Too Young?

LegacyUser

I've just turned 25 and have just met this girl who is 18. I haven't asked her out or anything but I'm pretty sure she would go out with me. She is gorgeous, intelligent and very funny. Also she's a mature 18 year old and I would be an immature 25 year old.

I'm just worried that it would be seen as strange a 25 year old guy dating an 18 year old..

Anybody have any insight for me at all?

cantdecide

T me, anything below lowish 20s is like Russian roulette. I think it depends what you want from the relationship. By the time she gets to teh age you are now, any 18 year old will be a very different person with completely different goals. It's very unlikely that you will continue to be on the same page for anything beyond the short to medium term but stranger things have happened. Socially, I'm sure a few eyebrows will be raised but if you don't care, then it's it's up to you...

Overheal

Fcuk it. Lifes short. Take the chance.

jellie

being honest i would think yes too young. but only you can decide really..

of course you could always go with the half your age plus 7 rule..
25/2 = 12.5 + 7 = 19.5: makes her too young

Overheal

Ah but if you go by The Statutory Rape Rule, its an okay match-up. :rolleyes:

The Half your Age plus seven rule is just a guideline anyway, basically saying that when you date anyone younger than that it may look awkward or draw attention to itself, but in reality theres nothing taboo or controversial about it, especially in this case, it seems normal enough.

Singer73

Stop wasting time. Aske her out today. If you don't, you'll regret it tomorrow.

Blazer

The most stable marriages are those where the man is 5-7 years older than the girl.
Something to do with the same levels of maturity although I think they actually mean in the 30+ group

AARRRGH

Give it a shot, but I would imagine she's still a kid and you'll find out soon enough.

Personally I would not go near her. 18 year olds generally don't have a clue!

Nappy

Live for the now... Party on!!

Butr dont tell your friends and only meet in the dark of night....

gamblitis

Go for it, why not?And who knows, you might even get turned down. And if so well at least you tried your hand.

biko

Go out with her. It's just for the craic, at her age she isn't thinking marriage.

LegacyUser

I'm not thinking marriage of even long term myself. But this girl is the first in a long time to give me butterflies. Sounds childish I know, but she's just fantastic. We went for a coffee yesterday and it was the best hour of my life in a long while

Annie Bananie

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm not thinking marriage of even long term myself. But this girl is the first in a long time to give me butterflies. Sounds childish I know, but she's just fantastic. We went for a coffee yesterday and it was the best hour of my life in a long while

Says it all tbh Ask her out You will never find out if you don't.
I would not let her be "the one who got away" or your "what if?".

Good luck!

00112984

A relationship isn't only "successful" if it ends in marriage and babies. You could have a fantastic time together for a few months or weeks. I say go for it.

I started going out with my husband when I was 19 and he was just under 26 and that worked well but, before that, I'd had some lovely relationships with men who were older than me where they didn't turn out to be the love of my life but we had a great time together.

Polleta

I went out with a guy 7 years older than me. We were both in our 20's at the time though and at the same stage of life. Personally I think your stage of life is more important than the age difference.

If you are on the same page the relationshop has a much better chance of survival regardless of age differences.

Carpaydiem

Do what you want, and what you feel is right. Dont ever consider or care about what anyone else thinks.

I'm 8 years older than my gf - and I'm only 28

Never been happier

metamorphic

Hello,

I've been there, with a larger age gap. Go for it. The age thing was never a factor in how we related and tbh no one passed much heed. It'll sink or swim on a lot more than your ages.

Piriz

hey, totally agree, stage of life!!! best hour youve had recently....!! go for it...hope you dont get shot down..(coz your too old)

Mr Alan

****ing do it.

eire2009

cradel snatcher ... sure your not R.kelly :P haha onli extacting the urine

Im 25 I just broke up with a 17 yr old haha
its great schoolgirls as I get older they stay the same age :cool:

p.s. if she has ne good luckn mates you know what too do.

Sage'sMama

My partner is ten yrs older than me and it doesn't matter one bit. Started going out with him at 16 and were getting married in sept. It only started out at sex at first.........:D

Toots

Annie Bananie wrote: »

Says it all tbh Ask her out You will never find out if you don't.
I would not let her be "the one who got away" or your "what if?".

Good luck!

Wholeheartedly agree!!

who007

Meh.. go for it.

anladmór

id ask quesrtions. sorry but good luck in your future

Zaph

eire2009 wrote: »

cradel snatcher ... sure your not R.kelly :P haha onli extacting the urine

Im 25 I just broke up with a 17 yr old haha
its great schoolgirls as I get older they stay the same age :cool:

p.s. if she has ne good luckn mates you know what too do.

eire2009, I suggest you read the part of the chapter relating to unhelpful posts before you post here again.

eire2009

How is that unhelpfull.. and anyway he was askn peoples opinions mine was supportive a few jokes inbetween aint going to hurt no one:p

Zaph

eire2009 wrote: »

How is that unhelpfull.. and anyway he was askn peoples opinions mine was supportive a few jokes inbetween aint going to hurt no one:p

PI is not the place for cracking jokes, go to the Humour forum if you want to do that. You should also be aware that questioning moderating decisions on-thread is a bannable offence in this forum. As you're new here I'm overlooking this one, but there won't be a second warning.

My gf is only 18 and I'm 23. At the start people told me she was too young and it would never last, but we've been with each other for about 4 years now and things are better than ever.

entropi

Overheal wrote: »

Fcuk it. Lifes short. Take the chance.

+1. The half your age plus seven and other such sayings are a load of bull though, if the OP is that interested then thats all that matters:) age is only a number:)

Poloman

Be a man and ask her out. I was kind of seeing an 18 year old when I was 28. It started as purely a sexual thing with us but she wanted it to get more serious and I couldnt as it just felt very wrong. I honestly felt like a paedo. My mates had no problem with it but i did. I felt she was more immature than me due to our ages so I had to call it a day,

Take the chance it could be perfect and if not it can always stop. go back to our parents ages. It seems they all married about 10 years younger than them! So gof or it before she is snapped up.

TheDollyParton

Go for it. It's legal for a reason.

I was with a guy who was 7 years older than me for a while and the only immaturity issue was his.

holdmyhand?

i was 18 going out with a 26 year old......... fun times.... of course it was nothing to do with the uniform :rolleyes:

smileysurfer

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm not thinking marriage of even long term myself. But this girl is the first in a long time to give me butterflies. Sounds childish I know, but she's just fantastic. We went for a coffee yesterday and it was the best hour of my life in a long while

personally I went out with a 26 yr old when I was 18, at the time I thought I was the bees knees but looking back he seems like a bit of a perve!
I mean he was working in a full time stable job and I brought him to the debs!He was older than some of my teachers.

But reading your comment above makes you sound genuinely smitten so Id say give it a shot neway :P

AAARON

go for it ask her out

LegacyUser

I was 17 when I started going out with my boyfriend. He was 32 at the time. We're engaged now 6 years later.

There's nothing wrong with you going out with her.

A lot of 18 year old girls are more mature than 20 something lads....

HouseHippo

Life is faaaaar to short to be worrying about age and hey,you're only as old as you feel.
I say Go for it

RossFixxxed

Yeah, I'm not so sure tbh. Just call this devil's advocate...

I mean the difference in lifestyle can (note: can) be huge. If she's just going to college and doing her thing and you're working all day coming home tired etc there'll be a big clash.

Or like the one above mentioned 'the uniform' that's just a little wrong to be honest. Actually it's creepy. I mean 18 is perfectly fine with the law etc, but if she has a big group of immature young ones around her etc and you're a bit more mature etc then you'll look and feel like a bit of a perv...

I dunno, life's short, but as a poster above says you can look like a perv in hindsight and in other's opinions!

EDIT: Just saw you say you are 'immature'... Is that a reason you're after a younger girl? Are you unable to deal with / relate to women your own age?

R

Baird

Rojomcdojo wrote: »

My gf is only 18 and I'm 23. At the start people told me she was too young and it would never last, but we've been with each other for about 4 years now and things are better than ever.

Sorry to take this off topic BUT
you were going out with a 14 year old girl at 19?

LegacyUser

I was 18 when i started dating my boyfriend who was 25. So same story. we are still together and both very happy.

LegacyUser

go for it i dont see it as odd at all. my OH is 10 years older than me and i met him when i was 21 (though dated older guys when i was 18 anyway...except one pleb)

quite common for women to like older men....probably cos it takes men a few years longer to catch up :P

if you dont go for it, you'll never know. at 18 she is an adult

good luck

Redpunto

From purely an age point of view id say too much of an age gap especially considering shes so young - at 18 most people are still kids. 28 and 35 would be a different matter. If i heard of a 25 yr old man going out with an 18 yr old I would immediately think perve - cannot he not attract someone of his own age.

What is she doin??

Has she done her leaving cert yet?

Salome

Unregistered wrote: »

I'm not thinking marriage of even long term myself. But this girl is the first in a long time to give me butterflies. Sounds childish I know, but she's just fantastic. We went for a coffee yesterday and it was the best hour of my life in a long while

Do it. Do it.

Would you regret it if you did ask her out? Possibly, but then again it could be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Would you regret it if you didn't? DEFINITELY - and there's nothing you can do about it. Don't be a wuss - do it.

Koushki

Baird wrote: »

Sorry to take this off topic BUT
you were going out with a 14 year old girl at 19?

hahahaha.


It's one of his favourite things to tell people. we've only been together 18 months

soz mods.

Zaph

Koushki wrote: »

hahahaha.


It's one of his favourite things to tell people. we've only been together 18 months

soz mods.

I'm not entirely sure if you're being serious or not, but regardless of that any more off-topic or unhelpful posts may result in an infraction or ban.

humbert

Personally I wouldn't, though I can understand the attraction...from a Nabokov sort of perspective.

musicmonky

your not that bad....*

look at this "lucky" bugger...

<snip>

Zaph

musicmonky wrote: »

your not that bad....*

look at this "lucky" bugger...

<snip>

musicmonky, I suggest you read the charter regarding off-topic and unhelpful posts before posting in this forum again

LegacyUser

To answer a question above. Yes she has done her leaving. She's in first year in college.

I still haven't done anything about it and still not sure wether I will or not. TBH I do not want to hurt this girl and that's all I seem to be doing lately is getting with girls then hurting them cos I'm still not fully over my ex. Couldn't bare to hurt this girl. She's far too nice for the likes of me

Redpunto

Unregistered wrote: »

To answer a question above. Yes she has done her leaving. She's in first year in college.

I still haven't done anything about it and still not sure wether I will or not. TBH I do not want to hurt this girl and that's all I seem to be doing lately is getting with girls then hurting them cos I'm still not fully over my ex. Couldn't bare to hurt this girl. She's far too nice for the likes of me

sounds like you know yourself then - keep it as a friendship and see how that goes.

Gadfly

Go for it!

G86

Only you know if shes mature enough to handle an adult relationship. It can work - my ex and I dated for 5 years and met when I was 16 and he was 23 - but it really does depend on the people involved.

I think you should give it a chance though, you seem to really like her and its really not a huge gap.