cos i'm to embarrassed to ask my friends

alwaysanon

so i'm 22 and a virgin but with a new bf so i'm expecting we'll sleep together soon

prob is, i don't know if i should get a brazillian or do guys mind a bit of fluff??!!

R0ot

Bit o' hair isn't really a turn off, but neither is a brazilian. Tidy is key though.

alwaysanon

thanks for that, can't believe i had to ask that!

Teferi

In general, we don't mind either way. Just keep

R0ot wrote: »

Tidy is key though.

in mind.

You should ask him though No need to be shy if your going to be seeing each other naked.

R0ot

alwaysanon wrote: »

thanks for that, can't believe i had to ask that!

It's an awkward question but necessary at times, hell i've done it. v0v

A Doozer

Go with what feels comfortable for you. Tidy is good but don't get caught up on it. If it's the first time you don't want to be worrying about it.

Talk to him about the situation and see what he says. If either or ye have hang ups then it won't be enjoyable.

Just my 2 cent.

panda100

A Doozer wrote: »

Talk to him about the situation and see what he says.

Why should she ask him his opinion on what to do with her body hair?

Op,I've slept with a good few guys,never had any complaints,never had a brazilian wax and never will. Why would someone put themselves through that pain?Its a total waste of money imo. Just make sure your trim down there and are nice and fresh. Dont feel like you have to get a wax just because everyone else is doing it or your boyfriend tells you to.

shellyboo

No need to get a Brazilian at all if you don't want to! Just make sure it's neat and tidy - trim with a nail scissors if needs be.

If it's a case that your new fella prefers waxed, that's something you can talk about later - but for now, just do whatever makes you feel more comfortable and confident

Stella777

If you do opt for the Brazilian, or any other style of waxing, try to leave a couple of days in between when you have it done and when you think you might be getting naked. The first time you get waxed it can leave the skin red and bumpy for a day or so.

j1974

alwaysanon wrote: »

so i'm 22 and a virgin but with a new bf so i'm expecting we'll sleep together soon

prob is, i don't know if i should get a brazillian or do guys mind a bit of fluff??!!

yep gotta agree there. nice and tidy or maybe totally shaved, but too much hair is supposed to carry a hygiene issue. anyway trust me, that's the last thing he's worried about unless your ladygarden resembles jamie afro!!! in which case, too much in and out friction could actually make your "sex go on fire"..... that was realy clever i thought!!!! pat on my back.

spinandscribble

j1974 wrote: »

yep gotta agree there. nice and tidy or maybe totally shaved, but too much hair is supposed to carry a hygiene issue. anyway trust me, that's the last thing he's worried about unless your ladygarden resembles jamie afro!!! in which case, too much in and out friction could actually make your "sex go on fire"..... that was realy clever i thought!!!! pat on my back.

it would have been if you'd left out what came after ... play it cool!

Yeah don't really have much to add except, keep it tidy and maybe if you're conscious get lady wipes to "freshen up" if things take a sudden turn for the sexy.

Lenny

Hello, sorry for bumping into this forum
This is no advice on what you should do OP, its up to yourself
But I've been with my gf now for over 4 years and she does use mac cream an remove it all, been like this from the start and I have to say I don't think I could imagine it anyway other at this stage!
But you've had it all your teenage life so why not go for change all/brazilan an see how attractive it looks yourself!

jenga-jen

Hi OP

+1 on leaving a few days post wax, I recently got it done for the first time and was glad the bf didn't see it right away!

I'm sure if he knows he's your first and that you might be a bit nervous about some aspects of the whole thing, he'll more than likely be trying to put you at ease rather than expecting you to have shaved his name into it

Either way, as long as it's tidy and you feel comfortable with it you'll be fine.

Best of luck with everything though! Hope it goes well for you

Lia_lia

This is something I've been wondering about lately.

I have never got a brazilian wax, or any sort of wax. I..er..trim for hygiene reasons. But my hair is very fair and there is not much of it anyway so I always thought it was grand. But then during the summer I was at a music festival in Denmark where there were communal showers with about 10 girls in each shower thing and they ALL had brazilian waxes! I felt very self conscious. Made me think that all girls have them done. So, I don't know.

Denerick

OP, do whatever you want to do. Our generation is obsessed with making sure everything is picture perfect, but to hell with it. Do whatever is comfertable to you.

panda100

Lia_lia wrote: »

This is something I've been wondering about lately.

