Do you believe in a thing called love? discuss.

FredBaby!

i suppose a little story will start us off:

my little sister was talking about her friend yesterday who recently broke up with her boyfriend because they were not in 'love'...after hearing this i declared that love at our age was bulls**t and was called cynical.

sooo what do you peeps think?
is it possible for teenagers to be in love or our we just slaves to our own bodies? also do you think that 'real love' is a mutual feeling with two people being attracted to each other or can it be a one sided thing?

Bobalicious93

No.

Pygmalion

FredBaby! wrote: »

is it possible for teenagers to be in love or our we just slaves to our own bodies?

Are they mutually exclusive?
"Love" is a feeling, given off by chemicals or electrical impulses in the brain or something, it's affected a lot by hormones.
Love isn't something magical you experience when you find the 1 person out of 6 billion that's right for you, it's more your bodies way of telling you that this person seems worth staying with for some reason.

BlueSpiral

Just listen to the rhythm of my heart

Latchy

FredBaby! wrote: »

is it possible for teenagers to be in love or our we just slaves to our own bodies?

Millions of teeangers have done and will fall in love or discover an emotional, chemical reaction to a thing called love .Some will want to take it further with the physical side of it , others will just want to enjoy the more innocent emotional side of it .

The bad news ....sad to say is that , many many many will have their lil ol hearts broken .:(

But It's all part of growing up and taking next step into adult world .So if it's happenning for ya enjoy it as much and as long as you can .:)

jumpguy

I dunno, maybe love takes over when the hormones begin to slow down so the brain can get a word in over the...physical 'feeling'.

K4t

jumpguy wrote: »

I dunno, maybe love takes over when the hormones begin to slow down so the brain can get a word in over the...physical 'feeling'.

When love takes over yeaaahhhhh!!!!!!!!1111111
:pac:

Yeah I believe in love and I believe you can be in love with many different women/men over the course of a lifetime. But young ones like us shouldn't be concerned with any of that right out. We should be out there ridin'/

Richard Cranium

My neighbour's parents started going out at 16. They were together for twenty-something years I think, until death did them part. They must have found true love at a young age, because nobody was forcing them to stay together.

Reillyman

K4t wrote: »

We should be out there ridin'/

Straight outta the Hardy Bucks bible!:D

TheCardHolder

I've strongly liked girls and it's a great feeling when you are with them but I've never been in 'love'. But if the comedown from a breakup with someone you are in love with is worse than after strongly liking someone I don't even want to know:pac:

Insect Overlord

TheCardHolder wrote: »

I've strongly liked girls and it's a great feeling when you are with them but I've never been in 'love'. But if the comedown from a breakup with someone you are in love with is worse than after strongly liking someone I don't even want to know:pac:

It's almost unbearable.

Fad

I do, no need to elaborate really.

kev_s88

definitely think its possible for love to happen at anyy age...

im almost 21 and ive been in love with the same person for over a year now...and trust me, you dont stop loving them after the breakup, which makes everything so much more difficult

obviously theres differing opinions on what love is...i used to believe that love was just a strong friendship with an added attraction...but when you find that person who really is special to you, you will know straight away, and that to me is what blossoms into love.

D4RK ONION

I believe in a thing called love. However I think the idea of a soulmate is ridiculous seeing as how most people seem to be able to find their one true love living in the same 10Km radius on a fairly regular basis!

Insect Overlord

D4RK ONION wrote: »

I believe in a thing called love. However I think the idea of a soulmate is ridiculous seeing as how most people seem to be able to find their one true love living in the same 10Km radius on a fairly regular basis!

Living in Limerick, I've fallen in love with girls from there, from Kerry, from Clare and from Kildare. Not only does that rhyme, it also shows how strange and varied love can be, and how it can happen more than once. Then again, I suppose that would also suggest I haven't found "the one" yet...

D4RK ONION

Yeah, I'm obviously not arguing that's impossible to find love close to home, just that the idea of "the one" is a bit silly.

Pigwidgeon

I always wonder about this, I've said it to someone, a person i constantly thought about couldn't bear to think of with other people, wanted to share everything with, wanted to be with all the time. I have no doubt that I had very strong feelings for that person, they made me laugh, we had fun, he could cheer me up without even trying.

But then again at the same time, I found myself wondering, "is this it? is this what love is?" I guess by even wondering that and thinking slightly to myself when things weren't so great that this "love" seemed overrated, if I was in love I would truely have knowb and it wouldn't have seem overrated at all.

AddictedToYou

Most definitely.

But whether or not I've experienced it is another thing altogether. There's different kinds of love though, so in some ways, I have.

sarahovo

I think it is possible for young people to fall in love but then again just because they say they are in love doesnt mean they are. You hear of couples who are 18 or 19 saying that they have been with their boyfriend/girlfriend for 3 years what they dont tell you is that they have broken up numerous times within this timeframe. If they are in love why do they hurt each other by constantly breaking up with each other over stupid things? There is no point getting back with an ex just so the same thing can happen all over again. I have been in love and ya know what, it was ****! The aftermath was even worse. Except when i broke up with my boyfriend that was it, we talked and actually met up once or twice but I always made sure that he knew nothing would ever happen. This is how it should be. Believe me thou it hurt anytime he said something really nice or when we remembered something from our relationship. In these situations your thinking what do I do and I just ignored it.
Another thing is some people dont know what love is....

D4RK ONION

For your consideration

Insect Overlord

D4RK ONION wrote: »

For your consideration

[noparse][/noparse]

What was the scroll-over text for that one?

D4RK ONION

Title text: Well, sex is like a velociraptor: despite your movie-fueled lifelong neurotic obsession, unlikely to be found in your house.

Davidius

I thought love was something they made up so television shows and films could have an excuse to go through with a nonsense plot.

D4RK ONION

DUUUUUUUUUDE Love was set up by the corporations so they could push valentines day on us MAAAAAAAAAAAN. And the government put chips in out brains so that we can't think for ourselves! And all the mods are in fact robots sent here to destroy us...
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MAN!

Jesus Juice

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
I'm reading a thread about love,
Thinking of you.

Jay P

I believe in love at a young age. I'm 18 and have real experience of love. Unfortunately it ended in heartbreak. So yes, it exists. I just don't think it can last forever, though there are a few exceptions obviously.

Professey Chin

Jesus Juice wrote: »

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
I'm reading a thread about love,
Thinking of you.

*gets beating stick*

bythewoods

This sums up how I feel about love, and it echoes what D4RK ONION and such have said too!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gaid72fqzNE

D4RK ONION

I'll save that for when I have a source of sound.

A Neurotic

Reminds me of this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XvCLXmaHFXg

KnifeWRENCH

^ Damn, I was just gonna post that!

Anyway, do I believe it's possible for teenagers to fall in love? Yes.
Does it happen a lot? No, I don't think so. I think it's pretty rare to fall in love at such a young age, usually it's just glorified lusting after someone who you can tolerate being around.

Of course, I'm bitter and single so anyone who's in love gets nothing but evil glares off of me.

FredBaby!

KnifeWRENCH wrote: »

Of course, I'm bitter and single so anyone who's in love gets nothing but evil glares off of me.

hehe pehaps we should set up a Bitter Singletons forum...?

D4RK ONION

I second the motion, bloody couples, wandering around in public, making me feel bad...

Insect Overlord

Jealousy is an awful thing :P

Nettie

I most definitely believe that young people can be in love! Most the time though, they aren't. Like, you do come across some couples who've been going out a day and barely know each other and are ''in love''.

But then again, it can happen properly like it did to me.

Twilightning

Yes, it does exist, and was simultaneously the best and worst thing that's ever happened to me. It can destroy a person as well as make them.

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Hmmm, when I was in school people (mostly girls it must be said) used to go around saying "oooh I love so and so" and it always struck me as a bit ridiculous. Maybe because the type of person who goes around declaring their love to anyone who'll listen is usually a retard regardless of age but anyways.

At the ripe old age of tenteen though, I definitely believe in love. But looking back at the first time I "fell in love" as in had ALL the sypmptoms-couldn't eat, sleep or think, used to think I saw their face on crowded streets, used to get dizzy around them, used to HOUND them around the place, used to find new meaning in crappy love songs-I realise I actually just fancied the arse off the guy. I'm still friends with him, but now, only about a year and a half after I was sure I'd never want to be around anybody but him, I look at him and a) can't believe he put up with me stalking him, and b) can't imagine what I ever saw in him in that way.

I think with teenagers and young adults it's not just the hormones that make them confuse lust/intense like for love, it's the novelty of the emotion, which is likely to be the most intense you ever experience. Even now I wouldn't exactly know how to define love, or being in love, but I know I have been (and yes, it eventually ended badly, and yes that SUCKED, I was literally in bits for weeks, nearly failed a few exams, lost half a stone and drove my friends insane).

nams

No.
Teens are just naive.
They lust, but never love.
And they think they love, and get in far too deep.
And when they are broken up with, they think it's the worst thing ever.
But honestly, I laugh at them, but I understand that that think it's love, and I'm not gonna stand in the way of that.
But regardless, it's nice to be liked, and I'd not denying that. But I know the difference between infatuation and love.

Insect Overlord

Well, that's depressing...

Mushy

nams wrote: »

No.
Teens are just naive.
They lust, but never love.
And they think they love, and get in far too deep.
And when they are broken up with, they think it's the worst thing ever.
But honestly, I laugh at them, but I understand that that think it's love, and I'm not gonna stand in the way of that.
But regardless, it's nice to be liked, and I'd not denying that. But I know the difference between infatuation and love.

So what, ya turn 20 and suddenly you can fall in love?

