seriously like, why do we cheat?

dontcallmecrazy

so i kissed somebody else while me and him were ON A BREAK he considers this cheating, fair enough.

but why do we cheat, i know all the usual - missing something in the realtionship etc etc.

but there must be some actual explanation?

i just want to know so i dont go doing it again.

CantGetNoSleep

Sl&g

Puddleduck

Coz your duerty?

Also because you arent fully commited to the realationship and to some extent believe you can get away with it.

Cheating ftl

javaboy

Did I walk in on an episode of Friends?

There is no such thing as a break btw. It's usually a trap. You fell for it.

drunkmonkey

were all monkeys and like to swing, it's this crap catholic, moral, bankrupt society that says what we can and can't do in a relatioship, it sucks!!

Kiera

On a break isnt cheating. Who takes a break these days anyway?

Ross_Mahon

Its in the genes, We cant help it

Latchy

'' I kissed a girl and I liked itttttttttttttt ''

opps ......should be in music thread ,sorry :eek:

Fizman

People who seriously suck balls at video games.

They have about as much hand-eye coordination as a blind, armless cyclops.

SV

WE WERE ON A BREAK!




that is all.

Stercus Accidit

moral dilemas as weak as this one belong in pi

CantGetNoSleep

Stercus Accidit wrote: »

moral dilemas as weak as this one belong in pi

But that is full of muppets, you'll get real answers here

Mingey

Either it is a test of ones character to be in a relationship and not cheat or else we humans are simply not supposed to be monogamous.

dontcallmecrazy

Stercus Accidit wrote: »

moral dilemas as weak as this one belong in pi

i just thought AH woudl be better, might get some funny answers then i might not be so sad anymore that he is gone.....

madmik

Stercus Accidit wrote: »

moral dilemas as weak as this one belong in pi

they should resurrect the slapper thread for this one

Geri Boyle

It's quite simple really. People want what they can't have. It's human nature. If you feel that someone is forbidden, it makes them even more irresistable. The key is to realise that the truth is, you can be with somebody else if you really want to. But maybe that means you can't be with the person you're cheating on anymore.

The reality of that 9 times out of 10 makes the other person alot more resistable.

loz

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

so i kissed somebody else while me and him were ON A BREAK he considers this cheating, fair enough.

but why do we cheat, i know all the usual - missing something in the realtionship etc etc.

but there must be some actual explanation?

i just want to know so i dont go doing it again.

cause you're a slut ?

Dudess

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

so i kissed somebody else while me and him were ON A BREAK he considers this cheating, fair enough.

but why do we cheat, i know all the usual - missing something in the realtionship etc etc.

but there must be some actual explanation?

Because we start to get bored. It's not rocket science.

Oh and that "break" stuff is utter nonsense. People are either together or they're not. It's not realistic to take a hiatus from a relationship and go off shagging/kissing other people - it completely cheapens the relationship.

drunkmonkey

Blue Belle wrote: »

It's quite simple really. People want what they can't have. It's human nature. If you feel that someone is forbidden, it makes them even more irresistable

Forbidden by the Mrs but Mother nature has no problem with it....

Wagon

loz wrote: »

cause you're a slut ?

Gotta love logic!

Geri Boyle

drunkmonkey wrote: »

Forbidden by the Mrs but Mother nature has no problem with it....

Guilt an Irish solution to an Irish problem:rolleyes:

Ya ain't cheating on mother nature

Sure if you're in an open relationship it's not cheating either, so just stick to open relationships. Problem solved.

dontcallmecrazy

i dont know if you would even class it as a ''break'' i agree with you all that they are stupid.

he basically broke up with me told me to move out, i did, went out got drunk and kissed some randomer, he then decides he wants to get back together, i told him about the kiss, he then deides that we were in fact not broken up and he didnt mean what he said and how could i do that to him etc etc.

Geri Boyle

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

i dont know if you would even class it as a ''break'' i agree with you all that they are stupid.

he basically broke up with me told me to move out, i did, went out got drunk and kissed some randomer, he then decides he wants to get back together, i told him about the kiss, he then deides that we were in fact not broken up and he didnt mean what he said and how could i do that to him etc etc.

Tell him you changed your mind and decided to take back the kiss!

Kiera

Dudess wrote: »

Because we start to get bored. It's not rocket science.

Oh and that "break" stuff is utter nonsense. People are either together or they're not. It's not realistic to take a hiatus from a relationship and go off shagging/kissing other people - it completely cheapens the relationship.

Exactly! If you're not adult enough to sort out your problems without taking a break then you shouldnt really be in a committed relationship.

Earthhorse

javaboy wrote: »

There is no such thing as a break btw. It's usually a trap. You fell for it.

Bad news, Mr. Johnson, I'm afraid your leg is trapped.

Kiera

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

i dont know if you would even class it as a ''break'' i agree with you all that they are stupid.

he basically broke up with me told me to move out, i did, went out got drunk and kissed some randomer, he then decides he wants to get back together, i told him about the kiss, he then deides that we were in fact not broken up and he didnt mean what he said and how could i do that to him etc etc.

Ok so he broke it off, kicked you out and you got back with him? Time to move on me thinks!

Wagon

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

i dont know if you would even class it as a ''break'' i agree with you all that they are stupid.

he basically broke up with me told me to move out, i did, went out got drunk and kissed some randomer, he then decides he wants to get back together, i told him about the kiss, he then deides that we were in fact not broken up and he didnt mean what he said and how could i do that to him etc etc.

