how to get through christmas party - love triangle

STUBBORNGIRL

hi all - going to keep this short!

I have my christmas party this weekend and im worried about what will happen! I shagged a guy on my team a while back- i like another guy whom is really good friends with him - And my boss has practically asked me out at every opportunity ( to which i refused) People are already talking about us gettin it on- dont want that! Anyhow, i have to put up with all three of these guys at my christmas party at the weekned while i like the other guy whom i want to be with! i know he feels the same but i think he has found out that i shagged the other guy and now wants nothing to do with me! How can i put this right! Also any advice on how to not be part of the office gossip? i love flirting with guys and i do this with everyone so i dont think anyone could possibly know that i have the hots for this guy! Also - i think that there may be round 2 with this other guy - which i dont want but when the drink is in then the sense is out!

i hope i havent confused people!
thanks for reading this

G-Money

If I were the guy, knowing you'd f***'d someone else in the office would completely put me off. It's bad enough to think about a girl you like being with any other guy, never mind a fella he will have to see every day.

If you don't want to be gossiped about, don't flirt with every guy you see.

SarahSassy

Personally i wouldn't go. you are going to be office gossip fodder as it is but you dont seem to have confidence that you will behave yourself so why go? Work and numerous shags dong mix well

STUBBORNGIRL

grandmaster wrote: »

If I were the guy, knowing you'd f***'d someone else in the office would completely put me off. It's bad enough to think about a girl you like being with any other guy, never mind a fella he will have to see every day.

If you don't want to be gossiped about, don't flirt with every guy you see.

I totally agree with you! i think its well and truly ruined! thing is i havent told anyone in the office what happened! i asked him not to tell anyone but I guess as one of the lads he is going to tell! Damn!

i know i shouldnt flirt and i dont do it intentionally but i like having the craic with guys! its just me!

G-Money

It's not always lads bragging to be honest. I know sometimes if a guy likes a girl at work or something and his friend knows she f****d someone there or something, he will tell his mate. It's kind of like keeping an eye out for your mate so he doesn't be made a fool of or something.

STUBBORNGIRL

SarahSassy wrote: »

Personally i wouldn't go. you are going to be office gossip fodder as it is but you dont seem to have confidence that you will behave yourself so why go? Work and numerous shags dong mix well

i have to go - i organised it all - wouldnt look good to not show up! I have not had numerous shags! this was the first time I ever did this and believe me i was so embarrassed (part of the reason that i havent told anyone is because of this) i didnt speak to this guy for a while! now we are back on speaking terms and he is all over me like a rash in work again! i dont have the will power to say no to him cause secretly i like him but i way prefer the other guy!!

I am a fool i know!

STUBBORNGIRL

grandmaster wrote: »

It's not always lads bragging to be honest. I know sometimes if a guy likes a girl at work or something and his friend knows she f****d someone there or something, he will tell his mate. It's kind of like keeping an eye out for your mate so he doesn't be made a fool of or something.

But i never told anyone and if he told no one then it would be a secret between me and him. Its not like i make a habit of sleeping with guys in work - this was a first occurrence! i always made it a rule not to mix work and pleasure!! i slipped up!

G-Money

STUBBORNGIRL wrote: »

i have to go - i organised it all - wouldnt look good to not show up! I have not had numerous shags! this was the first time I ever did this and believe me i was so embarrassed (part of the reason that i havent told anyone is because of this) i didnt speak to this guy for a while! now we are back on speaking terms and he is all over me like a rash in work again! i dont have the will power to say no to him cause secretly i like him but i way prefer the other guy!!

I am a fool i know!

Stupid question, but if you liked this other guy a lot more, why did you end up with his friend who's on your team? Imagine the situation reversed. You and one of your friends and there's a guy that really likes you, but he goes and f***k's your friend first then hopes to get with you. Would you really be interested in him?

Do you drink? If so, maybe drive to this party and don't drink. Less chance of you doing something stupid then.

xzanti

If I were you, I'd go and not drink, be completely demure, don't flirt with anyone, be friendly and polite, go home alone and they'll find someone else to talk about.. and you'll wake up with your head held high..

As for the guy you like, if he does know about you sleeping with the other guy I think you can kiss it goodbye for the minute anyway.. maybe when he sees you being 'aloof' he might decide otherwise..

If you go and start lashing the drinks in, chances are you're probably going to either A. End up trying to explain yourself to the guy you like and risk looking desperate and/or B. end up going home with the boss who fancies you or the other guy to console yourself and then your chances with the one you like will be even more damaged..

That's my 2 cents anyway..

MrPillowTalk

dont screw the crew imo.

xzanti

MrPillowTalk wrote: »

dont screw the crew imo.

Yeah that's catchy, real helpful too..

STUBBORNGIRL

grandmaster wrote: »

Stupid question, but if you liked this other guy a lot more, why did you end up with his friend who's on your team? Imagine the situation reversed. You and one of your friends and there's a guy that really likes you, but he goes and f***k's your friend first then hopes to get with you. Would you really be interested in him?

Do you drink? If so, maybe drive to this party and don't drink. Less chance of you doing something stupid then.

it was drink that got me into this situation in the first place! I had no intention in getting it on with the other guy - he made a pass at me - i refused then he was very insistent - we kissed and then he refused to go home and came back to mine! we were both drunk and i woke him up at 9am and told him to go home! called a taxi for him and have regretted it ever since! The other guy has asked me out a few times and because of my principles of not involving myself in office romances i declined him! I dont know if this is the reason that he doesnt want anything or if he has found out i was with the other guy! I messed up i should have never broken my own rule!! ever! I will live to regret it now!

G-Money

STUBBORNGIRL wrote: »

it was drink that got me into this situation in the first place! I had no intention in getting it on with the other guy - he made a pass at me - i refused then he was very insistent - we kissed and then he refused to go home and came back to mine! we were both drunk and i woke him up at 9am and told him to go home! called a taxi for him and have regretted it ever since! The other guy has asked me out a few times and because of my principles of not involving myself in office romances i declined him! I dont know if this is the reason that he doesnt want anything or if he has found out i was with the other guy! I messed up i should have never broken my own rule!! ever! I will live to regret it now!

Well in fairness, if I asked a girl out and it was at work and she turned me down, I definitely wouldn't be pushing the matter. I can only imagine what type of field day HR would have with that. Harassment and the like. If he asked you a few times and you turned him down, that would certainly give the impression that you aren't interested. I personally don't hang around if I think a girl is not interested.

rizzee

STUBBORNGIRL wrote: »

it was drink that got me into this situation in the first place!

Don't blame the drink sweetheart, the intension must have been there in the first place.

MrPillowTalk

xzanti wrote: »

Yeah that's catchy, real helpful too..

how exactly is it not helpful? It would solve the problem.

If you rather I could write a couple of paragraphs of useless waffle that will ammount to the same sentence.

STUBBORNGIRL

grandmaster wrote: »

Well in fairness, if I asked a girl out and it was at work and she turned me down, I definitely wouldn't be pushing the matter. I can only imagine what type of field day HR would have with that. Harassment and the like. If he asked you a few times and you turned him down, that would certainly give the impression that you aren't interested. I personally don't hang around if I think a girl is not interested.

i have since told him that i am interested and that i was sorry that i rejected him and he said that he wasnt in a place to be dating women right now! so i dont know anymore! i still feel that likes me but was holding back for some reason or another! oh i dont expect him to push the matter but since i made my intentions clear i thought maybe he might let it go!

we are very professional in work and we get on really well and it would never be known that any of this was going on! i will defo stay off the drink on Friday night cause god only knows what i will say/do!

STUBBORNGIRL

MrPillowTalk wrote: »

how exactly is it not helpful? It would solve the problem.

If you rather I could write a couple of paragraphs of useless waffle that will ammount to the same sentence.

in all fairness Mr Pillow Talk i think he was actually being serious! it was helpful and catchy! dont think there was sarcasm involved in that sentence somehow or another!

thanks for the advice

G-Money

It's really hard to know what he's thinking. He could very well have just lost interest and moved on as you turned him down. He could still be interested and just not have his head straight, or he might have been put off by hearing that you'd been with his friend.

I'm guessing his friend told him. I know if I was friends with a guy and he told me he liked some girl I had been with, I'd have to tell him that I'd been with her. It wouldn't be fair to him otherwise.

STUBBORNGIRL

grandmaster wrote: »

I'm guessing his friend told him. I know if I was friends with a guy and he told me he liked some girl I had been with, I'd have to tell him that I'd been with her. It wouldn't be fair to him otherwise.

now that is the sentence i did not want to read! I suppose the truth hurts! I do believe this guy has gobbed though! would be something he would be capable of! Im just afraid of him bringing it up with me fri night cause i will die! we have never discussed that night since it happened but we havent been in each others company since either - i made sure of that!

I suppose i will just have to keep my distance!

G-Money

Yeah. Like I say, some guys will boast about stuff like that. But I don't think I could in clear conscience watch a friend who was really into a girl head off and try to make a move on her when I know I'd been with her.

For guys, it's not much of a problem to admit stuff like that. As long as it happened before your mate met the girl etc, then there's not much said about it. It's annoying, but you don't hold it against them. You just kind of say "Ah f*** it anyway, fair enough" and try to move on.

If they make a move on a girl after you say you like her, that's much more annoying. But quite often it can be let go.

STUBBORNGIRL

grandmaster wrote: »

Yeah. Like I say, some guys will boast about stuff like that. But I don't think I could in clear conscience watch a friend who was really into a girl head off and try to make a move on her when I know I'd been with her.

For guys, it's not much of a problem to admit stuff like that. As long as it happened before your mate met the girl etc, then there's not much said about it. It's annoying, but you don't hold it against them. You just kind of say "Ah f*** it anyway, fair enough" and try to move on.

If they make a move on a girl after you say you like her, that's much more annoying. But quite often it can be let go.

i would just be afraid that he would be boasting for other reasons not in a friend way but more in a "oh i got a bit of her there the other night" She's easy! I would be sick thinking that this was the case!

i know if i had shagged a guy and my friend told me she liked him i would not tell her! no way! but chances are if she was a really good friend i would not have touched him had i known she liked him!

Im not into goign around shagging guys just for the record! i've been with a few guys in my 29 years on this earth and they can be counted on both hands! i think that in itself is not slutty! I made a huge mistake and if i have to suffer for that then fair enough! i believe in things happening for a reason so perhaps i am not meant to be with that other guy in work! Whats for me wont pass me!

SarahSassy

Just thinking it's more like a love square than a triangle

Toots

If I were you OP, I'd be starting to feel a flu coming on from around tomorrow, most likely one that will keep you confined to bed for the weekend, and totally unable to attend any sort of festive celebrations.

If you really like this other guy, give it a good while until the dust settles on you sleeping with his mate before you make a move with him, hopefully it won't be so fresh in his mind then. Also, if your boss keeps asking you out, just keep explaining in a firm, but friendly way that you are not interested in changing the status of your relationship with him.

LegacyUser

totally agree with Toots!
If I were you I would cry off sick and let the dust settle for at least a few weeks, otherwise you may end up with a "name".
Drink is hardly an excuse for falling into the sack with someone. I would be concerned that others were after you for the same thing....

Wagon

sketches wrote: »

totally agree with Toots!
If I were you I would cry off sick and let the dust settle for at least a few weeks, otherwise you may end up with a "name".

Maybe she's really fit? Blokes will be all over her then.

STUBBORNGIRL wrote: »

i would just be afraid that he would be boasting for other reasons not in a friend way but more in a "oh i got a bit of her there the other night" She's easy! I would be sick thinking that this was the case!

From what you've described of this chap and how he chased you, i wouldn't put it past him.

Personally id leave the chap you like alone about it. See where it goes, if he likes you he'll tell you. If not, forget about it.

STUBBORNGIRL

sketches wrote: »

totally agree with Toots!
If I were you I would cry off sick and let the dust settle for at least a few weeks, otherwise you may end up with a "name".
Drink is hardly an excuse for falling into the sack with someone. I would be concerned that others were after you for the same thing....

dont see why others would be after me for being easy when no one knows that i was with this guy. Other than that my personal life and my working life are two seperate things! i dont divulge my private life to everyone in work so they should have no reason to believe that i am easy!! (im not easy by the way). Drink is not an excuse and perhaps i should admit that deep down i was attracted to his guy and that is probably the reason it ended with us in the sack! I wish i could take it back now but whats done is done !- And im not that worried with the situation with my boss - i think he knows where he stands but its just with drink in him he can be a bit sleazy! I am going to go because i have organised it and i would be the one to bring alot of life to the party and i know that everyone would want me there so I am just going to have to go easy on the drink, stay away from those other guys and go home early and on my own!! i think i might just be able to do that ! Thanks for the advice,appreciate it!:)

LegacyUser

To be honest it comes across as though your enjoying every last minute of this so called 'problem' and personally I have zero sympathy for you, seeing as you willingly chose to make your professional life personal (And no, drink is not an excuse, you're a grown woman not a teenager)

I know a million girls like you, shagging colleagues, flirting with the boss and anyone else with a pulse, playing guys off against each other and then moaning about the drama of it all.

