Online Dating Etiquette...

MysticalSoul

...been chatting to this guy from online for a few days, and one thing that is bugging me is he has started texting "hey sexy". I don't mind someone saying "your profile pic is sexy", but in my experience, for someone to say that when they don't know you as such, shows that they don't respect the other person. What are other people's thoughts?

Otis Driftwood

Are you sexy?
Im not being smart here but its not beyond the realms of possibility that he finds your pic to be sexy.Have you never seen a picture of a guy and thought "ummm,he's a bit sexy"
I know what you are saying about him not knowing you but to look at it as him being disrespectful is a bit much TBH.Would you prefer he called you pan face or something?
Id take it as a compliment.

Samurai

nedtheshed wrote: »

Are you sexy?
Would you prefer he called you pan face or something?

lol

MysticalSoul

It's more to do with 90% of the texts from him have the word "sexy" in it. At first I thought nothing of it, as he was saying my pic was sexy, but then quite quickly, he puts "hey sexy" into most of the texts

Otis Driftwood

LOL,maybe he thinks he's been suave.I wouldnt read too much into it though.

OldGoat

He is avoiding using your real name. If he uses your name on a regular basis it will become commonplace in his mind and he is more likely to inadverntly say it to his wife or to his other online GFs.

OR

His simply sees it as a term of endearment and would be shocked if he knew that you were being offended by it's use.

*Dallas

I think girls tend to say 'honey' or 'babe' whereas boys usually say 'sexy' ..

he's not being malicious. its his way of paying you a compliment.

if thats the only thing that bothers you about him, then the relationship is off to a good start!

MysticalSoul

It's not the only thing. I suggested meeting outside a couple of doors down from the bar, and he said "nah, meet me in there", so if he wasn't willing to meet at a neutral place, it is weird. I don't like walking into bars on my own either. My experience before, on first dates, has always been to meet outside somewhere, if the date is to a bar.

Otis Driftwood

I suppose that depends on the bar and day of the week.If its a bar in temple bar on a Saturday night then you have a point but if its a bar in say Ranelagh on a Tuesday night then it shouldnt be too bad.Sounds a bit like you are making excuses/finding faults.Are you sure you actually wanna meet up with him?

The Corinthian

Rule number one of Online Dating Etiquette:

"Pretend you believe them when they claim they're not male"

DubLass

He wants to ride you, beware, get rid of him immediately

Jellybabs

i agree with the last person. he may jus want to have sex with you or he may be jus tryin to impress you hard to do if ye've never met!! definately be cautious anyway ok

Cecilia Ann

Everyone is different, but personally it annoys me when guys say:
Hey Babe or Hey Sexy when i dont know them that well....
But i woudlnt worry about it either...it can be annoying tho

So hows the online dating going for you Mystical- toying with the idea myself:rolleyes:

MysticalSoul

It's, erm , interesting. One guy messaged me saying he wanted to get back into marriage, and this was his intro message, others have in a roundabout way, just wanted sex - I am in my early 30's, and have had guys 10 years younger than me message me :rolleyes:. The more sincere ones seem to be on www.anotherfriend.com, but you do have to pay to exchange contact details, or meet etc.

Jellybabs

i dunno did u ever try facebook i know its random but i have met 2 people off it and both were very nice jus not my type the applications on it for online dating like i dunno jus a suggestion

MJOR

Well you kinda just have to decide whether you like him or not. Simple as really

Manic Moran

You know, you could always just text back including a by the way that you find the repeated use of the term to be immature or otherwise unappealing.

Lord know, other people have sayings that drive me batty, I just make it known and they either back off a little, or they don't. I try to look at context/intent rather than the word itself. Except for "Hooah", which really does irk the hell out of me, but thankfully doesn't come up often in the SMS or dating scene.

NTM (Interloper)

Cecilia Ann

Hooah? whats wrong with that??

Manic Moran

There are plenty enough good words in the English Language without having to make up a new one which is filled with false enthusiasm. "Yes" would be a very valid substitute in most situations in which I encounter it.

http://www.airborne-ranger.com/ranger/trivia/hooah.html

NTM (Interloper)

John Mason

MysticalSoul wrote: »

It's more to do with 90% of the texts from him have the word "sexy" in it. At first I thought nothing of it, as he was saying my pic was sexy, but then quite quickly, he puts "hey sexy" into most of the texts

see there's your problem straight away.

what in gods name are you doing texting some random bloke in the first place.

PICK UP THE PHONE AND DIAL THE CORRECT DIGITS AND ACTUALLY TALK TO HIM

seriously, i am i the only person worrying about the future of this country??? people seem terrified by actually speaking