One night stands

limerick_man

Just want to hear your view on this... are they the norm?! When you were in college like (I dont mean breaking your marriage up over them ha)... Myself and my girlfriend talked about this last week, many of my friends have had them but she was disgusted when i said it to her.. claimed her friends hadnt.

I get the moral thing but she isnt conservative, just doesnt like the idea. We've been in a long term releationship for years so I never have ... just want to hear your thoughts: Are they the norm for people in their late teens/early twenties?! and also do you think they are shameful or just innocent fun?!!

Let the debate begin

Leixlip_Red

limerick_man wrote: »

Just want to hear your view on this... are they the norm?! When you were in college like (I dont mean breaking your marriage up over them ha)... Myself and my girlfriend talked about this last week, many of my friends have had them but she was disgusted when i said it to her.. claimed her friends hadnt.

I get the moral thing but she isnt conservative, just doesnt like the idea. We've been in a long term releationship for years so I never have ... just want to hear your thoughts: Are they the norm for people in their late teens/early twenties?! and also do you think they are shameful or just innocent fun?!!

Let the debate begin

Her friends lied to her !

MistyCheese

The sex is, more often that not, cr@p on a stick.

Ninety-nine times out of a hundred it's a drunken fumble, and alcohol rarely enhances a sexual encouter. Even withut alcohol it's very unusual to find someone with whom you find yourself instantly comptible.

mikom

limerick_man wrote: »

One night stand
Just want to hear your view on this...
Let the debate begin

Hate them, totally throw off the symmetry of a bedroom.

gaeilgegrinds

I think they are the norm. Had a few, not many, all friends and all while in college. Can't say they ever did anything for me and know many friends who found them quite damaging as they did not know the guy and felt used. Can't say I felt that way but always saw them as sex, not love.

inode

alcohol definitely doesn't enhance it, but theres always morning sex to redeem the experience!

_ZeeK_

have one and risk becoming just another cell in the giant petri dish that is the STIs circulating the town? no thanks.

Professey Chin

TBH id be pretty fcuked if people didnt have them...........actually no.To be more accurate I wouldnt be fcuked if people didnt have them

Pherekydes

Leixlip_Red wrote: »

Her friends lied to her !

You know them all?

AnonoBoy

limerick_man wrote: »

Just want to hear your view on this... are they the norm?

Define 'norm'.

I've had them and most of my friends (both male and female) have too. But some of my friends haven't.

Obviously though if you have them and don't use protection you're an incompetent moron. I don't care how drunk I've been I've never failed to remember to stick a condom on.

"Oh it's better without one"
"Oh I was so drunk I forgot"
"We got carried away"

:rolleyes: F*ck off with your lame excuses.

Be a grown up and look after yourselves out there people.

FlutterinBantam

Look, give her a good twhack of good bell and all's kosher.

What pisses women off is drunken fumbling and half hearted attempts to wood up and ,well ,messy stuff.

Most of the women I know appreciate a good thick stump, well wooded up fairly clean,and used properly.

No need for either party to feel guilty after that sunshine.

Catholic church have a lot to answer for:cool:

Fratton Fred

Whip it out, whip it in, wipe it and walk away whistling, that's my motto. Never lived up to it though.

Relationship sex ftw.

Leixlip_Red

Pherekydes wrote: »

You know them all?

Yep, gagging for it... every one of them

Neamhshuntasach

Brilliant. Since i'm a raging sexist and misogynist they allow me to spend the bare minimum amount of time with women. A few hours in the club, a few seconds in the sack. Perfect amount of yin and yang. It leaves me totally zen.

Joey the lips

Never been lucky enough to have one.

Then again have only had one if you catch my drift.

Always curious about a one night stand though its a one night sex session never to be repeated right.....

Sounds like the honeymoon night to me! and that was disapointing

Tar.Aldarion

My opinion is, awwwww yeahhhhh.

pikachucheeks

They're never particularly fulfilling.

niallith

i suppose they would be the "norm" for some people and never in thought for others,ive never experienced one so i cant say too much on the subject really, suppose id be somewhat open to one if the chance came, depending on current circumstances in my life eg.(wanting to wait for relationship,if theres was to be one to progress and make the first time with that person a bit more special)

kikkidee03

nothing like a good old walk of shame and cringe to make ya feel real good in the early morning! :P

am in college now and the older ya get the less it seems to be a big deal or so peoples attitudes seem to suggest. If you gonna hook up with someone for one night i don't know if it's better that it's a randomer or friend!

MPB

Would say they are pretty much the norm. As some have said your gf's m8's are quite possibly not telling the full truth and no I'm not tarring all girls with the same brush but its they're not all angels either. No harm in it in my opinion. Have I? Yes but not often. mostly I've had long term relationships. Its really meaningless sex. My mate on the other hand has never had a long term relationship and has one night stands regularly. he's 0 interest in anything more which I find kinda totally crazy. I guess everyones different but I certainly wouldnt like to be like that.

DanGlee

Every hole's a goal :P

Insect Overlord

Haven't been there myself, but I can think of two friends of mine who've done the one-night-stand thing a few times. (eh, not with each other...)

df1985

if you're in your early 20's and single its fairly standard.nightclubs+alcohol+beer goggles=messy drunken sex with a munter.good times!

blueshark22

I've had a few , some with randomers, some with people i know of - but don't really know. If it makes any sense some of my one nighters turn into 2/3 nighters but that's it then. I suffer from low self esteem and these one night stands always lift me at the time but then .... harsh reality!

Overheal

Neamhshuntasach wrote: »

Brilliant. Since i'm a raging sexist and misogynist they allow me to spend the bare minimum amount of time with women. A few hours in the club, a few seconds in the sack. Perfect amount of yin and yang. It leaves me totally zen.

....Letterman?

OutlawPete

Overheal wrote: »

....Letterman?

My avatar is supposed to be Letterman but not sure it looks that much like him.

Neamhshuntasach

Overheal wrote: »

....Letterman?

It's not a quote. I was just fúckin around. But since i've never watched that Letterman chap he could have said something similar. The end bit was more so Rats from Paths to freedom.

OutlawPete

Neamhshuntasach wrote: »

It's not a quote. I was just fúckin around. But since i've never watched that Letterman chap he could have said something similar.

He was just joking by suggesting, from the content of your post, you might be Letterman

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v8yRnskK2lQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vm8libcD1rs

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OzH-mEwo6a8

rainbow kirby

Not particularly fulfilling, but can be fun.

Rented Mule

mikom wrote: »

Hate them, totally throw off the symmetry of a bedroom.

Well played !!

Post of the day !!

Davidius

I can't see myself every bothering. Aside from the risks involved, I'd rather be sleeping.

FruitLover

'Crap sex, not fulfilling', blah blah, whatever.

The worst sex I've ever had was still better than no sex.

OutlawPete

FruitLover wrote: »

'Crap sex, not fulfilling', blah blah, whatever.

The worst sex I've ever had was still better than no sex.

Then it wasn't really real bad sex. Trust me, when it's bad you wish you'd never heard of sex. You wish that genitalia the whole world over would just dissappear.

Usually lasts about a week and then your back to normal getting aroused walking past the hot mannequins in River Island's window - maybe that's just me

anothernight

Crap sex, but it can be fun. Tends to be more of a 3 night stand for me, sometimes like a week of being with the same guy. But nothing beats relationship sex.

I wouldn't call it the 'norm', but it's definitely quite common to have one night stands.

Tar.Aldarion

Nico22 wrote: »

Then it wasn't really real bad sex. Trust me, when it's bad you wish you'd never heard of sex. You wish that genitalia the whole world over would just dissappear.

Usually lasts about a week and then your back to normal getting aroused walking past the hot mannequins in River Island's window - maybe that's just me

God no, full mast sir!

waitinforatrain

FlutterinBantam wrote: »

Look, give her a good twhack of good bell and all's kosher.

What pisses women off is drunken fumbling and half hearted attempts to wood up and ,well ,messy stuff.

Most of the women I know appreciate a good thick stump, well wooded up fairly clean,and used properly.

No need for either party to feel guilty after that sunshine.

Catholic church have a lot to answer for:cool:

...wtf? did anybody understand this post?

Clare_Guy

FruitLover wrote: »

'Crap sex, not fulfilling', blah blah, whatever.

The worst sex I've ever had was still better than no sex.

Hear, hear... No such thing as bad sex, me? I'm brilliant at it. Come every time. Sometime in seconds flat. And then you get to see the look of surprise in her eyes. Delightful... It's the same look as when I forget her birthday, etc... funny that?!...

kikkidee03

Clare_Guy wrote: »

Hear, hear... No such thing as bad sex, me? I'm brilliant at it. Come every time. Sometime in seconds flat. And then you get to see the look of surprise in her eyes. Delightful...

nah thats the look of relief :P

FruitLover

waitinforatrain wrote: »

...wtf? did anybody understand this post?

I believe he's talking about lumberjacking. Very masculine activity.

b28

MistyCheese wrote: »

The sex is, more often that not, cr@p on a stick.

Ninety-nine times out of a hundred it's a drunken fumble, and alcohol rarely enhances a sexual encouter. Even withut alcohol it's very unusual to find someone with whom you find yourself instantly comptible.

Yeah I totally agree with that! Alcohol does really, help us all enjoy a good night out, and helps us find a bed to sleep in:D