Guy buying a lady clothes

nialo

Ladies,

Is this a no no or definitely depend on the guy in question? guy goes to the effort of buying you clothes are shocked, worried, impressed or disturbed? reading the thread on what ppl what for xmas i noticed that alot said clothes or shoes of some sort but do you trust your other half to get it right!?

any horror stories for when it didnt go as planned!?

Sinall

An ex boyfriend of mine demonstrated the ability to get it really right or really wrong when buying clothes for me. He liked to do it, it's not something I would ever have suggested as I would have been terrified of the result! But he surprised me one Christmas with a gorgeous top. It was absolutely lovely. He also had a few more successes along those lines.

Another time he got me a tracksuit. Yes, a tracksuit. No, I am not a sports enthusiast who regularly wears such items. He is though! Possibly had happy daydreams of us jogging merrily through meadows together! It never happened. I think I wore it once when I was curled up on the couch with a blanket watching tv.#

I was delighted that he got me a present anyway and that he went to the effort, but I am not the sports-wear type. This was highlighted by my friends and even my parents bursting out laughing when they heard about it!

Fink Goddie

Once you have an idea of the kind of clothes she likes i dont see the problem.

But..................keep the receipt for her :pac::pac:

krudler

The only thing I've ever bought for my GF clothes wise are bedtime stuff like jammies and underwear and the like, I've bought her stuff she's tried on in shops but couldnt afford or whatever but blind buying something for someone is hit and miss, best of luck

Malari

Not usually as a Christmas thing but yeah, every so often I'll get a top if he's been away without me. Always my own style. I think he's just very observant!

sunnyside

I generally don't like it but I do have one very happy memory of same.

2 years ago my lovely boyfriend bought me a pair of laboutin shoes (I chose them myself) When we went out lots of people admired my lovely red-soled shoes, recognised them as designer. My response all the time was OH bought them for me as my Christmas present. People were so impressed and went on about how fab he was and how lucky I was...he was well happy with himself.

There won't be any expensive Christmas presents like that this year (he's self employed and not making much money at the moment) but it was the best present ever.

norwegianwood

If you buy her a bigger size than she actually is, may God have mercy on your soul.:pac:

Kintarō Hattori

I buy the other half clothes all the time......................... :eek: If you're with someone long enough I don't see the big deal in it. You'll either get it right and she'll love them or you'll get it wrong, you'll get nagged and hopefully get it right next time.

krudler

norwegianwood wrote: »

If you buy her a bigger size than she actually is, may God have mercy on your soul.:pac:

This only works with pyjamas, get one size bigger, so they're comfier, I was told this when i bought her first pair

NothingMan

norwegianwood wrote: »

If you buy her a bigger size than she actually is, may God have mercy on your soul.:pac:

But if you buy a smaller size that don't fit then they feel fat. It's a minefield that I would avoid.

Kimia

Agreed. It's a total minefield. In my own case, I would prefer a nice bracelet. No real reason, I just am weird about clothes shopping, I feel like I've a hard shape to dress so it's very personal for me.

sunnyside

NothingMan wrote: »

But if you buy a smaller size that don't fit then they feel fat. It's a minefield that I would avoid.

Someone bought me something that was too small once and I was really disappointed because I really liked it. Couldn't exchange it because he bought it while he was on holidays.

If you want to buy a woman clothes ask what size, be aware that it still mightn't fit as sizes vary from shop to shop and keep the receipts for exchange if necessary.

sunnyside

Kimia wrote: »

Agreed. It's a total minefield. In my own case, I would prefer a nice bracelet. No real reason, I just am weird about clothes shopping, I feel like I've a hard shape to dress so it's very personal for me.

That's why shoes can work well as a present.

LadyJ

My boyf is great at buying me underwear that I like, pjs and hats and scarves etc. I'm sure he would also be great at buying me other kinds of clothes but he knows that I enjoy the process of picking them out for myself so he sometimes tells me that he's seen something I'd like in x place and I go there and usually I love whatever it is.

I need to try on everything before I buy it because sometimes things don't fit/sit right when I put them on so it's just better if I do it myself.

Nervous Wreck

I have an older sister who dresses really well and always asks my opinion on her outfits before she goes out. Cos of this, I reckon I could shop for a girl better than I could shop for myself, once I identified her style of dressing. I'd still keep the ol' receipts though, heh.

Maple

Once an ex spoke of buying me a Juicy Couture or Juicy Fruit or whatever those velour tracksuits are with the writing on the bottom are called. I thought he was taking the mick, sadly he wasn't.

