Shorter men

jordata

Have been emailing and texting with a guy for a while. We have quite a bit in common and have had some great phone conversations. We have arranged to meet this weekend and I was really looking forward to it. I happened to ask him how tall he is this evening (I know his brother who is tall). He told me he is short – about 5’ 4”. That’s a couple of inches shorter than me before I put on heels. Somehow this has put me off. Anyone in the lounge dated a shorter man and was it an issue for you? I love it not to bother me but it does!

tribulus

Just for the record this was done before in detail here:

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055303045&highlight=height

AnnieB82

I haven't dated much before my current partner, but to be honest it would bother me. Everyone's different though. Height is pretty much the only that thing that I was bothered about in a guy. I like to think I'm not shallow, but I guess I am a little...

tribulus

I don't think it makes you shallow to be fair.

Hot is hot.
Why ignore that on the basis of your preference in numbers.

nomorebadtown

at least do him a favor and lie about why you're not into him. at 5'4 he probably already has a complex about it and its not like its something he can change.

Atomic Pineapple

nomorebadtown wrote: »

at least do him a favor and lie about why you're not into him. at 5'4 he probably already has a complex about it and its not like its something he can change.

agreed I'm a 5'7 male and my lack of height annoys me so I would lie about why you dont like him.

on another note I was with a girl who was a bit taller than me for a while and it was fine

*sorry for invading the ladies lounge (seen it on the front page about short men and thought ya's were slagging us off )

I don't know if you don't like someone I think your better off telling them why.
So they can write you off as an arsehole.

Although maybe that is a womans point of view.

dlofnep

I'm 5'4" and to be honest, I wouldn't go out with a girl taller than me.. Which is ok, there is quite a few girls my height. It's not that I don't think they are nice, it's just I'd feel pretty uncomfortable about it. I'm comfortable with my height otherwise. But sometimes love transcends these things! Corny, but true.

Rob_l

jordata wrote: »

Have been emailing and texting with a guy for a while. We have quite a bit in common and have had some great phone conversations. We have arranged to meet this weekend and I was really looking forward to it. I happened to ask him how tall he is this evening (I know his brother who is tall). He told me he is short – about 5’ 4”. That’s a couple of inches shorter than me before I put on heels. Somehow this has put me off. Anyone in the lounge dated a shorter man and was it an issue for you? I love it not to bother me but it does!

Yes it is shallow most women complain they cant find a good man bla bla bla but you say you get on well can talk surely thsi is worth more than his lack of inchs

But if you dont like him then nothing is going to change that i would say meet him if you still feel the same then end it there but at least try you might be surprised and I think everyone is shallow some way.

AnnieB82 wrote: »

Height is pretty much the only that thing that I was bothered about in a guy.

So you prefer a tall man with a bad personality?

JaneyMc

Usually on go for guys taller than me, I'm 5'11. It's just a personal prefernce I suppose.

But was seeing a guy and I think he was 5'8/5'9, it didn't bother me too much, but I wouldn't wear heels around him.

dlofnep

Yeah, last thing you want to do is to wear really tall heels if the guy is similar height to you or a little shorter.

AnnieB82

...that said though, I would say I could've falling in love with a shorter guy if I would've gotten to know him. Although cliche, the personality is what wins through and matters the most. At least at 5'6 it wasn't that hard to find someone taller

nomorebadtown

i'm small enough but i dont choose women based on height. I enjoy all kinds of hotness in all kinds of forms.

Snowie

i think you should go on the date and look past the fact hes samller then you.... At least you can say You at least gave it ago.....

giddybootz

Hmmmm...it's a toughy!

At 5'2 and a half it's not really an issue for me but i always thought i was into really tall guys! my ex was 6'4!!

However my current boy is about 5'8 and when i were my tallest heels i am sometimes a scrape taller than him. dont care...he rocks my world regardless!
and a mate of mine is 6'1 and she went out with a guy 5'9 for years!

i say go and meet up with him somewhere you will be sitting down...see how the chemistry is....after a couple of hours his height just might not matter!!

nedoo

Know a lot of girls that this is a problem for. Not a giant myself and got a few knock backs over the years. Also had some very interesting slow dances with tall girls back in the day:p
You like what you like and if you dont like, you dont bother, that simple. Think of the wedding photos!!!:D

Galvasean

Ive noticed a lot of girls simply will not tolerate shorter guys. Heck I was in a situation (more than once) where girls have told me they "couldn't see it working" on account that I was shorter than them (wouldn't mind but in one particular case the girl in question was about half an inch 'taller' when wearing heels - any aul excuse I suppose).
Bah humbug!

Whispered

I couldn't go out with a guy who's shorter than me, then I'm only 5'1 so it has never been an issue

G&T

Am the same height in sock's as my Mr.Right,
all previous boyfriend's were tall but tbh
I dont see my oh as short,

We are both 5.7
It never put me off wearing high heel's either.

Think you would be short sighted
not to date this guy because of his
height,but it's your choice.

Try a little bit of everything,tall,short,big,
small ect
You wont know what size is for you till
you try on a few.;)

The fit of hugs is amazing when your exactly the same height as the other person.

cute_cow

i am about 5'6 and my bf is about 5'4. Never bother me to be honest, and I always liked my bf's to be lots taller than me! But never bothered me, even in heels!!

GirlInterrupted

I'm 5''11' and if I was to restrict myself to men taller than I in heels, the pool would be very small indeed. Its never bothered me to be taller than a man, never put me off, and it always surprises me that people will say things like 'I could never date a man shorter'.

Surely there's more important criteria?

What if he's perfect in almost every other way? Are you going to deny yourself because you want to be the little one?

Don't get it.

jordata

Thank you, thank you, thank you.
What a great variety of replies. Will definitly get dolled up and go on the date. After all he has booked somewhere really nice. Will take the advice on staying sitting for a few hours and see where we go from there.
A special thanks to the male respondents - nice to hear things from your point of view.

Earthhorse

Speaking as a 5"2' guy I can see why height would be a problem but is it really a deal breaker? Not your ideal, maybe, but when you have a rapport built up with someone it just seems a shame not to pursue it.

Moonbaby wrote: »

I don't know if you don't like someone I think your better off telling them why.
So they can write you off as an arsehole.

I would prefer that to be honest. And I wouldn't necessarily write the woman off as an asshole either, it would all depend on the way that she said it.

G&T wrote: »

Think you would be short sighted
not to date this guy because of his
height,but it's your choice.

:pac:

Moonbaby wrote: »

The fit of hugs is amazing when your exactly the same height as the other person.

True dat. All depends on whether you're looking for a partner to compete in the hugging Olympics or a partner for something else.

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

Surely there's more important criteria?

What if he's perfect in almost every other way? Are you going to deny yourself because you want to be the little one?

Don't get it.

What she said.

jordata

So I went on the date. I did feel a bit akward in the beginning but once we were seated and having dinner it was fine. That part went really well.

The problem was later in the pub when he kept farting and blaming it on others - now thats a whole different thread!:eek:

BHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHA!!!!!!


Sorry.

Galvasean

jordata wrote: »

The problem was later in the pub when he kept farting and blaming it on others - now thats a whole different thread!:eek:

On behalf of the short men of Ireland I would like to point out that we do not all do that.

cson

I'll say one thing about the little lads; most of them I know have a very, very short fuse.

Alicat

jordata wrote: »

The problem was later in the pub when he kept farting and blaming it on others - now thats a whole different thread!:eek:

Oh no! :pac:

I was just about to echo G&T's post cause I'm the same height as my boyf and don't have a problem with it, but good God that made me laugh :pac:

Was he joking about it or very seriously trying to blame it on others?

nomorebadtown

Alicat wrote: »

Was he joking about it or very seriously trying to blame it on others?

