PDA

Rayne

Just wondering what you gals and guys think of public displays of affection (PDA)?

Last weekend my boyfriends sister came to visit with her boyfriend (been together about 5-6 months). Anyway to say they spent the whole weekend in each others pockets is an understatment!
From the moment they arrived, they didn't come up for air. It went from arms wrapped completely around each other to full on kissing, even hands under tops, in front of is, not a bother on them.

Now, I'm no prude, by any means, but I believe there is a time and a place, and on my couch, in front of me, is not the place!
I've never felt so uncomfortable in my own house and find this 'carry on' rude and disrespectful.

I love holding my boyfriends hand and the pecks in the cheek, but we keep most of affectionate displays behind doors.

So, just wondering, am I alone here? How do you feel/handle these situations?

Notorious

Rayne wrote: »

...I believe there is a time and a place, and on my couch, in front of me, is not the place!

I love holding my boyfriends hand and the pecks in the cheek, but we keep most of affectionate displays behind doors.

So, just wondering, am I alone here? How do you feel/handle these situations?

Fully agree with you there. As you said, there's a time and place for everything. Out of all of my friends who are 'coupled', one couple in particular always insist on wearing the face off each other wherever they go. What's worse is that you'd be in the middle of talking to both of them and suddenly they'd just decide to go for it while mid-sentence. I generally just turn around and walk away. What else can you do?

The odd kiss is fair enough, along with holding hands, linking arms etc. But there's no need to be all over each other all the time.

Anna Molly

I don't care about hand holding, or a kiss when you're saying goodbye etc.
PDA, full on is gross. Get a room.

It'll wear off soon enough, fret not

krudler

The odd show of affection like a kiss or cuddle is fine, full on making out isnt, get a room people

Rayne

Notorious wrote: »

What's worse is that you'd be in the middle of talking to both of them and suddenly they'd just decide to go for it while mid-sentence. I generally just turn around and walk away. What else can you do?

Yeah, that happened the odd time, they'd just stop mid sentence as if you weren't there. I felt so awkward.

I didn't have the guts to tell them to cop on, though at one point I was driving the car, she was in front and him in the back, he started hugging her from behind and getting in my way, I said 'Ugh, get a room' to which he replied 'Aww, you jealous??' - Seriously? NO!

smoggy11

Can I ask what age they are?

Rayne

smoggy11 wrote: »

Can I ask what age they are?

20/21

smoggy11

Oh!

Okay! I was expecting like 16/17!

I would think at 20/21 you would have a bit more decency than that... I know if my boyfriends sister (same age) came round and started doing that I would be severly peeved!

Rayne

I know! I'd nearly get it if they were teeny boppers, but I'd like to think at 21 you'd have a certain level of maturity about these things.

But I also have 23 year old friends who do a similar kind of thing, full on with each other (they're coming to visit in 2 weeks, eek) His logic was, 'Im happy with my girlfriend, I should be allowed express that in front of my friends' (Pass the sick bucket!)

stovelid

It's pretty rude in company. Might make exceptions in some situations. For example, if you're in a night-club and not in a sit-down situation.

If it's two randomers I don't know, say, at the next table, it's fine unless they're dry-humping.

Contessa Raven

I used to have a similar problem with a couple who are friends with me and my OH. We all went to the same college and we'd all go for lunch together but we'd sit down with our food and they'd be full on tongues down eachother's throats and in some cases ear nibbling and ass squeezin'!

"HELLO!!! I'M TRYIN' TO EAT MY FREAKIN' LUNCH!"

It did wear off eventually though not completely. But I live abroad now so I don't have to put up with them anymore. Me and my OH don't do PDA's really. We hold hands. And the odd peck here and there but I like to think we respect other people's right not to have PDA's shoved in their faces. (I know I hate it!)

Do you know what is worse.
They are the same people who have big dirty domestics, in the middle of your nice pleasant evening out.


I'm fair bad for kissing in public,proper public! not someones living room....and undercover of darkness and not entirely sober though!

minidazzler

Moonbaby wrote: »

Do you know what is worse.
They are the same people who have big dirty domestics, in the middle of your nice pleasant evening out.


I'm fair bad for kissing in public,proper public! not someones living room....and undercover of darkness and not entirely sober though!

First point you made. I FCUKING HATE when people do this!! and I have a friend who gets like this ALOT!

The second....I have been seen in some dark corners doing unmentionable things....not my fault....if they are willing, I'm not wasting time :P

minidazzler

minidazzler wrote: »

First point you made. I FCUKING HATE when people do this!! and I have a friend who gets like this ALOT!

The second....I have been seen in some dark corners doing unmentionable things....not my fault....if they are willing, I'm not wasting time :P

Yeah my people do owe you.....don't we. :P

(Mini is cruel to redheads after the fact)

jenny2hat

Extent would be holding hands or a quick peck. Really wouldn't wanna be responsible for creating an arkward moment, not fair on everyone else. Seriously? Aren't 20/21 year olds are supposed to have more sense

minidazzler

jenny2hat wrote: »

Extent would be holding hands or a quick peck. Really wouldn't wanna be responsible for creating an arkward moment, not fair on everyone else. Seriously? Aren't 20/21 year olds are supposed to have more sense

Fcuk that!! I hate that word so much!!!

Do as you please TBH. If you don't like people doing it, TELL THEM! Then they can stop because it annoys others not because they are SUPPOSED to!

jenny2hat

minidazzler wrote: »

Fcuk that!! I hate that word so much!!!

Do as you please TBH. If you don't like people doing it, TELL THEM! Then they can stop because it annoys others not because they are SUPPOSED to!

Do as you please? Do you'd start stripping someone when you've got company...? Come on, there's a line here.

minidazzler

jenny2hat wrote: »

Do as you please? Do you'd start stripping someone when you've got company...? Come on, there's a line here.

You're perogative. So Suggest your perogative to the people.

and No, I wouldn't start stipping someone in my living room with company there. I would however call whoever was doing it up on it!

I don't find it particularily rude TBH, I think it's cute.

Do you know what else is awful. Public declarations of smush on your facebook status. ~puke~

jenny2hat

minidazzler wrote: »

You're perogative. So Suggest your perogative to the people.

and No, I wouldn't start stipping someone in my living room with company there. I would however call whoever was doing it up on it!

I don't find it particularily rude TBH, I think it's cute.

No I'm not, look at the rest of the replies. I think most people would. That's the point I'm making.

minidazzler

jenny2hat wrote: »

No I'm not, look at the rest of the replies. I think most people would. That's the point I'm making.

Sorry, my grammar just had a brain fart! That was meant to read "That's your pergative" You're perogative makes absolutely no sense, Oops.

jenny2hat

minidazzler wrote: »

Sorry, my grammar just had a brain fart! That was meant to read "That's your pergative" You're perogative makes absolutely no sense, Oops.

Don't worry about it

Pretty_Pistol

Holding hands, hugging, peck on the lips, holding eachother while watching TV is all fine with me but going under the clothing when other people are in the living room is just wrong.

Xiney

LOL

I totally would have said something. That's just not on.


I mean, I'll admit to getting a bit too eh, demonstrative on a night out when I was eh, slightly beyond tipsy (several years back!). And I'll rat himself out for SINGING all the way home on a BUS about how much he "loves" my "boobies" a few years back on his first St-Patrick's day in Canada (his first experience of pitchers of beer: communal green beer + Irishman who's terrified of not getting his fair share = disaster)

But other than that....

Assets Model

Rayne wrote: »

Just wondering what you gals and guys think of public displays of affection (PDA)?

Last weekend my boyfriends sister came to visit with her boyfriend (been together about 5-6 months). Anyway to say they spent the whole weekend in each others pockets is an understatment!
From the moment they arrived, they didn't come up for air. It went from arms wrapped completely around each other to full on kissing, even hands under tops, in front of is, not a bother on them.