I actually did ask him if he knew me at all whilst laughing my arse off.

shellyboo

I just... wouldn't be keen on a guy buying me clothes. Unless I had taken him into a shop and dropped major hints about a specific item in a specific size and colour :P I just think it'd be awkard and crap if he got the wrong size, or even worse, I hated what he'd bought.

However, if he wanted to take me out shopping for a day, on him - that I could get on board with

Malari

norwegianwood wrote: »

If you buy her a bigger size than she actually is, may God have mercy on your soul.:pac:

NothingMan wrote: »

But if you buy a smaller size that don't fit then they feel fat. It's a minefield that I would avoid.

What kind of militant girlfriends are out there?! Honest mistakes people, even I buy the wrong size for myself sometimes!

nialo

buying the wrong size for yourself is not as bad as buying the wrong size for someone else! tis like oh i thought this would fit! ie this is how i see you!!

stovelid

Have bought clothes in the past and have got it right about 95% of the time.

That said, for clothing gifts these days, I mostly tend toward vouchers from a favourite shop or picking up the bill for something as this is really what I would prefer if clothing was bought for me.

Just because I like something that is bought for me doesn't mean I don't have my eye on something that I like better.

shellyboo

nialo wrote: »

buying the wrong size for yourself is not as bad as buying the wrong size for someone else! tis like oh i thought this would fit! ie this is how i see you!!

You'd have to be fairly mental now to draw that conclusion from a man going into a shop and guessing your size, tbh. I couldn't guess a guy's size accurately if you paid me.

stovelid

shellyboo wrote: »

I couldn't guess a guy's size accurately if you paid me.

Ages ago, I bought a coat for my wife once and couldn't figure which one would fit best so I asked an assistant that was around the same height to try it on for me.

It was the right size, thank god.

Maple

stovelid wrote: »

Ages ago, I bought a coat for my wife once and couldn't figure which one would fit best so I asked an assistant that was around the same height to try it on for me.

It was the right size, thank god.

Bless.

zuroph

meh, its easy. I know what my girlfriend likes to wear, and how she likes to look, and I base my decisions on that. sometimes I've encouraged her to try stuff she was a little nervous to wear herself, and she's loved it once she put it on. All you have to do is listen to what they see right or wrong in different outfits, and work your decisions around that.

shellyboo

stovelid wrote: »

Ages ago, I bought a coat for my wife once and couldn't figure which one would fit best so I asked an assistant that was around the same height to try it on for me.

It was the right size, thank god.

That's good thinking right there!

I was watching that Don't Tell the Bride there recently and it was the bit where the guy goes to buy the wedding dress for his wife-to-be - this particular groom didn't know her size, and couldn't tell to look at any of the assistants who she was most like (so they could try and guess), so he went and hugged all the shop staff to see who felt right in his arms! I thought it was so cute

meriwether

I don't understand the massive problem we men have with buying clothes for women, especially underwear.

A helpful hint I found to what size certain things are was to take a similar clothing product from her clothes-storage area when she isn't looking, and read the label.
Write it down if you wish.
Then go to a shop, find the relevant section, and buy the genre of clothing you were seeking. This now is the tricky bit - find one with a label that has the same numbers, letters and and other digit in question as the one you saw in her room.

Ta. da.

Acoshla

For Christmas last year (our first Christmas together) my boyfriend gave me his walk in wardrobe in his house and filled it with beautiful clothes, 2 dresses, a gorgeous coat, a jacket, a long knitted jumper and a scarf to match the coat, best present ever!

He said he told the girl in the store my height, size, hair/skin colour, the colours I like (and of my love of sparkly things), she rounded up loads of stuff and then he picked what he thought I'd love, he did an amazing job, he picked colours and styles I would never wear myself but they were all gorgeous, talk about brownie points!

jenny2hat

I'm generally fussy about the clothes I buy and normally don't like getting clothes as presents, cause if they're completely awful you'd feel bad about wanting to change them. Or if it was noticed that you've never worn that ugly green jumper... you feel a bit guilty. They probably did spend time thinking about what I'd want, so the thought is nice. But such a waste if you're not sure if the other person will even wear it :pac: Go with vouchers for their favorite shop vouchers instead?

zuroph

jenny2hat wrote: »

