Anybody not making any friends?? *sniff*...

No? Just me??
O-ok then....:(

spoonbadger

[quote=[Deleted User];62490046]No? Just me??
O-ok then....:([/QUOTE]
D'aaaaawwwww!!!.

Let's adopt him :pac::P.

My advice is just talk to people in your course at every oppurtunity. Also join any societies that appeal to you and spend time in their rooms.

What course are you doing?

Him?? HIM?!
Aw great....

amacachi

Other than the one person I already knew doing my course I don't think I've spent more than 3-5 minutes talking to anyone else in it.

the_syco

Lok out for a "wine & cheese" events. It's an excuse to get free wine & cheese, and meet random people.

spoonbadger

[quote=[Deleted User];62490126]Him?? HIM?!
Aw great....[/QUOTE]

And by him i meant the uh....latin-derived conjugation meaning.....not necessarily him?! :P

amacachi wrote: »

Other than the one person I already knew doing my course I don't think I've spent more than 3-5 minutes talking to anyone else in it.

3-5 minutes can be important though. That's the difference between total strangers, and knowing someone's name/interests/demeanor .

Larianne

Just get stuck into it!! If someone I haven't spoken to before sits beside me I just say "what's your name?" and get chatting. It's not hard. Most of the people in my class didn't know anyone else coming to the college.

NO FEAR PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Larianne

the_syco wrote: »

Lok out for a "wine & cheese" events. It's an excuse to get free wine & cheese, and meet random people.

Ooh sounds good.. where they normally on?

david

Larianne wrote: »

Ooh sounds good.. where they normally on?

Atrium

the_syco

the_syco wrote: »

Lok out for a "wine & cheese" events. It's an excuse to get free wine & cheese, and meet random people.

That does sound good, where and when???

david

david wrote: »

Atrium

???

Larianne

david wrote: »

Atrium

Seems to all happen in there.

Rondolfus

[quote=[Deleted User];62490046]No? Just me??
O-ok then....:([/quote]

Try the advice that the above posters have given. If it fails... Just wear a top like this. Great conversation starter

Socializing really just isnt my strong point. i can just never find anything to say to anyone... ive talked to people, but i always get the feeling they cant wait to be rid of me.
am i just being paranoid??

and where is this atrium place?? sounds like somewhere in your heart.. is it a metaphor?:rolleyes:

amacachi

spoonbadger wrote: »

3-5 minutes can be important though. That's the difference between total strangers, and knowing someone's name/interests/demeanor .

Might've been told 6 names so far and forgotten all but one. :pac:

amacachi

[quote=[Deleted User];62490364]Socializing really just isnt my strong point. i can just never find anything to say to anyone... ive talked to people, but i always get the feeling they cant wait to be rid of me.
am i just being paranoid??
[/QUOTE]
Probably just paranoid. Sure even I get that feeling and I'm an entertaining ****er.

andrew

Join a club/society and go to all their events.

I'm in the sci fi club and the rifle club.
ive been to a movie, but i havent the time for rifle club... think im goin this tuesday tho!

d4gurl

Give it a few months! It hasn't even been a month yet. Trust me three or four months down the road and you won't know yourself.. Also be confident! Good Luck!!

fonpokno

[quote=[Deleted User];62490622]I'm in the sci fi club and the rifle club.
ive been to a movie, but i havent the time for rifle club... think im goin this tuesday tho![/QUOTE]

Yay sci-fi! I've love sci-fi yet I've only been like twice ever, I never go to the movie night things cos I'm busy wednesdays and too scared to go on the fridays on my own...

amacachi

Friends are for losers. I picked up a Sudoku book on Friday so I don't need to worry about being bored for a few weeks yet. :P If any of ye see a big fat balding blonde guy around the Hamilton doing Sudoku puzzles it's most likely me. :pac:

Larianne

Go to a TCD Boards Beers as well. You'll meet people that way.

Whens the next one?

david

The Atrium is to the left of the Dining hall. Opposite side to the Buttery.

Edit: What a waste of my 3000th post!

lou91

Be a society whore until you find the group of people you feel most comfortable with

Lame Lantern

To be perfectly honest, all of the friends I've made in college have come from my classes and other situations where you're kept captive and have to speak to people, or through mutual friends. Meeting people in societies doesn't work as you'll generally find yourself discussing or bonding over single issues.

If you're like me and get put off by the enthusiasm and general happiness of the ordinary college population, simply making sure you're aware of and attend any sessions being organised by classmates or existing friends will probably work better for you than the whole "join stuff and talk to everyone" strategy.

It wasn't me!

[quote=[Deleted User];62490622]I'm in the sci fi club and the rifle club.
ive been to a movie, but i havent the time for rifle club... think im goin this tuesday tho![/QUOTE]

Sci-Fi is good fun. The free movies are excellent, if not good for socialising (and no, it is not okay to talk during movies, even if everyone else seems to think it is). I'm not free of bias when it comes to the rifle club, but it's also a great social place. I may be around on thursday, so feel free to introduce yourself. (Scruffy, large guy with glasses and beard)

Jack Sheehan

Hi, I'm Jack, I do Computer Science.

There you are, now you have a friend. Can I borrow some money?

Jonathan

Rondolfus wrote: »

Try the advice that the above posters have given. If it fails... Just wear a top like this. Great conversation starter

IMAGE

Any more posters will be taking the piss will be banned/infracted.

Jonathan

[quote=[Deleted User];62490046]No? Just me??
O-ok then....:([/quote]
I always found tutorials great for meeting new people. Far easier to talk to people there than before and after lectures.
Has your class rep / class society organised any nights out yet? You could try heading along to the next one that is organised.

david wrote: »

Edit: What a waste of my 3000th post!

Want me to go deleting posts so you can do something special with your 3000th post? :pac:

Larianne wrote: »

Go to a TCD Boards Beers as well. You'll meet people that way.

Whens the next one?

I'm not sure actually. People mentioned Halloween. I'll destickify and create a new thread.

bythewoods

I've found it really easy to meet new people..
That's the advantage of living in Halls though I guess..

Also, people from my tutorial group- there's only 11 of us, it's a great way to meet people.

I'm one of those people who'll go up and say hello to anyone though- you should try it with whoever you're sitting beside in your next lecture

gnl

amacachi wrote: »

If any of ye see a big fat balding blonde guy around the Hamilton doing Sudoku puzzles it's most likely me. :pac:

You weren't by any chance playing pool in the GMB Friday were you?

amacachi

gnl wrote: »

You weren't by any chance playing pool in the GMB Friday were you?

Nope, I haven't even got enough friends to get enough people together for a game of pool. :pac:

Someone should come up with a boards matchmaker, but for friends... any entrepreneurs out there?!

i dont really want to disclose my course because i like how you can remain completely anonymous on boards, my course is pretty small so if i said what it was someone on my course might be able to spot me. which could go one of two ways: they could think its hilarious and wed become friends or theyd think i was crazy...
which is up for debate, the more i talk about the situation the more paranoid i become...:(

Larianne

[quote=[Deleted User];62496986]
which is up for debate, the more i talk about the situation the more paranoid i become...:(
[/QUOTE]

Stop smokin' the weed.

Craguls

[quote=[Deleted User];62496986]Someone should come up with a boards matchmaker, but for friends... any entrepreneurs out there?!

i dont really want to disclose my course because i like how you can remain completely anonymous on boards, my course is pretty small so if i said what it was someone on my course might be able to spot me. which could go one of two ways: they could think its hilarious and wed become friends or theyd think i was crazy...
which is up for debate, the more i talk about the situation the more paranoid i become...:(
[/quote]

If your course is small I'd say making friends will get easier. I'm in science myself so we've like 400 or so in a biology lecture so it can be daunting for awhile. Some friends of mine in older years said once class reps get elected and start organising events meeting people gets easier

phlegms

Im in a similar situation.
Doesn't help that I only have 6 hours lectures a week (First year History) so I'm out of college more than I'm in!

d-a-s-h

[quote=[Deleted User];62490364]Socializing really just isnt my strong point. i can just never find anything to say to anyone... ive talked to people, but i always get the feeling they cant wait to be rid of me.
am i just being paranoid??