I have never got a brazilian wax, or any sort of wax. I..er..trim for hygiene reasons. But my hair is very fair and there is not much of it anyway so I always thought it was grand. But then during the summer I was at a music festival in Denmark where there were communal showers with about 10 girls in each shower thing and they ALL had brazilian waxes! I felt very self conscious. Made me think that all girls have them done. So, I don't know.

I think its a case that most people are getting it done cos everyone else is. A huge amount of girls in the US,UK and Europe start getting it done when there 16 as its as normal now as just shaving your legs.

I say that there is many men out there who have never seen what a real womens pubic hair looks like. Its ludicrously expensive though and I dont like all this talk of red skin and bumps down there!

I don't know how anyone can be bothered with constant Brazilian waxes. They cost a fortune, take up loads of time, really hurt.......I just don't get it. I personally feel I have enough to do as it is with constant eyebrow tweezing, leg shaving, armpit depilating..... I wouldn't be arsed spending that much time, money and pain and something only my OH sees.

Faith

I used get regular Brazilians in the UK, but I just can't afford them anymore. I've got a wonderful place just around the corner from me, but at €45 a pop, I couldn't afford the upkeep. I was using Veet, but then I got a little razor dealy, about the size of a 4-colour pen. I only see my boyfriend at weekends, and he doesn't mind hair (in fact, he asked me not to wax before), not to mention my hair is fine and light-coloured, so I shave every couple of weeks or so. I always keep it tidy. That being said, I'd get waxed if I could afford it.

Lia_lia

A huge amount of girls in the US,UK and Europe start getting it done when there 16 as its as normal now as just shaving your legs.

:eek: 16?! Whaa?!

I don't even shave my legs. All I shave are my armpits. Thank fuck for this blonde hair!

A Doozer

panda100 wrote: »

Why should she ask him his opinion on what to do with her body hair?

Op,I've slept with a good few guys,never had any complaints,never had a brazilian wax and never will. Why would someone put themselves through that pain?Its a total waste of money imo. Just make sure your trim down there and are nice and fresh. Dont feel like you have to get a wax just because everyone else is doing it or your boyfriend tells you to.

I'm just saying if she's that nervous about it then it might have helped to talk about it.

Didn't mean any offence by it. Just speaking from relationship experience is all. I was with someone who was freaking out the same way and we just sat down and had a chat and it led to great sex after. Ever since then we are open about everything and that's going on 15 years.

As mentioned, meant no offence.

Dooz

panda100

A Doozer wrote: »

I'm just saying if she's that nervous about it then it might have helped to talk about it.

Didn't mean any offence by it. Just speaking from relationship experience is all. I was with someone who was freaking out the same way and we just sat down and had a chat and it led to great sex after. Ever since then we are open about everything and that's going on 15 years.

As mentioned, meant no offence.

Dooz

Oh no of course,tis very important to be open and communicate with your partner when it comes to sex

pikachucheeks

OP,
I know a few guys have already posted here, but if you wanted to get more opinions from men, you could try asking in The Gentlemen's Club

alwaysanon

Can't thank you all enough guys, I think he's knows something is wrong so I'm gonna chat to him about but not worry about it too much either

Cheers for not making me feel like a twat for asking this!

WesternNight

It's your body so no-one has any right to expect you to do anything to it for anyone else. If it's never bothered you before, I wouldn't let it bother you now.

Good luck

targus

Most guys prefer a brazilian/hollywood..its up to yourself.The way most guys look on it now is every porn movie they watch has girls with no hair at all and they expect the same from 'their' women..Go for it,its cleaner!

spurious

If he gets as far as being in a position to check what fanciness or not you have coiffed your lady garden into, I doubt it will put him off either way.

Twee.

spinandscribble wrote: »

...if things take a sudden turn for the sexy.

Haha, that is excellent! Saving that for later use.

Back to topic on hand, it's something that's been on my mind recently too! Think I'm gonna try some Veet or similar. Waxing scares the crap out of me, and I'm poor!

The_Kew_Tour

alwaysanon wrote: »

so i'm 22 and a virgin but with a new bf so i'm expecting we'll sleep together soon

prob is, i don't know if i should get a brazillian or do guys mind a bit of fluff??!!

Hey us guys dont mind really I think.