I'm generally fussy about the clothes I buy and normally don't like getting clothes as presents, cause if they're completely awful you'd feel bad about wanting to change them. Or if it was noticed that you've never worn that ugly green jumper... you feel a bit guilty. They probably did spend time thinking about what I'd want, so the thought is nice. But such a waste if you're not sure if the other person will even wear it :pac: Go with vouchers for their favorite shop vouchers instead?

see, you have too little faith in men, I've never bought something for my gf she didnt love.

justsomebloke

zuroph wrote: »

see, you have too little faith in men, I've never bought something for my gf she didnt love.

no your gf is just a good liar and as mod of Magic and illusion I would of thought you would of copped that :pac:

truthfully i would never buy clothes for other people, now it's not that I wouldn't trust myself to get the style, size or colour wrong it more that unless you try something on you can't tell if it is going to fit and hang well on yourself so blind buying for someone else you aren't going to be able to tell if it sits properly and the person may just keep the item just to save your feelings

pikachucheeks

norwegianwood wrote: »

If you buy her a bigger size than she actually is, may God have mercy on your soul.:pac:

My grandmother used to insist on buying me clothes ... She bought me a jumper three sizes too big, for Christmas, when I was about 16. Felt pretty down about it, so my dad decided to try it on, to cheer me up. It was even swimming on him! :mad:

Regarding guys buying a girl clothes, I think you definitely have to be careful:

A size too small; she might be embarrassed that it doesn't fit her and it might make her self conscious.
A size too big might offend her or again, make her feel self conscious about her body.
If it's something that's not her style, she might feel like you want her to be something different than what she is or she might be offended you don't seem to "know" her well enough...

I'd suggest paying attention to clothes she normally wears, or looks interested in when browsing online / out shopping, so you have an idea of her taste.
If you want to buy her clothing as a gift, ask for her size - don't guess. If she won't tell you, go on a shopping trip together and let her pick out what she likes (within reason, obviously!)

me_right_one

Does nobody else feel wierded out at the thoughts of men buying womens clothes? Esp underwear? The Paul O'Grady show comes to mind

shellyboo

me_right_one wrote: »

Does nobody else feel wierded out at the thoughts of men buying womens clothes? Esp underwear? The Paul O'Grady show comes to mind

Eh, no. Why?

CathyMoran

My husband happend to be great at it, considering my dad was a designed that is tough shoes to fill. What happens in practice most of the time though is that we go into a shop together, he goes that certain things are nice, there is normally one thing that he could be wrong about but he gets out of the shop a lot faster which is a result for both of us, he is also hillarious with his comments...he has bought me stuff totally by himself though too and has been right.

MizzLolly

I think it depends on the guy. My ex bought me a lovely coat, right size and all. He always insisted that clothes were the best option for a present because you get more use out of it rather than only using it once or twice.

Depending on how well he knows you, I think men aren't really that clueless when it comes to clothes at all.

Midnight_EG

pikachucheeks wrote: »

My grandmother used to insist on buying me clothes ... She bought me a jumper three sizes too big, for Christmas, when I was about 16. Felt pretty down about it, so my dad decided to try it on, to cheer me up. It was even swimming on him! :mad:

Regarding guys buying a girl clothes, I think you definitely have to be careful:

A size too small; she might be embarrassed that it doesn't fit her and it might make her self conscious.
A size too big might offend her or again, make her feel self conscious about her body.
If it's something that's not her style, she might feel like you want her to be something different than what she is or she might be offended you don't seem to "know" her well enough...

I'd suggest paying attention to clothes she normally wears, or looks interested in when browsing online / out shopping, so you have an idea of her taste.
If you want to buy her clothing as a gift, ask for her size - don't guess. If she won't tell you, go on a shopping trip together and let her pick out what she likes (within reason, obviously!)

Exactly why I'm afraid to buy jenny2hat clothes for christmas :pac:






I know you're gonna read this, I love you

Snowie

Im buying my ski pants in womans simpy because They dont have them in purple for men

jenny2hat

zuroph wrote: »

see, you have too little faith in men, I've never bought something for my gf she didnt love.

Maybe you're the exception. Or as stated already, she's a convincing liar

jenny2hat

Midnight_EG wrote: »

Exactly why I'm afraid to buy jenny2hat clothes for christmas :pac:






I know you're gonna read this, I love you

< you.




I think you could buy something though, I trust you




NB. Keep recipts...heh

Midnight_EG

jenny2hat wrote: »

< you.




I think you could buy something though, I trust you




NB. Keep recipts...heh

I don't trust myself

jenny2hat

Midnight_EG wrote: »

I don't trust myself

Aw :pac::pac: