The Girl In Subway!

LegacyUser

Hi Guys!

I am hoping that some boardsies can help me out in my predicament! I go to Subway every day for lunch and want to ask out the girl that works there! Easy enough I guess, but:

it's lunchtime, there is a lot of people there, embarassing for both of us,

she may not be interested, will need to find somewhere else to pick up lunch.

Anyway, any tips on gauging interest or if/how this should be done?

Thanks in adavnce for any useful replies!

Agent Smith

try not eating in subway so much.


Serriously.

Mr. Incognito

Hmmm tricky one.

Get off early some day-call in on the way home and hand her a note maybe with your number on it and flash her a cheeky grin.

Smithy you're cynical one no doubt- don't be trampling his beautiful floral heart.

who007

Give her your phone number and ask if she delivers?

Mr. Incognito

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Hmmm tricky one.

Get off early some day-call in on the way home and hand her a note maybe with your number on it and flash her a cheeky grin.

Smithy you're cynical one no doubt- don't be trampling his beautiful floral heart.

Please don't. Just go in for a coffee/coke on the way home, try and spark up a conversation, then ask her out after a while.

kmick

Which subway is it so we can have a look.

Silverfish

Warnings handed out, next off topic or unhelpful reply gets a ban.

entropi

Unregistered wrote: »

it's lunchtime, there is a lot of people there, embarassing for both of us, she may not be interested, will need to find somewhere else to pick up lunch.

Dont worry about people being there, its only gonna be a short moment between you two...sure not being afraid to ask her out there and then would only be a good thing, shows you are interested and not afraid to be seen with her:)

Anyway, any tips on gauging interest or if/how this should be done?

Just order your subway etc, if she asks if there is anything else you would like, ask her for her phone number Seriously if it was me, i'd do it this way...i've done it before too, to a cashier in Boots in Jervis Centre. Didnt work out but at least i gave it a shot haha!!

LegacyUser

kmick wrote: »

Which subway is it so we can have a look.

I don't think I would subject her to that amount of trauma!

Thanks for all the useful replies, I hope I have the courage to try 'em out, especially the one from Papa Smut.

Makes sense and seems obvious, but I would not have thought of it!

MadelineNYC

With Valentine's day right around the corner..Go in on Friday and give her a card..Just make sure it's one that is light and a bit funny...Nothing too sappy or overly romantic. Write a brief note inside, again keeping the tone casual and humourous..with your number or email address...Drop it off..Be sure you make eye contact so she knows who you are.

What's the worst that could happen? You never have to see her again....If she doesn't call or email you then just start going somewhere else for lunch.

jester77

When she asks if you want a cookie, crisps or drink with the sambo, just smile and say you'd take her number! She probably won't give it to you then but at least you will be able to gauge her reaction!

LolaLuv

I used to work in a fast food place and always had creepers trying to get into my pants. If you want to separate yourself from the creepers, go when things aren't so busy and try to have a bit of a chat with her each day for a few days. After she's gotten to know you as more than just the guy who likes a 12-inch meatball sub on Italian, then up the ante a little bit and get her number.

Craft25

Agree with Pillypen, you should get to know her a bit if you want a yes. Does she flirt with you at all?

Otis Driftwood

Just go there at an off peak time,they are open before and after lunch time you know.
Ask her straight out,if she says no who cares?You dont know her and she doesnt know you.No harm,no foul.

Slutmonkey57b

Master of Nothing wrote: »

Just order your subway etc, if she asks if there is anything else you would like, ask her for her phone number

jester77 wrote: »

When she asks if you want a cookie, crisps or drink with the sambo, just smile and say you'd take her number!

Guaranteed to make her hate you and everyone else in the place assume you're a date rapist.

Varkov

When ordering or paying dont say anything. Just keep staring and smiling a wide smile.

Do this for a week and she should get the message.

Otis Driftwood

And what would that message be?Im going to murder you slowly,he he he???
Seriously thats the worst advice Ive ever read on any subject.
I have my own theories on your post but for the sake of arguement lets say you are being serious.You expect him to go in,point at whichever sub he wants,hand her the money,not say please or thank you etc?Great impression that will make.
OP,I genuinely think you should just bite the bullet and ask her her out for a coffee,no making goo goo eyes,no trying to make small talk etc,just do it in a nice,non threatening way and as Ive said,the worst she can say is no.

kingtut

Remember while she is at work she has to act professionally as in she has a job to do and probably can't enter into a long conversation. Perhaps ask her if she could tell you if there were any good clubs in the area that she could recommend to you and maybe ask her which one is her favourite.

If she wants to know why you are asking then tell her you are sick of going to the ...... bar and would like to try somewhere new.

Basically, think of anything that you think she might know about which you can strike up a conversation on.

Super Sidious

I bet its the Subway in IFSC, theres an amazing forgien girl working there... way too hot for Subway...

Try go down early some day... instead of at the break hour, and get a roll, and ask would she like to go for a drink sometime... Girls love that ****!

