Ignoring/Going in 'Strops' with People?

brummytom

D'you do it?

I do it allll the time, I'm quite notorious for it now; like a give a fuck.

Anytime a 'mate' pisses me off in one way or another, rather than confronting them and trying to sort it out, I instead resort to completely blanking said person for as long as I can.

For example, one of my good mates managed to piss me off the other week because he's an idiot. He didn't even realise what he'd done at first, so I ignored him. For the week. He noticed and went in a mood with me. Because he'd got so pissed off I thought, fuck it and gave him a Christmas card that just said:
"Dear Danny,

Merry Christmas.
Sorry for being a prick this week kid.
Tom x"

Anyway, back to the point. Do you? Are you pro-active at being annoyed with someone and tell them to their face or do you quietly stew?


Whenever I start a thread a really ramble don't I?!

G_R

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brummytom wrote: »

"Dear Danny,

Merry Christmas.
Sorry for being a prick this week kid.
Tom x"

Its OK Tom,

I forgive you.

Danny x

My logic:

There a problem?

Sort it out.

Can't sort it out?

Aww boo-f*cking-hoo.

Get on with it.

Kick ass and take names, or you're a wimp, a liar, lazy or wrong.

Jesus Wept

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Homer: Marge, since I'm not talking to Lisa, could you please ask her to pass me the syrup?
Marge: (sighs) Please pass your father the syrup, Lisa.
Lisa: Bart, tell Dad I'll only pass the syrup if it won't be used on any meat products…
Bart: You dunking your sausages in that syrup, Homeboy?
Homer: Marge, tell Bart I just want to drink a nice glass of syrup like I do every morning…
Marge: Tell him yourself; you're ignoring Lisa, not Bart.
Homer: Bart, thank your mother for pointing that out.
Marge: Homer, you're not, not talking to me; and secondly, I heard what you said.
Homer: Lisa, tell your mother to get off my case!
Bart: Uh, Dad? Lisa's the one you're not talking to.
Homer: Bart, go to your room!

Red Hand

No, I don't do that. I have it out with someone in real life if they annoy me. But I rarely get annoyed, so its all good.:pac:

Actually, I do probably do it here on boards. I will kind of avoid posting a reply to someone if I am annoyed with them (usually cause its so easily to troll people [me] on the internet)

arybvtcw0eolkf

Tom, start a decent thread for a change

One of my worse traits, probably because I'm a red head, is that I get thick with someone very quickly.

Funnily enough the one place where I'm totally in calm is driving!.

In fact my mother (of all people) commented on it yesterday when someone was giving me grief coming off the Ballymun ramp onto the M50.

She was surprised I wasn't snapping at the bit, but I just told her that I pity the fool who makes me get out to them, so I ignore such provocation.

One place where I won't tolerate someone is online, and I'll hold onto something for a very, very long time knowing that someday our paths will cross, probably not a good thing but I treat people here with respect (or at least I hope I do) and treat them as I would in 'real life', so I expect the same in return.

Scrambled egg

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Why did you give him a kiss at the end?

Jesus Wept

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Because he is comfortable with his sexuality and showing platonic love towards his male friends?

RacoonQueen

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Scrambled egg wrote: »

Why did you give him a kiss at the end?

Because they're gay.

Pushtrak

What in the world is a strop?

jumpguy

Tom, start a decent thread for a change

I dunno, it's a kinda good/bad thing. I don't do it though.

brummytom

Scrambled egg wrote: »

Why did you give him a kiss at the end?

I dunno. We always do it, me, him and 4 or 5 other mates.

What exactly's wrong with that?

arybvtcw0eolkf

Tom, start a decent thread for a change

Pushtrak wrote: »

What in the world is a strop?

We'll put it this way...

If you ever have an angry bastard tell you "Don't get stroppy with me pal'', good chances are you've been stroppy and are about to receive a headbutt for your efforts - it ain't a good thing.

Scrambled egg

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brummytom wrote: »

I dunno. We always do it, me, him and 4 or 5 other mates.

What exactly's wrong with that?

Thats ok, your story checks out

Queen-Mise

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It doesn't really happen a lot - I very rarely fall out or argue with people. Whether I ignore or talk about the 'situation' depends entirely on the person involved. I hate arguments, so if it is likely to turn into one - I walk away.

So the silent treatment is reaction usually.

But then I have a really, really small circle of people. I don't like people to be honest :p:p

brummytom

Pushtrak wrote: »

What in the world is a strop?

Is it English slang? I don't know

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=strop

A tantrum, a mood

Red Hand

Fernanda Itchy Jackrabbit wrote: »

We'll put it this way...

If you ever have an angry bastard tell you "Don't get stroppy with me pal'', good chances are you've been stroppy and are about to receive a headbutt for your efforts - it ain't a good thing.

No, in my mind a strop is where a (usually a teenager) person is "sore" with you, but won't tell you why...just mopes about the place giving you daggers/hostile stares.

4zn76tysfajdxp

Queen-Mise wrote: »

I don't like people to be honest :p:p

Really? I'm the opposite: I don't like people to be liars.

opr

My psychiatrist says this is problem related to my childhood which she can help me confront. I ignored all her calls and haven't spoken to the bitch since!

Opr

pablomakaveli

I would go for the silence thing but i could'nt resist picking the fourth option in the poll.

Fear Uladh

The ignorant are what makes some of life peaceful.

alwaysadub

I try to ignore people but i usually end up feeling bad bout it and breaking the silence before the other person has even copped on that i was ignoring them in the 1st place!
I do have a bit of a tendency to throw a strop with certain people over silly things though.

partyatmygaff

brummytom wrote: »

I dunno. We always do it, me, him and 4 or 5 other mates.

What exactly's wrong with that?

You and 4 or 5 of your mates send kisses to eachother via text?

GrahamThomas

Scrambled egg wrote: »

Why did you give him a kiss at the end?

partyatmygaff wrote: »

You and 4 or 5 of your mates send kisses to eachother via text?

Jeez, can't believe some people here have never heard of guy love

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lL4L4Uv5rf0

:pac:

brummytom

GrahamThomas wrote: »

Jeez, can't believe some people here have never heard of guy love

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lL4L4Uv5rf0

:pac:

This ^^


What's wrong with a 'x' for christ sake? When I put it on a text for a girl it means "I want to ride you but I'm acting caring"; when I put it on a text for a lad it means "You're doing my head in but this is my way of saying we're mates"

Jay P

My friend used to annoy me laods with all the crap he says, but I've actually come up with a method of ignoring him, and completely tuning out from what he says. It's very effective

Blisterman

I can't stand when people do this.

Sort it out properly, passive agressiveness will get you nowhere.

Holsten

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Same here, doing this is insanely annoying.

craggles

Jaysus christ would yis ever strop holding grudges for so long, feckin babies

brummytom

craggles wrote: »

Jaysus christ would yis ever strop holding grudges for so long, feckin babies

I actually am a child though, so can I be excused?

Carsinian Thau

Tell them if/why you're pissed off

Fernanda Itchy Jackrabbit wrote: »

I just told her that I pity the fool who makes me get out to them, so I ignore such provocation.

I have to ask: Do you honestly talk like that in real life?


On topic: Yes, it's how I vent my frustration at someone. I lack the capacity to have a face to face conversation without my temper doing most of the talking. This way is just easier.

Pushtrak

The passive aggressive approach might not achieve anything, but when other methods have been exhausted, then what else is there? Oh, passive apathy. I think that is where I tend to go.

o1s1n

I generally find passive aggressive people to be the bunny boilers.

'What's wrong with you'

'nothing'

'Are you sure you're okay?'

'yes'

'REALLY?'

'yes'

/2 hours later

'OMFG WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO MY CAT?!!?!?'

Pushtrak

o1s1n wrote: »

I generally find passive aggressive people to be the bunny boilers.

'What's wrong with you'

'nothing'

'Are you sure you're okay?'

'yes'

'REALLY?'

'yes'

/2 hours later

'OMFG WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO MY CAT?!!?!?'

*Hopes you didn't post that after seeing the inter species thread*


(Joke )

K-Ren

I rarely ever confront people or ignore them when they do or say something nasty, I usually do or say something equally nasty and instantly regret it.

Piste

Fernanda Itchy Jackrabbit wrote: »

One place where I won't tolerate someone is online, and I'll hold onto something for a very, very long time knowing that someday our paths will cross, probably not a good thing but I treat people here with respect (or at least I hope I do) and treat them as I would in 'real life', so I expect the same in return.

lol, you hold internet grudges? Lol.





/is on enemies list now.

we'llallhavetea_old

Tell them if/why you're pissed off

i usually limit the words yes, i know it as "piggin"
then get pissed and laugh at how venomous i was that day.

truecrippler

Tell them if/why you're pissed off

Tom, you're not an indefinite article, please use the letter "I". It will suit you better.





truecrippler x.

If you have to stop talking to someone, or ignore them. It because you know your wrong. And your agruement isn't worth debating.

Otis Driftwood

brummytom wrote: »

D'you do it?

I do it allll the time, I'm quite notorious for it now; like a give a fuck.

Anytime a 'mate' pisses me off in one way or another, rather than confronting them and trying to sort it out, I instead resort to completely blanking said person for as long as I can.

For example, one of my good mates managed to piss me off the other week because he's an idiot. He didn't even realise what he'd done at first, so I ignored him. For the week. He noticed and went in a mood with me. Because he'd got so pissed off I thought, fuck it and gave him a Christmas card that just said:
"Dear Danny,

Merry Christmas.
Sorry for being a prick this week kid.
Tom x"

Anyway, back to the point. Do you? Are you pro-active at being annoyed with someone and tell them to their face or do you quietly stew?


Whenever I start a thread a really ramble don't I?!

No,because at conception my vagina was thrown to the waste side.

Plus,unless you are a goat or from Weatherfield then why the hell would you call anyone kid never mind write it.

brummytom,Im so disappointed in you.

Richard Dower

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Fernanda Itchy Jackrabbit wrote: »

One of my worse traits, probably because I'm a red head, is that I get thick with someone very quickly.

Funnily enough the one place where I'm totally in calm is driving!.

In fact my mother (of all people) commented on it yesterday when someone was giving me grief coming off the Ballymun ramp onto the M50.

She was surprised I wasn't snapping at the bit, but I just told her that I pity the fool who makes me get out to them, so I ignore such provocation.

One place where I won't tolerate someone is online, and I'll hold onto something for a very, very long time knowing that someday our paths will cross, probably not a good thing but I treat people here with respect (or at least I hope I do) and treat them as I would in 'real life', so I expect the same in return.

You sound like a right cow :rolleyes:

Richard Dower

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Piste wrote: »

lol, you hold internet grudges? Lol.





/is on enemies list now.

Tis mad alright, years ago i used to get annoyed when i got into online scraps, now i couldn't give a rats ass....either that or i get myself banned from forums/sites....which i admit i'm prone to!

Super-Rush

Don't worry Tom it will all be over eventually soon

Kiera

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You're allowed get into strops, Tom as you're only a wee one. Anyone over the age of 18 who gets into them is pathetic.

FlutterinBantam

brummytom wrote: »

D'you do it?

I do it allll the time, I'm quite notorious for it now; like a give a fuck.

Anytime a 'mate' pisses me off in one way or another, rather than confronting them and trying to sort it out, I instead resort to completely blanking said person for as long as I can.

For example, one of my good mates managed to piss me off the other week because he's an idiot. He didn't even realise what he'd done at first, so I ignored him. For the week. He noticed and went in a mood with me. Because he'd got so pissed off I thought, fuck it and gave him a Christmas card that just said:
"Dear Danny,

Merry Christmas.
Sorry for being a prick this week kid.
Tom x"

Anyway, back to the point. Do you? Are you pro-active at being annoyed with someone and tell them to their face or do you quietly stew?


Whenever I start a thread a really ramble don't I?!

Ever consider he might have the same impression of you

Blazer

Fernanda Itchy Jackrabbit wrote: »

One place where I won't tolerate someone is online, and I'll hold onto something for a very, very long time knowing that someday our paths will cross, probably not a good thing but I treat people here with respect (or at least I hope I do) and treat them as I would in 'real life', so I expect the same in return.

damn right....I'm tellin ya...If I ever get hold of those filthy mods who've banned,infracted me I'd fúckin .......:p

MissIT

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I always seem to do it if I have a fight with my mam or dad.. I guess that's the spoilt only child coming out in me.. But then again my mam always does it to me too so I guess we are even.

Would never really do it to a friend never really fall out with them.
If I do fall out with them and they are in the wrong I let them know.
If we fall out and I am in the wrong I have no problem saying im sorry. I hate people who don't know how to say sorry or please and thank you.

But the silent treatment without a doubt drives people crazy!

brummytom

FlutterinBantam wrote: »

Ever consider he might have the same impression of you

No.

And if he did, I couldn't give a shit.

I'm a cunt, not an idiot

JerryHandbag

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I guess it depends on the person, I wouldnt usually be one to give the silent treatment, but I've done it to someone of late - the type of self centered attention seeking drama-queen of a girl who always claimed to be my friend, but believe me she never was. She's spread some lies about me behind my back, real juvenile stuff.....but heres the thing

My male friends say to me "Have it out with her, scream at her!"
But my female mates say "Keep ignoring her, it'll drive her bonkers!" - Womens intuition I suppose

Jesus, this post really should go in PI!

andrew

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I can't stand it when people pull shit like this. If you don't want to explain to me why/that you're pissed, don't expect me to give a shit and entertain your strop.

thebigcheese22

Kill them

Yeah a friend is pissed off with me atm and ignoring me. Really pissing me off, not sure whether to sort it out with them or let them continue the ignoring... I really should go to PI