A fun one!

Astrogeek

I am recently starting to feel like I want to date again, after a three year relationship ended.
There is a guy in my course who I have never really noticed before, last year he seemed very shy and unsociable. But there is something different about him this year.
I haven't talked to him much, but he is in all my lectures so starting a conversation isn't hard.

But I haven't flirted with another man in so long I can't seem to come up with anything flirty to say.

So one the "chase" so to speak.

What would you do?

sexmag

Make a sexy joke,guys love it:D

minidazzler

From a guys perspective,(Is it too early in the thread for this), follow the KISS principle. Keep It Simple, Stoopid.

Hints don't work on alot of guys, they confuse us because what you consider hints other female friends would consider friendly banter so we don't know how to react. (speaking in general terms of course.)

We do however drop hints that let you know we like you. So if you know he likes you ask him out for a drink some time.

See Simple.

Professey Chin

Astrogeek wrote: »

I am recently starting to feel like I want to date again, after a three year relationship ended.
There is a guy in my course who I have never really noticed before, last year he seemed very shy and unsociable. But there is something different about him this year.
I haven't talked to him much, but he is in all my lectures so starting a conversation isn't hard.

But I haven't flirted with another man in so long I can't seem to come up with anything flirty to say.

So one the "chase" so to speak.

What would you do?

From personal experience(meaning the part in bold is me usually) the best thing you can really do is say things straight out.
Just ask him if he'd like to go for a drink or something cause if he's anything like me he is terrible at telling the difference between flirting and just being friendly.

EDIT: mini beat me to it I see.Same principle

minidazzler

Ultimate Chin wrote: »

From personal experience(meaning the part in bold is me usually) the best thing you can really do is say things straight out.
Just ask him if he'd like to go for a drink or something cause if he's anything like me he is terrible at telling the difference between flirting and just being friendly.

EDIT: mini beat me to it I see.Same principle

You know what they say about Great minds Chin........They rip off mini's ideas!!!:P

shellyboo

Astrogeek wrote: »

I am recently starting to feel like I want to date again, after a three year relationship ended.
There is a guy in my course who I have never really noticed before, last year he seemed very shy and unsociable. But there is something different about him this year.
I haven't talked to him much, but he is in all my lectures so starting a conversation isn't hard.

But I haven't flirted with another man in so long I can't seem to come up with anything flirty to say.

So one the "chase" so to speak.

What would you do?

"I can't believe we've been in the same class for so long and I never noticed you before (with flirty grin/look)... why don't we go for a drink and get to know eachother?"

Be obvious. Because boys are really not good at picking up hints.

dublingal80

its true, boys dont read between the lines the way a girl does... even if she isnt meant to

definiately keep it simple, but blunt, so he knows exactly what you are asking him

GOOD LUCK!:D

Khannie

Jaysus lads. You're making it sound like she should just bound up to him and ask him out for a drink.

Talk to him a bit first. In or after a lecture. In the canteen a few times. THEN ask him out for a drink.

I agree though. Men in general are terrible at picking up on whether or not women are interested in them. Keeping it simple really is best. It keeps the stress levels low for all concerned.

In college, email is a great way to get flirty too IMO because it's backed up with seeing the person from time to time at which point you can exchange the "ohi I like you" smiles.

cruizer101

While I agree with the point of not just dropping hints and that cause he won't pick up on them, I'm not sure about striaght out asking him for a drink.
If as you say he is shy this might shock him a bit so he won't really know what to say. I know if a decent looking girl just straight up asked me I'd be a bit flustered and confused, and might out of embaressment say no by accident.
My suggestion is lunch, sit besdie him in a lecture or something just before lunch then just ask do you want to go to lunch together. This way you can get to know each other a bit better, flirt a bit and then all going well maybe ask him out for drink at then end.
Best of luck anyway