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Taste of cum

  • 21-01-2009 1:17am
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    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I met this guy recently I really like and we ended up in bed doing a 69, it was my first time giving a bj, he came very fast and it was horrible what he tasted like and I got in a mood which really annoyed him. Ive been upset cause he hasnt called in a few days. should i txt him and say sorry.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78,580 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    should i txt him
    Yes or call.
    s say sorry.
    No. Don't apologise for who you are or how you feel.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,122 ✭✭✭✭Jimmy Bottlehead


    Yes you should apologise. He allowed himself to let go enough to cum, and you got huffy about it. He didn't do anything wrong. Just tell him you weren't expecting it and sorry if it hurt his feelings. I'm sure he'd be open to the idea of trying again :)

    And if you really can't stomach the taste, just let him cum somewhere else.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,526 ✭✭✭brendansmith


    OP tbh that particular position is quite intense. The poor lad didnt mean to cum so quick i would imagine.

    You really shouldnt have got stroppy, he was prob very embarrassed.

    Give him aring and im sure it will be grand.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 852 ✭✭✭blackgold>>


    lol


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    lol

    Another unhelpful comment like that and I'll ban you from this forum.
    b


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    feed him fruit :P

    i heard that makes it taste nicer.

    ....


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Pineapple. Lots of pineapple.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    I met this guy recently I really like and we ended up in bed doing a 69, it was my first time giving a bj, he came very fast and it was horrible what he tasted like and I got in a mood which really annoyed him. Ive been upset cause he hasnt called in a few days. should i txt him and say sorry.
    Actual, yes, you should apologise. There's nothing wrong with not liking the taste but to act like a child because of it isn't exactly fair. If someone I met did that to me then I wouldn't call her either.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 372 ✭✭miles teg


    Beruthiel wrote: »
    Pineapple. Lots of pineapple.

    does lilt count?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,907 ✭✭✭✭CJhaughey


    cinnamon


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,465 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    Of course you should apologize (in person). You were very rude to him. I wouldn't call someone either if they got all huffy over this. I'm sure he didn't decide to cum when he did. I mean it wasn't a practical joke. How you feel and how you behave are separate things especially in these circumstances. It's called understanding.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,610 ✭✭✭Karen_*


    I think he should have asked was it ok before he did it personally. So many people don't like the taste of it that its not ok to just shoot in someones mouth. He's probably mortified OP and so are you. I'd say to just leave it now.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,428 ✭✭✭sunnyside


    Iit was my first time giving a bj,

    Did he know this? If not he might have assumed you were perfectly happy for him to cum.

    Don't be turned off trying again, just take it slowly next time.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 302 ✭✭unhappycamper


    I would be completly mortified if I was him, how was he to know you had no experience in the field of oral? I would call him up and explain that you feel silly for the way you reacted and you would like to see him and make up.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,494 ✭✭✭kayos


    If he did not ask and you did not say he could cum in your mouth then thats acting a bit of a twat in my eyes. If a woman is good enough to go down then I'll pay the respects of asking before I would cum in their mouth. Sorry just manners. If somethign like you did describe I would be the one saying sorry straight away.

    As for the taste pinnapple lots of it. Cut out Drink/Coffee/Ciggies.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 124 ✭✭pallepille


    pineapple indeed and bananas plenty of them will help a lot..............avoid garlic, curries and pretty much anything hot'n'spicy will be disastrous.............kinda puts a bit of a dampner on the oul romantic meal for 2 beforehand tho, "garcon garcon....ill have a pineapple ring and a banana sandwich please"


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 303 ✭✭G&T


    If you want to see him again call and
    explain you hadn't expected it as it was your first time,

    Tell him in future to either warn you or pull out
    when he is going to cum.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,549 ✭✭✭✭cowzerp


    kayos wrote: »
    If he did not ask and you did not say he could cum in your mouth then thats acting a bit of a twat in my eyes. If a woman is good enough to go down then I'll pay the respects of asking before I would cum in their mouth. Sorry just manners. If somethign like you did describe I would be the one saying sorry straight away.

