At what age (or stage of life) do you think maturity comes and you quit being young?

tolteq

i wonder like. sometimes you feel young in ur head, but old on the outside. does that make sense? anybody got any real insight.

Ginja Ninja

For me,I think I've been "mature" and had an "adult" outlook on life since I was maybe 14.
I don't mean that in an arrogant way,but I had to deal with some stuff a lot of other people wouldn't be ready for yet[and might not ever be].
But I've felt a lot more grown up ever since,so much so that a few thins that have wigged other people out have barely phased me[I.E leaving cert]

Maturity and being an adult are two completely different things. At 23 I would be considered an adult, but I would not consider myself to be mature.

But I guess the it kinda struck me the most when I was 16 and this little kid came over to me and started messing. Promptly his mother shouted, "leave that man alone!". Always before someone would have said "boy" but not "man"

tolteq

Ginja Ninja wrote: »

For me,I think I've been "mature" and had an "adult" outlook on life since I was maybe 14.
I don't mean that in an arrogant way,but I had to deal with some stuff a lot of other people wouldn't be ready for yet[and might not ever be].
But I've felt a lot more grown up ever since,so much so that a few thins that have wigged other people out have barely phased me[I.E leaving cert]

yes i suppose the leaving cert is just exams really. i think i was probably an innocent child at 14. well.........i guess u could say my mum still thinks that now and i am 26. :eek::cool:. lool.

Crumble Froo

growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional

i think the days where i feel old, are mostly the ones where i think of my age. im 21 now, not a huge deal, but i dont feel like ive been in nz that long... yet, i moved when i was 19. it wasnt till i told someone the other day that my little bro is 19 that i went :eek:.

when did that happen!?
as a teenager, i was very serious. basically, was dealing with a lot of crap, with the added fun of depression, but i was very very serious, and often called 'mature'.

now, im a lot more loosened up. i work a three day 20hr week every week, and some weeks, get work on thur and fri too, but that depends on whether i get called for work, and whether i say 'yes' when they start the phone conversation with 'would you like to work today?'. i spend my spare time fcuking around online, surfing, skating, rockclimbing and chillin with mates, fcuking around on the beach. i have no intention of this lifestyle changing any time soon. i love my job, im quite passionate about it, and as long as they're willing to keep me employed, im willing to keep working for them. which is me guaranteed as being a 20hr a week bum. means i dont have much money and have to be really really careful and 'mature' and stuff about bills and rent and 'discretionary expenditure'.

my mother would (well, probably does, we dont really talk about it, she's still getting her head around me living and loving with a man 19 years my senior, with no intentions of marriage) entirely disapprove. it's not very mature, it's not very responsible, i have no plans for my future and i dont take life particularly seriously.
life's for living and i have no intention of getting stuck into the perceived 'mature, grown up 9-5 mon-fri, fun's for weekends' lifestyle. it's not for me. maybe it's immature, but hey, at least i know exactly what i want from life.

tolteq

Crumble Froo wrote: »

growing old is mandatory, growing up is optional

i think the days where i feel old, are mostly the ones where i think of my age. im 21 now, not a huge deal, but i dont feel like ive been in nz that long... yet, i moved when i was 19. it wasnt till i told someone the other day that my little bro is 19 that i went :eek:.

when did that happen!?
as a teenager, i was very serious. basically, was dealing with a lot of crap, with the added fun of depression, but i was very very serious, and often called 'mature'.

now, im a lot more loosened up. i work a three day 20hr week every week, and some weeks, get work on thur and fri too, but that depends on whether i get called for work, and whether i say 'yes' when they start the phone conversation with 'would you like to work today?'. i spend my spare time fcuking around online, surfing, skating, rockclimbing and chillin with mates, fcuking around on the beach. i have no intention of this lifestyle changing any time soon. i love my job, im quite passionate about it, and as long as they're willing to keep me employed, im willing to keep working for them. which is me guaranteed as being a 20hr a week bum. means i dont have much money and have to be really really careful and 'mature' and stuff about bills and rent and 'discretionary expenditure'.

my mother would (well, probably does, we dont really talk about it, she's still getting her head around me living and loving with a man 19 years my senior, with no intentions of marriage) entirely disapprove. it's not very mature, it's not very responsible, i have no plans for my future and i dont take life particularly seriously.
life's for living and i have no intention of getting stuck into the perceived 'mature, grown up 9-5 mon-fri, fun's for weekends' lifestyle. it's not for me. maybe it's immature, but hey, at least i know exactly what i want from life.

le gasp. 19 years ur senior. dear oh dear.