Either way its not kosher behaviour for an adult on a first date:pac:

Alicat

nomorebadtown wrote: »

Either way its not kosher behaviour for an adult on a first date:pac:

But what if he had a bad tummy and it just slipped out? :eek: If she smelt/heard it, better to try and make a joke out of it

We may be adults but we're also only human!

nomorebadtown

If he had a bad tummy he should have said

"Listen, my guts are cramping up here and i'm about 30 seconds away from crapping my pants. Rain check?"

Alicat

nomorebadtown wrote: »

If he had a bad tummy he should have said

"Listen, my guts are cramping up here and i'm about 30 seconds away from crapping my pants. Rain check?"

Well maybe he wasn't that bad that it warranted cancelling on the OP altogether :rolleyes: Ideally he wouldn't have farted. And ideally if he had, he would have felt comfortable enough to say that he wasn't feeling the best and apologise, but if he made a joke trying to diffuse the situation I don't think it's all that bad

However, looking back at the OP's post she did say he "kept farting" so maybe he was just really really immature :pac:

keefs08

Oh gawd im so in d same boat as u!i never go 4 any1 (prob coz most fellas r taller than me!!) ive fallen 4 this guy im seeing now i guess!.. he's quite shorter than me around 5ft4 aswell..its a bit mad lookin wen ive got my heels on me hes tiny!! his personaility is great and weve quite alot in common 2 so i dont mind it as much now:D... i think!!:p im just waitin 4 my mates 2 start d slaggin wen they meet him on a nite out r sumtin wen wer dancin its funny i feel like taking off my shoes but i cant wear flats coz i love my heels 2 much! hes just gonna have 2 put up wit me!!:)

Lorrs33

My boyfriend is a few inches shorter than me. I thought it would bother me, but it doesn't. Give the guy a chance.

Michellenman

I could understand why you wouldn't be attracted to someone shorter than you if you'd just met them in a bar/anywhere else, but you've gotten to know him and you like him so go for it.

I don't think I could go for a shorter man though, but that's because I'm only five foot as it is.:p

Galvasean

nomorebadtown wrote: »

If he had a bad tummy he should have said

"Listen, my guts are cramping up here and i'm about 30 seconds away from crapping my pants. Rain check?"

mmmmmmm sexy! :pac:

Wibbs

keefs08 ease up on the old text speak. It's sitewide thing that we like the use of full keyboards. There's a guy somewhere that made yours, crying because you didn't use all of it:). Thanks

MJOR

Mr MJOR is the same height as me

Nuggles

Current OH is a bit taller than, I can just about get away with wearing heels without being taller than him.
First boyfriend I had was about 5ft8 which at the time was two inches shorter than me, not sure I would go much shorter than that. Think I'd feel a bit giant hugging a guy.

GirlInterrupted

Earthhorse wrote: »

True dat. All depends on whether you're looking for a partner to compete in the hugging Olympics or a partner for something else.

The hugging Olympics are a very important part of any relationship.
However, differences may be overcome by lying down before participating.

Earthhorse

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

The hugging Olympics are a very important part of any relationship.
However, differences may be overcome by lying down before participating.

To me, a nice physical fit for a hug is a nice thing to have. I'm looking for a life partner not a hugging partner. It's an easy thing to work around.

GirlInterrupted

Earthhorse wrote: »

To me, a nice physical fit for a hug is a nice thing to have. I'm looking for a life partner not a hugging partner. It's an easy thing to work around.

Hopefully your life partner and hugging partner will be one and the same person.

allabouteve

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

The hugging Olympics are a very important part of any relationship.
However, differences may be overcome by lying down before participating.

/cough

GirlInterrupted wrote: »

Hopefully your life partner and hugging partner will be one and the same person.

And everybody lived happily ever after. Hugging.:D