    The aim of a bj is to make the partner cum so if she did not want it in her mouth she should have told him where she wanted it, he broke no rule and she just will have to learn from the experience.

    Rush Boxing club and Rush Martial Arts head coach.



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    I met this guy recently I really like and we ended up in bed doing a 69, it was my first time giving a bj, he came very fast and it was horrible what he tasted like and I got in a mood which really annoyed him. Ive been upset cause he hasnt called in a few days. should i txt him and say sorry.

    Did you ever stop to think your vagina might have tasted horrible too?

    What you did wasn't very nice. I don't expect he will want to meet you again. You should contact him and apologise anyway.

    Victor wrote: »
    Don't apologise for who you are or how you feel.

    :rolleyes:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 726 ✭✭✭Mr. Frost


    OP you sound incredibly immature to be having a proper sex life. What did you think would happen? :rolleyes:


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,494 ✭✭✭kayos


    cowzerp wrote: »
    The aim of a bj is to make the partner cum so if she did not want it in her mouth she should have told him where she wanted it, he broke no rule and she just will have to learn from the experience.

    Of ffs dude its called manners just like you should not surprise the lady by cumming into her face without talking about it first or pretty much do anything that your not 100% she is ok with. It is called respect for your partner. The aim is pleasure and intimacy not a mouthful of cum unless that’s what the lady in question wants.



    Way to go making assumptions about my sexuality. I’m straight and engaged…


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,183 ✭✭✭dioltas


    I hear celery's good as well.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,549 ✭✭✭✭cowzerp


    kayos wrote: »
    Way to go making assumptions about my sexuality. I’m straight and engaged…

    I hope you and your man have a long and happy life together then, Do you warn him to eat pineapples when you know your going to do the business?

    Rush Boxing club and Rush Martial Arts head coach.



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    cowzerp banned for 1 week for flamebaiting unhelpful and off topic posting.

    Can we please keep posts on topic and helpful to the op.

    Different people have different preferences and rules in a relationship.
    This seems to have come down to a lack of mature communication on both sides.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,312 ✭✭✭rediguana


    Realistically, outside of a long-term relationship, the guy is unlikely to start eating a diet similar to Robinson Crusoe's just to make his cum taste better (and, let's be honest - how good is it ever going to taste?).

    OP, it was just some inexperience on both your parts. There was always a risk of him coming if you didn't tell him not to (it's okay to warn him not to, if the string of depressingly-assertive women in my own past is anything to go by). I agree with whoever said that it was poor form of him not to ask first. But maybe it was an accident and he was embarrassed?

    I would text him (it would be an uncomfortable phone call) and make light of the thing. If you're interested in seeing him again, by all means do, but try to educate him about the etiquette of oral sex.

    I wouldn't apologise. The unfortunate reality is that many, if not most, women dislike the taste of cum.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    rediguana wrote: »
    I wouldn't apologise. The unfortunate reality is that many, if not most, women dislike the taste of cum.

    There's nothing wrong with disliking the taste of cum, but there is something wrong with being moody after a sexual act. It's a bit psycho.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    It is not psycho and that is an unhelpful comment.

    If people do not communicate thier expectations to each other esp during sexual acts
    then it often happens that occurrences happen
    which they were not prepared for mentally or emotionally.

    Just because a person had consented to having a cock in their gob
    does not mean they have consented to consume ejaculate.

    Yes there should have been some sort of a converstaion about it.
    If you are not mature enough to talk about a sexual act then
    are you mature enough to be preforming that sexual act ?

    Yes he may have presumed, yes he may have gotten a lot more excited
    a lot quicker then he expected but he should have found away to communicate that
    to his partner who should have on her end made her wishes clearer.

    Yes you should ring him and meet him and talk about it,
    if you can not do that the both of you then I don't see much point
    in the relationship as ye can not communicate like adults.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,312 ✭✭✭rediguana


    AARRRGH wrote: »
    There's nothing wrong with disliking the taste of cum, but there is something wrong with being moody after a sexual act. It's a bit psycho.

    Being moody after sex is psycho? She's supposed to take advice from someone whose views are as unformed as this?