Hmmm...I'm not expert on anything.....but....he sounds like a big girls blouse....

Stercus Accidit

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

i just thought AH woudl be better, might get some funny answers then i might not be so sad anymore that he is gone.....

He had a hissy over you kissing someone while you were "on a break" (broken up).

You're much better off rid.


He'll probably step on a worm and write about it in his diary, how it made him feel, then post a letter to himself saying its ok and that he's a special guy.

He'll then cry and drink his own tears in the dark.

You're better off, now go get drunk and ate the face of some lad in copper face jacks.

dontcallmecrazy

Stercus Accidit wrote: »

He had a hissy over you kissing someone while you were "on a break" (broken up).

You're much better off rid.


He'll probably step on a worm and write about it in his diary, how it made him feel, then post a letter to himself saying its ok and that he's a special guy.

He'll then cry and drink his own tears in the dark.

You're better off, now go get drunk and ate the face of some lad in copper face jacks.

i think i love you.....

dyl10

Don't try to bend the spoon, that's impossible. Instead, only try to realize the truth....There is no spoon.

Geri Boyle

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

i think i love you.....

Oooh she's already drunk

Terry

loz wrote: »

cause you're a slut ?

Banned.

dontcallmecrazy

Blue Belle wrote: »

Oooh she's already drunk

liquid lunch....the way forward.

drunkmonkey

Stercus Accidit wrote: »

go get drunk and ate the face of some lad in copper face jacks.

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

i think i love you.....

this could be the start of something beautifull:)

Hail 2 Da Chimp

Doesn't sound like you waited very long after ye broke up for you to get off with somone else.
Depending on how long ye were going out he has every right to be upset.

Stercus Accidit

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

i think i love you.....

Are you over the age of consent?

Are you hot?


Are you vulnerable at the moment?

Pm me for a good time, we'll discuss feelings and art, and how sh1t they are.

ttyl xoxo

veryangryman

Friends is deffo showing its age. I feel so sad for ever having laughed at the jokes. The "break" concept is the most ridiculous lump of bull ive ever heard

<RANT>
Relationships are like colouring books - Its your own choice whether you want to colour them in to suit your own vision of the pictures. In reality, they are black and white - you either like the other person or not. And you practice what you preach. I like you = I'll treat you nice. Not "I say i like you, so ill get drunk and forget myself with someone else."

</RANT>

Kiera

drunkmonkey wrote: »

this could be the start of something beautifull:)

Yay! Another Coppers baby

dontcallmecrazy

Stercus Accidit wrote: »

Are you over the age of consent?

Are you hot?


Are you vulnerable at the moment?

Pm me for a good time, we'll discuss feelings and art, and how sh1t they are.

ttyl xoxo

all of the above....how pathetic.

javaboy

Hail 2 Da Chimp wrote: »

Doesn't sound like you waited very long after ye broke up for you to get off with somone else.
Depending on how long ye were going out he has every right to be upset.

Bollocks. If it's a break or a break up then she can kiss/screw whoever she likes. There's no waiting period.

homerun_homer

The whole point of going on a break is to make the relationship more complicated. People think it's to help but seriously they are joking themselves. You return to the relationship all petty and jealous with each other because you do crap like that.

dontcallmecrazy

i suppose i only see it as a break now coz we did get back together for a while, at the time i thought it was finished for good and i suppose i was ''vulnerable'' and low and all the usual post break up lark.

Geri Boyle

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

i suppose i only see it as a break now coz we did get back together for a while, at the time i thought it was finished for good and i suppose i was ''vulnerable'' and low and all the usual post break up lark.

Fook that. He dumped you and turfed you out, you moved on (albeit quite fast) and now he's not happy?! He doesn't get to decide how you deal with him dumping you. It's his own fault tbh.

Stercus Accidit

dontcallmecrazy wrote: »

all of the above....how pathetic.

...

Coppers it is then

Mark200

"why do we cheat"

WE??

Speak for yourself

Not everyone does.

dontcallmecrazy

Stercus Accidit wrote: »

...

Coppers it is then

i can see patterns repeating here.

dontcallmecrazy

Mark200 wrote: »

"why do we cheat"

WE??

Speak for yourself

Not everyone does.

apologies....why does ''one'' cheat.

Stercus Accidit

I only posted in this thread with some in your face advice to spice it up a bit,

you wanted the excitement, the brutal honesty,

You crave it!


You all do.

Reganio 2

Don't worry about it you will move on find a new fella and in 20 years you will think "Oh I wonder where that muppet is now", then you will here from your mate that he is now in fact gay and living in a flat above a spar.

Problem solved

dontcallmecrazy

Stercus Accidit wrote: »

I only posted in this thread with some in your face advice to spice it up a bit,

you wanted the excitement, the brutal honesty,

You crave it!


You all do.

and that you did, take a bow son.

Hail 2 Da Chimp

javaboy wrote: »

Bollocks. If it's a break or a break up then she can kiss/screw whoever she likes. There's no waiting period.

Fair enough but if he was seeing her for, say 10 years. They have a falling out and he thinks she should move out (I'm guessing he owns the house).
He has every right to be pissed off with her if she goes out that night and gets off with someone.
There may not be a waiting period - but if my girlfriend told me it was over and started kissing someone right away, I'd punch her right in the ovaries*!!!

*(That is to say I'd be pretty upset with her)