Crumble Froo

im not quite sure what it means, but 99% of the time, we're on a very similar maturity level :pac:

tolteq

Crumble Froo wrote: »

im not quite sure what it means, but 99% of the time, we're on a very similar maturity level :pac:

why do some women do that. it's mind boggling. girls my age (26) run off with the older man of mid 30's e.t.c

and then i get criticised for liking a girl who is maybe 6/7 years younger than me. its frustrating.

Crumble Froo

we were friends, we realised 8-10months later that we had a 'thing' for each other. said lets see where this goes. i moved to new zealand so we could try it out as a real thing. turns out it's a real thing. woo.

and i can't answer for any other girls. this guy is actually a year younger than my former housemate who is one of my best best best best mates in the world (the dude flew me to and from nz and paid for my electric picnic ticket, just cos elbow were playing at the picnic, im the reason for him getting his first tattoo aged 40.)

age is relative. people will always be people and these dudes are just people i clicked with.

tolteq

Crumble Froo wrote: »

we were friends, we realised 8-10months later that we had a 'thing' for each other. said lets see where this goes. i moved to new zealand so we could try it out as a real thing. turns out it's a real thing. woo.

and i can't answer for any other girls. this guy is actually a year younger than my former housemate who is one of my best best best best mates in the world (the dude flew me to and from nz and paid for my electric picnic ticket, just cos elbow were playing at the picnic, im the reason for him getting his first tattoo aged 40.)

age is relative. people will always be people and these dudes are just people i clicked with.

i see. some people are young at heart i suppose. anyways.

Piste

I don't think you can pin an age on it really, people mature at different levels, it's not as if suddenly on your 16/17/18th birthday you'll wake and suddenly be an adult, it's a very gradual change over a number of years.

Ginja Ninja

Piste wrote: »

I don't think you can pin an age on it really, people mature at different levels, it's not as if suddenly on your 16/17/18th birthday you'll wake and suddenly be an adult, it's a very gradual change over a number of years.

I have to disagree,on my 15th birthday.I awoke,the clouds parted and a beam of light shone down upon me,'twas then I became a man.............

seanybiker

Im 26 and really immature. I can have serious talks and all the usual grown up things. I just rather have a laugh and not take life to seriously.

amacachi

Different people will mature in different ways at different rates. When I was about 16 I asked my dad what age do ya stop thinking of innuendo in every possible sentence, and he replied "Never." So that's kinda disconcerting.
Maturity is a ridiculously hard thing to define. Being gloomy or cynical can be mistaken for maturity.

I don't really think of people as mature or immature, just whether I like their personalities or not.

Fad

I think I used to be a lot more mature, now it genuinely bothers me when people take life too seriously.

Teutorix

physiologically and neurologically 25 is when a human is fully matured.

Some people never grow up though.

lou91

Actually, I felt very different just after I turned 18 - a whole 9 months ago.
Then again, maybe that was just because of 6th year.

Dante

I'm 18 and I'm still immature as fúck.....theres always next year!

Homicidal_jesus

Deleted User wrote: »

But I guess the it kinda struck me the most when I was 16 and this little kid came over to me and started messing. Promptly his mother shouted, "leave that man alone!". Always before someone would have said "boy" but not "man"

ya thats when it hit me to its really strange

i wouuldnt consider myself mature by any means
but i no when a situation needs a mature outlook on it
for insatnce someone posted about the LC i too felt it didnt bother people but to much focus on the now and not on the future and what you can do to change what happens now ie repeating your LC

p1akuw47h5r3it

Ah it depends... I can be mature wen I want to and immature wen I want to tbh.