    Have you ever even HAD sex before?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,382 ✭✭✭✭AARRRGH


    Thaedydal wrote: »
    It is not psycho and that is an unhelpful comment.

    If people do not communicate thier expectations to each other esp during sexual acts
    then it often happens that occurrences happen
    which they were not prepared for mentally or emotionally.

    Just because a person had consented to having a cock in their gob
    does not mean they have consented to consume ejaculate.

    I'm not sure if you've read the original post, but the problem was the taste of the cum, not the fact that he came in her mouth.

    At no stage does she say she didn't agree to him cumming in her mouth.

    So she got moody because his sperm tastes bad.

    I don't consider that the behaviour of a reasonable person.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    rediguana banned for off topic, unhelpful posting.
    If you have an issue with a post use the reported post function.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    AARRRGH wrote: »
    So she got moody because his sperm tastes bad.

    I don't consider that the behaviour of a reasonable person.

    It really depends on how bad it was.
    Yes a change in diet makes a huge difference to the taste
    and if it was truely rank I would be far from impressed as it was can
    utter mood killer and if it brought the fun and games to an
    abrupt early end as the matter could not be dealt with and his feelings
    were so hurt I would be highly annoyed.

    Op you need to talk to him.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP, really you should have specified if you didn't want it in you mouth and he should have warned that he was about to fire.

    No one person is really at fault here. Since it was you first go, I would say that you would not have been 100% sure what was going to happen. Like most things, experience will help you along the way.

    Also, you did/do not have to swallow it if you don't want to/like it. Alot of people go on about swallowing but, for me anyway, I don't care at all what happens to it once it has left me. This is probably true for most people other than immature boys who watch too much porn.

    Ignore all the people who are saying it was your fault. These people seem to forget what it was like at the start when you did not know what to expect and most things were new and confusing and things that everyone says are great were not necesasrily that great. Yet. Experience will help you with these things but, I would say, you would get this experience best from a partner who is willing help you along at your pace.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,658 ✭✭✭old boy


    what do people expect to happen when involved in a particular act from something highly intensive,


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 218 ✭✭Allah Hu Akbar


    I met this guy recently I really like and we ended up in bed doing a 69, it was my first time giving a bj, he came very fast and it was horrible what he tasted like and I got in a mood which really annoyed him. Ive been upset cause he hasnt called in a few days. should i txt him and say sorry.


    Did you spit or swallow?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,925 ✭✭✭Otis Driftwood


    Hi OP,it sounds like BOTH parties ie yourself and him are both pretty inexperienced so I think you should give him a call and explain that as it was your first time giving a bj he took you by surprise.Im sure the poor chap is horrified both by cuming quickly AND your reaction but unfortunatly men arent built like women and an orgasm can sneak up VERY quickly.I gaurentee that every bloke that posts here has been caught short like that on more than 1 occasion,I know I have and it is embarrassing but its part and parcel of having an active sex life.Imagine if he had been going down on you and you squirted on him(and believe me,it does happen)and he reacted the same way.If you cant talk about it then maybe you should re-evaluate whether you are mature enough to have a sex life.Its not the end of the world anyway.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Allah Hu Akbar banned for 1 week for off topic and unhelpful posting.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 555 ✭✭✭Caryatnid


    OP I think I have to agree with what AAAARGH is trying to say - it's 100% ok not to like the taste of cum (or any aspect of sex) but it's not ok to get moody with your partner because of this. I don't think he deliberately made it disgusting-tasting. If you think the relationship is worth pursuing, it's definitely worth contacting him and explaining to him what your huff was about. Maybe he will understand.

    I heard before that asparagus is great, but never understood in what context - I mean, to the guys that suggest pineapple - does this mean that a guy has to eat pineapple 24/7, or just the day of the bj, or a few days before . . . do you know what I mean? Has anyone ever tried these methods or are they just urban myths? Thanks. :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,332 ✭✭✭HouseHippo


    I wouldn't put it on my cornflakes but really its not too heinous. You get used to it.I hated it the first time I did it too. If you don't like the taste try finishing with your hand or just as he is about to come move him out of your mouth and let him cum somewhere else.I know alot of guys who are obsessed with coming on a girls face......


