If your other half were crippeled, would you stay with them?

AckwelFoley

Do you know the advert for drinking and driving on tv? The guy that talks about his life.. captain of the football team, a lovely fiance and then i lost it all because i drove while drunk,, and " its ironic now i always talk like im drunk"

What i was thinking,, if your partner, girlfriend perhaps spouse were in an accident and were left wheelchair bound or perhaps worse would you stay with them? It may be an odd question but i know of a few cases where people were paralised in accidents and their relationships in 3 of 4 occasions ended almost immediatly..

Ive never thought about it to be honest, i dont think it would be an issue but whats your opinion?

Midnight_EG

Try light blue/grey next time mate :cool:

galwayrush

No doubt, YES.

ejmaztec

You'd have to be a real sh1t to walk away.

drunkmonkey

it's not like they can run after you..

AckwelFoley

galwayrush wrote: »

No doubt, YES.

ejmaztec wrote: »

You'd have to be a real sh1t to walk away.

Love is in the air :pac:

Prof.Badass

Can she still have babies?

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>_>

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Biggins

Yes, she's hidden me jelly babies and I have to get them back!

445279.ie

Don't know myself, hard to call.

Know of a couple where this happened. They were only about 18/19 at the time and he was paralysed in a car crash. His family told the girl that they'd totally understand if she walked away. In fact, the guy said the same himself.

But she stayed and they're now married nearly 15 years and have a child.

Haven't seen them in years but was always touched by the love and affection they shared.

minidazzler

I honestly don't know, I have spent the last 7 years of my life and then some taking care of my little sister who is wheelchair bound.

I don;t know if I could do it for my whole life with someone who I was in a relationship is.

It is mentally and physically exhausting.

So, I really don't know.

PirateShampoo

Bet you cant beat me in a race.

The Big Red Button

snyper wrote: »

Do you know the advert for drinking and driving on tv? The guy that talks about his life.. captain of the football team, a lovely fiance and then i lost it all because i drove while drunk,, and " its ironic now i always talk like im drunk"

What i was thinking,, if your partner, girlfriend perhaps spouse were in an accident and were left wheelchair bound or perhaps worse would you stay with them? It may be an odd question but i know of a few cases where people were paralised in accidents and their relationships in 3 of 4 occasions ended almost immediatly..

Ive never thought about it to be honest, i dont think it would be an issue but whats your opinion?

Well I haven't seen the ad, but I assume that it meant that his fiancee left him coz he was drink driving rather than coz he was crippled?

I've never thought about it much, obviously I would like to think that we would stay together no matter what, for better and for worse and all that. And I do genuinely thing that, tough as it might be, we would. However I know that, if it were my fiance who was left crippled (and he works in roofing; its a dangerous job) ... I just know he'd do everything he could to make me leave him.

God it's a depressing thing to think about!

Pighead

Yes, most definitely. True love should be unconditional.

Unless the crippling occurred after she was hit by a van after leaving Pighead's best friend house having just partaking in some illicit sex with said best friend. If that were the case, then she could damn well bog off out of Pighead's life and take her stinking wheelchair with her. Cheating hussy. They're all the same.

Voltex

snyper wrote: »

Do you know the advert for drinking and driving on tv? The guy that talks about his life.. captain of the football team, a lovely fiance and then i lost it all because i drove while drunk,, and " its ironic now i always talk like im drunk"

What i was thinking,, if your partner, girlfriend perhaps spouse were in an accident and were left wheelchair bound or perhaps worse would you stay with them? It may be an odd question but i know of a few cases where people were paralised in accidents and their relationships in 3 of 4 occasions ended almost immediatly..

Ive never thought about it to be honest, i dont think it would be an issue but whats your opinion?

Jeeze...I think its one of those questions you dont ask....like if there was a fire and you could only save 1 child..which one would it be?

PirateShampoo

Atleast anal wont be a problem anymore.

ejmaztec

snyper wrote: »

Love is in the air :pac:

If you ever met my missus, you'd know that the only thing in the air is fright:eek:

Midnight_EG

ejmaztec wrote: »

If you ever met my missus, you'd know that the only thing in the air is fright:eek:

And *ahem* something else. :cool:

stovelid

Yes.

Quandary

PirateShampoo wrote: »

Atleast anal wont be a problem anymore.

Just make sure your g/f lubes up that strap on good and slippy and itl be juuuuuust right

AckwelFoley

Voltex wrote: »

Jeeze...I think its one of those questions you dont ask....like if there was a fire and you could only save 1 child..which one would it be?

That depends, did i start the fire?

stovelid

Voltex wrote: »

Jeeze...I think its one of those questions you dont ask....like if there was a fire and you could only save 1 child..which one would it be?

The boy?

Abi

ejmaztec wrote: »

If you ever met my missus, you'd know that the only thing in the air is fright:eek:

Your missus?! but your a she.. a he.. a he-she?

Not again.


*palmface*

cloneslad

snyper wrote: »

If your other half were crippeled[/SIZE][/B], would you stay with them?

No, but if they couldn't spell I would definitely leave

/Leaves biting his lip over the poor use of grammar

Arcade Panda

If you love someone you would never leave them. True love runs deeper then a broken spine.

Midnight_EG

cloneslad wrote: »

snyper wrote: »

If your other half were crippeled[/size][/b], would you stay with them?

No, but if they couldn't spell I would definitely leave

/Leaves biting his lip over the poor use of grammar

Forgot your period here.

thee glitz

Well it depends if you love your oh. If you really do then it's an easy question.

Thornography

Disturbing question but yes, Unless as otherwise stated .. i.e if she was hit by a car after leaving pigheads house after having illicit sex theory lol.

psycho-hope

i suppose it depends on the relationship, if i truly loved him then yes i would stay, but if it was someone I wasnt seein long I dont know what I would do tbh

Tar.Aldarion

Yes, take care of her til the end of her days. :-p

Silverfish

Yeah definitely, I think we agreed anything up to a completely all-over disfiguring oil fire incident, that was the dealbreaker.

thee glitz

Tar.Aldarion wrote: »

Yes, take care of her til the end of her days. :-p

assuming you outlive her.

cloneslad

Midnight_EG wrote: »

Forgot your period here.

No, I didn't forget my period, why the hell do you think I am in such a bad mood? It's a very heavy flow this month

Midnight_EG

cloneslad wrote: »

No, I didn't forget my period, why the hell do you think I am in such a bad mood? It's a very heavy flow this month

Grammar nazi mistakes period for period

cloneslad

Midnight_EG wrote: »

Grammar nazi mistakes period for period

Such a bloody mess:P

I would like to think I would, in fact my husband could very easily be in a wheelchair right now, he spent a month in hospital after a car crash.

I reckon that most couples who break up after that sort of thing, do it not because of the physical disability, but of the stress that comes with it, I think that the person with the disability might become so angry/upset/depressed that it would make life extremely difficult for the other person, they would also probably try to push their partner away.

I wouldn't ever judge someone until I have walked a mile in their shoes though.

rentacrowd

Voltex wrote: »

Jeeze...I think its one of those questions you dont ask....like if there was a fire and you could only save 1 child..which one would it be?

The kid you love more, that's an easy one

Scoobydoobydoo

I absolutely would stay, yes. And he would do the same for me. Unconditional love, and marriage vows are the reasons why.

Latchy

I have a relative who is precisely in that position (invalid ) and she couldn't be married to a better man .He stays focused and looks after her 24/7

Forgot to mention if in the same situation I would do the same although their is no doubting that the stress's and strains that go with it all can be extremely demanding on anybody .

imeddyhobbs

I have a friend who's wife had a stroke at the age of 35,she was brain dead after it.
He looked after her for 5 years after it until his needs became more important.

wolfpawnat

If someone (God forbid) caused my OH to become paralysed, as much as I know that the initial period after the accident would be very hard emotionally and physically, we came through hardships of other types before and we have a little boy together. I would have to fight to keep the relationship going. I love him and I would still love him if he couldn't walk!

However if he caused the accident by being irresponsible and was the reason another wperson was harmed or killed I would need time to forgive him!

Although when you decide to be in a proper relationship with another person, you should take them as they are today, and as the could be in 100 years time!

El Siglo

I don't have an OH, so I'm not really qualified to give such an opinion. God forbid if unfortunate shit like this was to happen I would stay with the person, you'd only be cunt otherwise ("for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health").

Tar.Aldarion

thee glitz wrote: »

assuming you outlive her.

Good good, you don't know of the plan

>_>


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john_d_baptist

a straight answer, yes... but with conditions, that would be probably too difficult to discuss, so yes, I would stay for good.... but I would have to have some 'time to myself'

eVeNtInE

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The_Minister

ejmaztec wrote: »

You'd have to be a real sh1t to walk away.

Judgemental much?

You only have one life, do you really think that you are bound to spend it looking after someone just because you married them?

There is a reason we have divorce: relationships change, people change and what made things work can vanish. It could be that nearly no sex and constant feeding (possible wiping) could not be what someone wants to spend their life on.

I'd like to think I'd stay, and if I did leave, I would do my best to see she was taken care of. But, I wouldn't spend my one life (Athism ftl:() minding someone out of some sense of obligation. I'd do it because I loved them or I wanted to, and if I didn't then I would leave.

Midnight_EG

Being The_Minister, you'd know the Catholic Church is/was against divorce :P

JPA

I can hardly cut myself in half.

Whosbetter?

To be honest, I'd stay with Mrs Whosbetter?, no matter what.

We've got too much shared history, kids etc.

However, I'd much prefer to see her in a wheelchair than getting something like Altzhiemers Disease.

That would be true heartbreak.

I've seen it happen to people over the years & there's nothing worse.

As long as you can keep your dignity & your sense of self/humour, it's okay with me.

rafared

Yes. Been together 17 years now and married for 12.

bronte

Yes definitely. It's like Marge Simpson says "When a woman loves a man, it doesn't matter that a crocodile bit off his face."

helimachoptor

I think while everyone may have the best intentions the reality may be some what different. If it's temporay paraylsis for a few months but you know there is light at the end of the tunnell I think most people could handle that.

However if you get told at 20/30 that your partner will never walk again and you'll need to help them go to the toilet, feed them change them when they soil themselves for the rest of your lives that may be tough for a lot of people.

My grandparents were married for 55 odd years and see was diagnosed with Parkinsons, she deteriorated pretty quick but everyday he was there until he died. Anything she needed he did. My Gfs granny has MS and has been wheelchair bound for 40 years. Her granddad was the same, all day everyday he took care of her. Though she went into a nursing home for 2 weeks a year to give him a holiday

Honestly I'd like to be 100% sure i'd stay but i'm not.