The most important thing is you both get along really well and only do what you feel comfortable for yourself.

Best Luck.

The_Kew_Tour

alwaysanon wrote: »

Can't thank you all enough guys, I think he's knows something is wrong so I'm gonna chat to him about but not worry about it too much either

Cheers for not making me feel like a twat for asking this!

Your not twat for asking something that your not sure about thats what places like this are for.

Jesus Wept

Lia_lia wrote: »

This is something I've been wondering about lately.

I have never got a brazilian wax, or any sort of wax. I..er..trim for hygiene reasons. But my hair is very fair and there is not much of it anyway so I always thought it was grand. But then during the summer I was at a music festival in Denmark where there were communal showers with about 10 girls in each shower thing and they ALL had brazilian waxes! I felt very self conscious. Made me think that all girls have them done. So, I don't know.

A lot of girls wear orange make up, too much make-up, badly applied make-up, flock of seagulls haircuts and the same crap 'style' as each other.

This is the pitfall with people who adhere to things being 'in right now'

enol

Stella777 wrote: »

If you do opt for the Brazilian, or any other style of waxing, try to leave a couple of days in between when you have it done and when you think you might be getting naked. The first time you get waxed it can leave the skin red and bumpy for a day or so.

+another 1!
or if you dont have a couple of days, er, notice;) for the plucked turkey look to go away after waxing, Veet cream for sensitive skin is good too

fuelinjection

I quite like natural women. No upgrades or changes.

Have slept with a european girl with underarm hair and all i can see now is an obsesion with body image in Ireland. All the fake tan and waxing will not compare to a happy confident woman to me. Why do people always assume its like porno movies nowadays ... its so fake.

j1974

spinandscribble wrote: »

it would have been if you'd left out what came after ... play it cool!

Yeah don't really have much to add except, keep it tidy and maybe if you're conscious get lady wipes to "freshen up" if things take a sudden turn for the sexy.

"play it cool" oh thank you wise Sensei of comic timing!!! "lady wipes" are you serious?? sounds like a quick sink wash with fancy soap. I do like your "sudden turn for the sexy" line though, who is that masked man!!!!!!!!!!!:D

Jules

Op, as it's your first time with this partner, i would tend to go with what ever makes YOU comfortable. Because, at the end of the day, if you're more comfortable you will enjoy the experience more, which in turn will make him enjoy it more. There is nothing more sexy than a comfident woman.

It might happen that you get waxed and he doesn't like it or wasn't expecting it. Have a few times together first and then start to ask what he would like, but also remember to let him know what you like. I'm 100% sure he isn't thinking about getting his balls waxed to keep you happy!

And the up keep on waxing is a pain.. literally! So if you are still unsure, and as someone says you have let yourself be au natural without any maintaince, and im serious about this, get your self a mirror and a pair of saftely sissors and tidy the area up. The reason i say use safety sissors is, if you're not used to it there can be some awkward angles and you don't want to do damage.

sam34

alwaysanon wrote: »

Can't thank you all enough guys, I think he's knows something is wrong so I'm gonna chat to him about but not worry about it too much either

op, really, something is not wrong!

this should not be a big preoccupation of yours at the moment.

as someone else said, do you think he is pondering whether or not to get his balls waxed for you?

relax, trim and get it neat, but no need to go for a brazilian at the outset.

Stella777

By the way, a Brazilian wax doesn't necessarily mean completely bare, though it can be. What a Brazilian is all about is removing all the hair off the undercarriage, so to speak. So that means everythng off the labia, vulva, perineum areas. A bit can be left in front ( meaning on the mons pubis) AKA a "landing strip." The waxer would asked you how much, if any, you want left on in front.

panda100

adrian280582 wrote: »

Hey us guys dont mind really I think.

The most important thing is you both get along really well and only do what you feel comfortable for yourself.

Best Luck.

What a really sweet and lovely post

OP,I cant believe this is what your worried about for the first time your having sex!I lost my virginity around the same age as you.Yes there are going to be a lot of things you'll be anxious about the first time you do it such as ,are you doing it right,contracetption etc etc
Waxing your pubic hair really should not a major concern I would think. Just try to let go of the worry,relax and enjoy yourself

Richiecats

Hey whatever you have will be just fine, by the time you got to that stage you are not going to care, so go for it girly and enjoy as long as you want to, remember no rush

dubdcugirly

Hi there,

Good luck and congrats on the blossoming romance!! Im 20 and started to get waxed awhile ago...I've got it done around three times now! I always said too expensive and upkeep to much etc etc but now I have it I would never go back, nothing to do with reaction off boyfriend (although that does help) but more to do with the level of hygiene, I feel sooo much cleaner. And I can safely say I will never go back!

However this was entirely my own choice, I had two other partners before when I didnt wax (just kept myself) tidy and never has an adverse reaction!!! It definitely is all about if you feel comfortable!

Enjoy!

panda100

dubdcugirly wrote: »

I always said too expensive and upkeep to much etc etc but now I have it I would never go back, nothing to do with reaction off boyfriend (although that does help) but more to do with the level of hygiene, I feel sooo much cleaner. And I can safely say I will never go back!

I would't wax down there for the exact same reason you do wax!You keep your private parts clean and hygenic by washing them,not by waxing them surely? Also hair is a natural barrier against diseases and infections.

This waxing 'trend' must be coming from the adult entertainment industry? I think its icky that people want thier vagina to look like it was pre puberty.
Im woried that its becoming less of a trend now and more of a social necessity for women,just like armpit and leg hair removal has become.

Communicationb

Please invest the time and effort and get it professionally waxed it you are going that route

Try not to get into the lazy habit of shaving...a stubbly muff is not attractive and cause bleeding for the guy in certain situations...I am speaking from experience..:(

Otherwise leave it au natural...

cruizer101

OP, don't think there is any need to get it waxed really, once its not out of control I wouldn't worry to much, at the end of the day your bf is going to be delighted to be getting anywhere near there hair or no hair, maybe a trim with a scissors to get rid of stragglers.

Also a large enough proportion of men actually prefer hair down there myself included.

And whats all this talk of seeing each other naked the few times I've done it, it was lights off and feel your way around, hehe.

Anyway, whatever your comfortable with, don't put yourself under any pressue, just try enjoy it as much as you can.

panda100

cruizer101 wrote: »

And whats all this talk of seeing each other naked the few times I've done it, it was lights off and feel your way around, hehe.
.

Oh lights on ftw! Much better when you can see what your doing

shellyboo

panda100 wrote: »

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This waxing 'trend' must be coming from the adult entertainment industry? I think its icky that people want thier vagina to look like it was pre puberty.
Im woried that its becoming less of a trend now and more of a social necessity for women,just like armpit and leg hair removal has become.

it's disingenuous and scaremongering to suggest that women get waxed in order to look pre-pubescent when that is clearly and obviosly not the case. When you're bare down there, there's simply a better view for the guy, but more than that, it FEELD better.

I understand and accept your decision not to wax/shave panda, but how can you say "it's not cleaner, it doesn't make any difference" if you've never tried it? I've had it both ways, I'm in a position to compare, and I'd never go back to being fully hairy.

globemaster1986

As a male, and from a personal point of view, a jungle down below is not a turn on!!! As mentioned before neat and tidy would always be important! I'm not that fussy but i always find a girl with just a landing strip or completely shaven sexier:)

panda100

shellyboo wrote: »

it's disingenuous and scaremongering to suggest that women get waxed in order to look pre-pubescent when that is clearly and obviosly not the case. When you're bare down there, there's simply a better view for the guy, but more than that, it FEELD better.

I understand and accept your decision not to wax/shave panda, but how can you say "it's not cleaner, it doesn't make any difference" if you've never tried it? I've had it both ways, I'm in a position to compare, and I'd never go back to being fully hairy.

I have no prob If someone tries waxing and continue doing it because they like to do it.

It seems to me there is many people who seem to be getting it done because they feel they have to get it done,wether its for the guy or beacuse its what other women do. I think the op's post confirms that this is the case.
I know a lot of my friends are anal about their pubic hair and keeping it waxed and to me it seems more of a trend thing rather than genuinly for hygeine or to enhance sexual pleasure.

And I think wether you like it or not, waxing does make your body look pre pubescent. Personally for me, pubic hair makes me feel womenly and more sexually mature, but I appreciate that some people may feel differnt.

I guess the overriding message is to do what you want, but dont do it because you feel pressured to do it be that from men,media or other women.

Bottle_of_Smoke

I'd say do it. Makes sex so much better