[/quote]

Come and join the rock climbing club. I was out with a back injury and so couldnt start with everyone else so am gonna be starting (fingers crossed) next week, wouldnt mind going in knowing someone straight off the bat

fonpokno

[quote=[Deleted User];62496986]Someone should come up with a boards matchmaker, but for friends... any entrepreneurs out there?!

i dont really want to disclose my course because i like how you can remain completely anonymous on boards, my course is pretty small so if i said what it was someone on my course might be able to spot me. which could go one of two ways: they could think its hilarious and wed become friends or theyd think i was crazy...
which is up for debate, the more i talk about the situation the more paranoid i become...:(
[/QUOTE]

No-one's going to think you're weird just because you're having a bit of trouble making friends. We've only just started sure, plenty of time ahead of you.

My class is 22 girls. Only girls. I miss hanging out with lads so much it's ridiculous. Everyone's lovely but we're not best friends yet or anything. Try not to worry too much about it, come to the next beers or even got to sci-fi more, those people are awesome!

d-a-s-h

missed signing up to the sci fi club... does anyone know when and where its on at?

d-a-s-h

d-a-s-h wrote: »

Come and join the rock climbing club. I was out with a back injury and so couldnt start with everyone else so am gonna be starting (fingers crossed) next week, wouldnt mind going in knowing someone straight off the bat

I actually did join climbing club but i havent got round to going yet... i joined it with my friend in second year but she cant go now so im a little scared of going in by myself.:o

d-a-s-h

[quote=[Deleted User];62505482]I actually did join climbing club but i havent got round to going yet... i joined it with my friend in second year but she cant go now so im a little scared of going in by myself.:o[/quote]

when are you thinking about going in lazy clouds?

thatone!

phlegms wrote: »

Im in a similar situation.
Doesn't help that I only have 6 hours lectures a week (First year History) so I'm out of college more than I'm in!

The exact same as me, First year History too and it seems like I'm never even in college, so it's hard to make friends! Hopefully it will get easier to meet some more people from tutorials

ohthebaby

I feel the same.. It's harder than I thought to make friends. I guess I was just used to school where I knew everyone and was surrounded by friends. It's just very overwhelming to be somewhere where you know only a hand full of people and at that not knowing them very well at all. And to make myself sound even more pathetic, despite the hundreds surrounding me each day I often feel lonely. I'm just not that confident at getting talking to people or whatever. But I suppose as time goes on it will change when class nights and stuff are organised.

HOPEFULLY!!!!!!!!

boblong

[quote=[Deleted User];62496986]

i dont really want to disclose my course because i like how you can remain completely anonymous on boards, my course is pretty small so if i said what it was someone on my course might be able to spot me. which could go one of two ways: they could think its hilarious and wed become friends or theyd think i was crazy...
[/QUOTE]

Ahh tell us, anonymity is overrated. Boards can just be a thing in common to start a conversation with.

Jack Sheehan

Awwwww, cheer up everyone! Just sit down next to someone in a lecture and start off with something like 'So how do you like the course.' We're all in the same boat, no ones gonna shoot you down for introducing yourself.

spoonbadger

Jack Sheehan wrote: »

no ones gonna shoot you down for introducing yourself.

I will O.o

/gets shotgun

thatone!

ohthebaby wrote: »

I feel the same.. It's harder than I thought to make friends. I guess I was just used to school where I knew everyone and was surrounded by friends. It's just very overwhelming to be somewhere where you know only a hand full of people and at that not knowing them very well at all. And to make myself sound even more pathetic, despite the hundreds surrounding me each day I often feel lonely. I'm just not that confident at getting talking to people or whatever. But I suppose as time goes on it will change when class nights and stuff are organised.

HOPEFULLY!!!!!!!!

I know how you feel! I'd say it will get easier though, we're only like two weeks in

Brian

spoonbadger wrote: »

I will O.o

/gets shotgun

That's a pitchfork you spoon.

Dante

Transfer to business and computing and I'll be your friend! (;

phlegms

thatone! wrote: »

The exact same as me, First year History too and it seems like I'm never even in college, so it's hard to make friends! Hopefully it will get easier to meet some more people from tutorials

If you see a dude with a Grey shoulder bag and glasses, that would be me

Futurism

amacachi wrote: »

Nope, I haven't even got enough friends to get enough people together for a game of pool. :pac:

Do you have a beard by any chance?

Don't worry, I've noticed that most people are still only sitting/talking with the people that they were in the first day. So you're not alone!