Being a house wife

SLUSK

Why would anyone want to be a house wife in this day and age? If you are a house wife, you will be reliant on the husbands income, which means you will be under his control because if you don't do as he says you will have your source of income removed. If you are dependent on someone you are not free. Could any housewife on boards tell me why you choose this life?

tbh

why would you have to be subservient to someone if they are earning money and you are not? are you saying that if you were the earner, you would withdraw funding to your spouse if they said something or did something you wouldn't agree with?

I think that says more about you, to be honest. If me and my wife have kids, and she decides to stay at home to look after them, then my salary is as much hers as mine. I think your attitude is outdated, to be fair.

Joey the lips

Laughing very loudly! I am actually a house husband. I am not under any control. Although funny enough. Hate being a house husband because I feel the work never ends. You never clock out so to speak. I do lots of vol work. I am out of the house 3 nights a week for a couple of hours, why? for a break.

If you feel that your husband or wife has control over you in a relationship there is something wrong. I acknowledge that without my wife I would not be where we are but she acknowledges that me being at home makes sense as child minding is a wage anyway and the kids are with a parent.

There is many other reasons why I am at home but sticking to the issue here. Being a house husband is hard enough work without feeling like I am being drip fed wages, The first mention of "I earn all the money...." then I am out the door


ps: with the recession there will be many more house husbands afik!

Hellrazer

SLUSK wrote: »

Why would anyone want to be a house wife in this day and age? If you are a house wife, you will be reliant on the husbands income, which means you will be under his control because if you don't do as he says you will have your source of income removed. If you are dependent on someone you are not free. Could any housewife on boards tell me why you choose this life?

Is this even a serious thread??

Even the word "housewife" is a no-no in our house.

My wife is a "stay at home parent" and shes not reliant on me for anything or under my control and as for whether shes "free" or not :rolleyes::rolleyes:--as a matter of fact I wanted to be a stay home parent and will be one as soon as my wife finishes college--Thats if her chain will reach the college or I even let her out of the house ;)

So when she does finish and goes out to work that mean I have to be reliant on her income or under her control?

SLUSK

I never said anything about removing the income if my girl did not do what I told her, I just told how it can actually be in real life. For example some people bring home a wife from Thailand and she is basically reduced to being a sex slave because the guy threatens to throw her out if she does not do what he says. If you are dependent on someone for money you will have to dance to their tune, that is the way the world works.

tbh

SLUSK wrote: »

If you are dependent on someone for money you will have to dance to their tune, that is the way the world works.

maybe your world. my marriage doesn't work like that.

Joey the lips

tbh wrote: »

maybe your world. my marriage doesn't work like that.

I suspect the op is single

Jumpy

Are facepalms allowed in this forum?

MagicMarker

Jumpy wrote: »

Are facepalms allowed in this forum?

There is no face palm worthy of this thread.

Hellrazer

tbh wrote: »

maybe your world. my marriage doesn't work like that.

Nor mine--Mrs Hellrazer can punch harder than me and has been known to throw things aswell

Manipulative people are going to find ways to control you. Income or not.

F1ngers

Joey the lips wrote: »

I suspect the op is will forever be single

FYP

MissFlitworth

Because it makes them happy to create a home for their kids and partners? Cos if you have kids it's very very expensive to have them looked after full time when you work? Cos people are allowed pick their own paths in life and being a stay at home parent is one of them? Cos all the best rubbish telly is on during the day?

Nevyn

Joey the lips wrote: »

I suspect the op is single

I suspect the op is a troll

I am a stay at full time home parent, my co parent works and we still co habitate despite not being a couple. IF he as to start any controlling bullshít he'd be out on his arse or I'd be gone with the kids it's that simple.

Yes there are people who end up in unfortunate circumstances in relationships which are financially abusive and my advice to them would be try and get it sorted or leave.

SLUSK

Thaedydal wrote: »

I suspect the op is a troll

I am a stay at full time home parent, my co parent works and we still co habitate despite not being a couple. IF he as to start any controlling bullshít he'd be out on his arse or I'd be gone with the kids it's that simple.

Yes there are people who end up in unfortunate circumstances in relationships which are financially abusive and my advice to them would be try and get it sorted or leave.

You are accusing me of trolling. All I'm trying to do is to discuss the dangers of becoming dependent on other people's monies. Does it not make you feel unsafe not to have your own source of income?

Handsome Bob

SLUSK wrote: »

If you are dependent on someone for money you will have to dance to their tune, that is the way the world works.

My Mother is a stay at home parent, and we all dance to her tune, including my Dad!

tbh

SLUSK wrote: »

You are accusing me of trolling. All I'm trying to do is to discuss the dangers of becoming dependent on other people's monies. Does it not make you feel unsafe not to have your own source of income?

you have the kernel of a valid point in there somewhere, I accept that. But the vast majority of partnerships are equal partnerships. There are women - and men - who earn their own money getting beaten black and blue by their spouses. Where there's an imbalance of power in a relationship, and someone abusing it - as someone already said, it's not simply because of the financial arrangements, you know? Simply becoming a housewife/husband doesn't automatically make you a doormat, quite the opposite I would say.

Xiney

SLUSK, I suspect you're trolling.

If you do it again in this forum you will be banned.