Help friends wanted!!!

lallybaby

Ladies, im 24 and about 6 mths ago i moved to Donegal.it was to be a big adventure as 2 of my friends were meant to move with me but they backed out on me.I have my boyfriend here but it's not the same as girlfriends.I feel like i over rely on him and i hate it.I thought that id meet people through wrk but as we all wrk odd shifts, meeting up outside wrk never works out. Im a very sociable person when im given the chance.Ive never had trouble meeting and befriending people before and im finding this a very lonely time.has anyone any ideas on meeting people and socialising?

Princessa

What about the gym? A lot of women get chatting in the sauna etc after a work out. Or maybe a self defence class or even one of those evening course, you could learn a foreign language or something in the process. Just throwind ideas out there.

CorkLady1983

oh no, what about the people in the area? Are they young too?

I worked in a place a couple of years ago like that as well, everyone seemed to have their own life outside the office and didn't really mix with anyone at work. Try to see if anyone wants to go for a drink some night after work, if they are on a similar shift - is there a sports and social club there ?

lallybaby

The town is very young and there are plenty of young people my age about but i just never found a way of getting chatting to them but i think im going to join some classes or something.im just sick of sitting in, so it will at least give me something to do.
I work nights so i think it has made meeting people even harder.maybe a change of jobs is needed too......
Thanks so much for the suggestions.:)

CorkLady1983

even on night shifts - there is still the weekend - when everyone is off - if a lot of people living locally they tend to stay in the clique they are always in from secondary school, etc... deffo join classes that's what I did when I moved to Dublin first as well, I met a lot of people in same boat...:pac: If you post in the LLmeetups...someone might want to hang out up there...

lallybaby

Thanks Corklady:Di saw the posts for the LL meetups but never thought about people wanting to meet up in places other than dublin.i think its about time i found myself again and im spending my night looking for classes in my area to join:)
im looking forward to regaining my social life!

Creamy Goodness

go for the classes route or do you have any hobbies say like photography where there may be clubs in the area?

i don't think the gym is a great place to meet people but that could be just me. i find it awkward enough to talk to people fully clothed :P couldn't imagine striking up a conversation fully nekkid :pac:

is it possible for you to invite some neighbours around for some wine/drinks and some finger food? as this would be a great way to get to know your neighbours as well as bringing them together as well.

lallybaby

Ive been searching poledancing classes and im thinking about signing up:Di hate gyms because if i even think about them my face glows, never mind when i actually work up a sweat:o
our estate is all families but i think im going to make more of an affort to put myself out there.i cant expect any potential friends to come to me.i guess its just hard when im outa my comfort zone.
but here it goes..........:eek:

dulchie75

Hi Lallybaby I'm kinda in the same boat as you, I'm from Dublin but living in Roscommon, recently split with bf and all my friends are couples so finding it hard to meet new people and get out and about.
Recently joined a Salas class which was great, you can go by yourself you don't need a partner as you change partners every few mins, great laugh and you get talking to people as you go along, some nights people stay and have a few drinks after.

I think it's harder for girls than lads to make new friends just have to put in a bit of effort, God I should listen to my own advice!!:eek: