, we only became best friends in the teens. We always hang out yet we constantly argue and disagree about alot of things. We both think we're better at everything. We still get along though, who else can stay playing Playstation at my house until 1?

christina_x

i dont have best friends, but i do have good friends are very close friends.
I have a group of 9 good friends i hang about with back home that are brilliant I have my college friends and then i have my 3 very close friends. We dont hang about in the same groups (different schools and years) but wev been friends since i can remember
1 even moved to Dublin 5 years ago and were still as close Love how i might not see her for 4/5 months at a time but its never awkward!

Sophsxxx

I've got 2 best friends. One of them I'm repeating with so we still see each other everyday. My other best friend has gone to college so I don't see her often but talk to her on the phone at least once a week.
The friend i'm repeating with would be my best friend 'cuz she's just...so entertaining.
My best friend in college would probably be the closest friend I've had. We just have the same say-what-you-think attitude and the same warped sense of humour.:pac:
Since she's left school....no one understands my sense of humour!!:(

soccymonster

Actually, tbh, i'll probably sound kinda sad saying this but I'm preety much best friends with my sister too.
We both love going to hurling and football matches together, we tell each other everything, go to see sad movies in the cinema together (:P), go to town sometimes, we even write to each other on bebo for the craic (lol!) etc.

Ok, we Wouldnt hang out with each other during lunch in school or anything but we'd say the usual ''hey b*tch!" (it's our thing? ) when we pass each other so she'd definetly be one of my best friends.

norwegianwood

We have the same retarded, 6 year old sense of humour no one else gets........that forms the basis of our friendship.

lou91

I'm sick of the idea that the friends you have now won't mean that much to you in later life, and you don't really have a circle of people you know you can really trust until your thirties.

A lot of people still seem to hold this view but I think our generation in general has waaaaaay closer friendships, and places more value on them. I think a lot of that is to do with just having phones being able to talk whenever.

But going back on topic - just being able to get me. Pretty simple.

ToniTuddle

RandomUserName! wrote: »

I'm sick of the idea that the friends you have now won't mean that much to you in later life.
I think our generation in general has waaaaaay closer friendships, and places more value on them. I think a lot of that is to do with just having phones being able to talk whenever.

I can understand where you are coming from but have to say I disagree with ya there luv!

We all had phones when I was 14(Nokia 3210 FTW!), still had plenty contact on landlines/house phones as well.
The friends you have in National school, you will always talk to and I have no problem meeting up with few of them once a year or two years or whenever. We will talk and gossip and it's all good and nice but then we won't see each other for another year!

Same with secondary school mates. I was best buddies with few ones in my class and as soon as they did transition year and I went on....we just grew apart.
So many ones change through secondary school and after it.

Alot of the people you are close to will drift in and out of your lives or else out of it completely.

The main thing is...the real good ones always stay in your life.:D

With my various groups of mates, it doesn't matter if I don't see them for weeks, months or even years. When we meet up it's like we have never been away. :D

Luno

I can't say I have a best friend
Wish I did there was a girl who I used to tell was my bestest friend and I really enjoyed being round but of course showed her true colours and completly changed as a person. I have other people who I could find no fault in but if I said they were my best friend they could easily find a few people they like better than me, having said that I have a lot of small groups of friends so theres always different people to talk to about my different interests

A Neurotic

My best friend is literally always willing to drop whatever he's doing to hang out with me. He's always genuinely happy to see me, and he forgives me in a heartbeat whenever I let him down. His loyalty puts me to shame. He's playful and fun, but not afraid to get intimate. We had a cuddle/nap together on the couch earlier. It was awesome.








...He also looks DAMN good in a top hat:



*disclaimer - my dog isn't actually my best friend; that would be sad

ToniTuddle

That thanks is for the picture!!
Excellent photo

Jackobyte

At the moment, I have 3 very close/best friends(all guys). We all hang out together and are all best friends to each other. I have only met them in 1st year.

Before that I had other best friends, one who I was friends with since senior infants and one I was friends with since 2nd class but in 2nd year they changed. They started hanging around with people I didn't like and started smoking and just weren't the same. Didn't have the same interests anymore and I felt uncomfortable around them. Hardly know them now.

Another friend lived near me for years. Was absolute best friend with him but he moved and don't see him much anymore, Still awesome when I do though.

lou91

ToniTuddle wrote: »

I can understand where you are coming from but have to say I disagree with ya there luv!

We all had phones when I was 14(Nokia 3210 FTW!), still had plenty contact on landlines/house phones as well.
The friends you have in National school, you will always talk to and I have no problem meeting up with few of them once a year or two years or whenever. We will talk and gossip and it's all good and nice but then we won't see each other for another year!

Same with secondary school mates. I was best buddies with few ones in my class and as soon as they did transition year and I went on....we just grew apart.
So many ones change through secondary school and after it.

Alot of the people you are close to will drift in and out of your lives or else out of it completely.

The main thing is...the real good ones always stay in your life.:D

With my various groups of mates, it doesn't matter if I don't see them for weeks, months or even years. When we meet up it's like we have never been away. :D

I was thinking about this just a while ago actually, how there's some friendships you can just slip back into and in others things just feel weird if you haven't talked in a while.
I thought the ones where everything always feels the same are the strongest ones, but I'm not so sure anymore. If you have a friend that you can go a year without seeing and everything is the same, does that not mean the relationship is more superficial (for want of a better word) and just based on common interests? Whereas with the friendships you have to work on regularly you're constantly in contact with the person (texting/phoning isn't really the same as seeing) and you always know whats going on in their life, good or bad. That seems be a requirement for a "best" friendship, so to speak.


*shrugs*
Overanalyzing as usual!

ToniTuddle

RandomUserName! wrote: »

I was thinking about this just a while ago actually, how there's some friendships you can just slip back into and in others things just feel weird if you haven't talked in a while.
I thought the ones where everything always feels the same are the strongest ones, but I'm not so sure anymore. If you have a friend that you can go a year without seeing and everything is the same, does that not mean the relationship is more superficial (for want of a better word) and just based on common interests? Whereas with the friendships you have to work on regularly you're constantly in contact with the person (texting/phoning isn't really the same as seeing) and you always know whats going on in their life, good or bad. That seems be a requirement for a "best" friendship, so to speak.


*shrugs*
Overanalyzing as usual!

Analyzing all the way!:D

I had a whole big long thing written out but....friendships (like the one you explained) are soo complicated at times, that what I had written wasn't coming across well!

I see what you are saying but there are always exceptions to that scenario of a best mate as I've discovered.

There are mates I would tell some personal stuff too and yet wouldn't tell other ones.
You kind of weigh people up and you know which ones will be able to handle it(and keep it private) and which ones won't.

Davidius

My best friend is practically my non-identical twin brother. We don't even have similar interests but you can let that be a testament to my laziness.

Pigwidgeon

I have two best friends.
From secondary school, 1 I see a lot in college, I'd be closer with her, we both have such a laugh all the time just being silly and childish, but if needs be, we can be serious and will be there for each other at the drop of a hat.

My other best friend I've known since I was about 3, we don't see each other as much any more, but I know if I ever need anything, she'll be there for me. She lives around the corner from me and we practically lived in each others pockets when we were younger, as we got older we became friends with different people in school, but still have stayed pretty close.

Other than that I have 4 or 5 other really close friends who I can depend on, but the two above I'd go to first. I've had a fair few best friends over the years, but as we grew up and changed, so did the friendships.

cork*girl

I have two best friends.. cant see it ever being any different! we do everything together, get along preeety well, have the oddest sense of humour and mutual hatred for the same things. tis great

have loads of good friends but there not the same as best friends.. they dont get our humour either..!!

Fad

Dont really have a best friend.

Have a couple of very good friends, but we've all sorta drifted since college started.

maxxie

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maxxie

Fad wrote: »

Dont really have a best friend.

Have a couple of very good friends, but we've all sorta drifted since college started.

I blame you Fad! you never txt bk or anything

FredBaby!

soccymonster wrote: »

Actually, tbh, i'll probably sound kinda sad saying this but I'm preety much best friends with my sister too.

Same here. We've shared a room since she was born and theres only four years between us. We're not the Brady Bunch by any means-we have awful fights but we can always forgive eachother.
My other best friend and i have been friends since we were five and we're still BFF's even though I moved to the other side of the country when i was seven. Apart from those two i don't really have anyother friends...just people i hang around with...:rolleyes:

TheCardHolder

Fad wrote: »

Dont really have a best friend.

Have a couple of very good friends, but we've all sorta drifted since college started.

This sums it pretty much up.