Perhaps not getting trollied and flirting your way around the place might solve some of your woes?

And don't delude yourself, the only way you'll be missed at the office party is at 2 o'clock when some bored husband is looking to get laid.

Wagon

Not buying it wrote: »

I know a million girls like you, shagging colleagues, flirting with the boss and anyone else with a pulse, playing guys off against each other and then moaning about the drama of it all.

That's a bit harsh, she made a mistake only! She doesnt do this every bloody weekend!

STUBBORNGIRL

Not buying it wrote: »

To be honest it comes across as though your enjoying every last minute of this so called 'problem' and personally I have zero sympathy for you, seeing as you willingly chose to make your professional life personal (And no, drink is not an excuse, you're a grown woman not a teenager)

I know a million girls like you, shagging colleagues, flirting with the boss and anyone else with a pulse, playing guys off against each other and then moaning about the drama of it all.

Perhaps not getting trollied and flirting your way around the place might solve some of your woes?

And don't delude yourself, the only way you'll be missed at the office party is at 2 o'clock when some bored husband is looking to get laid.

If you read any of my previous posts you would see that i dont go around shagging colleagues! it happened once and was a mistake!

i enjoy having a laugh with guys - flirting whatever it is but I dont do it intentionally! its my personality! I have never played men off against eachother! EVER! Did you actually read any of this post! - you probably read one line and leapt straight in! Go back through the posts and i think you will find you are mistaken and have totally misinterpreted what i have said! And as for loving Drama that is certainly not me!

Oh and i believe me i think im not stupid enough to go off with any married men! Desperate is one word that you would not use on me!!

STUBBORNGIRL

Wagon wrote: »

Maybe she's really fit? Blokes will be all over her then.

From what you've described of this chap and how he chased you, i wouldn't put it past him.

Personally id leave the chap you like alone about it. See where it goes, if he likes you he'll tell you. If not, forget about it.

I think you got it right! i am going to leave well enough alone and get myself a guy outside of work! Its so hard though as you get older and have so much in common with guys at work - it would make more sense that a relationship would blossom better from this than meeting in a pub and having two totally unrelated professions and having to fill awkward silences with " how was work ? what do you actually do again ??":D

STUBBORNGIRL

STUBBORNGIRL wrote: »

If you read any of my previous posts you would see that i dont go around shagging colleagues! it happened once and was a mistake!

i enjoy having a laugh with guys - flirting whatever it is but I dont do it intentionally! its my personality! I have never played men off against eachother! EVER! Did you actually read any of this post! - you probably read one line and leapt straight in! Go back through the posts and i think you will find you are mistaken and have totally misinterpreted what i have said! And as for loving Drama that is certainly not me!

Oh and i believe me i think im not stupid enough to go off with any married men! Desperate is one word that you would not use on me!!

I agree with that poster. 'Drama Queen' is what came to mind when I read your post. You are creating a huge situation out of nothing. You could just not go to the party, what does it matter if you organised it? You could easily come down with a stomach bug, have a little emergency, whatever. As for saying you 'don't go around shagging colleagues' - you have already shagged one and you now have your eye on another! And take some responsibility for your actions, for God's sake, "the drink is out so the sense is out?" Seriously? If you are incapable of stopping yourself sleeping with someone then don't drink, or just DON'T GO. It sounds like you are loving this whole situation.

magneticimpulse

Considering jobs are scarce to come by these days. And depending how "stable" your job is. I would put my career first. Everybody in your whole company knows you shagged this guy. Every place I worked in, everybody knew the weekends gossip by Monday morning. Even HR knew!! Its amazing how quickly gossip goes, especially if it involves 2 employees from the same company. If I was really serious about keeping your job, I would not go to the party and keep my head down and show respect to other colleagues. I wouldnt want the name of the companies cock girl.

Even if you got with the guy you fancied, it wouldnt last, because he would be reminded that you had shagged his mate. Ive seen it lots of times and its very difficult to shake that label. So id rather not get a name for myself in your company. Theres plenty of guys outside your company. Keep your private life and work life separate.

shellyboo

STUBBORNGIRL wrote: »

i enjoy having a laugh with guys - flirting whatever it is but I dont do it intentionally! its my personality!

You've said like four times that you flirt with every man you meet, essentially - and then you say you don't do it intentionally? Not making much sense there.

You need to start realising that actions have consequences. You can't do what you like and have everything your own way and expect everyone else to dance to your tune.

