Ladys Opinions needed for a documentary

Hi Girls

I am the producer for a documentary that i am doing for collage called "Counting Backwards"

A brief synopsis

COUNTING BACKWARDS:
How many years before you need to meet ‘the one’?

Over the last 30 years in Ireland there has been a steady increase in the average age of first-time mothers in middle class society. Women opt to pursue career opportunities into their late twenties and early thirties before taking on the responsibility of children.
With more and more media coverage on the topic of fertility and its decrease after the age of 35, women can feel the window of time in which to conceive is very small. This small window has in turn led to the trend in some women ‘counting backwards’ from the age they wish to have their first child to the age they need to marry and thus the age by which they need to meet ‘the one’.

Basically we are looking for opinions on this . Have you done it, do you know somebody that has done it. What do you think about it .
Any comments would be great.

Faith

When I was younger, I did have a rough plan about my future. I was going to get married at 25/26, have my first child at 28, the next at 30, and then 33. So I felt that I needed to have met "the one" by about 22 at the latest. But then I got older and realised I'm not bothered in the slightest about kids. I plan on focusing on my career and getting qualified and practicing before I start to think about kids. It takes a complete backseat for me, so for now, I don't have any deadlines.

I don't understand women who do, really. I think they're putting themselves under huge pressure, and I can only imagine that they come off as desperate to any potential men. If I were a man, I'd stay well away from any woman who had any type of schedule like that.

Also, with the increase in births outside of marriage, are women even that bothered about meeting "the one" anymore, in order to have babies?

SeekUp

In terms of "the one," I guess I've been lucky enough that I haven't really ever had to wonder about finding someone with whom I wanted to have a child. I never really felt pressure, actually, because when I was younger I was more concerned with getting myself together -- and even now that I'm a few years wiser (ha!) and with my "one" I don't feel any pressure . . . I suppose because I know we can decide to start a family at any point.

Regarding waiting to establish my career, well, meh. I mean, I'm lucky enough that various aspects of my career are flexible; the opportunities are there for me to freelance if I chose, and to work in a more non-traditional setting. That being said, I've never been particularly "career-driven" . . . I've wanted to be successful but never saw how high I was in my career to equal how successful I am in life.

I wanted to have my first child around the age of 30, simply because it was my understanding that after your early 30s, there's a higher risk of difficulty with conceiving, pregnancy and childbirth. Not that all pregnancies after 35 or so are difficult, but that it's a bit easier when you're younger, both physically (and being able to recover your pre-pregnancy body) and that you have more energy when you're younger.

That being said, I'm very linear in thinking and could deal with being a bit more flexible in many aspects of my life, not just childbearing.