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Caryatnid wrote: »
    I heard before that asparagus is great, but never understood in what context - I mean, to the guys that suggest pineapple - does this mean that a guy has to eat pineapple 24/7, or just the day of the bj, or a few days before . . . do you know what I mean? Has anyone ever tried these methods or are they just urban myths? Thanks. :)

    Not urban myths there was a discussion on that in the Sex and Sexuality forum.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,034 ✭✭✭deadhead13


    Unprotected sex with someone you just met wasn't the wisest thing to do. Whatever the outcome - next time use a condom.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 711 ✭✭✭who007


    deadhead13 wrote: »
    Unprotected sex with someone you just met wasn't the wisest thing to do. Whatever the outcome - next time use a condom.

    Hardly helpful or on topic?
    They may well have been young and together a while before exploring to this extent - which is how the OP seems to me. Agree with others - best to talk to your partner about these things as it's all individual and there's no one consensus on what people like/don't. So yes, text him. I would agree with apologising for your reaction but make clear expectations for the future in such a situation.

    Then again, I was with the world's most fantastic woman before for a few weeks. Absolutely gorgeous. Soundest woman I ever met - even my mates said she was the soundest woman they ever met. An absolute catch. But the smell down there when i went down knocked me for six. This was some years ago - but i doubt I'd have the balls to tell her even now - so in the end I had to think, do I want to be with someone who i can't give this pleasure/return the pleasure to if I am gonna be gagging every time? Just couldn't stay with her in the end.

    But then there's always the cum somewhere else compromise!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Well if they are not comunicting in an adult fashion about sex then yes the lack of barrier protection during oral sex maybe a problem as there are infections which can and will spread that way.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,034 ✭✭✭deadhead13


    who007 wrote: »
    Hardly helpful or on topic?

    I disagree, my reading of it is that she is not very experienced or overly confident. If you dont know the other persons sexual history inisting on using a condom is in her best interest.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 10,272 ✭✭✭✭Max Power1


    cowzerp wrote: »
    The aim of a bj is to make the partner cum so if she did not want it in her mouth she should have told him where she wanted it, he broke no rule and she just will have to learn from the experience.
    He may not have broken any rules per se, but there is etiquette! she says it was her first time doing it (and hence they wouldnt have done that before) so its is just polite to ask before just doing it in her mouth, i would think!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,300 ✭✭✭PixelTrawler


    Emm... the solution is really simple...

    Flavoured condoms... he gets to enjoy it and you dont get to taste it...
    Oh, and try talking - it tends to help


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 396 ✭✭funloving


    The OP didn't like the taste of cum, not the act of coming in her mouth...
    You should apologize for being so rude with him..he isn't responsible for the taste of his cum..

    btw...dont leave the cum stay in your mouth for a long time...you're not drinking wine...swallow it as fast as you can next time you give a bj


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,300 ✭✭✭PixelTrawler


    I meant use the condom during the act and finish in the mouth but wearing the condom


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,917 ✭✭✭towel401


    miles teg wrote: »
    does lilt count?

    no has to be the real thing. there is only like 5% fruit in that processed junk


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,332 ✭✭✭HouseHippo


    Solyad wrote: »
    Emm... the solution is really simple...

    Flavoured condoms... he gets to enjoy it and you dont get to taste it...
    Oh, and try talking - it tends to help
    Oh no way.I tried this for a laugh with my bf and he couldn't feel a thing,ended up losing his hard on and it was like trying to stick a slug in a slot machine.
    We decided just to stick to all natural....although seen as you just met this guy remeber both aids and herpes can be passed on by oral sex if you have cuts or lacerations on the mouth area.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    HouseHippo wrote: »
    Oh no way.I tried this for a laugh with my bf and he couldn't feel a thing,ended up losing his hard on and it was like trying to stick a slug in a slot machine.
    We decided just to stick to all natural....although seen as you just met this guy remeber both aids and herpes can be passed on by oral sex if you have cuts or lacerations on the mouth area.

    And thrush, syphilis and gonorrhea.


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