For someone who "doesn't shag around at work" you're making a fairly good stab at it so far. It doesn't matter what your intentions are, people judge you on your actions. And your actions say "office floozy". Whether that's correct or not, that's how it LOOKS. Good luck trying to persuade anyone otherwise after you bed the other bloke, or the original bloke again, or the boss, or all of them.

I'll put it another way - if you don't want to be seen as someone who shags around at work and flirts with anything with a pulse... then don't shag around at work or flirt with anything with a pulse. Simple enough, really.


As for the party - bring a female friend, do not get drunk, avoid all three men like the plague.

xzanti

MrPillowTalk wrote: »

how exactly is it not helpful? It would solve the problem.
.

It's not helpful because she has already indeed 'screwed with the crew', she's asking for help in trying to salvage her reputation and possible budding relationship with her colleague..

LegacyUser

MrPillowTalk literally took the words out of me. I had my boss make a move on me at a Christmas party i.e sexual harrassment and cried my eyes out for hours about then walked half way around the town on my own at 5.30 in the morning to try get a taxi home because I was that upset. Do you know why I never went forward about it, because cases like this Christmas parties are such a cleche for people getting drunk and sleeping around that it's impossible for people who have been sexually harassed to do prove there case. Do yourself a favour go meet some nice guy outside work.

calahans

If the two guys are good friends then they will tell each other about girls. Most guys do, they may not bragg about it in public but guys talk to their mates about who they score (in the main).

I think that you are already thinking that, with drink, you will end up with someone. If you are thinking like that now then you probably will.

Some other posters suggested going with a pal or at least laying off the booze. If end up with another guy then it will be known and the others in the office will look at you in those terms. Dont mix business with pleasure

Barracudaincork

OP i have worked in offices where the guys ll try to get it on with one girl (ie the girl who lets them) if she shags one (and its not the start of a relationship) then chances are she will shag another, so the competition begins. Im not saying this is happening to you, but it is a possibility. I have seen score charts for such girls and each fella gives her marks out of 10 on how easy she would be or how easy and good she was.

Look you can get yourself all worked up over it, but that wont change a blessed thing. So best thing to do to avoid another incident or being part of the office gossip is to keep your drinking under control, no flirting with the guys in work and quite frankly keep your knickers on! You cant change what you have done, so forget it and learn from it, it happens in offices all over the world on a daily basis, dont beat yourself up over it.

kittenkiller

I'd stop flirting with people I work with first off.
That's only going to ensure you're the centre of gossip no matter how innocent things are.

Secondly I'd brush up on my geometry and discover that something with 4 sides isn't a triangle.

Beetlebum

kittenkiller wrote: »

I'd stop flirting with people I work with first off.
That's only going to ensure you're the centre of gossip no matter how innocent things are.

Secondly I'd brush up on my geometry and discover that something with 4 sides isn't a triangle.

Hee hee...sums it up nicely:)

STUBBORNGIRL

kittenkiller wrote: »

I'd stop flirting with people I work with first off.
That's only going to ensure you're the centre of gossip no matter how innocent things are.

Secondly I'd brush up on my geometry and discover that something with 4 sides isn't a triangle.

Sorry for the misunderstanding but i called it a love triangle because i have absolutely no intentions of touching my boss and i just merely stated that he has asked me out on a few occasions! my issue is with the other two guys which when you add me does in fact add to three and i think you'll find that a triangle does have 3 sides!! anyway that is neither here nor there and to be stating it in a post doesnt solve anything!

i am a natural flirt but i dont go out of my way to do it! I know that doesnt make sense to some of you but you would have to know me to know what i am like! i have absolutely no worries about being called the office tramp because I am not going to be one! i know that i more or less have ruined my chances with the other guy and believe me I won't be going there with him! Its going back for seconds with the other guy was my worst fear!which i reckon if i keep my drink under control there will be no chance of that!
i reckon i have jsut got to the root of my issue and i do believe i iwll have a great christmas party!

Also for those of you who are so adamant saying you shouldnt mess around with work I was one of you until it happened to me! Never Say Never!!! Perhaps the same could happen to you at your christmas party

RossFixxxed

Why not:

Go to the party.
Don't drink AT ALL.
Don't flirt.
Be Professional (you are being judged as staff, despite it being a party. We've just had a new guy rip his shirt off at the party, and he looks BAD now)
Leave at an appropriate time.

NIP IT IN THE BUD. If someone is being flirty, sleezy, asking you out say it's not appropriate and move on.

Remember: this is a WORK do, a professional event. No matter how idiotic some people inevitably act. It wouldn't happen me (even if I was single) as it is the number 1 way to wreck working relationships. The people in work are not my friends, they are work collegues. I'm very fond of some of them, I hang out but there is always that 'WORK BARRIER' between us. Since I work in a German company i call it the Berlin Wall, and the Iron Curtain to the Russian team

LegacyUser

STUBBORNGIRL wrote: »

Also for those of you who are so adamant saying you shouldnt mess around with work I was one of you until it happened to me! Never Say Never!!! Perhaps the same could happen to you at your christmas party

I find not drinking myself into oblivion where I can't make clear judgements and flirting with my colleagues is good to prevent this. So yes I will say Never!!!

Victor

Bring a girl friend. Go home at a sensible hour.

Don't drink - tell them that you are on medication. Generally you aren't allowed drink when on anti-biotics.

kittenkiller

STUBBORNGIRL wrote: »

...my issue is with the other two guys which when you add me does in fact add to three and i think you'll find that a triangle does have 3 sides!!...

Fair play, you learn something new every day!

...anyway that is neither here nor there and to be stating it in a post doesnt solve anything!

I'm here for my amusement not to fix your life.

I'm glad that thanks to the internet you now know that you can go to a work event and not drink to the point of bedding anything around you.
It's a good day for humanity!

Best of luck.
Let us know how it turns out.

ManOfMystery

This entire issue is down to your self control, nothing else.

If you don't want to be labelled a certain way, then exercise some self-control and don't project a certain image of yourself.

martdalto

Stop trying to insult our intelligence by telling us that you don't like the attention, and you don't want to be the office gossip. If you didn't like the male attention, you wouldn't flirt with everyman who walks by you.

Just incase you're a bit innocent and not sure how it works.. That's how you draw male attention to yourself.
Stop lying to yourself and claiming it's unwanted.

You crave any male attention, so now the one fella who isn't giving it to you, is naturally the one fella you want it from. That's just you.

Your original question was how do you get through the Christmas party..

1: Don't go
or
2: Go, and act like a responsible adult who knows she can't be trsuted to not fall into bed with someone who she claims she doesn't want to be in bed with.

Oh.. And...

3: Stop making yourself look desperate in front of the fella you actually think you like.


P.S: You said nobody can know that you fancy this fella as you flirt with every man. So what makes you think that this fella knows anything any different from anyone else? As far as he can see, you're all over everyone.. why would he want to date that??

AngryBadger

Simple advice; keep your legs closed in work in future.

Chucky the tree

Seriously, 3 some? You like them both and seem "adventurous" enough for it so I'd say we could be on to a winner here with my suggestion. The guy you really fancy won't touch you with a barge poll because he doesn't want his mates slope second while he's also thinking "I dont want other work collegues sloppy god-knows-how-many, and definitely not my bosses" so I'd say your out of luck with him on a one-on-one basis. However if the chance to spit roast the office bike at the christmas party will just be too much to turn down imo as it's a great sotry for the lads. This way if your a good go in the bed afterwards you might be able to persuade him in seeing you out of work together but he'll make you keep it hush hush as he won't want the slaggings of dating Raleigh but it's a start anyway.

Best of luck. Alernatively you could go, not drink and not flirt with any of the guys but I'm pretty sure that suggestion is far to crazy and OTT.

SarahSassy

OP, have you made any further decisions on going or not?

martdalto

Hi OP, how did the Christmas party go? Which one, if any, did you bring home?!

Stella777

martdalto wrote: »

Stop trying to insult our intelligence by telling us that you don't like the attention, and you don't want to be the office gossip. If you didn't like the male attention, you wouldn't flirt with everyman who walks by you.

Just incase you're a bit innocent and not sure how it works.. That's how you draw male attention to yourself.
Stop lying to yourself and claiming it's unwanted.

You crave any male attention, so now the one fella who isn't giving it to you, is naturally the one fella you want it from. That's just you.

Your original question was how do you get through the Christmas party..

1: Don't go
or
2: Go, and act like a responsible adult who knows she can't be trsuted to not fall into bed with someone who she claims she doesn't want to be in bed with.

Oh.. And...

3: Stop making yourself look desperate in front of the fella you actually think you like.

+1
The whole thing just sounds so teenager-ish and drama queen-ish. :rolleyes:
I would just sit out this particular party. It will go on without you.