Think someone said it best on first page bout love being something a bit more than just liking. To define it more, if theres someone you really like(physically and personality-wise), can have a great time with them, they make you really happy(not the kind of happy you are like when ya wake up Christmas morning for presents), and you really care for them, then thats the making of love. Does it only happen after a certain length of time with a person? Well, someone please tell me*

*honestly, do....may explain another time

Twilightning

nams wrote: »

No.
Teens are just naive.
They lust, but never love.
And they think they love, and get in far too deep.
And when they are broken up with, they think it's the worst thing ever.
But honestly, I laugh at them, but I understand that that think it's love, and I'm not gonna stand in the way of that.
But regardless, it's nice to be liked, and I'd not denying that. But I know the difference between infatuation and love.

tl;dr version:

I'm spouting bollocks

nams

Twilightning wrote: »

tl;dr version:

I'm spouting bollocks

Damn, the amount of intelligence in this post is almost too much to comprehend. I need some time to gather my thoughts.


...


While I realise this forum has a lot of 18+ people, I was saying that from a 14 year olds point of veiw. And when I was 12/13 I also had these veiws.
I don't think someone in the 12/13/14 age group are capable of love someone unconditionally. My opinions though, like it or not~

La0Fruitcake

not to sure,never really believed in love but...
said them words for the first time to a guy recently,i always wanted to wait until i was completly sure i meant them ,said he wanted to stay friends, havnt tlkd to him since,ill not be saying i love you again any time soon:rolleyes:

Insect Overlord

Twilightning wrote: »

tl;dr version:

I'm spouting bollocks

nams wrote: »

Damn, the amount of intelligence in this post is almost too much to comprehend. I need some time to gather my thoughts.

Calm it down guys. No need to bring bitterness into a thread about love...

Twilightning

nams wrote: »

Damn, the amount of intelligence in this post is almost too much to comprehend. I need some time to gather my thoughts

Sorry about that, I thought I'd put it in layman's terms for you specifically since your post further up the page was utter holier than thou nonsense.

You're not really in any position to lecture anybody here about love, what age bracket you have to fall into to actually experience it, and how you seemingly laugh at those who say they've experienced it. If you think your point of view is 'right' or shared by everyone else here, you're as naive as the teenagers you claim to laugh at.

nams wrote: »

While I realise this forum has a lot of 18+ people, I was saying that from a 14 year olds point of veiw. And when I was 12/13 I also had these veiws.
I don't think someone in the 12/13/14 age group are capable of love someone unconditionally. My opinions though, like it or not~

Try to be a bit more specific with what you post then. While I do agree the word 'love' is thrown around an awful lot by teenagers, it doesn't necessarily mean every teenager should automatically be tarred with the same brush by putting down everything to lust.

Teutorix

nams wrote: »

Damn, the amount of intelligence in this post is almost too much to comprehend. I need some time to gather my thoughts.

Hey hey, calm the passion.

Davidius

Studies have shown that people do in fact feel strong affections for other people. I think it's safe to say that love exists if one defines it as 'strong affection possibly with a degree of sexual lust'. That, or the test subjects were lying for the craic.

Of course love is not very clearly defined and some people like to believe it to be magical and inexplicable. Those people are crazy. :pac:

nams

Twilightning wrote: »

Sorry about that, I thought I'd put it in layman's terms for you specifically since your post further up the page was utter holier than thou nonsense.

I didn't mean to come off as holier than thou. But I can see how it could have been taken that way.

Twilightning wrote: »

You're not really in any position to lecture anybody here about love, what age bracket you have to fall into to actually experience it, and how you seemingly laugh at those who say they've experienced it. If you think your point of view is 'right' or shared by everyone else here, you're as naive as the teenagers you claim to laugh at.

lol, I don't think of my opinion as being right opinion. As from what I've read before I posted in my topic, my opinion is quite different, so how I could think everyone shares my opinion, I don't know.

Twilightning wrote: »

Try to be a bit more specific with what you post then. While I do agree the word 'love' is thrown around an awful lot by teenagers, it doesn't necessarily mean every teenager should automatically be tarred with the same brush by putting down everything to lust.

kay. :]
I agree with you on that though, the whole, the word love being thrown around.



Sorry if anyone else has been offended or whatever, by this. o:

OneArt

nams wrote: »

No.
Teens are just naive.
They lust, but never love.
And they think they love, and get in far too deep.
And when they are broken up with, they think it's the worst thing ever.
But honestly, I laugh at them, but I understand that that think it's love, and I'm not gonna stand in the way of that.
But regardless, it's nice to be liked, and I'd not denying that. But I know the difference between infatuation and love.

Lust is sexual desire, and not everyone experiences that. To say "they lust, but never love" is a gross generalisation. From the point of view of an asexual anyway.

Infatuation is what I'd call it. It's a horrible feeling and I wsh there were some kind of pill we could take to cure it.

D4RK ONION

Deise Girl, I've found the man for you... it was meant to be! Get in there!

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/member.php?find=lastposter&t=2055704273

Mushy

Scrap what I said before...yes, yes I do:D