Different ppl mature at diff times.

jumpguy

I dunno it depends. I'm able to think for myself and stand up for myself, meet people, etc. But I still get hung up on any disappointment in life (is that a puberty thing? Cause if this happens forever I'm gonna be pissed ). I do some pretty retarded things occasionally. You have no idea...
But yeah, I'm getting there slowly but surely. Can't put an old head on young shoulders.

mardybumbum

Teutorix wrote: »

physiologically and neurologically 25 is when a human is fully matured.

Some people never grow up though.

What.
This happens to every human being on their 25th birthday does it?

wayhey

I think there's a mix to it. Maybe by 25 you're physically developed but different people have to deal with different things and grow up a hell of a lot faster to deal with stuff, like deaths, illnesses.. I think when you've been through bad stuff like that it really makes you grow up a bit and look out for other people a bit more..

And I'm a bit shocked at the whole immaturity/age thing going there... ya can have the craic and still be "mature"!!

whalemeat

i just turned 26......and i just cant believe it..... its nearly time too settle down and all that ****...:(
very depressing

Walsh

Right about.......... Now!

Implodes into a world of dodgy haircuts and beige/brown clothes.

callaway92

When the best players at their own sport are younger than you

Richard Cranium

When you have a job, move out of your parents' house, pay all your own bills, cook your own meals and generally take full responsibility for everything that happens in your life.

Those are my standards, and I don't meet any of them (except the cooking one). I'm not an immature person at all, but there is no way I'd consider myself to be a mature adult just yet.

Omnomnom

I guess it depends on what you've been through in life. Some people just never mature

jenny2hat

i think its an individual thing, nobody matures the exact same time as everyone else.
its when the novelty of life wears off lol

candy-gal1

HA! il never grow up!!!

jenny2hat

yeah me neither

victoriaa

66 years 4 months 32 days 7 hours and 2/5 minutes old

kev_s88

well for me it happened when i failed Maths in my Leaving Cert, and i realised i had to go out and get a full-time job until i could repeat the next summer....

i got a proper job with proper responsibility and i grew up over night...since then i have been 100% grown up

Professey Chin

maaa---turrrr---ity???

Insect Overlord

I'm 21 now. After 24 hours of it, I still don't know if it means anything.

Crumble Froo

ive been there for about 5 months dude, and so far... nope. doesnt mean anything yet.

mobius42

Never. I stopped maturing at age 17 and have been faking it ever since.

spurious

When you stop caring what other people think of how you look/what you do/what you drive, etc.
Some time in the 30s for most people.

rainbow kirby

I'm 25 and I don't feel mature at all... Age is but a number.

citizen_p

15/16
only in aspects though....still have a laugh with my mates

FredBaby!

i think i was born mature...

Teutorix

Yer ma's mature! :cool:

Jackobyte

Maturity comes when you trade in your "boy racer" car to buy a ppl carrier to bring your kids to school!!! Anyone who owns a Citreon Picasso is mature!!!:P

Crumble Froo

and for those of us who refuse to learn to drive...?

Insect Overlord

Crumble Froo wrote: »

and for those of us who refuse to learn to drive...?

Tandem bicycles?

Jackobyte

Crumble Froo wrote: »

and for those of us who refuse to learn to drive...?

U keep your youth???

rhapsody!

I'm 18 but I don't look like an adult.. I keep getting hit on by drunk old sleazy men with beards like the Forest of Dean.

rhapsody!

Teutorix wrote: »

Yer ma's mature! :cool:

You become mature when you stop saying this.

Jackobyte

Yer ma's mature:cool:

rhapsody! wrote: »

You become mature when you stop saying this.

Exactly,spot on ^^^^

Arcade Panda

When I turned 18 I don't know what I thought was going to happen but I genuinely think I thought that the clouds would part and I would become suddenly mature.....unfortunately that was not the case, I know this because "mature" people don't get escorted out of nightclubs for being too drunk on there 18th birthdays and told, "come back when your 21"...my bad.

My dad always refers to Dave Fanning as "a bit of a peter pan, he never grew up"...he always says it really negatively aswell...I dunno...That's something I genuinely aspire to! Not that I don't want responsibilities and stuff, I just want a young outlook on life for the rest of my life:)

D4RK ONION

Maturing is the greatest myth ever perpetuated. True maturity is knowing that as we get older, we figure out that there is no being an "adult", and that really, we're all teenagers at heart no matter what age we are.