Does anyone else have this issue?

ElStuardo

DeCoR18 wrote: »

They're right too, why would someone want to belittle themselves in such a manner?

The people that don't care are the ones to look out for as they are the STI/D spreading scumbags.

That was my point that blokes dont approach girls because of the rejection and how its done by most girls.In order to approach someone you need to go with the I dont care thing which most bloke including myself dont do.

DeCoR18

ElStuardo wrote: »

That was my point that blokes dont approach girls because of the rejection and how its done by most girls.In order to approach someone you need to go with the I dont care thing which most bloke including myself dont do.

Oh sorry I thought you were making out the fellas that don't have the "I don't give a **** if she laughs/makes fun of me" attitude were somehow missing something.

So we're in agreeance:D

Húrin

loloray wrote: »

Omg I'm so glad someone else has said this. I totally am on the same level there.

The thing is; I believe that there should be no difference between the sexes - and that girls are mad for thinking they shouldn't approach men.

However when it comes down to it me personally, I might think a guy is attractive, but just not approach him - as then I reason the same as you - it seems most guys will try for 'whatever they can get' - and I don't wanna be the whatever - I wanna be the best!* I'm not sure if I am explaining this properly - I want a guy to go for me because I'm me - not because I'm female . . . .

Why, that's no more reasonable than assuming that a girl would only keep talking to a man who approached her simply because he was male.

boarddotie wrote: »

Yep, I hear u. I would think the same. But I dont think it is a confidence issue in ourselves-more like we dont have the confidence in our men to reject us if we are not up to their standard haha!

But I also feel like this: if a guy comes up talking to ME I usually dont talk back to them straight away as I think that they are just 'chancing' each and every girl with the same oneliners. But then if they try and catch my attention again or talk to me again I will respond as I feel more like they could genuinely be interested and I am not just another number. Because men talking to women is all Maths and probability. Chance 100 and surely 1 will say yes.

But in general most blokes skulk away after the first (faux) rejection...which is a pity!

That is a stupid strategy based on a false assumption. Fail.

JimmyCrackCorn!

Maybe its just me but.

As a man if I was rejected at a bar simply for introducing myself I wouldn't go back for seconds. Ill take you at your word

I will talk to anyone in a pub or bar male or female. It doesn't mean im out to pull. A chat would be nice.

Pubs are a bad place in general to pick up people. Loud nightclubs are worse.

I personally hate mind games and if i thought i was being tested would end the conversation and leave.

I also have no interest in "my flat mates locked me out and i have no way to get into the house until tomorrow morning". (actually happened in a taxi que and no it wasn't the truth)

If a woman approached me i wouldn't play the above mentioned games. Nor would i immediately assume it meant something.


Men and women are not that different. No one likes games or being taken for a quick ride.
No one likes mind games: if I reject him and come back, if I approach him do i look desperate, if he has brown eyes and a hairy ass.

No harm in a quiet chat. If you don't like the chat or the person no loss.