Gknowwatimsayyyin

onemorechance

All girls working in Subway who are boardsies must be paranoid right now! Especially the one in the IFSC! Hope it works out for all concerned!

louisecm

Whatever you do, do it confidently. Nothing more attractive than confidence.

Don't be a freak or do anything you've seen in a film or any of that ****.

Maybe just get something when it's empty and ask her if she'd like a coffee after work.
If she says no just go somewhere else for lunch from now on. Subway's not even nice.

CDfm

Slutmonkey57b wrote: »

Guaranteed to make her hate you and everyone else in the place assume you're a date rapist.

Hey they were kind of ok ice breakers- its better then doing nothing

Slutmonkey57b

I've stood beside many female collegaues on the receiving end of such a line and I've yet to see a result that didn't involve everyone behind the counter/desk not wanting to shower afterwards to get the creepy feeling off them.

CDfm

Slutmonkey57b wrote: »

I've stood beside many female collegaues on the receiving end of such a line and I've yet to see a result that didn't involve everyone behind the counter/desk not wanting to shower afterwards to get the creepy feeling off them.

OMG - Slutmonkey is going to give us chat up lines and tell us how to ask out girls we fancy that work in shops n' stuff:)


Heres a link to Im in love with a McDonalds Girl for some good mood music

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hmr4Gjl8fGM

MIN2511

OP, any updates?

Slutmonkey57b

CDfm wrote: »

OMG - Slutmonkey is going to give us chat up lines and tell us how to ask out girls we fancy that work in shops n' stuff:)

Unfortunately Rule #1 is "be someone they fancy". Your chances of changing her mind are zilch.

Panthro

MadelineNYC wrote: »

With Valentine's day right around the corner..Go in on Friday and give her a card..Just make sure it's one that is light and a bit funny...Nothing too sappy or overly romantic.

thats a fantastic idea, id go with dat one if i were u. timing would be perfect!

Wacker

I think I might be in the unique position of having successfully asked out a girl who worked in a deli chain (although mine was a Quiznos, and there are COMPLETELY different rules in Subway! ). What worked for me was being funny, confident, and regular. What was important was that I made her laugh nearly every time I was there, and that I also made her friends there laugh too. One of the times when it was quiet, I asked her if I could take her for a drink after work (I had long before established what time she finished work at), and my invitation was accepted.

Be warned though - it's a different environment when you're actually out with the girl, as opposed to being in a customer/cashier relationship. The dynamic totally changes, and you then really need to rely on there being common interests and the like. Those weren't there for me, and I didn't ask her out again.

Best of luck.

MadgeBadge

Wacker, you're such a dude!

OP let us know how you get on. Confidence is key. Oh and remember no matter what her answer is she'll be totally chuffed, it's the ultimate compliment.

Good luck.

kingtut

Wacker wrote: »

Be warned though - it's a different environment when you're actually out with the girl, as opposed to being in a customer/cashier relationship. The dynamic totally changes, and you then really need to rely on there being common interests and the like. Those weren't there for me, and I didn't ask her out again.

Best of luck.

+1 that has got to be one of the best pieces of advice that I have heard on this topic in a long time!

Micky 32

Agent Smith wrote: »

try not eating in subway so much.


Serriously.

Wow what a useless and constructive post :rolleyes:.

I know how you feel. When your single it's easy to fall into this scenario. It's not the easiest thing to do approaching her and asking her out. Unfortunately there is no easy way to give her the message. Either ask her straight or hand in an note

Zaph

Micky 32 wrote: »

Wow what a useless and constructive post :rolleyes:.

Mickey 32, if you have a problem with a post please report it, but kindly leave the moderation of the forum to the mods, ok?

Micky 32

Zaph wrote: »

Mickey 32, if you have a problem with a post please report it, but kindly leave the moderation of the forum to the mods, ok?

O 'dear:rolleyes: is nobody allowed on this forum allowed to express an opinion?

Zaph

Micky 32 wrote: »

O 'dear:rolleyes: is nobody allowed on this forum allowed to express an opinion?

If it's on topic and related to the OP's question, yes. If it's related to other posters remarks, no. May I suggest you familiarise yourself with the forum charter before you post anything further, you'll find out exactly what is and isn't permitted on this forum there.

traffic_cone

Micky 32 wrote: »

O 'dear:rolleyes: is nobody allowed on this forum allowed to express an opinion?

Only if the mods like what you have to say. You lose your right to free speech the moment you sign up to boards - I suggest you familiarize yourself with the fine print

Zaph

traffic_cone wrote: »

Only if the mods like what you have to say. You lose your right to free speech the moment you sign up to boards - I suggest you familiarize yourself with the fine print

And I suggest you also familiarise yourself with the charter before posting anything more on this forum.

Micky 32

Zaph wrote: »

If it's on topic and related to the OP's question, yes. If it's related to other posters remarks, no. May I suggest you familiarise yourself with the forum charter before you post anything further, you'll find out exactly what is and isn't permitted on this forum there.