Now, I'm no prude, by any means, but I believe there is a time and a place, and on my couch, in front of me, is not the place!
I've never felt so uncomfortable in my own house and find this 'carry on' rude and disrespectful.

I love holding my boyfriends hand and the pecks in the cheek, but we keep most of affectionate displays behind doors.

So, just wondering, am I alone here? How do you feel/handle these situations?

Depends how old they are. If they're teenagers I'd let them away with it as we all did it i'm sure but if they're in their 20s they need to cop on.

Malari

It bugs me when people do this. It's rude. I've experienced it while on holiday with a group of people.

It wasn't even just the sudden kissing while you're speaking to them, it was the constant whispering to each other, and basically acting like no-one else was there - even while out for dinner! :mad:

Holding hands, the odd kiss is ok, but seriously anything else looks like you are trying to prove something.

morninwood

@OP: deffo a 'get a room' situation and entirely inappropriate.

homerun_homer

As a singleton people who overdo it with PDA is really annoying and sickening, especially when in situations you can’t leave like in a packed gig. But when I’m in a relationship I like a bit of PDA but nothing to make me a hypocrite. I recently cooled things off with someone in part because she had zero tolerance to any PDA. It’s sorta embarrassing to lean in for a peck in public for her to lean away. Made me feel like a bit of a d1ck. That was the first of many niggles with that slight relationship.

Rayne

minidazzler wrote: »

I don't find it particularily rude TBH, I think it's cute.

Oh i don't think its cute, at all. I think a guy, chatting to the guys and throwing his eye at his girl from time to time is cute.
Being glued to each others faces, is not cute!
I think that should be on your own time.
Most of the time, the couple will spend all their time together, so i think when their out with friends or family, they can separate and come up for air. Absolutely no harm.

homerun_homer wrote: »

I recently cooled things off with someone in part because she had zero tolerance to any PDA. Its sorta embarrassing to lean in for a peck in public for her to lean away. Made me feel like a bit of a d1ck. That was the first of many niggles with that slight relationship.

Oh that would drive me nuts too. If my OH pulled away i wanted a kiss, i wouldn't be happy.

miss_feminem

Malari wrote: »

Holding hands, the odd kiss is ok, but seriously anything else looks like you are trying to prove something.

Exactly - that's what it does look like. Obv I don't mean a quick smooch or a hug goodbye, etc. But I've seen people practically having sex on the side of the street before. If you're that horny, get a room :P

IWishh

homerun_homer wrote: »

As a singleton people who overdo it with PDA is really annoying and sickening, especially when in situations you can’t leave like in a packed gig. But when I’m in a relationship I like a bit of PDA but nothing to make me a hypocrite. I recently cooled things off with someone in part because she had zero tolerance to any PDA. It’s sorta embarrassing to lean in for a peck in public for her to lean away. Made me feel like a bit of a d1ck. That was the first of many niggles with that slight relationship.

That is the WORST!

I've had no problem in the past giving a few hard elbow nudges, making a face or commenting loudly but most of the time they are totally oblivious.

Why stand right at the front of a gig if youre gonna turn your back to the band and stick your tongue down someone's throat?!
Find a seat somewhere at the back will ya, ffs!

thermo66

Ugh i find it gross. Holding hands or whatever is fine but couples who are all over eachother is so rude. I was once visiting my best friend's sister and her husband and they are all over eachother at the best of times but when some soppy romantic song was on and they started slow dancing in the middle of the kitchen cum dining room while they were making dinner it took the biscuit. I didn't know where to look and my best friend just kept looking at the tv i don' think it bothered her. They also were into taking showers together and when one was getting one they would call into the other 'Im getting in now (insert ridiculous pet name which i can't recall) are you coming????' IN FRONT OF US???? WTF?

This is a married couple in all fairness, theres no excuse that they are in the first flush. I mean its great that they are still mad about eachother and all that but keep it to yourselves!! They have since asked me to go up for weekends when i was in college in the county next to them and I was always super busy!!! FFS, why would you be bothered when you are going to be made feel like a right lemon. I think is too much when friends start avoiding you :D:D