Being Single and Having Hormones...

MysticalSoul

.... sometimes sucks. Even though, I am quite inexperienced, I still have needs, desires etc, and being single sometimes does suck. I am not someone who could just sleep with someone for the sake of it, as it would need to be someone I can trust and be vulnerable around.

dixiefly

I hear ya.

Maybe it's not what you need to hear but it isnt always singles that experience those frustrations. Levels of needs and desires arent necessarily equal between partners within a marriage or perhaps a relationship.

SarahSassy

2 words = sex toys

MysticalSoul

dixiefly wrote: »

I hear ya.

Maybe it's not what you need to hear but it isnt always singles that experience those frustrations. Levels of needs and desires arent necessarily equal between partners within a marriage or perhaps a relationship.

I hear that, as different expectations, needs, desires etc. i think cos of the current no action at the moment, I am finding it frustrating.

Jules

No more smart arsed posts please.

One and only warning.

Dudess

irishamethyst wrote: »

.... sometimes sucks. Even though, I am quite inexperienced, I still have needs, desires etc, and being single sometimes does suck. I am not someone who could just sleep with someone for the sake of it, as it would need to be someone I can trust and be vulnerable around.

I would recommend you try to rid yourself of such inhibitions and believe in yourself more... nothing wrong with having a purely physical encounter or fling with someone whom you're just physically attracted to.

Nevyn

Have you tried a drop of bromide in your tea ?

MJOR

a dalliance with someone you find attractive will not compromise your morals or anything like that. We all have needs and have different ways of fulfilling them whether we are single or attached.

Permabear

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ptashka

Thaedydal wrote: »

Have you tried a drop of bromide in your tea ?

What does that do???

SarahSassy wrote: »

2 words = sex toys

Wouldn't agree with you on this one SarahSassy...The rampant rabbit just doesn't do it!

Madame Razz

dixiefly wrote: »

I hear ya.

Maybe it's not what you need to hear but it isnt always singles that experience those frustrations. Levels of needs and desires arent necessarily equal between partners within a marriage or perhaps a relationship.

People in Long distance relationships experience these frustrations too for what its worth...

And yes it does suck, and no, sextoys don't cut it, very unfulfilling on ones own when it boils down to it to be honest.

For what it's worth, my hormones have got me into trouble all my adult life

GiftofGab

Girls have it easy. When they get hormones they can just pick a guy up at a club and go home with him. It's a hell of a lot harder for a guy-we have to approach the girls, chat them up and try and convince them to go home with us-which isnt a easy task. Any girl can give a guy an eye and bring him home that night

Kirnsy

GiftofGab wrote: »

Girls have it easy. When they get hormones they can just pick a guy up at a club and go home with him. It's a hell of a lot harder for a guy-we have to approach the girls, chat them up and try and convince them to go home with us-which isnt a easy task. Any girl can give a guy an eye and bring him home that night

that's simply not true.... and im a guy!

GiftofGab

ok maybe ill take the last sentence back but its still easier for girls! Especially for those who are good looking!

K-9

irishamethyst wrote: »

.... sometimes sucks. Even though, I am quite inexperienced, I still have needs, desires etc, and being single sometimes does suck. I am not someone who could just sleep with someone for the sake of it, as it would need to be someone I can trust and be vulnerable around.

Sounds like you want a relationship, as one night stands don't suit, but want to be independent!

Now you need to find a man who wants all of the above!

Creamy Goodness

GiftofGab wrote: »

Girls have it easy. When they get hormones they can just pick a guy up at a club and go home with him.

not really, i'm thinking this through a girls mind, but what if i picked the wrong guy, i could wake up dead tomorrow.

GiftofGab wrote: »

It's a hell of a lot harder for a guy-we have to approach the girls, chat them up and try and convince them to go home with us-which isnt a easy task. Any girl can give a guy an eye and bring him home that night

i agree with the first point that it's slightly harder for men, but some women actually do actually take upon themselves to play the "man" role as you say and it's pretty cool when they do.

not any girl can give me the eye and take me home.

1. she's probably looking at my constantly drugged look eyes.
2. i do have some standards no kerry katona's for me tbh :pac:
3. also if she's mahogo - as the northside dubliners say - then i don't wanna be caught orange handed

Creamy Goodness

Creamy Goodness wrote: »

3. also if she's mahogo - as the northside dubliners say - then i don't wanna be caught orange handed

Did you just say that your a gingerist. :mad:

minidazzler

Kirnsy wrote: »

that's simply not true.... and im a guy!

Technically it is true, he said any girl, can pick up A guy, not any guy.

Therefore, it is true, because of the fact that ANY girl can get me in a second if she wants, I am just not picky.

Hence the final sentence was true.

QED

OP, I agree with you 100% from a male point of view, being single sucks, especially since DIY is never good anymore.

Faith

Madame Razz wrote: »

People in Long distance relationships experience these frustrations too for what its worth...

And yes it does suck, and no, sextoys don't cut it, very unfulfilling on ones own when it boils down to it to be honest.

So, so true.

LivingDeadGirl

LDRs are just as bad for this sometimes OP!

Creamy Goodness

Moonbaby wrote: »

Did you just say that your a gingerist. :mad:

no, mahogo = someone dipped in fake tan

Kirnsy

minidazzler wrote: »

Technically it is true, he said any girl, can pick up A guy, not any guy.

Therefore, it is true, because of the fact that ANY girl can get me in a second if she wants, I am just not picky.

Hence the final sentence was true.

QED

OP, I agree with you 100% from a male point of view, being single sucks, especially since DIY is never good anymore.

stop being so petty


all i was saying was that ALL girls cant pick up guys at will....even though i accept that it is easier for a hot girl to pull than a guy.

consultech

Sex is only so important when you're not getting any. Fact.

Weidii

consultech wrote: »

Sex is only so important when you're not getting any. Fact.

In the same sense that air only seems important when you're not getting any, though.

Life without having sex for an extended period of time would be difficult. OP, go out and get a good aul shag for yourself. Just make sure you're safe and everything should be fine.

consultech

Weidii wrote: »

In the same sense that air only seems important when you're not getting any, though.

Life without having sex for an extended period of time would be difficult. OP, go out and get a good aul shag for yourself. Just make sure you're safe and everything should be fine.

Ah yeah, dont get me wrong, I wouldnt be able to go any extended period of time without bumpin uglies either - But when your in a long term relationship your perspective on this topic tends to shift.

deathstarkiller

Try and go 4 and a half years without. That's where I'm at at the moment. It's not fun. Oh boo hoo, poor me.
Ah, I gotta have fate that I'll meet someone. I know I'm awesome, it's just women don't. :rolleyes:

allabouteve

deathstarkiller wrote: »

Try and go 4 and a half years without. That's where I'm at at the moment. It's not fun. Oh boo hoo, poor me.
Ah, I gotta have fate that I'll meet someone. I know I'm awesome, it's just women don't. :rolleyes:

If you keep up the self belief, someone else will get it. Then you'll get it.

MJOR

consultech wrote: »

Sex is only so important when you're not getting any. Fact.

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