It was on topic and related to the posters question. I was just defending him from rediculous replies and encouraging him to pursue this girl if he likes her because pursuing women in this way can work, i know from experience. He has absolutely nothing to lose

Zaph

Micky 32 wrote: »

It was on topic and related to the posters question. I was just defending him from rediculous replies and encouraging him to pursue this girl if he likes her

The OP doesn't need defending. As I said if you have an issue with a post please report it and a mod will follow it up.

Questioning mod actions on-thread can earn you an infraction or ban, but I've given you some leeway as you're new, so seriously, please stop posting until you have read the charter.

Thanks

Micky 32

Zaph wrote: »

The OP doesn't need defending. As I said if you have an issue with a post please report it and a mod will follow it up.

Questioning mod actions on-thread can earn you an infraction or ban, but I've given you some leeway as you're new, so seriously, please stop posting until you have read the charter.

Thanks

From what i have seen it's obvious that you can't have an opinion on this forum which to be honest dis-interests me. Sure ban away. I couldn't be bothered to be part of a forum if a mod can't take a bit of criticism and then threathen banning. :rolleyes:

anladmór

subway yukkkkkkk

Zaph

anladmór wrote: »

subway yukkkkkkk

Banned for 1 week for unhelpful post

Micky 32, to get this thread back on topic I'll be sending you a PM shortly regarding this thread. DO NOT post any further off-topic remarks here.

LegacyUser

If you cant work up the courage to break the ice properly have a freind go in ahead of you and be really obnoxious then step in and be the white knight. Establishes you as a decent guy if she hasnt noticed you allready, dont ask her out then though come back a few days later and ask.

Are you kidding me?!

Please go back to your script for Hollywood...

OP: An update? Have you started talking to her yet? It's much easier to ask someone out once you have built up a rapport.

The Bunk

ask her does she want to see ur messy meatballs covered in sauce

CDfm

Papa Smut wrote: »

Are you kidding me?!

Please go back to your script for Hollywood...

OP: An update? Have you started talking to her yet? It's much easier to ask someone out once you have built up a rapport.

I go into a resterant once or twice a week and know the waitresses and when I know their names I use them. Its a small thing but it helps in everyday life too.

People love having their names used.:)

CDfm

The Bunk wrote: »

ask her does she want to see ur messy meatballs covered in sauce

Great idea - La Cucina in Howth -the new Italian Place in Findlaters have a Valentines Night Special 35 yo-yos per person

Its a really cool place.

http://www.menupages.ie/cuisines/european/restaurants/la_cucina.aspx

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Micky 32 wrote: »

From what i have seen it's obvious that you can't have an opinion on this forum which to be honest dis-interests me.

You are 100% right. Everyone seems to forget that people have a right to free speech and to express themselves in whatever way they wish. The charter has no legs to stand on in the eyes of the law. Say what you want and what you feel my man fair play to you for trying to get what is rightfully yours (your right to speak freely).

If I get an infraction or a ban for this it shows that my rights are being violated

Kenno90

lucky all the girls in my local subway remind me of the lunch lady type

Wibbs

traffic_cone wrote: »

You are 100% right. Everyone seems to forget that people have a right to free speech and to express themselves in whatever way they wish. The charter has no legs to stand on in the eyes of the law. Say what you want and what you feel my man fair play to you for trying to get what is rightfully yours (your right to speak freely).

If I get an infraction or a ban for this it shows that my rights are being violated

Actually you're wrong on every single point above. Ireland does not have free speech and a private site like boards doesn't either.

Of course you knew that so I'm banning you for dragging the thread off topic and trolling.

junior_apollo

Varkov wrote: »

When ordering or paying dont say anything. Just keep staring and smiling a wide smile.

Do this for a week and she should get the message.

If staring at her with a wide smile doesnt get you arrested then nothing will!... Well actually adding a bit of drool to top it off would guarantee it!

As other have said.. try to go in before lunch hours or maybe drop in for your sambo on the way to work or on the way home.. either way.. just have little chats each time your in there if possible.. hows your day?.. been working here long?.. general type of questions and let convo roll wherever it can...

After a few days/week.. drop the ol' ... doing anything for the evening/wknd?.. (to this have your own plans!.. (even if you actually dont!)) ie.. if she says no or yes... be able to say.. ya heading down the country myself, or going to a gig, or cinema, pub with lads, etc... dont invite her yet!...

Then the next week chat during the week and then ask her the same - any plans.. if she says ya then gauge whether you can ask her out.. ie if she says shes going out with the girls etc then say your gonna be out aswell if she fancies meeting up for one?.. or if she says no plans then suggest she and friends should come out with you and your friends...

But by the second stint of chatting (after asking her plans the first time) you should have a pretty good idea whether your gonna get anywhere... hey for all you know she might be married! :eek:

Best of luck though!